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    #512
    Witchie
    Registered Users Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Of course not! Everyone knows boardsies are strange and incapable of real world interaction.


    :p

    And here was me going to match you and Armaghlad up!


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    #513
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Witchie wrote: »
    And here was me going to match you and Armaghlad up!



    Ah I think he might be a bit young for me Witchie
    :p


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    #514
    Witchie
    Registered Users Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Ah I think he might be a bit young for me Witchie
    :p

    Ummmm...how young is too young? I have a guy 14 years younger chatting me up on fb these days but tempting and all as it is I think I will behave myself. For once.


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    #515
    Jack Killian
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,663 ✭✭✭Jack Killian


    maudgonner wrote: »
    If I get a 'Hi' message but the guy has put effort into his profile I'll probably respond.

    But that's not usually the case. More often than not the profile will be empty too. If the guy is relying on his photos to get a response, that rarely works for me. I'm not looking for a hookup, I'll need something to indicate whether we'd have any compatibility.

    I don't need them to send an essay, a one-liner that makes me laugh, shows an interest in me or starts a conversation will do the trick.

    How is he meant to know what makes you laugh without knowing you ?

    Let's reverse the roles for a second - if you were making the first move on a guy, what amount of effort and research would you put in, bearing in mind that "too much" could make you seem like a stalker ?


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    #516
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Witchie wrote: »
    Ummmm...how young is too young? I have a guy 14 years younger chatting me up on fb these days but tempting and all as it is I think I will behave myself. For once.

    Well I'm 34 and I usually would say that I wouldn't date a man below 30. However I will make an exception if I'm interested enough but definitely not below 27.

    :)


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    #517
    KERSPLAT!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31,152 ✭✭✭✭KERSPLAT!


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Well I'm 34 and I usually would say that I wouldn't date a man below 30. However I will make an exception if I'm interested enough but definitely not below 27.

    :)

    Unless you're REALLY interested, then its 24, right? :p


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    #518
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    KERSPLAT! wrote: »
    Unless you're REALLY interested, then its 24, right? :p

    No. Unless I'm REALLY REALLY interested, then it's 21 :p


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    #519
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Half your age plus 4, isn't that the rule???

    Bring on the 24 year olds!!!!!!


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    #520
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    No. Unless I'm REALLY REALLY interested, then it's 21 :p
    We going on a date or what then? :p


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    #521
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    armaghlad wrote: »
    We going on a date or what then? :p

    Are you 21? All my Christmases have come at once :p


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    #522
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Are you 21? All my Christmases have come at once :p
    I'm whatever you want me to be ;)


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    #523
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    armaghlad wrote: »
    I'm whatever you want me to be ;)

    *rolls eyes*

    I'll insert you in to my fantasy world so.


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    #524
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    *rolls eyes*

    I'll insert you in to my fantasy world so.
    Godamit


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    #525
    yourdeadwright
    Registered Users Posts: 20,764 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright


    im 33 guy and matched with a 24 yearold girl,
    we have been getting on well and are going to meet the weekend
    Is it to much of an age gap ?


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    #526
    yourdeadwright
    Registered Users Posts: 20,764 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright


    im 33 guy and matched with a 24 yearold girl,
    we have been getting on well and are going to meet the weekend
    Is it to much of an age gap ?


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    #527
    Niemoj
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,104 ✭✭✭Niemoj


    Yep, I have. In my younger years I mostly used apps for hookups but I met my bf in a group chat. We started talking randomly and hit it off and for some reason I just felt like giving him my phone number then and there!

    The rest, as they say is history!


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    #528
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    yourdeadwright wrote: »
    im 33 guy and matched with a 24 yearold girl,
    we have been getting on well and are going to meet the weekend
    Is it to much of an age gap ?
    Depends. I wouldn't think it would be an issue but you can't be sure until you meet. I met a very mature 18 year old and conversely a rather immature 38 year old. If the age gap doesn't bother you, go for it.


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    #529
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    armaghlad wrote: »
    Godamit

    Oh but it's a very nice fantasy world armaghlad.

    In it you are 38. Tall with a fine head of black hair that curls up at the back of your neck. You're a writer or an artist. I haven't decided that. You drive around in an old Merc the colour of a green traffic light that's starting to dim. The house you live in is small and warm. We lie in front of the fire talking about our dreams and drinking whiskey or maybe gin.




    :p


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    #530
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Oh but it's a very nice fantasy world armaghlad.

    In it you are 38. Tall with a fine head of black hair that curls up at the back of your neck. You're a writer or an artist. I haven't decided that. You drive around in an old Merc the colour of a green traffic light that's starting to dim. The house you live in is small and warm. We lie in front of the fire talking about our dreams and drinking whiskey or maybe gin.




    :p
    You make me ten years older, change my hair and it's colour, give me a profession that may or may not guarantee a steady income and have given me an oul banger to drive back to my small house in... I hope the frisky sins make it worthwhile :)


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    #531
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    armaghlad wrote: »
    You make me ten years older, change my hair and it's colour, give me a profession that may or may not guarantee a steady income and have given me an oul banger to drive back to my small house in... I hope the frisky sins make it worthwhile :)

    It's a fantasy. I have created you just how I would like :p


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    #532
    yourdeadwright
    Registered Users Posts: 20,764 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright


    So is it ok to meet a few people when dating or do people normal expect to only see one person until they decide where to go with it,
    Like is ito k to lets say go on 3 dates 3 night in a row with different people ? or would that be seen as being an asshole ?


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    #533
    leahyl
    Registered Users Posts: 14,280 ✭✭✭✭leahyl


    I'm on POF, but not going on dates or anything at the mo. It's not really a good time at the moment, but then I tell myself that all the time....so maybe it's time to accept that I really don't feel comfortable with the whole online thing....but then it looks to be my only avenue to perhaps meet someone! Le sigh! :pac: I prefer the idea of meeting someone in person from the get go, but that has never happened for me so....slight desperation at this stage!


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    #534
    northgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,434 ✭✭✭northgirl


    do you establish if you are looking for hook ups or not earlier or later?


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    #535
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    yourdeadwright wrote: »
    So is it ok to meet a few people when dating or do people normal expect to only see one person until they decide where to go with it,
    Like is ito k to lets say go on 3 dates 3 night in a row with different people ? or would that be seen as being an asshole ?
    It's ok in my book but it's fairly hard work. Some girls might not like the idea of the guy they are going on a date also going on a date with someone else later that week.

    I've been texting a girl for ages without actually meeting (her fault), she asked when I last had sex so I said 2 months ago (lied) thinking we weren't talking to each other that far back, she then got quite uppity at that and accused me of meeting girls while talking to her, which I suppose is true but what does she expect if she won't meet me? Can't win sometimes.


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    #536
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    northgirl wrote: »
    do you establish if you are looking for hook ups or not earlier or later?
    I always make a point of asking a girl why she is using OD pretty promptly. It gives me the opportunity to explain why I am using it.


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    #537
    yourdeadwright
    Registered Users Posts: 20,764 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright


    armaghlad wrote: »
    northgirl wrote: »
    do you establish if you are looking for hook ups or not earlier or later?
    I always make a point of asking a girl why she is using OD pretty promptly. It gives me the opportunity to explain why I am using it.
    I think most people don't know exactly what there looking for,
    I also think the older you get the more picky you become


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    #538
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    yourdeadwright wrote: »
    I think most people don't know exactly what there looking for,
    I also think the older you get the more picky you become
    Agree with both. Most people have a fair idea though.

    I'd have rid the crack in a tile when I was younger. Nowadays I am a living example of a beggar actively choosing :p


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    #539
    thattequilagirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,158 ✭✭✭thattequilagirl


    armaghlad wrote: »
    I always make a point of asking a girl why she is using OD pretty promptly. It gives me the opportunity to explain why I am using it.

    I get that question a lot from lads, and if it comes too soon it's really off putting. Particularly since I might look at one profile and think "He looks interesting, I'd like to go out with him" and look at another one seconds later and think "I bet he's great in bed"...


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    #540
    yourdeadwright
    Registered Users Posts: 20,764 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright


    It wrecks my head, iv meet girls that are really nice but for some reason its like I try to find a problem so I don't have to get serious,


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    #541
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    armaghlad wrote: »

    I've been texting a girl for ages without actually meeting (her fault), she asked when I last had sex so I said 2 months ago (lied) thinking we weren't talking to each other that far back, she then got quite uppity at that and accused me of meeting girls while talking to her, which I suppose is true but what does she expect if she won't meet me? Can't win sometimes.

    You hadn't even met and she was getting annoyed because you were chatting with other girls?

    I'd be outta there.


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