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    #1352
    Dr Crayfish
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,960 ✭✭✭Dr Crayfish


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    Has anyone ever matched with someone they work with or someone they know? On that new show First Dates, there were two people who had actually been on a date before. The guy didn't recognise her. Anyone here ever been in a similar awkward situation?

    I hooked up with a girl in real life (yes, seriously!!) at a bar a while ago and took her back to a party, stayed up till 6am having a great time. Anyway she put her number in my phone, then started asking weird questions over text about where I live, who I live with, how tall I am, and can I see your facebook profile. Then she cancelled the date an hour beforehand! I just ignored her after that.

    But a week or so later someone had viewed my POF profile and it turned out to be her. Small world. What a muppet though.


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    #1353
    PandaX9
    Registered Users Posts: 1,584 ✭✭✭PandaX9


    Dr Crayfish wrote: »
    started asking weird questions over text about where I live, who I live with, how tall I am, and can I see your facebook profile. Then she cancelled the date an hour beforehand! I just ignored her after that.

    What the absolute f? Why would she need your height measurements having already met you and established that she is attracted to you in person?!? Couldn't she guess from relative differences between you, if any?

    Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, mate. There's definitely a page dedicated to you in her scrapbook by the sounds of it though.


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    #1354
    Dr Crayfish
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,960 ✭✭✭Dr Crayfish


    PandaX9 wrote: »
    What the absolute f? Why would she need your height measurements having already met you and established that she is attracted to you in person?!? Couldn't she guess from relative differences between you, if any?

    Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, mate. There's definitely a page dedicated to you in her scrapbook by the sounds of it though.

    I know yeah. I mean we were both a little inebriated but still, surely she knew I was taller than her. I said why are you asking my my height and she said, because I'm 5'9'' without heels!
    She was just vetting me. I can't believe I was stupid enough to accept her facebook friend request, I removed her as soon as she cancelled the date though. Posh bird too, from D4.


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    #1355
    Dr Crayfish
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,960 ✭✭✭Dr Crayfish


    So yeah real life dating is a minefield too :)


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    #1356
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Dr Crayfish wrote: »
    I hooked up with a girl in real life (yes, seriously!!) at a bar a while ago and took her back to a party, stayed up till 6am having a great time. Anyway she put her number in my phone, then started asking weird questions over text about where I live, who I live with, how tall I am, and can I see your facebook profile. Then she cancelled the date an hour beforehand! I just ignored her after that.

    But a week or so later someone had viewed my POF profile and it turned out to be her. Small world. What a muppet though.

    Speaking of living arrangements, imagine this scenario. You meet someone and really hit it off. They're very attractive and invite you back to theirs. You burst in the door, you're tearing each others clothes off. At this stage you have a hard on you could fecking swing out of. Everything is going great. Then out of the blue they say, "shh... don't wake my mother." What do you do then?


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    #1357
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    I have a client in work who comes in to me quite regularly just before she's going on a date. I absolutely love to see her coming, she's absolutely hilarious. She could have two or three dates lined up in one weekend, she doesn't drink and isn't into drinkers, and seems quite highly strung. She'll usually have a story about what's happened on her previous date, and it'll usually have been her kicking off because his shirts not tucked in, because he didn't tell her he's a teacher and she doesn't date teachers, because he arrived hungover.

    There's always some reason he's not suitable, or they'll always have some sort of disagreement and although I'm sure it's very frustrating for her, she just seems to have this check list in her head of expected behaviour, and if he's not matching it, she'll tackle him on it


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    #1358
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    Speaking of living arrangements, imagine this scenario. You meet someone and really hit it off. They're very attractive and invite you back to theirs. You burst in the door, you're tearing each others clothes off. At this stage you have a hard on you could fecking swing out of. Everything is going great. Then out of the blue they say, "shh... don't wake my mother." What do you do then?

    Be thankful he lives with his mother and not his wife?
    I ended up back with some guy who lived with his gran and his uncle. His gran made me stay for Sunday dinner. Can't complain about that


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    #1359
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    Speaking of living arrangements, imagine this scenario. You meet someone and really hit it off. They're very attractive and invite you back to theirs. You burst in the door, you're tearing each others clothes off. At this stage you have a hard on you could fecking swing out of. Everything is going great. Then out of the blue they say, "shh... don't wake my mother." What do you do then?

    Go up and wake the mother :pac:



    And realise that real life is nowhere near like a porno :P


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    #1360
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    Be thankful he lives with his mother and not his wife?

    Yeah I suppose a wife/husband would be a bit more awkward alright. :D


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    #1361
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Is smoker/non-smoker stated on Tinder profiles? For me this would be very important. I just couldn't date a smoker.


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    #1362
    Karmella
    Registered Users Posts: 665 ✭✭✭Karmella


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    Is smoker/non-smoker stated on Tinder profiles? For me this would be very important. I just couldn't date a smoker.

    You don't have to put anything at all in Tinder- although it is linked to your Facebook profile and does pull across details like work / school etc if you have that on FB.

    So no, you'd have no way of knowing (unless you see one in a picture!)


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    #1363
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,637 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    How often do people find they get paired for blind dates with friends of colleagues/mates/family.
    I've kinda used that as a barometer of my dateability (it's a word!). Surely if I'm worth considering then those that know me would be forward in making suggestions.
    As that hasn't generally happened, it leads me to think there is something amiss.


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    #1364
    Testament1
    Registered Users Posts: 1,580 ✭✭✭Testament1


    Tell me how wrote: »
    How often do people find they get paired for blind dates with friends of colleagues/mates/family.
    I've kinda used that as a barometer of my dateability (it's a word!). Surely if I'm worth considering then those that know me would be forward in making suggestions.
    As that hasn't generally happened, it leads me to think there is something amiss.

    Wouldn't have thought that was much of a thing in Ireland, at least not in a rural area like where I live. Only time I've ever had that was when I lived in Sydney when an Aussie friend of mine, (who I actually met through Tinder and am still good friends with over 2 years later!), wanted to set me up with one of her friends.


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    #1365
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Karmella wrote: »
    You don't have to put anything at all in Tinder- although it is linked to your Facebook profile and does pull across details like work / school etc if you have that on FB.

    So no, you'd have no way of knowing (unless you see one in a picture!)

    I think I'd have to ask before meeting up. I've never used Tinder but that complete lack of info is kind of turning me off using it.


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    #1366
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    Tell me how wrote: »
    How often do people find they get paired for blind dates with friends of colleagues/mates/family.
    I've kinda used that as a barometer of my dateability (it's a word!). Surely if I'm worth considering then those that know me would be forward in making suggestions.
    As that hasn't generally happened, it leads me to think there is something amiss.

    Never...though people used when I younger and I hated it

    Guess they've given up on me :pac:


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    #1367
    posturingpat
    Registered Users Posts: 2,722 ✭✭✭posturingpat


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    Speaking of living arrangements, imagine this scenario. You meet someone and really hit it off. They're very attractive and invite you back to theirs. You burst in the door, you're tearing each others clothes off. At this stage you have a hard on you could fecking swing out of. Everything is going great. Then out of the blue they say, "shh... don't wake my mother." What do you do then?

    Am i missing something here? Do you just mean landing back to a womans house that's living with her parents would ya still ride her? Of course, she's a grown up after all.
    Happened me on a few different occassions in my younger days, some wanted me out straight after the deed was done , another passed me off as a friend that couldn't get a cab home and another must've had a new man home every weekend because there was no shock from the parents about a strange man wandering around the house the following morning and a fry up for free to add to things :D Should've kept her number actually :p .


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    #1368
    Witchie
    Registered Users Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    Just in case anyone is in any doubt as to why they should date me, here is a reminder:

    Aye


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    #1369
    kfallon
    Registered Users Posts: 25,775 ✭✭✭✭kfallon


    Witchie wrote: »
    Just in case anyone is in any doubt as to why they should date me, here is a reminder:

    Aye

    Ffs thought it would be a picture of your boobs :rolleyes:

    :P


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    #1370
    Witchie
    Registered Users Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    kfallon wrote: »
    Ffs thought it would be a picture of your boobs :rolleyes:

    :P

    Aw here....am not that trashy....pm me and will send you one! :D:D:D


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    #1371
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    Witchie wrote: »
    Aw here....am not that trashy....pm me and will send you one! :D:D:D

    This will not end well :pac:


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    #1372
    via4
    Registered Users Posts: 291 ✭✭via4


    Ok so after my head bein wrecked all day I text n said wtf like n he was dead cheeky sayin he didn't have to text me first n that he had exams n that he can't text n meet everyday...he was texting all day non stop n asking me to meet him first!!! Like I went along with it thinking the chap was interested takin me out for food holdin my hand in public goin cinema n said for me to go on holiday with him it was all him!!! Then as soon as we sleep together he ignores me..I just said look if that's all u wanted you shud have just said from the start not doing all that...he said it wasn't just sex he wanted..I said what do u want then...he said keep it simple but he can't text and meet everyday...I didn't ask him to text or meet me everyday he initiated every text and meet..I was giving what I honestly thought was genuine a chance...there's no need to be dishonest at the end of the day there's plenty of girls out there that just want nsa sex he didn't need to pretend to me..guys need to just not be so sneaky there's no need in this day and age....


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    #1373
    posturingpat
    Registered Users Posts: 2,722 ✭✭✭posturingpat


    via4 wrote: »
    Ok so after my head bein wrecked all day I text n said wtf like n he was dead cheeky sayin he didn't have to text me first n that he had exams n that he can't text n meet everyday...he was texting all day non stop n asking me to meet him first!!! Like I went along with it thinking the chap was interested takin me out for food holdin my hand in public goin cinema n said for me to go on holiday with him it was all him!!! Then as soon as we sleep together he ignores me..I just said look if that's all u wanted you shud have just said from the start not doing all that...he said it wasn't just sex he wanted..I said what do u want then...he said keep it simple but he can't text and meet everyday...I didn't ask him to text or meet me everyday he initiated every text and meet..I was giving what I honestly thought was genuine a chance...there's no need to be dishonest at the end of the day there's plenty of girls out there that just want nsa sex he didn't need to pretend to me..guys need to just not be so sneaky there's no need in this day and age....

    I'd say his clinger alerts buzzing.


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    #1374
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    It all sounds very rushed Via4. I do appreciate your frustration. It's unfair of him to drag you along in his over enthusiasm only to then realise that he may have been a bit hasty.

    Or his explanation could be his way of saying that he has lost interest. Either way all of that intensity so early on is rarely a good thing. I have found.


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    #1375
    via4
    Registered Users Posts: 291 ✭✭via4


    How is asking a simple question being clingy in fairness? I said we would no longer be meeting at the end of the day just be honest and don't lead girls on he was the one asking me to go on a holiday n meet me so how am I the clingy one exactly?


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    #1376
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    via4 wrote: »
    How is asking a simple question being clingy in fairness? I said we would no longer be meeting at the end of the day just be honest and don't lead girls on he was the one asking me to go on a holiday n meet me so how am I the clingy one exactly?

    The effort of it...if it's wreaking ya head...let it go


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    #1377
    PM me nudes
    Registered Users Posts: 1,393 ✭✭✭PM me nudes


    Witchie wrote: »
    Aw here....am not that trashy....pm me and will send you one! :D:D:D

    *Ahem*


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    #1378
    via4
    Registered Users Posts: 291 ✭✭via4


    I don't like meeting up everyday with a guy I'm seeing once a week is all I can ever squeeze in with work n life in general I tried to do it a bit diff this time round


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    #1379
    Witchie
    Registered Users Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    PM me nudes wrote: »
    *Ahem*

    Ha ha ha.....


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    #1380
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    I don't think you're clingy, just to get that out of the way.

    However... If I slept with someone, and after not being in contact for about 36 hours due to being busy, with them also not texting me, THEN receive a combative text saying "wtf if you don't like me then don't lead me on," I'd run a mile. It screams "crazy."

    It's much, much too full on. It was two dates. you hadn't texted him either!

    Probably should have just said "Hey! How are you keeping? Haven't heard from you so thought I'd say hi and see how you're doing :) "


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    #1381
    Superhero1993
    Closed Accounts Posts: 126 ✭✭Superhero1993


    via4 wrote:
    Ok so after my head bein wrecked all day I text n said wtf like n he was dead cheeky sayin he didn't have to text me first n that he had exams n that he can't text n meet everyday...he was texting all day non stop n asking me to meet him first!!! Like I went along with it thinking the chap was interested takin me out for food holdin my hand in public goin cinema n said for me to go on holiday with him it was all him!!! Then as soon as we sleep together he ignores me..I just said look if that's all u wanted you shud have just said from the start not doing all that...he said it wasn't just sex he wanted..I said what do u want then...he said keep it simple but he can't text and meet everyday...I didn't ask him to text or meet me everyday he initiated every text and meet..I was giving what I honestly thought was genuine a chance...there's no need to be dishonest at the end of the day there's plenty of girls out there that just want nsa sex he didn't need to pretend to me..guys need to just not be so sneaky there's no need in this day and age....


    Just forget him. If he was acting like that on the date and then went cold then he's only after one thing and he wud do it to any woman, not just you. You're genuinely better off without. His loss :)


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