Online dating

Shint0

Timberrrrrrrr wrote: »

Esel's gibberish always makes sense. You just need a special pair of filter glasses to decode it. (Not to be found in any Specsavers near you.)

CelticRambler

Shint0 wrote: »

Do people find with online dating it's almost like video killed the radio star. Has it almost overtaken real life dating in the way it has evolved over the last decade or more.

I love my online world, and if the dating bit could match the rest it'd be great!

But ...

Sunday night, finished an energetic couple's dance up near the stage, turned around to head for the open air to cool down and I hear a "Hey, bon soir!" directed at me and right there in front of me is The One, someone I've fancied like crazy for about two years, but only see her about once every six months. No online experience can beat that! :cool:

On the other hand, at least with OD, you know that the other person is available, and don't have to wrack your brain all night trying to think of ways of finding out if she's in a happy, stable relationship? And then suffering two days of "awfekkitwhydidn'tIsay ..."

How do you ask a thrity/forty-something woman with a child, someone that you know "quite well" but not "well enough" if she's got a man in her life? In such a way as to be able to follow it up with a display of "intent"?

Tell me how

CelticRambler wrote:

How do you ask a thrity/forty-something woman with a child, someone that you know "quite well" but not "well enough" if she's got a man in her life? In such a way as to be able to follow it up with a display of "intent"?

You say something like, "Hey, would you be interested in going out sometime?"

bluestrattos

Tell me how wrote: »

You say something like, "Hey, would you be interested in going out sometime?"

+1 on this.

I think, in general, women after 30's --> 40's are no longer teenagers, so less patience for games, except the ones where ...



ps: where can i found such specimens?

CelticRambler

Tell me how wrote: »

You say something like, "Hey, would you be interested in going out sometime?"

Yeah, but when you're already out? Hand-in-hand, arms wrapped around each other, but you still don't know whether she just likes dancing with you or is too polite to say no* ...

In any case, I'm 600km away now; next time I'm back in my/her neck of the woods she'll be 300km away; and the time after that she'll be cycling to Berlin
...

(* mind you, she didn't say 'no' a lot of times! :pac: )

Shint0

CelticRambler wrote: »

Sunday night, finished an energetic couple's dance up near the stage, turned around to head for the open air to cool down and I hear a "Hey, bon soir!" directed at me and right there in front of me is The One, someone I've fancied like crazy for about two years, but only see her about once every six months. No online experience can beat that! :cool:

On the other hand, at least with OD, you know that the other person is available, and don't have to wrack your brain all night trying to think of ways of finding out if she's in a happy, stable relationship? And then suffering two days of "awfekkitwhydidn'tIsay ..."

"Wanted by many,
Taken by none.
Talking to some.
Just waiting for one."

Waiting. Never, ever a good life strategy.

bluestrattos

Shint0 wrote: »

"Wanted by many,
Taken by none.
Talking to some.
Just waiting for one."

Waiting. Never, ever a good life strategy.

Damn! That's probably the most wisest thing I'll hear all day

gourcuff28

I honestly don't know how ''ugly'' people survive on Tinder, is it literally like zero matches a week? Standards on their are insane

gourcuff28

I honestly don't know how ''ugly'' people survive on Tinder, is it literally like zero matches a week? Standards on their are insane.

bluestrattos

gourcuff28 wrote: »

I honestly don't know how ''ugly'' people survive on Tinder, is it literally like zero matches a week? Standards on their are insane

we don't! we cry, and once we're done, we uninstall Tinder, and we go back to the corner, sobbing like a 3 year old.
After that, it's ice cream time, where you eat it until we hate ourselves.
it's a sad sad sad vicious circle!!

Vex Willems

gourcuff28 wrote: »

I honestly don't know how ''ugly'' people survive on Tinder, is it literally like zero matches a week? Standards on their are insane.

at least the bots like us!

gourcuff28

bluestrattos wrote: »

we don't! we cry, and once we're done, we uninstall Tinder, and we go back to the corner, sobbing like a 3 year old.
After that, it's ice cream time, where you eat it until we hate ourselves.
it's a sad sad sad vicious circle!!

Its a joke, standards are through the roof today.

tomwaterford

gourcuff28 wrote: »

I honestly don't know how ''ugly'' people survive on Tinder, is it literally like zero matches a week? Standards on their are insane

I've a head like a melted welly....but get on ok (use it v.rarely...kinda too busy for it)


But I am one of those rare folks who actually filled out a profile

gourcuff28

tomwaterford wrote: »

I've a head like a melted welly....but get on ok (use it v.rarely...kinda too busy for it)


But I am one of those rare folks who actually filled out a profile

Girls don't care about profile(unless its your side profile) they want the male models, the tatted up bad boy, the 6 foot 2 rugby player.

bluestrattos

gourcuff28 wrote: »

Its a joke, standards are through the roof today.

Standards? Apparently beggars can be choosers Jokes aside,
I was having a similar discussion with a friend of mine, and we even talked about Venn diagrams theory for the matters of dating.

To be fair, I don't think I ask for much or maybe I am, and why not aask a bunch of strangers what do they think about my criteria?

non-smoking
understand that it's ok to not finish a bottle of wine
good understanding of humor, sarcasm and irony
no orange people/fake tan - the more natural the better
less makeup the better
smart/intelligent
cats - never trust a person who doesn't like them
bonus:fan of karaoke

gourcuff28

gourcuff28 wrote: »

Girls don't care about profile(unless its your side profile) they want the male models, the tatted up bad boy, the 6 foot 2 rugby player.

You're spot on.

That's exactly what we want. Every single one of us.

ohnonotgmail

bluestrattos wrote: »

Standards? Apparently beggars can be choosers Jokes aside,
I was having a similar discussion with a friend of mine, and we even talked about Venn diagrams theory for the matters of dating.

To be fair, I don't think I ask for much or maybe I am, and why not aask a bunch of strangers what do they think about my criteria?

non-smoking
understand that it's ok to not finish a bottle of wine
good understanding of humor, sarcasm and irony
no orange people/fake tan - the more natural the better
less makeup the better
smart/intelligent
cats - never trust a person who doesn't like them
bonus:fan of karaoke

maybe skip the second item. that's just crazy talk.

bluestrattos

bluestrattos wrote: »

Standards? Apparently beggars can be choosers Jokes aside,
I was having a similar discussion with a friend of mine, and we even talked about Venn diagrams theory for the matters of dating.

To be fair, I don't think I ask for much or maybe I am, and why not aask a bunch of strangers what do they think about my criteria?

non-smoking
understand that it's ok to not finish a bottle of wine
good understanding of humor, sarcasm and irony
no orange people/fake tan - the more natural the better
less makeup the better
smart/intelligent
cats - never trust a person who doesn't like them
bonus:fan of karaoke

I would leave out your requirements regarding looks. So how about ;

I'm not a smoker and it would be great if you weren't either.
Humour is important to me. If you can appreciate sarcasm and irony then all the better.
Cats! How can a person not like cats??Do you have no soul?!
Be handy if you could belt out a few karaoke tunes as well.

So your list is no longer like a list. It's broken up a little.

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ah lads! A list? Tis not asos you're on with the refine function!

maudgonner

bluestrattos wrote: »

To be fair, I don't think I ask for much or maybe I am, and why not aask a bunch of strangers what do they think about my criteria?

Do you state your criteria in your profile? I'd run a mile, tbh. I find it a bit off-putting when someone's got a long list of things that you must comply with before they will consider you - huge turn off.

It's fine to have preferences of course*, but a checklist? Not so much. IMO obviously.

(*preferences that you keep to yourself or state nicely as Perse did. It helps to be able to see past your preferences too though)

maudgonner

gourcuff28 wrote: »

Girls don't care about profile(unless its your side profile) they want the male models, the tatted up bad boy, the 6 foot 2 rugby player.

No, no! You've got it all wrong. We're all looking for a guy who gives off an air of bitterness, and judges the entire female population as superficial and shallow.

That's us, every single woman in the country, bar none.

FortySeven

gourcuff28 wrote: »

Girls don't care about profile(unless its your side profile) they want the male models, the tatted up bad boy, the 6 foot 2 rugby player.

And men want the blowjob lips, the skinny waist, the big chest and a face from the cover of vogue.

Except for the ones that don't. I couldn't be bothered with someone who cared too much about their appearance and I'm sure there are women out there who also can't be bothered with the vanity workouts and constant grooming and bad boy attitude of their man.

It's all so very superficial. Maybe it's just me but beauty comes from within. As does masculinity. There are some fine examples. Look at Katie price, body and face classicaly exemplary but ugly, ugly person inside. Ben kingsley is short, bald and wiry but he oozes masculinity.

I know a guy at work using tinder. He broke up with his partner the same time as me, he has had sex with so many girls from tinder since then it is incredible. He has lost so much weight he looks like he is on drugs and he is no looker, no tats, no bad boy look. He just says yes to everyone. He's always telling me to get on tinder but I'm not looking for visual rides. I'm looking for a mental connection. I'm up for a bit of sexy fun as much as the next man but not like that. There has to be some connection.

I am a bit odd though I suppose. The funny part is that I have tattoos (I hate them) I have the good, taught body, I'm tall and I was a very bad boy a good bit of my youth and early adult life. I just grew out of it. Became a good man somewhere along the line. Great for me but not attractive to a lot of ladies.

Still. I'm a great catch, that's all I need to know. I doubt there isn't someone out there for me. It might help if I created some proper profiles but I'm not in a panic yet. When I get to the sexually deprived walking hardon stage perhaps I'll make more of an effort.

gourcuff28

maudgonner wrote: »

No, no! You've got it all wrong. We're all looking for a guy who gives off an air of bitterness, and judges the entire female population as superficial and shallow.

That's us, every single woman in the country, bar none.

I don't blame women, its the game and the ball is in their court. Its GENETICS, girls want the best genes they can get, why settle for a burger when you can be having steak?

beach_walker

FortySeven wrote: »

he has had sex with so many girls from tinder since then it is incredible. He has lost so much weight...

Sounds like he's got The Bug.

FortySeven

FortySeven wrote: »

I am a bit odd though I suppose. The funny part is that I have tattoos (I hate them)

I love them

Tigger99

bluestrattos wrote: »

non-smoking
understand that it's ok to not finish a bottle of wine
good understanding of humor, sarcasm and irony
no orange people/fake tan - the more natural the better
less makeup the better
smart/intelligent
cats - never trust a person who doesn't like them
bonus:fan of karaoke

That describes me to a tee, especially the wine bit but if I saw your profile I'd never message you as it comes across as if you are quite judgemental. And yes I know we all can be to a degree but we don't necessarily advertise it

Tigger99

maudgonner wrote: »

No, no! You've got it all wrong. We're all looking for a guy who gives off an air of bitterness, and judges the entire female population as superficial and shallow.

That's us, every single woman in the country, bar none.

Thank you.

FortySeven

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I love them

Stop it you!

FortySeven

beach_walker wrote: »

Sounds like he's got The Bug.

The syphilis bug?

A good chance of it to be fair.

FortySeven

FortySeven wrote: »

Stop it you!

Of course i mean tattoos in the general sense of the word