Online dating

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I threw a pint of cider on a man who wouldn't eff off and leave me alone in a pub once. All night long, as I inched down the bar, he kept following me, being a horrible, nasty and then bitter little waste of space. I told him to back off, other people told him, and then enough was enough. Soaked him.

Not that I'd recommend that. But I think when people in bars think it's okay to start putting their hands on you, it's another story. The gloves come off.

tomwaterford

fin12 wrote: »

I'm not scared to go to places by myself, I've joined lots of groups by myself but there are no meetup groups in Kerry. There's just something about going into a local pub by myself. some old guys can get really creepy if you are just sitting there by yourself as a woman. I got grabbed inside in one of the bars before there and he was old enough to be my dad.

Go to maybe a macra night??
Meant to be good apparently....I don't go myself to local ones here


But from what I know it's like the last days of Rome at some Of their nights out

fin12

tomwaterford wrote: »

Go to maybe a macra night??
Meant to be good apparently....I don't go myself to local ones here


But from what I know it's like the last days of Rome at some Of their nights out

Ya thanks il check that out, I'm joined a Macra group here in Cork.

FortySeven

If you're not too fussed about the people you meet being locals then why not go to one of the busier hotel bars. Most people there would be in the same situation as you and much more likely to not find you a novelty and more likely to socialise. Get yourself dressed and go sample some cocktails in a five star. I can guarantee the mixologists will get your attention if there is no-one else to look at. They're always confident lads/girls and they love to be on show with their mixing moves. It's not cheap but it is a bit of a show and the drinks are pretty special too.

Beats a pint in a dark hobbit hole with a few lecherous old men who have just finished milking the sheep.

fin12

FortySeven wrote: »

If you're not too fussed about the people you meet being locals then why not go to one of the busier hotel bars. Most people there would be in the same situation as you and much more likely to not find you a novelty and more likely to socialise. Get yourself dressed and go sample some cocktails in a five star. I can guarantee the mixologists will get your attention if there is no-one else to look at. They're always confident lads/girls and they love to be on show with their mixing moves. It's not cheap but it is a bit of a show and the drinks are pretty special too.

Beats a pint in a dark hobbit hole with a few lecherous old men who have just finished milking the sheep.

Haha ok il have to head to Killarney for the five star.

Augme

FortySeven wrote: »

If you're not too fussed about the people you meet being locals then why not go to one of the busier hotel bars. Most people there would be in the same situation as you and much more likely to not find you a novelty and more likely to socialise. Get yourself dressed and go sample some cocktails in a five star. I can guarantee the mixologists will get your attention if there is no-one else to look at. They're always confident lads/girls and they love to be on show with their mixing moves. It's not cheap but it is a bit of a show and the drinks are pretty special too.

Beats a pint in a dark hobbit hole with a few lecherous old men who have just finished milking the sheep.

This is also a great way for people to think you're an escort.

Augme

Augme wrote: »

This is also a great way for people to think you're an escort.

If I want to go in to a fancy bar and have a cocktail then that's exactly what I'm going to do. I couldn't give a damn what anyone thought of me.

daisybelle2008

Augme wrote: »

This is also a great way for people to think you're an escort.

Well those expensive cocktails aren't going to pay for themselves are they

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Augme wrote: »

This is also a great way for people to think you're an escort.

Whatever. As if they could afford me either way, what's it got to do with them?

cailin.

I've been browsing this thread for a while and decided to join in to offer my two cents into the OD world and to get some other perspectives.

I've given it to attempts in six months. First was awful. Second wasn't so bad. Ended up going on two really good dates recently, no game playing from either party and there was a genuine connection. (Or so i thought!) Turns out that I have been ghosted.

Kind of disappointing but one thing I've learnt, is that everyone you engage with has the right not to reciprocate liking you back or being as into it as you. Sometimes it just doesn't click for one person and that's just the nature of the dating game I guess!

Tigger99

Augme wrote: »

This is also a great way for people to think you're an escort.

It would never even occur to me that a woman on her own would be an escort because there's this crazy thing now in Ireland where women are allowed to freely enter a bar by themselves. Without a man :pac:

maudgonner

Augme wrote: »

This is also a great way for people to think you're an escort.

If it was in a 5 star hotel they must think I was a high-class escort though.

Sure I'd be thrilled if someone thought I was gorgeous enough to be a high-class escort. Jesus, it would make my year!

Lyaiera

fin12 wrote: »

I'm not scared to go to places by myself, I've joined lots of groups by myself but there are no meetup groups in Kerry. There's just something about going into a local pub by myself. some old guys can get really creepy if you are just sitting there by yourself as a woman. I got grabbed inside in one of the bars before there and he was old enough to be my dad.

Yep. I went out for a pint to my local. Had a couple of beers, thought "I'd love to go watch a band and have another." Then I remembered the last few times I've been there and been creeped on, my rejections have been ignored, and been screamed at. And I figured it wasn't worth it.

A friend told me to punch the last the aul fella who was rubbing my back, and following me around after I told him to leave me alone. That's a great way to get barred at best, and end up down a side-alley with a team of bouncers giving you the once over at worst.

FortySeven

Augme wrote: »

This is also a great way for people to think you're an escort.

I worked 4 and 5 star hotels for 15 years before I got out of the trade. I never once thought this. In fact, tonight is the first time it ever came to my attention.

Lyaiera

Deleted User wrote: »

I 100% agree with this. If the profile has been filled there are all sorts of little clues to be found. Is he uptight or easygoing? Does he care more about looking good than he cares for his partner?

Then you have his answers to the questions. This only applies to okcupid as far as I know. There are a few which are red flags for me. Believing that only those with a high IQ are capable of deeper love and finding the idea of childbirth disgusting are opinions that will make me wonder.

Is a woman obligated to shave her legs, is a big one.

Lyaiera

Lyaiera wrote: »

Is a woman obligated to shave her legs, is a big one.

Oh yeah that's another for me where I think "nope"!

jigglypuffstuff

Easy way to get laid

Even easier way to meet psychopaths

(Personal Experience)

FortySeven

Lyaiera wrote: »

Is a woman obligated to shave her legs, is a big one.

Women must be decisive about this though. There is nothing as nice as a smooth shaven leg except for a soft, mature growth.

The bit in between is acceptable only if it is leading to one or the other. Perpetual sharp, raspy stubble is neither soft nor smooth and definately a turn off. There is no middle ground.

Lyaiera

FortySeven wrote: »

Women must be decisive about this though. There is nothing as nice as a smooth shaven leg except for a soft, mature growth.

The bit in between is acceptable only if it is leading to one or the other. Perpetual sharp, raspy stubble is neither soft nor smooth and definately a turn off. There is no middle ground.

I couldn't give a rashers if someone shaves their legs (or their bits or whatever) it's the idea someone has to. It's not do you prefer, or do you like, it's every woman must.

Esel

pone2012 wrote: »

Easy way to get laid

Even easier way to meet psychopaths

(Personal Experience)

Jebus, regular posters, I think I'm to blame for imminent thread death. Sorry.

Only way to keep it going is to refuse to engage. Bite your virtual tongue, whatever. Just DO NOT ENGAGE! Please.

FortySeven

Esel wrote: »

Jebus, regular posters, I think I'm to blame for imminent thread death. Sorry.

Only way to keep it going is to refuse to engage. Bite your virtual tongue, whatever. Just DO NOT ENGAGE! Please.

Target acquired. Phasers are locked captain.

Esel

FortySeven wrote: »

Target acquired. Phasers are locked captain.

Roger, over. Even-numbered leaf clover.

It might seem to be a carbon-based life form, Jim, but that's what it wants you to think.

Lyaiera

I got a nice message from a guy. And he's obviously been reading the tips somewhere because he asked me about something not in my profile, after reading my profile and not seeing it answered.

Just that little thing, really small, and seemingly insignificant makes me feel like he's making an effort and being genuine.

armaghlad

Post of the thread right there....

Esel

Shint0 wrote: »

Now where did I hear this before. Let me think. Actually only a few pages back on this thread but a different poster. Maybe you should get a room together. You both sound very suited.

"Thou shalt not bear false witness."

Shint0

The other one may have got the snip, I believe. That may present a problem for the aforementioned suggestion.

Felix Jones is God

fin12 wrote: »

Ya but these small country town, if you walk into the pub and your not known they will just stare, I would feel very self conscious sitting there by myself, I suppose the best option is I should sit right up at the bar. I'd just like to meet people my own age. there just doesn't seem to be a lot of young people living there.

Ask in the Kerry forum, you'll get some helpful answers normally.... Unless you're in kilcummin, then you're screwed

fin12

fin12 wrote: »

Does anyone know how you would try to meet someone if you are on holiday in another county, it's just I go to Kerry quite a bit during the year but I have no friends that live there or anybody, I have friends if they come with me but a good bit I'd be there by myself and I just feel it would be a bit daunting to go up into the pub by myself and it seems to be a lot of old men in the pubs the area I holiday in, how could I go about asking a guy to spend time with me when I'm on holiday in Kerry, is the only way online messaging people from Kerry.

Is it a casual holiday romance you are looking for?

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Lyaiera wrote: »

Is a woman obligated to shave her legs, is a big one.

Well, I'd expect him to keep himself neat so personally if I'm expecting him to do it, I'll do it too.

fin12

Deleted User wrote: »

Is it a casual holiday romance you are looking for?

I honestly don't know anymore, I'm just finding it hard to connect with anyone, I just find online so intimidating. I don't know what to do anymore.

I suppose I'm just lonely.