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    #2582
    Hagar7
    Registered Users Posts: 724 ✭✭✭Hagar7


    armaghlad wrote: »
    Went on a first date Thurs night, and got some very mixed signals..

    Date went grand, chatted away, got on good, had food and a few drinks.

    I left her home... we kissed in the car and things escalated slightly (let's just say she shook hands with the president) while we waited on her friend returning as they were going away for the weekend on Friday morning...

    I have not heard from her since!? Other than a snapchat; she never replied to my whatsapp on Thurs night... I find that really weird. I've been ghosted (and been the "ghoster" myself) before and I would normally just say ah feck it and move on but never has it happened in this manner #confused

    Tell her Youve won the jackpot on the Euromillions,she'll be with you in jig time.


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    #2583
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    mickmackmcgoo wrote: »
    A bouncy castle may be appropriate:)

    Now there's an idea.

    Hey a bouncy castle speed dating night! :pac:


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    #2584
    Hagar7
    Registered Users Posts: 724 ✭✭✭Hagar7


    Deleted User wrote: »
    I think an auld drop of tae and a few chocolate biscuits are in order?

    Come in to my special sitting room. It has stress balls, glass bottles (for throwing, I like that) and hugs.
    Stress what !!!


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    #2585
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Hagar7 wrote: »
    Stress what !!!

    Balls for squeezing :p


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    #2586
    Timberrrrrrrr
    Registered Users Posts: 25,555 ✭✭✭✭Timberrrrrrrr


    mickmackmcgoo wrote: »
    A bouncy castle may be appropriate:)

    Ok NOW I'm in :pac:


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    #2587
    Silverman.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 199 ✭✭Silverman.


    LexieOnRale wrote:
    Her friends are in the same boat. They see the side she wants them to see. Bet his friends would have a completely different set of opinions.


    These arguments make no sense.
    You have met a woman before? They share EVERYTHING.


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    #2588
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    How many people on this thread are actually single and actively online dating?
    I'm single , gave online a little break but am ready to give it another go now.

    There's a lot of attached people on here?
    Is there anyone late 30s / early 40s online at the moment?
    Which sites do ye find the best?


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    #2589
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    It's nice weather for dates. Who knows what the weeks ahead will bring.

    Maybe this time next year a few of you will be posting about your upcoming nuptuals :)


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    #2590
    northgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,434 ✭✭✭northgirl


    bubblypop wrote: »
    How many people on this thread are actually single and actively online dating?
    I'm single , gave online a little break but am ready to give it another go now.

    There's a lot of attached people on here?
    Is there anyone late 30s / early 40s online at the moment?
    Which sites do ye find the best?

    only on tinder and sporadically too. have a date this week mind.. no form for it though..:o

    30's fwiw


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    #2591
    Silverman.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 199 ✭✭Silverman.


    northgirl wrote:
    30's fwiw

    Is it bad that I'm younger and had to Google fwiw :D


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    #2592
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    northgirl wrote: »
    only on tinder and sporadically too. have a date this week mind.. no form for it though..:o

    30's fwiw

    Yea tinder seems to have taken over, unfortunately I can't do tinder!
    Don't do Facebook & don't intend to start to get on tinder!

    Seems other online sites are falling by the wayside....


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    #2593
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Now there's an idea.

    Hey a bouncy castle speed dating night! :pac:

    That would be great actually. I'd rather do that than sit at a dinner table


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    #2594
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    bubblypop wrote: »
    How many people on this thread are actually single and actively online dating?
    I'm single , gave online a little break but am ready to give it another go now.

    There's a lot of attached people on here?
    Is there anyone late 30s / early 40s online at the moment?
    Which sites do ye find the best?

    I'm 34 and single. I have disabled my okcupid account as I was in a place of uncertainty regarding what I wanted. I had a POF account about ten months ago. It was pretty abysmal to be honest. From a user experience the site is badly done. Dating wise I had no success. I was absolutely inundated with "hiya" messages and apologies for the snobbery, messages from men with the intelligence of a gerbil.

    Okcupid is my favourite site. It's where I met my ex and two of my now good friends. I've had lots of great dates and met a lot of interesting men. I haven't a clue about any of the other sites.
    What one were you using?


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    #2595
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    bubblypop wrote: »
    Yea tinder seems to have taken over, unfortunately I can't do tinder!
    Don't do Facebook & don't intend to start to get on tinder!

    Seems other online sites are falling by the wayside....

    I have facebook but I don't use the internet on my phone. I don't want to spend 35 euro a month for internet on my phone on top of the 30 a month I'm paying for internet at home just to use one app.


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    #2596
    Hagar7
    Registered Users Posts: 724 ✭✭✭Hagar7


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Balls for squeezing :p

    I'm taking the 5th amendment on this.


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    #2597
    BlondeMoment
    Closed Accounts Posts: 142 ✭✭BlondeMoment


    armaghlad wrote: »
    Went on a first date Thurs night, and got some very mixed signals..

    Date went grand, chatted away, got on good, had food and a few drinks.

    I left her home... we kissed in the car and things escalated slightly (let's just say she shook hands with the president) while we waited on her friend returning as they were going away for the weekend on Friday morning...

    I have not heard from her since!? Other than a snapchat; she never replied to my whatsapp on Thurs night... I find that really weird. I've been ghosted (and been the "ghoster" myself) before and I would normally just say ah feck it and move on but never has it happened in this manner #confused

    If she is away for the weekend then maybe give it til Monday/Tuesday before she responds. I know I sometimes dont like texting people if im away or if they are away doing something. She might text back yet.


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    #2598
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Okcupid is my favourite site. It's where I met my ex and two of my now good friends. I've had lots of great dates and met a lot of interesting men. I haven't a clue about any of the other sites.
    What one were you using?

    I'm on POF , although I'm on a break atm!
    Someone told me it's the same people that sign up to them all....
    Makes sense, seeing as how I might give OK cupid a go now!

    I did meet 3 dates, & they were all sound, good craic, just didn't have any spark .....


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    #2599
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    Silverman. wrote: »
    These arguments make no sense.
    You have met a woman before? They share EVERYTHING.

    Stop generalizing women, please. We don't all share everything.

    The only things my friends know about my boyfriend are his name, that we're happy and that we're serious. Nothing else. They never hear about arguments. They never hear about our sex life. They never hear about his home life. They never hear about anything to do with my relationship because it's mine and his, not theirs.


    We do not all share everything.


    You don't know the intricacies of her relationship. You know only what she chooses to show or tell other people. That's it.


    You love your friend, so I think any guy she's with isn't going to be good enough, until you're over her.


    Ultimately, we cannot control the relationships of others. We don't have to like our friend's partners. But we don't have to badmouth them either, and we can choose not to be around people we dislike.


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    #2600
    Silverman.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 199 ✭✭Silverman.


    Penny Tration wrote:
    Stop generalizing women, please. We don't all share everything.

    Penny Tration wrote:
    The only things my friends know about my boyfriend are his name, that we're happy and that we're serious. Nothing else. They never hear about arguments. They never hear about our sex life. They never hear about his home life. They never hear about anything to do with my relationship because it's mine and his, not theirs.

    Penny Tration wrote:
    We do not all share everything.

    Penny Tration wrote:
    You don't know the intricacies of her relationship. You know only what she chooses to show or tell other people. That's it.

    Penny Tration wrote:
    You love your friend, so I think any guy she's with isn't going to be good enough, until you're over her.

    Penny Tration wrote:
    Ultimately, we cannot control the relationships of others. We don't have to like our friend's partners. But we don't have to badmouth them either, and we can choose not to be around people we dislike.

    OK my bad there but I know that she foes share everything with her friends.

    That's unfair cos just because I like her doesn't mean I'm making things up.
    I wud have no argument if he treated her better.


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    #2601
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    Silverman. wrote: »
    OK my bad there but I know that she foes share everything with her friends.

    That's unfair cos just because I like her doesn't mean I'm making things up.
    I wud have no argument if he treated her better.

    They might think she shares everything. The only person who knows for sure is the lady herself tbh.


    I'm not accusing you of lying, my apologies if it came across that way. I'm just saying that because you have feelings for her, I don't think you'll truly support her with any man, despite what you say. Maybe you're sure you will, but you won't. As long as you hold a torch for her, you'll resent anyone she's with.


    Tbh I think you should just try your hardest to ignore her relationship, forget all about it, because thinking nasty thoughts about other people just results in you being in a bad mood, and there's no point in that!


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    #2602
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    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Silverman. wrote: »
    OK my bad there but I know that she foes share everything with her friends.

    That's unfair cos just because I like her doesn't mean I'm making things up.
    I wud have no argument if he treated her better.

    Here is your task.

    Five things you would love to do this summer. Then post them on the Summer Holidays Thread :)


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    #2603
    Silverman.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 199 ✭✭Silverman.


    Penny Tration wrote:
    They might think she shares everything. The only person who knows for sure is the lady herself tbh.

    Penny Tration wrote:
    I'm not accusing you of lying, my apologies if it came across that way. I'm just saying that because you have feelings for her, I don't think you'll truly support her with any man, despite what you say. Maybe you're sure you will, but you won't. As long as you hold a torch for her, you'll resent anyone she's with.

    Penny Tration wrote:
    Tbh I think you should just try your hardest to ignore her relationship, forget all about it, because thinking nasty thoughts about other people just results in you being in a bad mood, and there's no point in that!


    I see what ya mean but I felt that my comments have been challenged on a lot of fronts even though I'm the only one that knows her.
    Im not on here pining over her, I just used her as an example and someone ran with it.


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    #2604
    Hombre Lobo
    Registered Users Posts: 265 ✭✭Hombre Lobo


    bubblypop wrote: »
    How many people on this thread are actually single and actively online dating?
    I'm single , gave online a little break but am ready to give it another go now.

    There's a lot of attached people on here?
    Is there anyone late 30s / early 40s online at the moment?
    Which sites do ye find the best?

    Single, in my 30's and actively trying online dating but due to my location it's not working out that great which I kind of knew was always going to be the case.

    I'm not in any of the major cities so that makes it a lot more difficult IMO.
    I've tried POF in the past but it wasn't for me. The User experience is kind of awful and the site is about 10 - 15 years out of date. It lacks a lot of basic features that could improve it a lot. It does seem to have the largest demographic though, but I know about half the opposite sex in my area on it and I find that a little awkward. There's a lot of weeds you have to pick through on the site but there are genuine people there.

    I've tried a paid site too and did have success with that in the past. Had a six month relationship but it was long distance and just didn't work in the end for that reason. Strangely I've had some good conversations with women from other countries out of this too and while we probably both know nothing is ever going to come of it, it has helped with being able to have conversations with other women or send out messages to others too, and if anything I've made a new friend.

    OKCupid has a very nice modern site and some good features too, but unfortunately there's only about 5 people in my area on it, and that's with a very wide age range search :). So for that reason I stopped using it.

    Thankfully I'm still happy enough right now with being single and continue to live my life as so. I was in a very long term relationship in the past and I literally put my entire 20's on hold for it, lost touch with friends and didn't do things I should have been doing at the time in my life. I've learned not to let that happen again and just keep doing what I want to do now, with or without someone else in my life. While I would love to have the someone special in my life to share weekends with and other occasions or have a conversation with, I can't sit around hoping to find it online at the same time. I try and get out there and do things as much as a I can by myself and just hope one day I'll bump into my other half.

    I'd be slightly introverted too which doesn't help in a lot of circumstances meeting people IRL. I would be a little intimidated starting a conversation with a stranger but if they were to start it first then you probably couldn't shut me up.


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    #2605
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I'm 34 and single. I have disabled my okcupid account as I was in a place of uncertainty regarding what I wanted. I had a POF account about ten months ago. It was pretty abysmal to be honest. From a user experience the site is badly done. Dating wise I had no success. I was absolutely inundated with "hiya" messages and apologies for the snobbery, messages from men with the intelligence of a gerbil.

    Okcupid is my favourite site. It's where I met my ex and two of my now good friends. I've had lots of great dates and met a lot of interesting men. I haven't a clue about any of the other sites.
    What one were you using?


    Ok Cupid is what I imagine online dating was like 10+ years ago


    There's no middle ground either super filled out profiles or ones with nothing on them


    Very few numbers...but you near always get a reply if you put anything into the message from my experience (may have changed last few months)


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    #2606
    Silverman.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 199 ✭✭Silverman.


    I tried it before and again no good. Online dating isn't for people in their early 20's in my personal opinion.


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    #2607
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,081 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    I've been using POF on and off for the last few years with no real success. I met one lovely Lithuanian girl on it who I ended up shooting and then she bought me a coffee. It wasn't really a date as such, she just wanted some portraits taken. I'm a member of the photography group on meetup and I've found that a much better source for meeting people.

    Anyway we totally need to get this bouncy castle dating thing going lads. At the very least we'll get to see some bouncing boobs. :D


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    #2608
    Andre 3000
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,488 ✭✭✭Andre 3000


    I only use Tinder, and at that its sporadic and when I fancy amusing myself. Have met up with quite a few women, most of the meetups I have had went very well, had two no shows but that's to be expected at times.


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    #2609
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    I've been using POF on and off for the last few years with no real success. I met one lovely Lithuanian girl on it who I ended up shooting

    Jaysus !!!!
    Got a bit of a hop reading to here!!


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    #2610
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    tomwaterford wrote: »
    Ok Cupid is what I imagine online dating was like 10+ years ago


    There's no middle ground either super filled out profiles or ones with nothing on them


    Very few numbers...but you near always get a reply if you put anything into the message from my experience (may have changed last few months)

    I had a very different experience. I certainly did not get lots of replies but I like the site. A lot of the men on it were more interesting to me than those on Plenty of Fish.

    Everyone will have their own unique take on it.


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    #2611
    Smile111
    Registered Users Posts: 536 ✭✭✭Smile111


    I am both active on pof and ok cupid.
    I find pof much better.Ok cupid, I am getting matches from people in different countries mainly !!!


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