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My 10 year old verbally assaulted by adult, what to do

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    #32
    Hannibelle Smeeeth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 123 ✭✭Hannibelle Smeeeth


    marienbad wrote: »
    Is this how we resolve neighbourly disputes these days ?

    Have we lost all sense of proportion ?

    I think things are well in proportion.

    Grown man threatens boy. Grown man faces consequences. GROWN MAN - 10 YEAR OLD BOY.


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    #33
    Realt Dearg Sec
    Registered Users Posts: 10,877 ✭✭✭✭Realt Dearg Sec


    Hannibelle Smeeeth wrote: »
    I think things are well in proportion.

    Grown man threatens boy. Grown man faces consequences. GROWN MAN - 10 YEAR OLD BOY.

    I think marienbad's point is that the only actual evidence we have of the grown man's actions is the 10 year old's account.


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    #34
    Stealthfins
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,141 ✭✭✭Stealthfins


    I see the good old lefties are at it again,Fck him.
    He's out of order,any grown man who intimidates a young kid needs to be sorted out.

    Usually the people who moan and sympathetic towards assholes are of similar ilk......

    Seen these fckrs before....


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    #35
    January
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    Stealthfins wrote: »
    I see the good old lefties are at it again,Fck him.
    He's out of order,any grown man who intimidates a young kid needs to be sorted out.

    Usually the people who moan and sympathetic towards assholes are of similar ilk......

    Seen these fckrs before....

    Not sure what you are getting at with your 'needs to be sorted out' comments but we don't advocate violence here.


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    #36
    January
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    augustus gloop wrote: »
    it might not be the right thing to say, but if anyone talked to my son like that I would play football with the fathers head

    The above post goes for you too.


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    #37
    Stealthfins
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,141 ✭✭✭Stealthfins


    January wrote:
    Not sure what you are getting at with your 'needs to be sorted out' comments but we don't advocate violence here.

    Sorted out in the proper legal way.
    Maybe get psychological help.
    As a kid I was intimidated by an older man,my parents did the right thing.

    If you see my record here on board's.is I'd never advocate violence.


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    #38
    intheclouds
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    Back in my day I'd probably have been blamed for upsetting an adult and told to stay away from the child and the man.


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    #39
    marienbad
    Registered Users Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭marienbad


    Stealthfins wrote: »
    I see the good old lefties are at it again,Fck him.
    He's out of order,any grown man who intimidates a young kid needs to be sorted out.

    Usually the people who moan and sympathetic towards assholes are of similar ilk......

    Seen these fckrs before....



    amazing how many stereotypes can be crammed into so few sentences :confused:


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    #40
    mdwexford
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    January wrote: »
    Not sure what you are getting at with your 'needs to be sorted out' comments but we don't advocate violence here.
    January wrote: »
    The above post goes for you too.

    You don't have to advocate anything, are people not entitled to their own opinions on the matter?

    I'd certainly much rather confront the father myself than go to the Garda at this stage of the issue.


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    #41
    January
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    mdwexford wrote: »
    You don't have to advocate anything, are people not entitled to their own opinions on the matter?

    I'd certainly much rather confront the father myself than go to the Garda at this stage of the issue.

    It's against our forum charter to advocate violence. Confronting the father and kicking his head are different things entirely. If you want to discuss this further pm me.


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    #42
    peckdunn
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 35 ✭peckdunn


    - IF you are comfortable approaching the family (as you said your husband is) then do that first.
    - IF not, then let the Gardai do it. A grown man should not threaten a child.

    It's terrible for your son now that this is an issue he is involved in though no fault of his own. But, you cant change that and unfortunately have to deal with it


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    #43
    evolving_doors
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    Talk to cops, you can't corner a kid and threaten them.


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    #44
    Emmadilema123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 886 ✭✭✭Emmadilema123


    frenchmartini wrote: »
    How would you handle this situation?
    My son plays with a group of children. There is one who is a bit immature. There was incident where this immature kid kicked another child and that child slapped him back. Other boy told his parents it was my son, even though 3 other children said it wasn't him. I had the mother screaming and shouting at my door and she refused to listen that the wrong boy was being blamed. The kid who did the slapping even said it "was me, self defence" but she ignored it.
    Last night the father had a go at my son. Cornered him when he was on his own, threatened him, screaming at the top of his voice, and making my son cry. He said the following to my son
    1. I am watching you. All the time. I'm always watching you.
    2. The police are watching you and will not be nice to you when I call them.
    3. Wanted to escort him to our home.(son thinks that's what he meant)
    4. Told him he'd be in big trouble if he was seen outside this man's house again.
    5. Asked my son why he was staring into his house, my son said he wasn't, he was just looking around.
    6. Meanwhile, the man's kid, was giving my son the f finger through the window.

    I want to go speak to them but I don't want to make it worse. They obviously have it in for my son and a big part of me thinks this man's behaviour is disgusting and needs to be pulled up on it. But, He also sounds a bit unstable.

    Just looking advice. Anybody been here before and how'd you handle it.

    I would ask the man to stay out of arguments between the children and promise to do the same yourself . If a conversation needs to happen (extreme circumstances) it should be between the adults away from the children. The children should not be approached by the adults and the adults should not subject the children to adult arguments. That's my opinion anyway. Chances are the kids will be best friends again the next day so adults getting involved could damage their friendships. They are at a good age to learn about conflict resolution and I say let them work it out with guidance.


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    #45
    jack923
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 418 ✭✭jack923


    frenchmartini wrote: »
    How would you handle this situation?
    My son plays with a group of children. There is one who is a bit immature. There was incident where this immature kid kicked another child and that child slapped him back. Other boy told his parents it was my son, even though 3 other children said it wasn't him. I had the mother screaming and shouting at my door and she refused to listen that the wrong boy was being blamed. The kid who did the slapping even said it "was me, self defence" but she ignored it.
    Last night the father had a go at my son. Cornered him when he was on his own, threatened him, screaming at the top of his voice, and making my son cry. He said the following to my son
    1. I am watching you. All the time. I'm always watching you.
    2. The police are watching you and will not be nice to you when I call them.
    3. Wanted to escort him to our home.(son thinks that's what he meant)
    4. Told him he'd be in big trouble if he was seen outside this man's house again.
    5. Asked my son why he was staring into his house, my son said he wasn't, he was just looking around.
    6. Meanwhile, the man's kid, was giving my son the f finger through the window.

    I want to go speak to them but I don't want to make it worse. They obviously have it in for my son and a big part of me thinks this man's behaviour is disgusting and needs to be pulled up on it. But, He also sounds a bit unstable.

    Just looking advice. Anybody been here before and how'd you handle it.

    Well if it was me I would go up to that boys father and ask him to talk down to me like that.


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    #46
    jack923
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 418 ✭✭jack923


    Gebgbegb wrote: »
    Talk to cops, you can't corner a kid and threaten them.

    The gardai won't do anything, this isn't a dig at the garda they do their best but they actually wont be able to do anything it's a 10 year olds word against a grown man.


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    #47
    Dyr
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    jack923 wrote: »
    The gardai won't do anything, this isn't a dig at the garda they do their best but they actually wont be able to do anything it's a 10 year olds word against a grown man.

    you could leave at the first the five words, its just the reality


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    #48
    PAndroid
    Registered Users Posts: 4 ✭PAndroid


    frenchmartini wrote: »
    How would you handle this situation?
    My son plays with a group of children. There is one who is a bit immature. There was incident where this immature kid kicked another child and that child slapped him back. Other boy told his parents it was my son, even though 3 other children said it wasn't him. I had the mother screaming and shouting at my door and she refused to listen that the wrong boy was being blamed. The kid who did the slapping even said it "was me, self defence" but she ignored it.
    Last night the father had a go at my son. Cornered him when he was on his own, threatened him, screaming at the top of his voice, and making my son cry. He said the following to my son
    1. I am watching you. All the time. I'm always watching you.
    2. The police are watching you and will not be nice to you when I call them.
    3. Wanted to escort him to our home.(son thinks that's what he meant)
    4. Told him he'd be in big trouble if he was seen outside this man's house again.
    5. Asked my son why he was staring into his house, my son said he wasn't, he was just looking around.
    6. Meanwhile, the man's kid, was giving my son the f finger through the window.

    I want to go speak to them but I don't want to make it worse. They obviously have it in for my son and a big part of me thinks this man's behaviour is disgusting and needs to be pulled up on it. But, He also sounds a bit unstable.

    Just looking advice. Anybody been here before and how'd you handle it.

    knock his teeth out. ino i would he might listen to reason then


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    #49
    percy212
    Registered Users Posts: 1,077 ✭✭✭percy212


    The OP has no idea what the man said to the boy. Before blowing things out of proportion a chat or a phone call might clear the air, if even to agree that those two kids should avoid each other. Going straight to ballistic is not helpful, and a very bad lesson for the kids on how to operate in society.


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    #50
    evolving_doors
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    jack923 wrote: »
    The gardai won't do anything, this isn't a dig at the garda they do their best but they actually wont be able to do anything it's a 10 year olds word against a grown man.

    Would you say the same if a kid claimed he had been sexually abused by an adult?

    There has been threads on boards before of adults who want to coach kids or be scout leaders but they had a mark against their garda vetting record for threatening a kid from years ago.

    Just from teaching I know that no matter what a child claims you have to report it (be it sexual, physical, emotional abuse). and rightly so. If the cops don't want anything to do with it then just make sure you get confirmation that you made a complaint and the name of the garda you reported it too (I think they have to give out a number with every reporting).


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