Would you hire/date/live with yourself?

BlondeMoment · 18-04-2016 8:43pm #1

Lets have some self reflection in After Hours for a second..

You're a hiring manager in a company conducting interviews and in walks a candidate with the exact same personality traits as you.....knowing what you know about yourself...eg do you cut corners with tasks, do you get along with your team? Would you hire them?

You swipe right on a guy/gal on Tinder and they have the same habits as you do...eg, are you a bit of a hot head? Bad communicator? Knowing what your know about yourself, your bad habits, would you date them?

I think id hire myself, im loyal and id do anything to help my colleagues to get a job finished. I could be better with punctuality though

Date myself? Yes and no....im tidy around the house and like my independence so id like a potential partner to be the same, but im not the best communicator, I push people away.

So, what about you?

XR3i · 18-04-2016 8:43pm

i would marry myself

MilesMorales1 · 18-04-2016 8:44pm

Gawd no, I'm a right nobhead.

BlondeMoment · 18-04-2016 8:44pm

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

Gawd no, I'm a right nobhead.

..but youre honest! Thats a plus at least

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000 · 18-04-2016 8:46pm

I wouldn't touch me with a barge pole.

Cathy.C · 18-04-2016 8:47pm

Reminds me of the famous Groucho Marx quote.

"Please accept my resignation. I don't want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member.”

Mister Vain · 18-04-2016 8:51pm

I'd date myself alright. I'm gorgeous.

Stheno · 18-04-2016 8:52pm

Hire yes

Dat/live with no

ToddyDoody · 18-04-2016 8:53pm

I'd probably be somewhat mortified to be associated with him but be better off having him about than not.

duchalla · 18-04-2016 8:54pm

I've been told to go way and fcuk myself by people on occasion. Does that count?

BlondeMoment · 18-04-2016 9:00pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

I'd date myself alright. I'm gorgeous.

Well who doesnt love a bit of arm candy eh!

MilesMorales1 · 18-04-2016 9:00pm

BlondeMoment wrote: »

..but youre honest! Thats a plus at least

I dislike my own company at the best of times, the only difference being I'm forced to spend time with myself. If I had a choice, I'd find someone new.

TG1 · 18-04-2016 9:03pm

Nope, I'm a forgetful, messy, grumpy perfectionist, so I just annoy everyone.

I wouldn't hire me to mind a goldfish and you wouldn't pay me enough to date me!

One eyed Jack · 18-04-2016 9:08pm

I'd hire me because I know I'd be good to work with as both being able to work on my own initiative, and as part of a team.

I wouldn't date me though, because I'm like different person when I'm working, and a different person outside work. I wouldn't live with me either. That's just foo much like work, I'd drive myself round the bend! :pac:

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 18-04-2016 9:14pm

I'd hire myself. I'm dedicated, hardworking and fantastic at what I do.

I'd live with myself. I'm clean, I'm housetrained, I usually fall asleep watching tv so won't fight myself for the remote control.

I wouldn't date myself. I'm a headfook of epic proportions. I lash out at those I'm close to, and am prone to using them as an emotional punching bag when I'm such a mess I don't know what else to do. I'm not good at dealing with problems, I'm a big fan of burying my head in the sand and using whatever means nessessary to block that out. After almost two years in councelling I'm getting a little bit better. It took my current boyfriend 3 years for me to agree to be his girlfriend, and even at that the commitment of it made me break up with him a few months later when I realised how much I loved him/the power he had to sh it on my heart. I'm irrational, run on two default emotions, happy and angry and seem to swing wildly between both. I'm rarely sad, rarely jealous, rarely any other feeling. There doesn't seem to be middle ground although to be fair I don't stay angry for very long.
I'm quick tempered, I'm unpredictable, and I'm emotionally broken.
I have no idea how he puts up with me, because I can't even deal with myself. But he's been there for the past ten years and he knows me better than I know myself. He can tell by a certain word I might use in a text if I'm angry or snapping about something. He knows how to cheer me up if I'm fuming. He knows if I'm running amuck not to stand in my way. After my dad died, and I decided I could do what I liked because I had nothing left in my life to lose, he was the one who picked up the pieces, while I wrecked havoc on everything around me.

The thoughts of dealing with someone I loved so much (him) on a path of self destruction, terrifies me. I'd for sure walk away because I wouldn't know what else to do.

If I had to date myself I'd be chawing Prozac morning noon and night

doolox · 18-04-2016 9:14pm

I would hire me in my present economic role. I would not hire me in the role I found myself doing for the 1st 30 yrs of my working life.....ie a milkman and then an electronics technician.

There are other far better milkmen and technicians out there than me, having said that there were other far worse ones than me but I'd say the present day work demands and management practices expectations and increasing competition has shoved them out into early retirement or the dole by now.

I am in a totally different role and near enough to retirement not to really care about a career or such stuff and cannot be measured against other similar service providers, some people say my service is unique so its very hard to judge.

beks101 · 18-04-2016 9:17pm

I'd hire myself and then promote the sh1t out of myself and then hand over the company shares to myself and then retire myself by 40.

MacauDragon · 18-04-2016 9:24pm

Get out of my office you workshy freeloader.

But before you go .. well I know you've always been curious.

KatW4 · 18-04-2016 9:27pm

I'd definitely hire myself. I absolutely love my job so I do a great job at it.

I definitely wouldn't date myself :O I'm ridiculously emotional, irrational and dramatic. I genuinely don't know how my boyfriend lives with me!

Ruu · 18-04-2016 9:30pm

No to all, I'm mad in head. :eek:

AgileMyth · 18-04-2016 9:31pm

The people I work with are awful so yeah, another me could help me do the job properly!

I wouldnt date myself though, that's gay and I hate that. Also I couldn't date a homophobe.

Emmadilema123 · 18-04-2016 9:35pm

This is a tricky one. I'm really nice but I'm not really my type!

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 18-04-2016 10:37pm

Hire me, probably not.

Date me, dunno. I mean I'm great, obviously, but I need someone who complements me. I'd have the craic with me and ride me senseless but we wouldn't get much done, I'm way too passive and laid back, need someone to give me a push. I'd hate to have an argument with myself.

Live with, yeah. I like my own company so I'd be curious to see whether I'd then prefer my own company or my own company

Peregrine · 18-04-2016 10:39pm

Not a chance!

mansize · 18-04-2016 10:41pm

No.No.No.

irishguitarlad · 18-04-2016 10:54pm

Id hire myself, im a great worker.

Id date myself and id shag myself as I am quite the handsome man.

But i wouldnt live with myself as I am as unpredictable and mad as they come.

Knex* · 18-04-2016 10:56pm

Ah yeah, I like me.

I'd be least reluctant to date me, alright though. I'd like to hold higher aesthetic standards. Its a bit of a conundrum, that one.

18-04-2016 11:20pm

Interesting.

I would live with me. I am fully house trained and come with all necessary social skills. There would be lots of fun but if you needed quiet time there would be that as well. I like being alone too. Mind you I do have my little quirks but I think we'd get along quite nicely. Tiger beer and scary films every night!

I would absolutely date me. Hell I would marry me! You would never ever have to worry about lack of trust or loyalty. Oh and there is no way that my sex drive would shrivel up and disappear as soon as we get serious. I would make you laugh and want to throw all caution to the wind. You would have your biggest supporter in me.

As for hiring? Well probably not. I don't work well in teams and isn't that the way of most jobs these days. I don't like having to follow strict time keeping rules. You know the whole Monday to Friday 9 to 5 lark. Also I like to have naps whenever I feel like it. So no.

gozunda · 18-04-2016 11:24pm

Holy shyte no
I would go back in time and make sure I wasn't even conceived

johnnyskeleton · 18-04-2016 11:29pm

Im a self employed masturbator with pictures of myself in every room. Do I win the thread?

18-04-2016 11:30pm

NAPS!!!!!!!!!!!

Just sayin'.

#napsforever

MacauDragon · 18-04-2016 11:34pm

Would you date me ?

I'd date me.

I'd date me hard.

(mangina dance)

FortySeven · 18-04-2016 11:36pm

Me with tits and a fanny. Where do I sign up? I have a soul to trade!

Shint0 · 18-04-2016 11:48pm

I would hire myself - I am the ideas person and tell it as it is. There would be no backstabbing or office politics.

Would I date myself? My husband once said God must have made me as a prototype and obviously stopped after me. I don't think he meant it as a compliment :-( Often when my train of thought derails there are no survivors.

Would I live with myself? My ADHD-type brain relishes in disorder and chaos. So I think that's a firm no.

BlondeMoment · 18-04-2016 11:52pm

LexieOnRale wrote: »

If I had to date myself I'd be chawing Prozac morning noon and night

Yeah this is something I was getting at, like, the people saying no....why not? Does it make you think about changing your behaviour in any way?

One eyed Jack · 19-04-2016 12:01am

BlondeMoment wrote: »

Yeah this is something I was getting at, like, the people saying no....why not? Does it make you think about changing your behaviour in any way?

Because I'm often told I'm an absolute head-melt by other people, and since I'm not aware of it myself, I have to take their word for it. On that basis I'd wreck my own head and I wouldn't even be aware of what exactly it is about me that wrecks my own head, so I wouldn't be able to change it.

I'm even driving myself up the walls right now trying to work out the paradox of the problem!

Why OP, why? :pac:

19-04-2016 12:03am

All joking aside they are very difficult questions to answer. It's not easy to step outside of yourself and look objectively at how it might be to date you. Your perception will of course be coloured.

Lexie you posted that you wouldn't date yourself and gave lots of reasons why. But what about all the good things about you? The very things that keep your relationship alive and your boyfriend by your side. I don't for one second doubt that you aren't a great girl who maybe struggles to receive love but who has no problem giving plenty of it.

BlondeMoment · 19-04-2016 12:14am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

All joking aside they are very difficult questions to answer. It's not easy to step outside of yourself and look objectively at how it might be to date you. Your perception will of course be coloured.

I absolutely agree. I think self reflection is important but it is a difficult thing to do. I suppose a recent event in my life got me thinking about the choices I make and the effects they have on the people around me. (Basically im an idiot!

) Was interested to see what others think.

RobertKK · 19-04-2016 12:18am

Given I don't like confrontation and no one knows me like myself, and we would share the same interests, yes, but cloning is banned...

19-04-2016 12:20am

BlondeMoment wrote: »

I absolutely agree. I think self reflection is important but it is a difficult thing to do. I suppose a recent event in my life got me thinking about the choices I make and the effects they have on the people around me. (Basically im an idiot! ) Was interested to see what others think.

Oh self reflection is a very very important but I'm not sure we need to step outside of ourselves to do it. Instead it can be simply looking inside ourselves and asking why we do the things we do, how did it make us feel, where do we think those feelings come from.

So instead of asking the question "would another person date/live with/hire me" or indeed "why would they".
We need to ask "why did I do that", "can I change", "do I want to change", "what hurts" "why do I hurt others".

groucho marx · 19-04-2016 12:25am

Reminds me of the scene from silence of the lambs where he's admiring himself in the mirror asking himself a question

Maximus Alexander · 19-04-2016 12:27am

I'd hire myself. I wouldn't date myself though because I'm not into dudes. And I wouldn't live with myself because we'd have absolutely nothing to talk about. "Did you hear about that new th-" "Let me stop you there; yes I read all about it this afternoon."