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22-06-2016 2:42pm#1
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Sausage Boy wrote: »Bring her into bed, what's the problem?
We did with our two, they both moved happily to their own beds when they were ready.
Don't know why people make such a big deal of it. Lovely for young children to sleep next to Mum.
X 100.
And Dad !!
We kept ours in the bed with us as long as they wanted to be there. They moved into their own rooms themselves when they were ready. Between 3 and 4 for both of them and yes we had 2 of them for a time :eek:
We just bought a massive bed, nearly took up the whole room but waking up to their smiley faces every morning was worth it and we all got a full nights sleep so win win all round
I see so many parents tear their hair out over this. Losing hours and hours of sleep just to keep them in their own rooms. It never made sense to me but i'm sure plenty of stuff we do doesn't make sense to others.
But for us, life is challenging enough without giving ourselves extra pressure. If sharing our bed with the kids for a few years could give everyone an easier life, then it's a no brainer.
I do really enjoy having my own bed back now though :pac:0 -
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Sausage Boy wrote: »No, we put them to bed as normal, around 7pm, and go about our normal business. We always had a massive bed with wooden bedguards on each side to stop anyone falling out. When it's time for us to go to bed, around 10:30pm, we get in next to them. That's it.
Still don't get the big deal. So much pressure on first-time parents not to bring children into bed for some reason, and miss out on one of the nicest experiences of being a parent, waking up to your child's smiling face.
They are young children, they are much happier sleeping next to Mum or/and Dad. They love it. We all wake up happier.
As for sex, we have four bedrooms, we have three children so far. It's not an issue.
Lol, I get it now... The difference is that you're bloody loaded! Massive bed with adult size bed rails in huge 4 bed house, sure that would make a difference alright.
Us mere peasants with normal sized beds, no custom bedrails and a two bed house with 5 people living in it, sleep in our own beds so we can get any sleep at all.0 -
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I reckon it could be worth giving the co-sleeping a go. Although I'd be inclined to take her in with you at the start of the night rather than wait for her to wake up screaming. Hopefully she'll get in the habit of sleeping through quite quickly in the bed with you, and once you've established that you can try her in the cot again and see if she continues to sleep through.
Your little boy probably won't even notice since he's sleeping through anyways. I wouldn't worry about forming bad habits, her language skills will come on in the next few months and it'll be easier to reason with her if you want to try her in the cot again. Anyways, you don't ever hear of teenagers still sleeping in the cot with their parents! She might even miss sleeping near her brother, once the novelty wears off, and be happy to go back in with him.
Gro-clocks are a good idea for when they're a little older, she'd be too young to understand the concept now, but you could maybe buy one when you decide to try her in her own room again. Also have you considered when you're going to move her into a bed/toddler bed ... the novelty of that might help too!
Also simple things like throwing 2/3 soothers in the cot so she's more likely to find one when she wakes. (If you don't want to do the co-sleeping.) Perhaps a change to a more absorbent nappy (the ones with the plus after them in whatever size) just in case that's what's waking her up. If you're using gro-bags, try blankets instead (so she can kick them off if she's too warm), or vice versa if you're using blankets a gro-bag might work better and make her feel more secure. Play around with putting music playing through the night - loads of long lullaby playlists on Youtube. If there's a nightlight in the room, try going without, or try getting one if you don't have one.
Or if you have space in your bedroom, you could try temporarily moving her cot in there - it might be enough for her to just be in the room with you, without actually coming into the bed.
I guess it's trial and error, different things work for different babies, and I imagine it's difficult with twins when something's working for one of them and not the other! But every baby and family are different ... I definitely wouldn't rule out the co-sleeping though, the easiest solutions are sometimes the best!0 -
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Sausage Boy wrote: »No, we put them to bed as normal, around 7pm, and go about our normal business. We always had a massive bed with wooden bedguards on each side to stop anyone falling out. When it's time for us to go to bed, around 10:30pm, we get in next to them. That's it.
Still don't get the big deal. So much pressure on first-time parents not to bring children into bed for some reason, and miss out on one of the nicest experiences of being a parent, waking up to your child's smiling face.
They are young children, they are much happier sleeping next to Mum or/and Dad. They love it. We all wake up happier.
As for sex, we have four bedrooms, we have three children so far. It's not an issue.
Lol, I get it now... The difference is that you're bloody loaded! Massive bed with adult size bed rails in huge 4 bed house, sure that would make a difference alright.
Us mere peasants with normal sized beds, no custom bedrails and a two bed house with 5 people living in it, sleep in our own beds so we can get any sleep at all.
LOL!0
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