Is anyone else a loner???

Joe Musashi

Did you mutilate animals as a child?

tomofson

Joe Musashi wrote: »

Did you mutilate animals as a child?

I have more time for animals than I do human's, one thing I would never hurt is an animal.

Joe Musashi

tomofson wrote: »

I have more time for animals than I do human's, one thing I would never hurt is an animal.

Just sounding you to see if you were a potential serial killer. You are trustworthy I think.

MilesMorales1

Animals are better than people. Much less annoying.

DopeTech

I'm a loner, for years when I had a few friends I always thought that it would be nice tovgo off the radar for a few months. Over the years now my friends have moved on and relationships have fizzled out and I have nobody really that could really call a close friend. I see the few that remain very infrequently. Now I realise how lucky I was years ago.

I do enjoy my own company and 90% of the time I'd pick my own company over hanging out with people but every now and again I do wonder what my life would be like if I had a big cirlcle of friends. A lot less mundane I'd imagine.

Olishi4

No I don't think I am a loner but it takes me some time to become very close to people. I'm quite a private person really.

I have a lot of aquaintences whom I see regularly but probably only a handful of real friends who id confide in. I am fairly sociable but I like to also have my own time. I wouldn't be too fussed on group holidays. Even if I am invited to a hen wknd, I prefer to just go for one night and I have a great night but any more than that I find is too much for me.

Mister Vain

rodge68 wrote: »

On my own in a hostel right now..odd ? Possibly..Loner...guess I am..
Contented on my own at this stage (48) it's easier. I can do what I want when I want..

I always travel alone so I guess I'm a bit of a loner that way. It's grand because I get to go where I want but most people seem baffled by this. Occasionally I lie and say I'm going with a friend just to avoid any awkwardness.

tomwaterford

Mister Vain wrote: »

I always travel alone so I guess I'm a bit of a loner that way. It's grand because I get to go where I want but most people seem baffled by this. Occasionally I lie and say I'm going with a friend just to avoid any awkwardness.

What's the longest you've travelled alone for??

Mister Vain

tomwaterford wrote: »

What's the longest you've travelled alone for??

10 days. I usually just go for a week tbh. It's enough for most European cities anyway.

B.A._Baracus

Honestly....
I do not think I am a loner but I think people are assholes. In my heart I know not everyone is... But I think most people are.

jamesbere

Mister Vain wrote: »

I always travel alone so I guess I'm a bit of a loner that way. It's grand because I get to go where I want but most people seem baffled by this. Occasionally I lie and say I'm going with a friend just to avoid any awkwardness.

Why lie, I've gone on a few holidays on my own and enjoyed it. You can do your own thing which is great. You shouldn't be worried about what other people think of you, screw them is what I think.

SeantheMan

I don't think I'm a loner , as I have friends here and back home.
However I've always enjoyed and been completely comfortable in my own company.
Probably part of the reason I never really wanted a girlfriend for years, and maybe also why I was able to make the decision to just pack in my job and move to another country on my own.
I only see my girlfriend on the weekends (as she lives in another city atm) , and maybe meet my friends once every 2-3 weeks. For the most part, Mon-Fri it's just me, no contact with anyone else ...other than co-workers (who speak a different language) and the occasional group message at night to mates back home, oh...and voice chat in some games too.
I don't really get lonely though, I guess maybe it's because I 'do' have friends who I can meet or go back to at anytime.

Galwayguy35

I suppose I am a loner, live alone and most of the people I used to pal around with have moved away or settled down so I sort of lost contact with them over the years.

I've gotten so used to being on my own at this stage sometimes I think trying to find someone to have a relationship with is to much hassle and when you're over 40 it's that bit more difficult.

jamesbere

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

I suppose I am a loner, live alone and most of the people I used to pal around with have moved away or settled down so I sort of lost contact with them over the years.

I've gotten so used to being on my own at this stage sometimes I think trying to find someone to have a relationship with is to much hassle and when you're over 40 it's that bit more difficult.

I think if your past the age of forty it's very possible to find someone, but I suppose it comes down to how willing you are to commit to it.

Galwayguy35

jamesbere wrote: »

I think if your past the age of forty it's very possible to find someone, but I suppose it comes down to how willing you are to commit to it.

I agree, I'm actually quite happy on my own at the moment and in the past I've let relationships fizzle out when the person I was with wanted to take things to the next level.

But at the same time ending up an oul codger living alone doesn't really sound too appealing.

murpho999

tomofson wrote: »

I have more time for animals than I do human's, one thing I would never hurt is an animal.

I think I'm somewhat of a loner as I get upset by people using apostrophes in plurals.

tomofson

murpho999 wrote: »

I think I'm somewhat of a loner as I get upset by people using apostrophes in plurals.

You do realize you're one of the only people in this century that actually cares???

jamesbere

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

I agree, I'm actually quite happy on my own at the moment and in the past I've let relationships fizzle out when the person I was with wanted to take things to the next level.

But at the same time ending up an oul codger living alone doesn't really sound too appealing.

Kind of in the same boat aswell, not overly pushed as I enjoy my own time to myself but on the other hand growing old alone is something that seems a bit unappealing to me.

I suppose just getting to that stage in relationship were things start getting serious is a bit daunting to me, not sure if I can let myself open for that really

murpho999

tomofson wrote: »

You do realize you're one of the only people in this century that actually cares???

Yes, but it doesn't mean it's right.

At least you said "you're" and not "your". Well done.

Maximus Alexander

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

Animals are better than people. Much less annoying.

Sentence doesn't make sense. It's like saying "Cars are better than BMWs" or "Crisps are better than Tayto".

tomofson

murpho999 wrote: »

Yes, but it doesn't mean it's right.

At least you said "you're" and not "your". Well done.

YOUR welcome.

tomofson

tomofson wrote: »

You do realize you're one of the only people in this century that actually cares???

I twitched.

tomofson

Deleted User wrote: »

I twitched.

Good for you

Hugo Stiglitz

I'm pretty much a loner. It sucks at times but it is what it is.

tomofson

tomofson wrote: »

Good for you

Hugo Stiglitz

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

I'm pretty much a loner. It sucks at times but it is what it is.

If it sucks at times then why don't you go about changing it?

tomofson

Deleted User wrote: »

If it sucks at times then why don't you go about changing it?

Have you got anything of value to actually add??? Or are you just a troll

There is something kind of sad about this thread. For those of you who say you prefer animals over people or that people are assholes, well I wonder about that. What is it that causes such a dislike, such an aversion towards the rest of the human race?

I love being alone. Isolation and quietness are so soothing for me. Yet I also love people. I love noticing them and imagining the lives they live and all of the complexities inside of them.

Life is a pretty miserable place if you view others as being assholes, or if you aren't content with your aloneness, if it makes you unhappy, yet just put up with it.

tomofson

Deleted User wrote: »

There is something kind of sad about this thread. For those of you who say you prefer animals over people or that people are assholes, well I wonder about that. What is it that causes such a dislike, such an aversion towards the rest of the human race?

I love being alone. Isolation and quietness are so soothing for me. Yet I also love people. I love noticing them and imagining the lives they live and all of the complexities inside of them.

Life is a pretty miserable place if you view others as being assholes, or if you aren't content with your aloneness, if it makes you unhappy, yet just put up with it.

I don't view others as assholes, I am aware some can be but thats just life.

tomofson

tomofson wrote: »

Have you got anything of value to actually add??? Or are you just a troll

It was a perfectly value question in fact. We are masters at holding ourselves back. I do it myself.

Hugo Stiglitz

[Deleted User] wrote: »

If it sucks at times then why don't you go about changing it?

I'm slowly going about doing that. Am making some progress.

Hugo Stiglitz

[Deleted User] wrote: »

There is something kind of sad about this thread. For those of you who say you prefer animals over people or that people are assholes, well I wonder about that. What is it that causes such a dislike, such an aversion towards the rest of the human race?

I love being alone. Isolation and quietness are so soothing for me. Yet I also love people. I love noticing them and imagining the lives they live and all of the complexities inside of them.

Life is a pretty miserable place if you view others as being assholes, or if you aren't content with your aloneness, if it makes you unhappy, yet just put up with it.

I greatly value my alone time too. It's nice to get away from it all. When I said it sucks, I meant when it's being alone all the time.

tomofson

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

I greatly value my alone time too. It's nice to get away from it all. When I said it sucks, I meant when it's being alone all the time.

I can certainly appreciate it to, but not all the time it gets to a stage where it is heart aching and headwrecking

Outlaw Pete

Deleted User wrote: »

What is it that causes such a dislike, such an aversion towards the rest of the human race?

Generally when anyone has an intense dislike of anything it's because of their first hand experiences with that and so whenever I see someone expressing negative opinions about humans as a whole, or even just a particular subset, I will immediately infer that at some point in their lives (or perhaps throughout all of it) they have needlessly and relentlessly been 'fcuked over'.

If enough dogs bite someone, they'd hate them too. Which is why of course aversion therapy wil attempt to get people to re-associate with whatever the hell it is that they are having irrational feelings about but in the case of hating the human race, that's as easy to rectify and alleviate as it when someone is just scared of dogs. As lovely, friendly, welcoming dogs are easy to find. Lovely friendly humans though? Not so much.

Estrellita

While at school I never hung out with groups of people, I had a few friends I was close to. Now, it's hard to say I'm alone when I've a partner and children, but I definitely allowed friendships to fade out. Im not what you might call anti-social, but more asocial. I'm not shy, I just find it mentally exhausting keeping up with people.

When I retained friendships I always found them draining. Always seemed to be some drama or other, and I was always the giver while others just took. Even family events are a major effort for me. I go nought to angry when I feel surrounded by people, or any kind of chaotic situations. I have an uncontrollable urge to get away from people at times. I'm not sure you could call me a loner, because I don't think they want to be alone. The difference is, I do.

lawlolawl

[Deleted User] wrote: »

There is something kind of sad about this thread. For those of you who say you prefer animals over people or that people are assholes, well I wonder about that. What is it that causes such a dislike, such an aversion towards the rest of the human race?

I love being alone. Isolation and quietness are so soothing for me. Yet I also love people. I love noticing them and imagining the lives they live and all of the complexities inside of them.

Life is a pretty miserable place if you view others as being assholes, or if you aren't content with your aloneness, if it makes you unhappy, yet just put up with it.

I just weigh up being around people vs. being on my own and being on my own wins by a landslide.

I work a customer service style job and I see the stupidest, ugliest, petty-est, most ignorant side of humanity 9 hours a day, 5 days a week. I want nothing to do with people at the end of my shift and need to not see anyone for hours afterwards.

I'll be ****ed if I'm going to spend much of my free time around people. I'm overjoyed to be left alone.

glenfieldman

Estrellita wrote: »

While at school I never hung out with groups of people, I had a few friends I was close to. Now, it's hard to say I'm alone when I've a partner and children, but I definitely allowed friendships to fade out. Im not what you might call anti-social, but more asocial. I'm not shy, I just find it mentally exhausting keeping up with people.

When I retained friendships I always found them draining. Always seemed to be some drama or other, and I was always the giver while others just took. Even family events are a major effort for me. I go nought to angry when I feel surrounded by people, or any kind of chaotic situations. I have an uncontrollable urge to get away from people at times. I'm not sure you could call me a loner, because I don't think they want to be alone. The difference is, I do.

Wow thats exactly how I am,
I was the freak in school, but i dont know how but Ive managed to keep a couple of mates from school,
And I made some real friends since then, but because of my insecurity's i lost them
But im ok on my own with a few beers

Estrellita

glenfieldman wrote: »

Wow thats exactly how I am,
I was the freak in school, but i dont know how but Ive managed to keep a couple of mates from school,
And I made some real friends since then, but because of my insecurity's i lost them
But im ok on my own with a few beers

May I ask you if you are in a relationship?

Reason I ask is I am in a long term relationship, and I have children. I'm not technically alone as such. I'm not sure our situations are exactly the same. I didn't allow friendships to fade out because of any insecurities, it was quite frankly me being sick of their s.hite.

This is going to sound terrible but I'm not afraid of the general public, I fcuking hate being around the general public. Its the rudeness, lack of respect, complete lack of manners.. and that is just the adults. The children, are a product of the above. Little shi.ts that thinks the world owes them something because their parents haven't taught them any values. I realise you can't tar everyone with the same brush, but I honestly despair for the future generations.

My favourite place is home and the serenity of my garden with my family. My way of life is entirely chosen.

HS3

I never was before but I'm becoming one now. Not by choice. I used to love an aul chin wag and being in the company of others. But the past few months I've lost my banter. I dunno what's happened. I feel awkward in social settings and I end up saying something completely left of field so now I dont really try anymore and I just sit back and watch. The other night I was out with work and I realised I was sitting saying nothing and I had to force myself up out of my seat and go mingle. I would have been quite happy staying where I was, but with it being a work do I had to make the effort.

So I think I am becoming a loner now!

FortySeven

We all see life through a lens of experience. You can become a loner or you can seek out new experiences.

I've done both in life. I'm about to do the latter again. Right now I'm a loner. 1 year from now?

glenfieldman

Estrellita wrote: »

May I ask you if you are in a relationship?

Reason I ask is I am in a long term relationship, and I have children. I'm not technically alone as such. I'm not sure our situations are exactly the same. I didn't allow friendships to fade out because of any insecurities, it was quite frankly me being sick of their s.hite.

This is going to sound terrible but I'm not afraid of the general public, I fcuking hate being around the general public. Its the rudeness, lack of respect, complete lack of manners.. and that is just the adults. The children, are a product of the above. Little shi.ts that thinks the world owes them something because their parents haven't taught them any values. I realise you can't tar everyone with the same brush, but I honestly despair for the future generations.

My favourite place is home and the serenity of my garden with my family. My way of life is entirely chosen.

Yes i am married to the best woman that ever walked this earth, and I have two wonderful girls, that for some reason love the bones of me.
But like you I hate the general public, i love the few friends I have, but put me on public transport with the normal people, i feel like my skin is crawling.
I love being by myself but at the same time my fav time is with my 3 girls,
F the outside world and their judgmental opinions, i like me and my lonely life for what it is

theoldbreed

I wouldn't say I'm a loner but I'm definitely an introvert. Grew up as an only child so maybe that's a contributing factor?

Thoroughly enjoy and NEED my own time regularly. I can quite happily go days without speaking face to face with anyone although this rarely happens. Being around people all the time, going out every weekend... My nightmare

Funnily enough I've married a very social man, he loves people and being around them and chatting etc which suits me, I can take a step back. He understands I need my own time too. My job is very people oriented too. Funny.

Have been called snobby before due to my introverted nature but at this stage in my life I'm happy with who I am and really don't care

glenfieldman

HS3 wrote: »

I never was before but I'm becoming one now. Not by choice. I used to love an aul chin wag and being in the company of others. But the past few months I've lost my banter. I dunno what's happened. I feel awkward in social settings and I end up saying something completely left of field so now I dont really try anymore and I just sit back and watch. The other night I was out with work and I realised I was sitting saying nothing and I had to force myself up out of my seat and go mingle. I would have been quite happy staying where I was, but with it being a work do I had to make the effort.

So I think I am becoming a loner now!

Hey, you sound a bit like me,
But because I am a manager, when we have work nights out, I have to dig deep inside and eventually I find my clown mask and from the outside it looks like im the life and soul of the party, even after the party is over ill drag people back to a after party,
But under that mask is a guy who hates that ****, id rather be at home watching some inane brain dead TV

sryanbruen

I'm kinda a loner but I WANT TO BE A LONER.

Agricola

theoldbreed wrote: »

Have been called snobby before due to my introverted nature but at this stage in my life I'm happy with who I am and really don't care

Funny how snobby is often the default term "normal" people use to describe others who may just be introverts. Growing up, my parents who are two very sociable/community minded country folk, would often talk about people in the locality who "wouldn't even look ya" The implication being that anyone who doesn't drop what they are doing to talk about the weather and who died lately, MUST be a massive snob with ideas above their station!
I'm sure the answer often was that these people were just shy, not good with small talk etc etc

Estrellita

glenfieldman wrote: »

F the outside world and their judgmental opinions, i like me and my lonely life for what it is

But who says you are lonely? If you have all the people you want and need in your life, why do you feel lonely? Surely that's how you feel others judge you? A loner?

I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum. If you have people in your life that genuinely love and care for you, then you are the richest man in the world. I feel very lucky.

Keeping friends or friendships that are one sided have no value. It reminds me of the kind of people that need to have a pile of friends on Facebook, when most of them are just adding each other and clinging onto this notion they are wanted, needed, loves, attractive.. it's for that reason I know I'm not the insecure one, quite the opposite in fact. My world may be small, but I'm secure and content.

dd972

I've pretty much turned into a hermit, I have a face that everyone has an opinion about and can't blend in and be accepted like the run of people are, It's strange how people who've never had a conversation with you make snap judgements that they believe are some sort of divine communique.

This is a fairly thought provoking thread.

In terms of my own home village id probably be classed as a loner. Growing up, i would have been teased and bullied right up to finishing secondary school and as a result i suffered academically, i ended up giving up playing gaelic and soccer because i couldnt get along with the most of the group and my condidence, self esteem and self worth suffered as a result.

I suppose to be honest I was headstrong and stubborn and id give lip back from time to time but i was on a hiding to nothing if i'm honest. When your wounded its hard to think clearly and logically and i wasn't exactly dealing with the smartest of people in return considering they engaged in this garbage. Id like to stress i never went looking for it and done my utmost to get along with everyone but when your an easy target your an easy target.

I have two sisters and they were almost left secondary at the same time as i was beginning primary school so my own environment growing up was a bit more isolated then my own peers who by and large were part of mid to large families of children around the same age. That bit of isolation was a disadvantage to me in hindsight and i had no one around to help me daily.

But where I've had a chance to make a fresh start when i was grown up I've made good friends. Its tough really because of what happened me in the past i find it hard to make a real effort with people. As a result i'm quiet and reserved and if im being totally honest, im a little mistrusting of people albeit subconsciously.

In the wider world ive plenty of friends....they are just a little further from my doorstep.

glenfieldman

Estrellita wrote: »

But who says you are lonely? If you have all the people you want and need in your life, why do you feel lonely? Surely that's how you feel others judge you? A loner?

I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum. If you have people in your life that genuinely love and care for you, then you are the richest man in the world. I feel very lucky.

Keeping friends or friendships that are one sided have no value. It reminds me of the kind of people that need to have a pile of friends on Facebook, when most of them are just adding each other and clinging onto this notion they are wanted, needed, loves, attractive.. it's for that reason I know I'm not the insecure one, quite the opposite in fact. My world may be small, but I'm secure and content.

Ok, from the outside looking in I have the perfect life. Sure even my sister thinks I have it all, but apart from my wife and two girls, I couldn't give a F if i never seen anyone else,
But i feel i need to keep up the pretence for my daughters that I have friends

I have a feeling my posts maybe contradiction but thats the way i feel

glenfieldman

dd972 wrote: »

I've pretty much turned into a hermit, I have a face that everyone has an opinion about and can't blend in and be accepted like the run of people are, It's strange how people who've never had a conversation with you make snap judgements that they believe are some sort of divine communique.

Hi, what do you mean "a face that everyone has an opinion about" ?