Not being invited

Rallycrazygirl

anna080 wrote: »

What did she say?

I didn't even read it. My husband has been so supportive we're going to go off for few days next weekend and chill. She also texted his phone but didn't reply either

Rallycrazygirl

PopTarts wrote: »

If you blocked their numbers you shouldn't be getting texts from them either. Make sure you've done it properly.

Thought I'd done it right but didn't have rectified it now so no more texts , calls messages from them. Freedom

Rallycrazygirl

ahnow wrote: »

I'd be requesting that loaned money back if you haven't already received it. Then be done with them. Even if you don't get it back you get the psychological edge over them and the knowledge that they know they're not even decent enough to pay you back. I asked for a sum of money I loaned out to a couple of people from the old group that had conveniently "forgotten" to pay it back. Really shows the type of people they are.

I was told I'd get it back from money shed receive as wedding presents classy or what. I'll leave it few weeks and then see what happens her new hubby doesn't know I had to bail them out.

Colser

Rallycrazygirl wrote:

I've help her couple of times when she got pregnant , I was with her when she had her daughter father basically deserted her. Then he came back on seen . And took her in when they broke up couple years later. I've gotten her a job given her money food you name it , I gave her loan of money to pay deposit for hotel and wedding dress. I've been very naive over the years and recently. I've finally had my eyes opened.

I really hope Karma exists after reading this..what a horrible bitch.Honestly OP she's done you a huge favour by showing her true colours..don't back down when she comes crawling back during some other crisis in her life,let the other witches look after her.

strandroad

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

I was told I'd get it back from money shed receive as wedding presents classy or what. I'll leave it few weeks and then see what happens her new hubby doesn't know I had to bail them out.

Make sure you keep any messages about the loan. I bet she treats it as free money now.

Rallycrazygirl

mhge wrote: »

Make sure you keep any messages about the loan. I bet she treats it as free money now.

Hopefully she's honest about it don't want drama but she owes me few thousand , and I'm relying on it for few things coming up

tomwaterford

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

Hopefully she's honest about it don't want drama but she owes me few thousand , and I'm relying on it for few things coming up

Write it off and never speak/have anything to do with her again..

Sure it's a nice wad of money.... but nothing in terms ofor being rid of them



Also wanting a wedding present and not inviting you to the wedding.....WTF

Penny Tration

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

Hopefully she's honest about it don't want drama but she owes me few thousand , and I'm relying on it for few things coming up

If I were you, I'd unblock her (for the sake of getting proof of money owed) and make damn sure you have proof through texts or emails or some form of writing, acknowledging that she owes you the money.

Rachiee

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

Hopefully she's honest about it don't want drama but she owes me few thousand , and I'm relying on it for few things coming up[/quote

Being cynical but I wonder if thats part of the reason why she now wants to cut you off.

ahnow

I disagree about writing it off. It's not about the money itself, its the principle, and the act of asking for whats yours back is standing up for yourself and saying that you wont take that kind of treatment lying down. When I got that money back I gave it to charity-I couldn't give a ****e about the money itself, but I was delighted with myself for standing up for myself about it.

I'll just add it took me several months to feel empowered enough to do it, but I look back now and I'm so glad I did. But it took me a while to get there.

Rallycrazygirl

I'd prefer to call it a loss and a hard lesson than to be dragged through the mud cause I'm sure she'll deny it all and try to make me look bad

Big Bag of Chips

The cynic in me makes me think she never had any intention of paying you back. If her husband doesn't know she got the loan from you, how was she going to pay it back from the gifts received?? Surely he'd miss it at that point?

Cutting you out and eventually calling you attention seeking seems to me like the long game. You've said they've (she's) treated you like a soft touch for years. Getting you to pay the deposit for her dress (that she apparently could only afford because she wasn't paying for a meal for you!) and her hotel with zero intention of paying it back.

If you have any record of giving her the money, and her agreeing to pay it back, keep it. I would ask for it back. Once. If it doesn't come to you fairly swiftly I would bring any proof you have to a solicitor to draft a letter for you.

Good rule when it comes to lending money. If you can't afford to lose it, don't lend it.

Clampdown

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

I'd prefer to call it a loss and a hard lesson than to be dragged through the mud cause I'm sure she'll deny it all and try to make me look bad

Screw that, you've already gotten a hard lesson without the money side of it. She's the one who needs to learn a lesson - that you can't treat people like that and get away with it. The money she doesn't want to pay back seems to me the main reason she cut you out, it was more convenient for her to lose a friend then lose out on the wedding she craved. I'd be going after her tooth and nail for it, make sure the other witches know she ripped you off, as well as the mother and husband. She's a disgrace.

Big Bag of Chips

I'd even play a bit dirty and get your husband to text her husband in a few week and say "Just giving you a chance to get settled after the wedding, but if you could pay us back the money you owe us as soon you can we'd really appreciate it. Thanks"

via4

Wow...just wow...that woman is a blood sucker and how she has treated you is disgusting. I would let her mother know about the money she owes you. You may never see it as I can hazard a guess she was smart enough not to text you for the money I'm sure it was all done word of mouth. Get a solicitors letter as this might scare her because she knows your a pushover.
Fair play for not replying to the other fake friend she may have been fishing to see what you had to say to run back to the ringleader. It's so disheartening to see how women can be so childish but your well rid now. Your husband sounds really understanding and sweet to take you away. Enjoy your life with him and when the dust settles make steps to broaden your horizons with regards to meeting new people. I know it's hard but try not to let this take up so much headspace look at it as a lesson learned and don't lend anyone as much as a euro again. Best of luck

Big Bag of Chips

Rallycrazygirl, no disrespect meant to you but one thing I've noticed from your posts is that you seem to change your mind and direction pretty easily, depending on what another says. A few times now in this thread you have said you'll do something, and within a few minutes have decided to do something else because someone said it. The money for example. She owes you. You said yourself you hope she'd pay it back, as you are depending on it. A couple of posts later, without having time to think it over, you decide that you are going to write it off.

Read back your thread yourself, and see how quickly and easily you are influenced by others. How something you have decided is the right course of action for you, can so quickly be turned on it's head and you agreeing to the exact opposite.

It might be something for you to think about, and maybe work on. You seem to be a real people pleaser. It has allowed these girls to use you and make a fool of you for the past number of years. Now, in saying that, I'd rather be your type of person, than their type of person! But maybe you need to try be a bit more confident in your own choices and decisions. None of us here really know the history. We've only a few lines of text to go by, so it's very easy to say "I'd definitely do", or "I wouldn't bother". We're talking about a hypothetical situation. This is your real life. Be confident in your choices, whatever they may be. And take a stand. Whether that is getting your money back, confronting one or all of them, or just ignoring every one of them from now on. But give yourself a few days, even weeks to think about it. Don't make any decisions in haste. Emotions are high today, and will be for the next while. But when you do decide, then be confident that you are making the best decision for you.

I think this will be a learning experience for you. I hope you continue to be a loyal, dependable friend to those who deserve it. But I hope you learn to have the courage of your convictions and if you make a decision that you feel is best for you, that you are not easily swayed from it.

retro:electro

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Rallycrazygirl, no disrespect meant to you but one thing I've noticed from your posts is that you seem to change your mind and direction pretty easily, depending on what another says. A few times now in this thread you have said you'll do something, and within a few minutes have decided to do something else because someone said it. The money for example. She owes you. You said yourself you hope she'd pay it back, as you are depending on it. A couple of posts later, without having time to think it over, you decide that you are going to write it off.

Read back your thread yourself, and see how quickly and easily you are influenced by others. How something you have decided is the right course of action for you, can so quickly be turned on it's head and you agreeing to the exact opposite.

It might be something for you to think about, and maybe work on. You seem to be a real people pleaser. It has allowed these girls to use you and make a fool of you for the past number of years. Now, in saying that, I'd rather be your type of person, than their type of person! But maybe you need to try be a bit more confident in your own choices and decisions. None of us here really know the history. We've only a few lines of text to go by, so it's very easy to say "I'd definitely do", or "I wouldn't bother". We're talking about a hypothetical situation. This is your real life. Be confident in your choices, whatever they may be. And take a stand. Whether that is getting your money back, confronting one or all of them, or just ignoring every one of them from now on. But give yourself a few days, even weeks to think about it. Don't make any decisions in haste. Emotions are high today, and will be for the next while. But when you do decide, then be confident that you are making the best decision for you.

I think this will be a learning experience for you. I hope you continue to be a loyal, dependable friend to those who deserve it. But I hope you learn to have the courage of your convictions and if you make a decision that you feel is best for you, that you are not easily swayed from it.

This post is really worth its weight in gold and I hope you take it in OP!

Rallycrazygirl

Totally agree I think I was once again the soft touch and she saying I wont say anything and wont look for the money and stillgive her a present.
Were going to leave it couple of days if no sign of money my husband is going to mention it to her husband . Have proof she got money wrote a cheque for it and also her mam knows shegot itfrom.us.

When looking back its gas that I had to bail her out to have her dream day butnot be included in it. If it wasnt forme she would have lost hotel . But still being able to pay for all the other girls rooms.I know they were few hundred each for the night and that they were all staying two nights we live hour away from hotel so were staying wedding night and night after for a second party for a weekend to be had

ahnow

If she forgets you could always put a friendly reminder on her facebook page with the check for proof, and don't forget to wish her a happy wedding day!

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

Totally agree I think I was once again the soft touch and she saying I wont say anything and wont look for the money and stillgive her a present.
Were going to leave it couple of days if no sign of money my husband is going to mention it to her husband . Have proof she got money wrote a cheque for it and also her mam knows shegot itfrom.us.

When looking back its gas that I had to bail her out to have her dream day butnot be included in it. If it wasnt forme she would have lost hotel . But still being able to pay for all the other girls rooms.I know they were few hundred each for the night and that they were all staying two nights we live hour away from hotel so were staying wedding night and night after for a second party for a weekend to be had

Rallycrazygirl

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Rallycrazygirl, no disrespect meant to you but one thing I've noticed from your posts is that you seem to change your mind and direction pretty easily, depending on what another says. A few times now in this thread you have said you'll do something, and within a few minutes have decided to do something else because someone said it. The money for example. She owes you. You said yourself you hope she'd pay it back, as you are depending on it. A couple of posts later, without having time to think it over, you decide that you are going to write it off.

Read back your thread yourself, and see how quickly and easily you are influenced by others. How something you have decided is the right course of action for you, can so quickly be turned on it's head and you agreeing to the exact opposite.

It might be something for you to think about, and maybe work on. You seem to be a real people pleaser. It has allowed these girls to use you and make a fool of you for the past number of years. Now, in saying that, I'd rather be your type of person, than their type of person! But maybe you need to try be a bit more confident in your own choices and decisions. None of us here really know the history. We've only a few lines of text to go by, so it's very easy to say "I'd definitely do", or "I wouldn't bother". We're talking about a hypothetical situation. This is your real life. Be confident in your choices, whatever they may be. And take a stand. Whether that is getting your money back, confronting one or all of them, or just ignoring every one of them from now on. But give yourself a few days, even weeks to think about it. Don't make any decisions in haste. Emotions are high today, and will be for the next while. But when you do decide, then be confident that you are making the best decision for you.

I think this will be a learning experience for you. I hope you continue to be a loyal, dependable friend to those who deserve it. But I hope you learn to have the courage of your convictions and if you make a decision that you feel is best for you, that you are not easily swayed from it.

Thank you for your reply I totally agree im a person who likes to please other's and am eadily led im.going to.take your advice and really appreciate it

Sound Bite

Big bag of chips post above is brilliant and there's a lot you can take from it.

I think the fact you lend her money now makes your reaction including calling her mother so much more understandable.

Focus on the positives - you seem like a really nice, caring person who helps out others. You also seem to have a very understanding husband who looks after you when times are bad. Focus on those things rather than those who let you down. She isn't worth it - her behaviour says a lot more about her than you.

Jimbob1977

I know it's almost 1am and I tried to read back all the posts....

But, in summary, did you discover the real reason for your exclusion (beyond the excuse of a better wedding dress or hotel cost)?

Sorry if I missed it. Just trying to grasp if you were provided with the true cause

tampopo

Jimbob1977 wrote: »

I know it's almost 1am and I tried to read back all the posts....

But, in summary, did you discover the real reason for your exclusion (beyond the excuse of a better wedding dress or hotel cost)?

Sorry if I missed it. Just trying to grasp if you were provided with the true cause

Op didn't say.
...

Rallycrazygirl

Jimbob1977 wrote: »

I know it's almost 1am and I tried to read back all the posts....

But, in summary, did you discover the real reason for your exclusion (beyond the excuse of a better wedding dress or hotel cost)?

Sorry if I missed it. Just trying to grasp if you were provided with the true cause

This was only explanation iwas given dress and hotel. Obviously 30 years of friendship doesnt count just a fancy dress and hotel.

strandroad

The real reason is probably that over the years the OP became a second tier friend while the other four got closer. Because she seems to be quite agreeable they didn't cut her off completely but she was no longer worth their effort and it came to a head now.

OP was probably only asked to save the date so that the friend could get her loan... she may even have wanted to invite the OP but she lost out to the dress at the end, clearly not important enough to be there. Extremely selfish but that's how some people are.

Katgurl

I am shocked by this thread.

You poor thing. Can I just say you sound absolutely lovely and anyone would be lucky to have a friend like you

You've gotten lots of good advice already. If you want my two cents -

Cut them out - smile, nod & keep walking if you run into them.
Chase the money either via your husband or a solicitor.
Enjoy your marriage and family life, it sounds like you have a great husband.
When you feel like it, make an effort to meet some new people and friends.
Don't change or become bitter based on this - you're in the right. They're horrible and they have to live with themselves.

What a pack of utter *insert expletive*. Horrible horrible people. They didn't deserve you.

ArtyC

I've lost friends over the years because I've lent them money. I learned what I was worth to them. They simply didn't want to pay me back so fell out with me over a silly thing,
One in particular had Everyone else stop speaking to me. Saying I was a materialistic bitch. They had used and abused my money and my stuff while living and travelling together.

This was 7 years ago. A year later and only two years ago I had them try to get me back. Gave me and my new real friends a great laugh.

Cut them out, you'll be very low at first but it'll make your life better.

I never got my cash back. wish I had as I'm still angry over that part.

Good luck op

Yellow pack crisps

So you are a close enough friend to lean on for money and favours but excluded from your 'friends' most important day? I would think your friend manipulated this whole situation out of embarrassment for her life choices and the fact that some people know a lot less about her including her husband than you and wanted it to remain so. The fact that she is attempting to use her 'wedding gift money' line to say she will pay you back is a big admission of this persons state of mind and reasoning. I would be quite confident of the fact that you did nothing wrong and this is based on nothing more than your EX friend trying to keep you at distance so that her lies and sneakiness are not uncovered. I would gather she is the strong leader of the group and you are the weak link and are despensible when needs be and that in fact she has no real friends only people she can control and manipulate. You are the first but you wont be the last and i can guarantee you at some stage in the future you will get answers from her when she seeks your friendship back and she needs real support, the support you so kindly gave her throughout the years. I would not count on her marriage being a success either if all this is going on behind her husbands back as i think i understood that he has no knowledge of the money received?

You sound lovely OP and a very loyal and caring friend and their loss will be others gain and please don't let this put you off making new friends and developing new hobbies in life as you have been set free from a very toxic friendship.

Oh and one last thing. Get you friggin money back and show no shame in doing it or going about it. It was a loan, a cold financial agreement that needs to be repaid. Don't get emotional and dont say you need it for holidays etc. tell her you received a loan in good faith and that loan needs to be repaid (pick a date) or you will have no option but to seek legal advice.

DeltaWhite

My heart goes out to you OP. I went through similar this year myself. I was involved with a toxic bunch of girls (all hitting our 30's) and I just decided I had enough one day. Cut them out of my life, they have no idea why because they are completely oblivious to their own behaviour. I wasn't going to bother firing off a massive text to them via group message as to why I was done with them. I felt it was better to just cut them out. I suppose I was being a bit spiteful, because I wanted them to be totally confused, at the time in my eyes, that was a form of punishment. And it was a bad idea, I've heard through the grapevine they have said x y and z about me to various people which infuriated me even more because it is all untrue.

I don't miss them, they are awful, horrible bitches. I am a bit like you in that I was a people pleaser, unfortunately people prey on those that are like that. So now I am a little bit more selfish. No point in being the nice guy all the time because it never got me anywhere in life.

I feel so sorry for you because you have a gang of total bitches who are behaving appallingly towards you. It really is going to take time for you to get over this, but you will. Try not to allow yourself to become bitter because that is just letting them win. The most important thing is to get them off your social media if you have one. Seeing them plastering their lives all over Facebook is going to sting you everytime you see it.


And get that money back.

Peist2007

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

I'd prefer to call it a loss and a hard lesson than to be dragged through the mud cause I'm sure she'll deny it all and try to make me look bad

Oh i don't think that would be a good idea at all. You paid for this woman's wedding dress, she didnt invite you and she owes you thousands. I'd be ensuring i had proof that the loan was a loan and not a gift, as she will likely argue. <SNIP>

Estrellita

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

I gave her loan of money to pay deposit for hotel and wedding dress.

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

She owes me few thousand

There is something a bit sick and twisted about this. She asked you for a lend of quite a lot of money for her wedding, then not invite you. I've a cloud of swear words in my head for her I won't use here, for what she really is. It just gets more shocking the more I read.

I twitched a little when I read you telephoned her Mother, regardless of how friendly you are with her. You need to back out of all contact gracefully, with one very important exception. You need to show that horrible poisonous bitch that you are not the push over she thought you were. Let your husband ask for the money once, and agree a timescale to pay the money back so you can close off the whole ordeal. If you aren't paid by then, have a solicitor write to them requesting the money be returned. Do NOT let this drop. Not because you do need the money, but because it is a learning curve for you. This is where you begin to stop other people taking advantage of you for good.

I can see why you were so upset by all of this, because I'm absolutely fuming for you.

Sinister Kid

It's a horrible situation OP, I feel for you. I know you are hurting now but after a while you will feel lucky that you aren't involved with such nasty people anymore. Over the next while more & more situations that you have brushed over in the past will surface in your memory where these girls have treated you unfairly & you will wonder how you stayed friends with them for so long.

Keane2baMused

OP, I have read the whole thread. Trust me when I say you Will be better off without these girls.

I ended a ten year friendship last year. I didn't even discuss it because I had gone down that road before and nothing made a difference.

I was so much of a doormat that I even paid for her husbands wedding gift (from her) . €350 euro watch that I never saw a penny back from. When I cut all contact I got an email full of emotional blackmail asking why I have stopped contacting her and to tell her what she has "supposedly done" and also that her children miss me.

In reality she just missed my wallet and my tendency to drop everything and run for her when she asked.

No love lost.

Rallycrazygirl

Thank you for all your replies they mean so much and such good advice from everyone.

Update on situation her husband has called down to see me and has apologised for whole thing. She told him as well that we would be away. He had no idea I had given her money or her intentions on paying it back. He has given me a cheque to cover half of it and said he will pay remainder in two weeks time. Am happy that he has sorted out the money and that I or my husband don't have to go chasing it.
However he has also told me that we weren't only ones she got money off of and that she also maxed out credit cards and took out substantial loan behind his back. Also the cheque she wrote for remainder of hotel last week bounced and the husband had to get money from his parents to pay hotel in cash. What a disaster. As he said himself they set a budget of €20000 to cover everything , hotel, dress, suits , cars, invites etc. he has added everything up roughly from what she's told him and is just over €40000. She told him that she got a good deal on hotel and that they were well within budget. She also booked a honeymoon to Caribbean , New York, Paris and London over three weeks for start of September costing over 10000. He thought honeymoon was half this. His livid and asked her to move out of the house for foreseeable future.He can't believe they way she has acted and if he ever really knew her. His twice as shocked that she has treated me this way as well. He is also afraid that more bills and lies will come out and that he will be left paying for her dream day for years to come.
I feel for her husband as he had no idea and is in a bad way totally shocked by everything.

Rallycrazygirl

Just to add 10000 for honeymoon was on top of 40000.

Keane2baMused

Omg OP.

It sounds like the husband is going to end up the worse for all of this. You can walk away from the friendship but he will have hell to pay for years by the sounds of it.

HamsterFace

I have never read anything like this in my life. Honestly, write a book or a screenplay. And let us know how it ends...

Sinister Kid

Wow. Bridezilla or what.

Well, fair play to the husband coming and speaking to you, I can't imaging it was easy for him.

corkgirl17

Hopefully this makes it a bit easier for you losing the friendship. Seems like you had a lucky escape!! Poor husband though

ahnow

Jaysus Op! The karma was swift in this case. I'm glad for you, at least others are seeing what she's like now. Take comfort in that.

Big Bag of Chips

Fur coat amd no knickers.

I wonder how many others' rooms she paid for? Completely unnecessary expense that nobody expects. Stay clear now. The temptation will be there to get involved in the inevitable gossiping that is going to go on and come from every side. Please, please don't engage. Don't get involved. If anyone tries to get you to gossip just tow the line of, "God I dont know anything, sure I wasn't even at the wedding". Keep silent. This is going to blow up, more than it already has, and you really don't want to be the fall guy.

batmanrobin

Wow!!! I'm actually gobsmacked, OP!!

If I were the husband I'd be looking for an annulment!

Good thing you're getting your money back at least, but I don't envy him.

You might get some of her wrath as it's all unravelling around her now. If you do, make sure you stand your ground, be strong and call her out on her crap.

Sinister Kid

As things unravel, I wonder how long it will take for the other girls involved in this to come running back to the OP telling tales & bitching about the bride... No doubt they will, I would advise not to entertain them at all.

Neyite

Rallycrazygirl wrote: »

Thank you for all your replies they mean so much and such good advice from everyone.

Update on situation her husband has called down to see me and has apologised for whole thing. She told him as well that we would be away. He had no idea I had given her money or her intentions on paying it back. He has given me a cheque to cover half of it and said he will pay remainder in two weeks time. Am happy that he has sorted out the money and that I or my husband don't have to go chasing it.
However he has also told me that we weren't only ones she got money off of and that she also maxed out credit cards and took out substantial loan behind his back. Also the cheque she wrote for remainder of hotel last week bounced and the husband had to get money from his parents to pay hotel in cash. What a disaster. As he said himself they set a budget of €20000 to cover everything , hotel, dress, suits , cars, invites etc. he has added everything up roughly from what she's told him and is just over €40000. She told him that she got a good deal on hotel and that they were well within budget. She also booked a honeymoon to Caribbean , New York, Paris and London over three weeks for start of September costing over 10000. He thought honeymoon was half this. His livid and asked her to move out of the house for foreseeable future.He can't believe they way she has acted and if he ever really knew her. His twice as shocked that she has treated me this way as well. He is also afraid that more bills and lies will come out and that he will be left paying for her dream day for years to come.
I feel for her husband as he had no idea and is in a bad way totally shocked by everything.

Standby for it being somehow twisted via her coven group of friends that you caused all this and that you are to blame for him calling off the wedding which I hope he does for his own sake.

Edit: Sorry. Never mind me. For some reason I thought the wedding had yet to take place, not that it happened last week. That poor poor man.

Jimbob1977

He has thrown her out of the house after just a week of marriage?

Can't believe she has placed them in serious debt with her profligate spending.

Most men just want their wedding day to pass as quickly as possible. No fuss. Nice meal. Bish bash bosh.

Still confused why you weren't invited. Your gift would have been a nice bit of €€€€ in her eyes. And why the other friends were allowed to attend.

CdeC

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Fur coat amd no knickers.

I wonder how many others' rooms she paid for? Completely unnecessary expense that nobody expects. Stay clear now. The temptation will be there to get involved in the inevitable gossiping that is going to go on and come from every side. Please, please don't engage. Don't get involved. If anyone tries to get you to gossip just tow the line of, "God I dont know anything, sure I wasn't even at the wedding". Keep silent. This is going to blow up, more than it already has, and you really don't want to be the fall guy.

This OP ++++,

Do not get involved. Just keep to yourself and get your money back.

Estrellita

Well holy God, as Miley would say..

I was hoping for karma to come bite her on the arse, but unfortunately it looks like it's bitten her husband there too. I feel dreadly sorry for him. He's a week into married life and should be on cloud nine with his new wife. Instead, fur coat and no knickers has cost them and extra €30k on top of their budget with her notions about her big day. And let's face it, it was all about her, not them. Thats 30k that would nicely cover a house deposit, or new windows or countless other things. Her self-centeredness is off the charts. Her husband is only getting to know the real her now, he must be beside himself.

As sorry for him as I am, make sure you get the last installment Op. It is your money, and you lent it to her out of the goodness of your heart. Like I said, you have to follow it up for yourself.

If this is going to go like I thought it would (Muriel's wedding), all the bitches will start turning on each other. Water water water Waterloo! :pac:

evolving_doors

Jimbob1977 wrote: »

He has thrown her out of the house after just a week of marriage?

Can't believe she has placed them in serious debt with her profligate spending.

Most men just want their wedding day to pass as quickly as possible. No fuss. Nice meal. Bish bash bosh.

Still confused why you weren't invited. Your gift would have been a nice bit of €€€€ in her eyes. And why the other friends were allowed to attend.

I reckon the bride knew the charade would be exposed and the OP's presence was too unpalatable/ risky.

Definitely stay well clear now OP, it's like when a friend exposes an affair to a spouse then the couple decide to patch things up... And the excising of the messenger is part of that process.

This sounds weird but just think what must have being going through the brides head before her house of cards came tumbling down... Then the husband who is thinking for the last few months that he is getting the best present ever and it turns out to be a turd sandwich. Just think of the atmosphere amongst the couple... and the close families and friends.

I'd say you'll get yer money alright going by the husband. But stay well clear of telling anyone what he told you.. Tell yer husband to stay shtum too.

What will you do when the other friends try to ' find out' what's going on?

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Sorry mods. I know this is PI....
But....
This is on a par with Lau's bridezilla story a few months back in the weddings forum. I think it actually tops it.

Rallycrazygirl

I've already had the looks in local shop today and few whispers but held my head high and ignored and will continue to ignore. I won't be gossiping or making remarks nor will my hubby. I won't lower myself again to her level.
Hopefully the new hubby can move on aswell.