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Child support advice

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  • 08-08-2016 8:44am
    #1
    John6008
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭


    I need some advice and help. I have a child 5 years old from a 1 night stand . I live in Australia she lives with her mother in Ireland .
    I am now married and I pay child support and give money for helping with clothes, holidays etc . I never had a relationship with the mother but have always said I'd support her although I'm on the other side of the planet . She regularly calls me drunk and texts me she is quite erratic either abusing me or declaring her jealousy .
    Anyway my problem is we never made any official agreement of the amount I give her I pay 75 pw plus extra that she may require. Every month she hitting me for more and more .. She wants me to pay for her gifts to my child pay for birthday parties etc she doesn't declare the money I get her 5o the social welfare so she gets more money. She also does cash work
    I've transaction history of all the money I've sent her I want to return to Ireland but I am afraid I can't keep up with her demands .
    I've recently had surgery and am not working and I asked for so leeway this month she become very unreasonable. Can anybody please point me in the right direction as I'm very lost .


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    #2
    January
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    You need to go through the courts to get it made official. Unfortunately I don't know how you do that from Australia. You could probably instruct a solicitor to act on your behalf?


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    endacl
    Registered Users Posts: 22,306 ✭✭✭✭endacl


    Your on the other side of the world, in another jurisdiction. You're in a perfect position to not pay anything at all.

    Fair play to you for stepping up.


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    Snugglebunnies
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    endacl wrote:
    Your on the other side of the world, in another jurisdiction. You're in a perfect position to not pay anything at all.

    endacl wrote:
    Fair play to you for stepping up.


    Parents needn't be congratulated for doing the bare minimum and paying for the child they created.


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    endacl
    Registered Users Posts: 22,306 ✭✭✭✭endacl


    Snugglebunnies wrote: »
    Parents needn't be congratulated for doing the bare minimum and paying for the child they created.
    Not congratulating him for seeing to his responsibilities. Simply acknowledging him for doing so where many wouldn't.

    Sometimes, when we jump to conclusions, we jump in the wrong direction.

    ;)


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