Are you happy? If not, why?

Shint0

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I have reasons to be happy (job, family, home, health) but I'm fúcking miserable. Mostly because I am not using my hard earned qualifications in any way and I feel like I am stuck in a rut. I also feel like I am living a lie romantically and cant see a way out. The biological clock is hammering away but I haven't met the right person yet. Sometimes cant believe I wanted to grow up. :mad: Jeez OP I was fine until I typed this now I feel blue :P

Ah, so that explains why you are the best poster on the TA thread but seriously, your post would echo a lot of my life situation but I'm trying to become more proactive and currently addressing some of the negatives. You never know what might bounce back once you start to take the bull by the horns and see where it leads.

Your Face

TSMGUY wrote: »

God, you and Lexi are insatiable. I ask a simple question - too simple. I ask a complex question - too convoluted. My grammar's certainly no worse than the standard here on AH.

There's a very simple solution. Instead of effing up the flow of the thread by being a whiny little naysayer, why don't you just stay out of my thread? You're like the ****ing earthworm in James and the Giant Peach who complains for the sake of complaining.

So you'll be voting 'no' I take it.

TSMGUY

Your Face wrote: »

So you'll be voting 'no' I take it.

You're exactly as witty as someone called "Your Face" could be expected to be. Btw, there were no grammatical mistakes in the OP. Stop being a moany bollocks. It's really annoying.

Your Face

TSMGUY wrote: »

You're exactly as witty as someone called "Your Face" could be expected to be. Btw, there were no grammatical mistakes in the OP. Stop being a moany bollocks. It's really annoying.

You're great craic. Say something else.

TSMGUY

Your Face wrote: »

You're great craic. Say something else.

Let's just say you're a real Jeremy Hunt.

EDIT: And Lexie, ffs will grow you up, egging him on every post. The pair of you would be most welcome to never enter my threads because you invariably derail them with what you consider to be pithy wit but is, in actual fact, plain bitchiness.

Speedwell

Your Face wrote: »

You're great craic. Say something else.

I would like very much to give in to the childish whim to say "Shut up Your Face" in a Brooklyn accent.

Your Face

TSMGUY wrote: »

Let's just say you're a real Jeremy Hunt.

I wouldn't consider myself a conservative.

TSMGUY

Your Face wrote: »

I wouldn't consider myself a conservative.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjH4arIn-80

Your Face

TSMGUY wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjH4arIn-80

Be honest, you just learned Jeremy Hunt was a politician after you googled my post.

TSMGUY

Your Face wrote: »

Be honest, you just learned Jeremy Hunt was a politician after you googled my post.

You're really not funny.

Letree

No, when you are a chronic worrier i don't think its possible to be happy for long. I get glimpses of happiness but they don't last long.

Your Face

TSMGUY wrote: »

You're really not funny.

Ah go on and have a laugh.
I laugh at all your posts.

Birneybau

TSMGUY wrote: »

Let's just say you're a real Jeremy Hunt.

EDIT: And Lexie, ffs will grow you up, egging him on every post. The pair of you would be most welcome to never enter my threads because you invariably derail them with what you consider to be pithy wit but is, in actual fact, plain bitchiness.

Have you heard of the ignore button perchance? A wonderful invention (even if it does make some threads look a bit mental)

livedadream

feeling a bit down today (going though a crohns flare up) but thats more tiredness and lack of food, but in general im a happy person.
99% of the time im happy i reckon.

Mr. CooL ICE

TSMGUY wrote: »

14077 posts in 3 years
Happy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzkS8k5iacw

TSMGUY wrote: »

God, you and Lexi are insatiable. I ask a simple question - too simple. I ask a complex question - too convoluted. My grammar's certainly no worse than the standard here on AH.

There's a very simple solution. Instead of effing up the flow of the thread by being a whiny little naysayer, why don't you just stay out of my thread? You're like the ****ing earthworm in James and the Giant Peach who complains for the sake of complaining.

TSMGUY wrote: »

Better than being the miserable bastard police, entering threads and trying to preemptively shut them down by being snarky:(

TSMGUY wrote: »

Let's just say you're a real Jeremy Hunt.

EDIT: And Lexie, ffs will grow you up, egging him on every post. The pair of you would be most welcome to never enter my threads because you invariably derail them with what you consider to be pithy wit but is, in actual fact, plain bitchiness.

Mod:

TSMGUY, calm down. You already brought down your own happy thread after just two posts.

And Your Face/everyone else, stop responding to him. It won't go anywhere.

TSMGUY

[QUOTE=Birneybau;100.

livedadream

Letree wrote: »

How long does a flare up last?

depends, my longest is three months...ended up in hospital, talk of a ileostomy not pleasant...
this one will be short hopefully, started wednesday/thursday the drugs are working to manage the pain etc so im back at work today, hopefully will be back to best in the next couple of days... id better! ive a bloodly half marathon in a month!

mainly grumpy coz i hate white bread and its all i can stomach really. waaaaaaaaa

TSMGUY

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TSMGUY

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lawlolawl

Nice meltdown.

mzungu

TSMGUY wrote: »

The problem is you come into my threads with the sole intention of complaining about them or insulting me and then very conveniently you linger in the SAME THREADS YOU WERE MOANING ABOUT. Do you honestly have nothing better to do?

You're on 666 posts, this scares me.

TSMGUY

lawlolawl wrote: »

Nice meltdown.

You must have a very tenuous grip on the English language if you think that in anyway can be construed as a meltdown. What is it with you guys popping up in threads just to bait people into pointless arguments?

RayM

I'm happy, but slightly less happy than I was before I started reading this thread.

Boom_Bap

TSMGUY wrote: »

You must have a very tenuous grip on the English language if you think that in anyway can be construed as a meltdown. What is it with you guys popping up in threads just to bait people into pointless arguments?

MOD
TSMGUY - Do not post in this thread again.

Pecker31

I am happy, sometimes I am scared to be happy because I am waiting for my bubble to burst!

The quote that helps me and always sticks with me is "the trouble is you think you have time"

Speedwell

Pecker31 wrote: »

I am happy, sometimes I am scared to be happy because I am waiting for my bubble to burst!

The quote that helps me and always sticks with me is "the trouble is you think you have time"

Bubbles of "bad stuff" burst, too. Don't borrow trouble unnecessarily.

MRnotlob606

Yes, I realised I am happy. People are often to busy about thinking about the future, or what they want.Never content with their present situation and incessantly buying the latest consumer goods that they think will make them "happy".But I think it's when you buy too much consumer goods and take a look at your wallet and realise the void that you're in.Contentment with life starts with something more primordial than acquiring the latest Iphone. I think it starts with being loved.

As G.K. Chesterton once put it, "there are two ways to get enough, one is two accumulate more and more, and the other is to desire less".

MeatTwoVeg

I'm happy. I feel it's a bit self indulgent to be miserable because I always feel there are people less fortunate than myself. Like that guy I ran over on my way into work this morning.

Speedwell

MRnotlob606 wrote: »

Yes, I realised I am happy. People are often to busy about thinking about the future, or what they want.Never content with their present situation and incessantly buying the latest consumer goods that they think will make them "happy".But I think it's when you buy too much consumer goods and take a look at your wallet and realise the void that you're in.Contentment with life starts with something more primordial than acquiring the latest Iphone. I think it starts with being loved.

As G.K. Chesterton once put it, "there are two ways to get enough, one is two accumulate more and more, and the other is to desire less".

Don't know about you, but consumer goods like fuel oil, cat food, and toilet roll are not things I think I could "desire less". To me, the concept of "enough" means, in a nutshell, being able to cover all my bills and have enough left over to buy things that are good quality and long-lasting and cheaper in the long-term, even if they are not the cheapest on the shelf.

r93kaey5p2izun

Not really. Main reasons being a mentally ill family member and my own ongoing health problems. Secondary reason being issues with my living situation exaccerbating my health problems.

But my job situation improved considerably recently so things are better than they were and in time this should allow me to improve the issues with my accommodation.

NyOmnishambles

I have a lot going on at the moment, have a couple of big projects on the go both personal and professional with lots of money riding on both and trying to get the best value and quality out of each

In other words I am wrecked, working hard on both and juggling several things at once and stressed to the gills

Putting that all aside I am happy as can be, I generally try and treat life in the spirit of the attached song and everything works out fine in the end

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=StTqXEQ2l-Y

ThepoolEIRE88

In my opinion it's all a balancing act between the masks you wear and the real you
IF you neglect the real you the voice in your head ,the feeling in your gut ,however you experience self
it will grow like a tumor until
you are the guy who works in fiance but all he wants to do is paint or (vice versa)
so one day he's hanging with his work colleagues having a smoke outside ,it's happy hour, everything is rosy ,
He's next in line for promotion and the boss is loving him right now
Then one of the lads rolls up a joint ,he goes ''**** it'' why not it's Friday
he smokes it like there's no tomorrow,next thing that voice in his head is back ,''Mr painter guy'' and his getting louder and louder
''MR fiance guy'' starts to panic ,he's exposed ,the masks are dissolving right before his minds eye , &
''Mr painter guy'' is out in all his glory and this time he's not going away like before too be pushed back into subconscious
I want answers says MR ''painter guy'' ,please not now says ''Mr fiance'' guy
Mr painter guys says listen mate ,I want to paint ,you want to paint ,I am you and you are me
Mr fiance guy goes NO, i'm just ****ing high and I need to get outta here because i'm paranoid as ****
so Mr Fiance guy goes home and starts too paint a masterpiece FOR Himself

There are much healthier ways if you are like me and need help looking inside, like meditation,seclusion, mushrooms maybe yoga ,
& don't be afraid off weed paranoia ,it's not a sign off weakness ,look at it more off a sign off clarity,it will go away when it's time



ps don't smoke weed beside your boss

livedadream

ThepoolEIRE88 wrote: »

ps don't smoke weed beside your boss

or just in general... :rolleyes:

ThepoolEIRE88

Everybody is different ,whatever works for you
The point is too dissolve the masks you wear

oide10

TSMGUY wrote: »

Jesus, I'm sorry to hear that. You sound like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders. I hope you have someone looking after you too.

Ah stop! Your post nearly made me cry. Thank you for your kind words.

lawlolawl

The easiest path to happiness is to stop giving that much of a ****.

All your worries melt away when nothing really matters all that much.

Speedwell

lawlolawl wrote: »

The easiest path to happiness is to stop giving that much of a ****.

All your worries melt away when nothing really matters all that much.

I wouldn't say that having a dulled affect is necessarily the road to happiness. But it is true that many people (myself included) invest things with much more significance than they deserve, and believe our own made-up scare stories about them.

Letree

Boards is pretty entertaining sometimes.. getting banned from your own happiness thread after 5 pages is pretty funny

OldNotWIse

Letree wrote: »

Boards is pretty entertaining sometimes.. getting banned from your own happiness thread after 5 pages is pretty funny

:D

Birneybau

lawlolawl wrote: »

Nice meltdown.

Nooooooo. Missed it.

I would be curious in knowing what it is that makes one happy. There's a lot of emphasis on having a decent job, good family, a relationship, etc that seem to be the core reasons for happiness. If those things were taken away or never there to begin with then how would you view your state of mind? What do you need to feel happy? If you were on top of a mountain without another soul would you be happy?

I am happy enough. It ebbs and flows. It's important for me to not have my happiness dependent upon relationships, family, money, etc. I really need to find it inside of me regardless of circumstance.

Pac1Man

[Deleted User] wrote: »

What do you need to feel happy? If you were on top of a mountain without another soul would you be happy?

I would be drinking my own pi$$ according to Bear Grylls.

I am sure there are situations that would make someone unhappy (like isolation mentioned above), but I don't think you need to strip back so many layers to find the true answer.

Pac1Man

Pac1Man wrote: »

I would be drinking my own pi$$ according to Bear Grylls.

I am sure there are situations that would make someone unhappy (like isolation mentioned above), but I don't think you need to strip back so many layers to find the true answer.

I'm not sure. I'm not even sure of what I mean.
Lots of things make me happy, certain people, my work, places. I don't want to be dependent upon them for happiness though and I don't think I am.

pauliebdub

Happy financially and home life but I'm unhappy with work. I feel a bit overwhelmed and out of my depth, the role is unstructured, the work solitary, I've had very little training and my manager is not one bit supportive.

I'm very happy at this point in my life. I've work that I enjoy and find fulfilling, I'm solvent, I have friends and family that I love, and love in my life and events to look forward to. The future looks good, and I've every reason to believe that life is just going to get even better.

However, my slightly cynical and excessively pragmatic inner voice tells me not to take too much for granted, and to always remember to have a plan b (not the MAP one either!), and that little voice is what stops me from both making foolish decisions and relying too much on any one person or thing. It's also the one that stops me from drinking in the moment and enjoying it with every atom.

I'm happy, but not quite as happy as I could allow myself to be.

Rezident

Yes I am happy because I choose to be happy - despite what others do and say to me - and I consistently do the things that make me happy. Being happy takes work, it doesn't just happen by itself.

Mr_Muffin

I am generally happy but i started my first job out of college recently and feel overwhelmed - i am not sure how to complete most of the tasks as of yet. I'm hoping this will pass!

livedadream

Mr_Muffin wrote: »

I am generally happy but i started my first job out of college recently and feel overwhelmed - i am not sure how to complete most of the tasks as of yet. I'm hoping this will pass!

im like 12 years out of college and still feel like this :eek: hahaha

it will pass dont worry.

curiousoranje

Not really. Struggling to find work since finishing a 2 year VTOS IT course in May. Odd day of painting here and there but nothing regular. Applied for nearly everything that I'm halfway qualified for and have only had one interview so far, which was a big group thing and went awful.

Been accepted on to a Springboard biopharm course that starts at the end of the month and am in the final recruitment stage of a long drawn out civil servant job, so hopefully I'll be feeling better and less useless in a months time.

badabing106

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I am happy. I love my family, I have the best dogs ever, I'm happy and secure, I enjoy my job, i earn enough to let me enjoy myself and life and I had pancakes for my breakfast.

Given the transience of life? . Do you reckon dogs would enjoy life more than humans? Serious question