6 year old crying before school... was fine last year

positivenote

HI all,
our little fella who was six in july is a great socialising child who has always mixed well and has a fair few friends in school that he would also play with on play dates etc... he goes swimming, plays football and does karate. Last week when returning to school for snr. infants he was very quiet and then when going into the class he burst into tears and said he didnt want to go to school. This has continued every morning since last wednesday and its heart breaking to see the fella like this. Teachers say hes fine when hes actually in school. Hes very loved and we are an affectionate family who would be very 'huggy' and he is the most affectionate kid ive ever met. We have talked to him about it and he said that he misses us and doesnt want to go to school. He also has been told that mammy and daddy have to go to work and that he gets collected when hes finished school by one of us or his ganny/nana. We're opn to advice because we're at a loss on what else we can do to stop these tears that have now being going on every day....
thanks:(

byhookorbycrook

Sometimes it becomes almost a habit. That he is not distressed when he goes in is a good sign. What about breaking the routine, get someone else to drop him or else wait right until the class are going in. Would a star chart help?Senior infants are usually wrecked for the first few weeks anyhow and that may be part of it.

LegacyUser

He is probably just missing his mam and dad. No amount of activities or distractions will change a child's need to be with mam and dad.

Simple as that.

It's a fairly fundamental part of being a human being. Maybe one of you could take a break from work to spend some time with your son, that would help enormously and make him feel more loved.

positivenote

Steve The Veg wrote: »

He is probably just missing his mam and dad. No amount of activities or distractions will change a child's need to be with mam and dad.

Simple as that.

It's a fairly fundamental part of being a human being. Maybe one of you could take a break from work to spend some time with your son, that would help enormously and make him feel more loved.

really ? thanks

shauna17

Hi I am a childcare worker studying childcare level six . Some kids will need that settling period into school again after the summer especially the younger ones what I think you should is make a chart up for the child and for everyday the child goes to the class without crying give your child a sticker and then let your child choose a treat at the end of the week if your child does it for the whole week I have found that way has worked for alot of parents for different reasons .
Hope this helps

Yeah I agree he would be missing spending time with ye maybe take a family trip at weekends so he can spend more time with ye also

positivenote

issue has been resolved. Last week I start bringing him up 5mins earlier so he has time to run around a bit with his mates and he seems to have settled in a bit better.
THanks for the advice

mordeith

Steve The Veg wrote: »

No amount of activities or distractions will change a child's need to be with mam and dad.

Simple as that.

I didn't realise school is considered a distraction. I must remove my two children immediately

SusieBlue

mordeith wrote: »

I didn't realise school is considered a distraction. I must remove my two children immediately

I think you took that posters advice completely the wrong way altogether. That doesn't appear to be what she meant at all.

positivenote

WhiteRoses wrote: »

I think you took that posters advice completely the wrong way altogether. That doesn't appear to be what she meant at all.

I dont, I think the poster was being a bit of an a-hole to be honest

LegacyUser

positivenote wrote: »

I dont, I think the poster was being a bit of an a-hole to be honest

My point was he seems to be doing a lot of timetabled events outside of school. Maybe you should just spend some of your free time with him, rather than pushing him from one scheduled task to the next.

Neyite

Mod:

Positivenote, you seem unable to keep it civil and refrain from calling other posters names when they are trying to offer you solutions so I'm closing your thread.