what to do

OffalyMedic

So my boyfriends granny died during the night and I'm unsure of I should look for Friday off work to go to the funeral. I've only met his granny once but feel I should go for his sake and his mum's. Any advice?

RebelButtMunch

shaunac93 wrote: »

So my boyfriends granny died during the night and I'm unsure of I should look for Friday off work to go to the funeral. I've only met his granny once but feel I should go for his sake and his mum's. Any advice?

You should go. Take a half day maybe?

spurious

You could just go to the removal, if there is one, if getting time off work is an issue.

His family may appreciate your support more in the weeks afterwards, when less people are calling.

OffalyMedic

Forgot to mention funeral is in Dublin I'm in cork so half days etc are out of question too.

RebelButtMunch

shaunac93 wrote: »

Forgot to mention funeral is in Dublin I'm in cork so half days etc are out of question too.

Tricky. But rarely are things black and white.
Look at it this way, you won't get a chance to do this again ever and if you regret no going you can't fix that.

hairyslug

I'd go, but you need to ask yourself, does he want you there (and I mean that in the nicest possible way) some people like this time to be more personal and have some time to contemplate things.
Also depends in his relationship with other family members but if he needs support it may be nice to have yourself there. Sometimes it can be easier to talk to someone who is not directly connected.

OffalyMedic

Just going to wait and play it by year, no funeral arrangements yet anyway! Will make some part of it I would say even if it's just the wake