Dealing with problematic parent

Juicylucy63

I thought I'd post here and look for some direction and advice , literally at my wits end. What's the protocol for getting a parent help in regards to GP for alcoholism ? I think my parent may actually have a mental health issue such a depression which in turn is causing him to drink , he's acting completely out of character the past two years, partying, drinking, lying, sneaking around cheating on my mother it's tearing my family apart and we've all washed our hands of him as we can't live like that anymore. There's only him on the scene so with one parent it's extra hard as we need him to step up as it is , family don't seem to think it's a big deal and are no help. My father doesn't think he has a problem he's self entitled and is in denial , there's only so much disappointment you can take. I wonder is any one in similar circumstance or delat with similar on their life? I just need to know if I should try to help them and continue getting hurt and dragged down or just cut ties and move on as he can't be helped as he won't even accept his actions or admit a thing. I just find myself hurt and angry at the situation and it isn't good for myself or my mental health , I feel as this person is suppose to be the parent but is being completely selfish and throwing his entire family away for his flings and doesn't care that he's loosing his entire family

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Sorry to heat about your terrible situation. Maybe you can find some help from Al-Anon, from their website-

"Welcome to Al-Anon Family Groups – Strength and hope for families & friends of problem drinkers.

Please take a moment to ask yourself the question – “Are You Troubled by Someone’s Drinking?”. If so we are here to help.
Al-Anon offers understanding and support for families and friends of problem drinkers in an anonymous environment, whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not. The parents, children, wives, husbands, friends and colleagues of alcoholics could all be helped by Al-Anon and Alateen whether or not the drinker in their lives recognises that a problem exists.

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Juicylucy63 wrote: »

What's the protocol for getting a parent help in regards to GP for alcoholism ?

There isn't one. The legislation behind the Mental Health Act expressly excludes addiction issues. They can either go get the help themselves, or not. It's all on them. There is nothing anyone can do.

Juicylucy63 wrote: »

I wonder is any one in similar circumstance or delat with similar on their life? I just need to know if I should try to help them and continue getting hurt and dragged down or just cut ties and move on as he can't be helped as he won't even accept his actions or admit a thing. I just find myself hurt and angry at the situation and it isn't good for myself or my mental health , I feel as this person is suppose to be the parent but is being completely selfish and throwing his entire family away for his flings and doesn't care that he's loosing his entire family

Yeah, I've been through similar. There comes a point when all you can do is focus on yourself and whoever is genuinely dependent on you.

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Unless the person seeks help themselves there is nothing the GP can do I am afraid

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Check out Dual Diagnosis Ireland. They deal with cases where there's BOTH addiction *and* mental health issues e.g. depression

The gards can possibly section him if he meets the right criteria e.g. running through the street in his underwear. It happened with my brother once, and I'd hate for your father's story to end in suicide like my brother's did