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Child Maintenance / DNA Testing

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  • 23-12-2016 3:47pm
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    Busybird1
    Registered Users Posts: 1 ✭


    Hi Guys, looking for advice , I have a 14 year old daughter, she never knew her father , when I fell pregnant told him , and he was never there for support etc. I never named him on birth cert. So my daughter started asking questions about 3 years ago so I went to the fathers house, his wife answered didn't want to get involved and asked me to leave. I sent a solicitor letter asking for him to sign to give my daughter closure, no reply. so lately my daughter has been asking questions again. I have sent the fathers wife friend requests an also messaged her and am getting no response. now I am thinking of going further as in child maintenance and court so my daughter will have the answers. what way does it go , how do I apply and is it costly , I cant imagine him agreeing paternity so how is a dna test brought about ?... need advice before I proceed any further .. also what is the time limit on going for maintenance she is 14 at the mo ..


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    Big Bag of Chips
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    For a start, I think you should leave his wife out of it. Contacting her at her place of work is unacceptable. (You mentioned that in your thread yesterday) Go to a solicitor and get the ball rolling. You can organise a date in court for maintenance hearing. You will only need a DNA test if he denies paternity and the judge may order him to take one.

    I know you posted yesterday in Legal Discussion, but really the only advice someone can offer you is go speak to a solicitor who specialises in family law. That should be your first stop, and they will advise you from there.


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    eviltwin
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    If your daughter has questions answer them as best you can. You don't need a DNA test for that.

    As BBOC says only a solicitor can advise you on the issue of maintenance.

    You need to separate the two. You don't need to prove paternity just because your child has started to ask about her father. You can't force him to be a part of her life. A paternity test won't change anything if he doesn't want to be involved.


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    Rosie Gold
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    I have been through all of this myself, very similar situation to yourself actually but my daughters father lives in the Middle East so he was out of the jurisdiction to chase him for maintenance. He eventually came to see sense and gives her a monthly payment now.

    I wouldn't give up on this issue. I contacted Treoir who gave me both shocking and good advice. There are solicitors who work on this issue for free, you can book an appointment with them and they can advise you (sorry their name escapes me at the moment) but Treoir can tell you this. Once paternity is established and you know his address, it's easy enough to get maintenance sorted or it should be in theory.

    Like I said do not give up on this, your daughter deserves it. Once the father sees that you're serious and you're seeking advice via a solicitor, then hopefully he changes his tune.


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