Asking a girl out

johnyy92

Hi i just have a quick question. I met this girl one night over the Christmas which i have not seen in years. She is a few years older than me and we were talking for a good half hour. Anyway over that time i got the vibe that she was scoping me out and was possibly interested. I was going to ask her out but between mutual friends moving around we got separated. I rarely see this girl and I dont have her number. I was just wondering if i asked her out over facebook would that be acceptable. Also i deactivated my Facebook account three years ago so i would only be signing in to send her a message.

I have this message in mind

Hi (Name), (Name) here, I was talking to you there the other night. I deactivated this account years ago and I only signed in to talk to you as I may not run into you again. I was just wondering if you would be interested in going for dinner and a few drinks some night when your around ?. I would have asked you the other night but it didn’t seem appropriate at the time. Sure let me know what you think anyway.

Any input into my approach would be much appreciated and a girls opinion on her point of view.

mansize

that sounds a bit creepy to me tbf

Plugguy

I say go for it.

johnyy92

so how would you approach it

Fr_Dougal

Too long winded.

"Hey x, great seeing you again the other night. Do you fancy going for drinks sometime?

Cheers,
Johnny "

Fleawuss

In before
"Are u ok hun?"

The Backwards Man

In my day if you liked girl you asked her da for a couple of cows or a handful of acres of grazing ground.

magentis

johnyy92 wrote: »

so how would you approach it

From behind if possible.

Father Hernandez

Go for it but don't mention anything about deactivating your account and the only reason you're online is to talk to her. Some people are just not that active on FB, play it of as that.

Add her first, if she accepts, ask her how she is, did she have a good night that night, etc, if it's going well back and forth for a while then ask her for her number & a drink.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained

johnyy92

Theres always one

Plugguy

Just say you enjoyed meeting her and ask would she like to meet up again.

Ted111

can you put up a sketch map of her house and garden. mark out
positioning of bins and trees etc...

gifted

If she's interested she'll let you know...women are good at dropping hints...it's us men that are thick at picking up the hints lol lol

retro:electro

Don't say the bit about deactivating your account. It's pointless and cringey and makes you sound weird

johnyy92

Yeah but theres very little on my account as i havent used it in years would that not be creepy?

Fleawuss

Valentina

johnyy92 wrote: »

Hi (Name),

Great seeing you the other night. I was just wondering if you would be interested in going for a few drinks some night?

Cheers,
(Name)

Job done.

Joeseph Balls

johnyy92 wrote: »

Yeah but theres very little on my account as i havent used it in years would that not be creepy?

No,
Just so as dougal said.

"Hey x, great seeing you again the other night. Do you fancy going for drinks sometime?

Cheers,
Johnny "

Except if your names not Johnny, don't sign off as Johnny. That would be wierd

BOHtox

Definitely a bit long-winded in my opinion. No need for your life story and deactivating your account and all that.

Just play it cool. But definitely do it! If she says no she says no. The sun will still rise the next day and you'll be a stronger man for building up the courage to ask.

Also keep us posted. This could really be a great thread 😂

Rmgblue

Less is more!! No need to tell her about reactivating your Facebook, you will sound too needy and needy is not cool! Best of luck!

Miss Demeanour

As previous posters said....say nothing about reactivating account. Just ask.....life is too short and the worst she can say is no.

johnyy92

Alright thanks for the help lads

whiskeyman

Ask her over for some streaming movies and relaxing times

Dr Crayfish

johnyy92 wrote: »

Yeah but theres very little on my account as i havent used it in years would that not be creepy?

If you're really hot, nothing is creepy

Fr_Dougal

johnyy92 wrote: »

Alright thanks for the help lads

Make sure you time your message right. Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm should be good.

If you don't use FB a whole lot, don't add her as a friend.

Ted111

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm

- Monday to Thursday obviously.

I would suggest a window of 6.30 to 8.10pm on Friday.

What are your thoughts on Saturday? It's a tough one.

mansize

Can I smash your back doors in?

ElChe32

Attach a "dick pic" too, I hear that's what all the young wans are doing these days..

She'll think you are trendy.

Birneybau

mansize wrote: »

Can I smash your back doors in?

He's in the middle of asking a girl out, wait your turn.

The Backwards Man

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Make sure you time your message right. Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm should be good.

If you don't use FB a whole lot, don't add her as a friend.

What if she's at bingo?

Birneybau

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Make sure you time your message right. Evening time after say 8pm but before 9.30pm should be good.

If you don't use FB a whole lot, don't add her as a friend.

What if she's at bingo?

Show her your balls? Eyes down...

Fr_Dougal

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Too long winded.

"Hey x, great seeing you again the other night. Do you fancy going for drinks sometime?

Cheers,
Johnny "

Wot he sez.

Also, say nuthin' about facebook and don't add her first.

And mind your punctuation in the message, little things can put people off at first.

Hammer89

"Hey! Johnny here from the other night. How's things? Fab. Listen, you look really pretty when you sleep and I'd love to wake up to that sight one day. Maybe we could go for a few drinks some time. I spiked my drink instead of yours the other night by mistake and I can't remember much, except for the fact we spoke for, like, half-an-hour or some shiz lol. I could pick you up around, say, 8-ish? I'll be in a blue Peugot - you've probably seen it in your rear-view mirror over the past few days lol #notastalker #justcoincidence. Looking forward to hearing from you."

Permabear

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BorneTobyWilde

''That I do not understand why your magic eyes
are just like a drill...driven into my heart ...I will dream your eyes forever
I will bathe in the sunlight reflected in your eyes. Eyes, eye of the world,
Eyes I shall see...I didn't act, I stood aside, now I rot…
Alone, in pain, forever lost to time..Green eyes
Everywhere I look,green eyes
Read me like an open book,green eyes
Sparkle with delight, green eyes
Haunt my every night. Green eyes''


Her reply

'' my eyes are blue''

Stonedpilot

Tell her you will eat her instead of food for breakfast lunch and dinner.

Sorted!

McDermotX

Hi (Name),

Great seeing you the other night. I was just wondering if you would be interested in going halves on a bastard.

Cheers,
(Name)

Simple and to the point.

Anything else is just fluff.

mansize

use the Bill Cosby method
#BlackMagic

Heraldoffreeent

Ted111 wrote: »

- Monday to Thursday obviously.

I would suggest a window of 6.30 to 8.10pm on Friday.

What are your thoughts on Saturday? It's a tough one.

I'd jut stick with tuesday, you're bound to be having some down time on a tuesday, the rest of the time you want her to think you're out ridin' young wans or something, Friday Saturday and Sunday are all non runners for this reason.

jamesbere

Ask her to recite pi to 15 places. If she can't do that then kick her too the curb.

AnGaelach

johnyy92 wrote: »

Hi i just have a quick question. I met this girl one night over the Christmas which i have not seen in years. She is a few years older than me and we were talking for a good half hour. Anyway over that time i got the vibe that she was scoping me out and was possibly interested. I was going to ask her out but between mutual friends moving around we got separated. I rarely see this girl and I dont have her number. I was just wondering if i asked her out over facebook would that be acceptable. Also i deactivated my Facebook account three years ago so i would only be signing in to send her a message.

Ask your friends for her number and call her. Texting and Facebook can be pretty creepy.

jamesbere

Stonedpilot wrote: »

Tell her you will eat her instead of food for breakfast lunch and dinner.

Sorted!

Are you talking the sexy way or silence of the lambs way

Peregrine

I wouldn't go down down the phone number route at all. That's a bit creepy. Stick to facebook. It's what all the cool kids are using these days.

Atari Jaguar

AnGaelach wrote: »

Ask your friends for her number and call her. Texting and Facebook can be pretty creepy.

So it's not creepy to get a persons number from someone and ring them up out of the blue? Jaysus.

riffmongous

Peregrine wrote: »

I wouldn't go down down the phone number route at all. That's a bit creepy. Stick to facebook. It's what all the cool kids are using these days.

Yo tru dat dawg

frozenfrozen

Fuk O reily do not ring her unless she gave you her number

MuffinTop86

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

If you're really hot, nothing is creepy

This is too true!

Hi OP, girl here. The replies you've been given are great. I also wouldn't go with the bit about deactivating your fb. It reminds me of a friend of mine who did it cos he couldn't bear seeing his ex with her new man. They were in the same circle of friends. Anyway 6 years on he still hasn't fully reactivated it, so I'd be wondering if I was her.
Or she could be one of those girls who says to her friends "and he's not even on facebook, WTF like."

Best of luck, hope it goes well.

johnyy92

MuffinTop86 wrote: »

This is too true!

Hi OP, girl here. The replies you've been given are great. I also wouldn't go with the bit about deactivating your fb. It reminds me of a friend of mine who did it cos he couldn't bear seeing his ex with her new man. They were in the same circle of friends. Anyway 6 years on he still hasn't fully reactivated it, so I'd be wondering if I was her.
Or she could be one of those girls who says to her friends "and he's not even on facebook, WTF like."

Best of luck, hope it goes well.

Thanks for the input. I leave out that part and just reword the original message.

Redzer7

Definitely a culchie

wakka12

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Too long winded.

"Hey x, great seeing you again the other night. Do you fancy going for drinks sometime?

Cheers,
Johnny "

wow that sounds so much better , OP this guy should be your wingman

Ash.J.Williams

Plugguy wrote: »

Just say you enjoyed meeting her and ask would she like to meet up again.

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