Girlfriend was taking nude selfies, but has never sent me one

somefeen

puppieperson1 wrote: »

First world problem what a tit you are........ she is a vain narcissist and soon you will be replaced by a younger fitter model !!! ha ha ha

And now they say I am a tit
To be replaced by someone more fit

But with middle finger raised and slightly bent
I simply remind them of my impressive length

With which I will fill a young ones hole
Unlike my dear friend, the internet troll

B.A._Baracus

puppieperson1 wrote: »

First world problem what a tit you are........ she is a vain narcissist and soon you will be replaced by a younger fitter model !!! ha ha ha

You sound like such a great person :rolleyes:
Some girl broke some dudes heart and that's all you have to say... way to kick people when they are down.

puppieperson1

SNOWFLAKES ALL OF YOU my girl took a selfie and she didnt send it to me....i am sad and worried where did she send it? Maybe to your dad !!!!

puppieperson1

i am bored not a troll but i do love reading the trivia in your relationships.....try real life, dementia old parents bold kids mortgages....... " my girlfriend took nude photos and she didnt send them to me. What a clever girl she is cos when she dumps you you wont be able to do any revenge porn ...... clever girl...

Depp

puppieperson1 wrote: »

SNOWFLAKES ALL OF YOU my girl took a selfie and she didnt send it to me....i am sad and worried where did she send it? Maybe to your dad !!!!

did you even read the whole thread? she was sending the selfies to an ex she cheated on the op with...in future try actually seeing whats going on before diving in...

puppieperson1

she cheated therefore should be dumped not a lingering death on boards. cheating = blow out weak men hang on , hoping...... dump her women hate weak men......

somefeen

puppieperson1 wrote: »

she cheated therefore should be dumped not a lingering death on boards. cheating = blow out weak men hang on , hoping...... dump her women hate weak men......

Perhaps you should read the full thread?
The relationship has ended.

B.A._Baracus

puppieperson1 wrote: »

SNOWFLAKES ALL OF YOU my girl took a selfie and she didnt send it to me....i am sad and worried where did she send it? Maybe to your dad !!!!

Having a few tonight? :pac:

Joe prim

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Get a couple more rides before it ends, ask her for anal

I suppose an oul' golden shower'd be out of de question?

Joeseph Balls

Joe prim wrote: »

I suppose an oul' golden shower'd be out of de question?

Hi Donald

Satriale

Tough one OP, better off knowing anyway. Plenty more fish.

roysh1

roysh1 wrote: »

This is what my gut is telling me.. she looked like someone who'd been caught out.

I have noticed this in a few other situations where someone who is normally entirely ok with being naked - when caught off guard _or_ caught doing something they are guilty about - will in that moment "cover up" in a way that most people would when caught naked.

I guess it is just a natural defensive reflex - when caught off guard _or_ caught out you feel vulnerable - and the first impulse a naked person gets when made to feel vulnerable is to cover up the "private" parts. I have seen it in adults and kids - enough to think it is just a natural reflex.

Of course this is not automatically a sign of guilt - it _can_ just be a sign of being caught off guard or unaware - but I am sorry to hear in your case it was the former not the latter. Few people deserve that kind of treatment.

Now the healing has to begin for you and I wish you well on it - and hope that no bitterness or resentment from it ever makes you automatically assume guilt in someone else for any reason just because you were burned once. The majority of people - male and female - are not insidious back stabbing cheats.

You were just unlucky enough to get stuck with one of that minority. Move on and try to take whatever positives you can from the whole experience - such as periods of hot sex that you enjoyed - or the self confidence that comes from knowing you pulled and bedded a hot individual that many others would love to have enjoyed for a time. Or whatever other positives you can find.

Certainly do not give evil-turds like that the satisfaction of letting their wrong doing knock you down or knock you back or have you questioning whether _you_ did anything wrong or were somehow a failure. It was all them - not you.

goz83

She is just a selfish person. Send her a message to tell her your doctor said you are riddled with herpes and to tell all recent partners. Two things will happen.

1) She will be furious and tell you any other wrong doings she was up to...further proving that you should not have knocked on that door.

2) She will spend money getting tested for something she certainly didn't catch from you.

As a bonus, she might tell her ex that he needs to get checked and he will drop her like a stone

After a while you can (if you feel like it) tell her that the herpes was a joke, but because she is such a dirty slag, you reckoned she should get checked.

wakka12

Elessar wrote: »

If she's as good looking as you say she is then she is definitely getting attention from other lads and probably sending them nudes (and receiving some). I would straight our ask her. But tbh trust your gut, it's usually right.

Just because she's good looking doesn't mean she's not loyal, lots of girls are good looking and lots of them make for very loyal girlfriends

DanielODonnell

I take nude selfies too but it is all a part of the narcissism of bodybuilding, I'm not going to apologise for admiring the body and muscles that God allowed me to have, I have an ugly face so I think I should at least get some pleasure out of myself.

roysh1

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I have noticed this in a few other situations where someone who is normally entirely ok with being naked - when caught off guard _or_ caught doing something they are guilty about - will in that moment "cover up" in a way that most people would when caught naked.

I guess it is just a natural defensive reflex - when caught off guard _or_ caught out you feel vulnerable - and the first impulse a naked person gets when made to feel vulnerable is to cover up the "private" parts. I have seen it in adults and kids - enough to think it is just a natural reflex.

Of course this is not automatically a sign of guilt - it _can_ just be a sign of being caught off guard or unaware - but I am sorry to hear in your case it was the former not the latter. Few people deserve that kind of treatment.

Now the healing has to begin for you and I wish you well on it - and hope that no bitterness or resentment from it ever makes you automatically assume guilt in someone else for any reason just because you were burned once. The majority of people - male and female - are not insidious back stabbing cheats.

You were just unlucky enough to get stuck with one of that minority. Move on and try to take whatever positives you can from the whole experience - such as periods of hot sex that you enjoyed - or the self confidence that comes from knowing you pulled and bedded a hot individual that many others would love to have enjoyed for a time. Or whatever other positives you can find.

Certainly do not give evil-turds like that the satisfaction of letting their wrong doing knock you down or knock you back or have you questioning whether _you_ did anything wrong or were somehow a failure. It was all them - not you.

I don't blame myself at all. She uploaded a few photos on to her social media a few hours ago of the two of them together looking very much like a couple. So she's definitely back with him. I think I may have just been convenient for her, for the few months we were together. I've seen this happen to a mate as well. He was with someone for a few years and thought everything was great between the two of them. Then all of a sudden she upped and left him and within a few weeks, hooked up with her now husband. I think where guys just outright cheat in relationships that maybe aren't working, women tend to stay in the relationship because it's convenient and will leave when "something better" comes along.

At least the sex was good.

jimbobaloobob

think of it as good sex practice so
wait till you find the next one

tayto lover

roysh1 wrote: »

I don't blame myself at all. She uploaded a few photos on to her social media a few hours ago of the two of them together looking very much like a couple. So she's definitely back with him. I think I may have just been convenient for her, for the few months we were together. I've seen this happen to a mate as well. He was with someone for a few years and thought everything was great between the two of them. Then all of a sudden she upped and left him and within a few weeks, hooked up with her now husband. I think where guys just outright cheat in relationships that maybe aren't working, women tend to stay in the relationship because it's convenient and will leave when "something better" comes along.

At least the sex was good.

How did you find out the truth OP?

roysh1

roysh1 wrote: »

women tend to

I would generally warn against extrapolating vast generalisations from a couple of anecdotes (even personal and hurtful ones - if not _especially_ personal and hurtful ones). Though I admit that is hard not to do when the wounds are fresh.

But anyway glad to see you are not blaming yourself in any way. Far too many people do get hurt by someone yet come out with a "What is wrong with me" or "What did I do wrong" narrative.

GT_TDI_150

Some one give me a short version....

15pages is a lot ....

Kimbot

GT_TDI_150 wrote: »

Some one give me a short version....

15pages is a lot ....

Caught missus taking nude selfies, op didnt receive nudes. OP is now single cos she was sending nudes to ex :pac:

Felix Jones is God

jonnycivic wrote: »

Caught missus taking nude selfies, op didnt receive nudes. OP is now single cos she was sending nudes to ex :pac:

As good a post as any to end thread

GT_TDI_150

oooh right.


OP dont let this cause you to distrust who ever is next...not all of the female species are scanks

zetalambda

roysh1 wrote: »

I don't blame myself at all. She uploaded a few photos on to her social media a few hours ago of the two of them together looking very much like a couple. So she's definitely back with him. I think I may have just been convenient for her, for the few months we were together. I've seen this happen to a mate as well. He was with someone for a few years and thought everything was great between the two of them. Then all of a sudden she upped and left him and within a few weeks, hooked up with her now husband. I think where guys just outright cheat in relationships that maybe aren't working, women tend to stay in the relationship because it's convenient and will leave when "something better" comes along.

At least the sex was good.

Women are like Gorillas in the jungle swinging between the trees. They don't let their hand off one branch until the other is firmly gripping another.

GT_TDI_150

zetalambda wrote: »

Women are like Gorillas in the jungle swinging between the trees. They don't let their hand off one branch until the other is firmly gripping another.

crying with laughter here at that!

Bambi985

zetalambda wrote: »

Women are like Gorillas in the jungle swinging between the trees. They don't let their hand off one branch until the other is firmly gripping another.

men do this too. Heard a male acquaintance describe it as "upselling", though I'd say that's a bit unnecessarily cruel.

You'll do until someone better comes along kinda thing. Don't think it's gender-specific so much as it is personality-specific - generally people who can't fathom being single or being alone for any period of time. Would rather have anyone than no-one.

jimbobaloobob

I hear ya Bambi i only heard it called that the other day.

B.A._Baracus

Bambi985 wrote: »

men do this too. Heard a male acquaintance describe it as "upselling", though I'd say that's a bit unnecessarily cruel.

You'll do until someone better comes along kinda thing. Don't think it's gender-specific so much as it is personality-specific - generally people who can't fathom being single or being alone for any period of time. Would rather have anyone than no-one.

I've seen this happen too.
As you say some people can't fathom being single, while then some people just string others along because they get something out of it. Even if it's merely getting out of the gaff once or twice a week to a restaurant or the cinema... to sex... all while just waiting for someone else to come along.

It's such a cruel thing to do because if the person finds out you will either break their heart or at the very least jade them.I know a lot of people might disagree with me on this one but this happens a lot... and I mean a lot!

JupiterKid

Unfortunately there are quite a lot of conceited, insecure, deeply selfish, inconsiderate narcissists out there. Your now ex was one of them.

Well rid OP.

professore

roysh1 wrote: »

My gut was right. She'd been in contact with her ex. Just before Christmas, she went with a group of her friends to London where they supposedly hooked up (he lives there now). She fu*ked him and they've been texting each other since then. And that's who she was sending the pics to...

You absolute coward, how could you string me along like that. No backbone, was I convenient, something to fall back on?

I just don't get it.

Why couldn't she have just been honest?? If she didn't want me, just say so, I'm a big boy.

Because she's a 4 letter word beginning with c.

professore

roysh1 wrote: »

I don't blame myself at all. She uploaded a few photos on to her social media a few hours ago of the two of them together looking very much like a couple. So she's definitely back with him. I think I may have just been convenient for her, for the few months we were together. I've seen this happen to a mate as well. He was with someone for a few years and thought everything was great between the two of them. Then all of a sudden she upped and left him and within a few weeks, hooked up with her now husband. I think where guys just outright cheat in relationships that maybe aren't working, women tend to stay in the relationship because it's convenient and will leave when "something better" comes along.

At least the sex was good.

That new guy better watch out. If they cheat with you they'll cheat on you.

Kimbot

professore wrote: »

Because she's a 4 letter word beginning with c.

crab? :pac:

topper75

zetalambda wrote: »

Women are like Gorillas in the jungle swinging between the trees. They don't let their hand off one branch until the other is firmly gripping another.

Gorillas largely walk on the ground. Change your analogy to Orangutans maybe!

Taylor365

OP, if there is any lesson or life long trait you take with you from this horrible experience...


...it's that you should never knock!

Butters1979

jonnycivic wrote: »

crab? :pac:

Speaking of crabs.....

B.A._Baracus

Taylor365 wrote: »

OP, if there is any lesson or life long trait you take with you from this horrible experience...


...it's that you should never knock!

More so never give someone the benefit of the doubt when your gut is at you :pac:

Bambi985

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

It's such a cruel thing to do because if the person finds out you will either break their heart or at the very least jade them.I know a lot of people might disagree with me on this one but this happens a lot... and I mean a lot!

it's true. very common indeed. people staying in completely unsuitable relationships, where their partner is madly in love with them and they're just waiting for someone who they feel more than a bit "meh" about to come along.

Their exes will often become bitter, angry, jaded and sometimes a sexist attitude about all men/women as a result. i know as i've met enough of them.

roysh1

Bambi985 wrote: »

it's true. very common indeed. people staying in completely unsuitable relationships, where their partner is madly in love with them and they're just waiting for someone who they feel more than a bit "meh" about to come along.

Their exes will often become bitter, angry, jaded and sometimes a sexist attitude about all men/women as a result. i know as i've met enough of them.

True. But from my own recent experience and seeing similar happen to friends and acquaintances, women are more likely to do this, staying in a relationship because it's convenient until "something better comes along". While her OH thinks everything is rosy in the garden, she's already decided months or weeks beforehand that's she leaving once Mr.Right comes along. Men are guilty of it too, of course. But I think they're more likely to just cheat(bad I know) or end a relationship that they feel isn't going anywhere rather than stringing someone along.