How do you get on with your neighbours?

andekwarhola

AMKC wrote: »

Me I despise my direct neighbour. They are ignorant stuck up look at me not very friendly people. Its not like I have not tried to get to know them but they are so far up there own arse I am just not bothered anymore. They can,t even close a front door correctly every time they slam it you would think she is trying to bring the wall with her. Just this morning he decides to mow the lawns even do there shorter than a normal persons lawn is but he decides to mow them anyway. Thats her father by the way ye he does everything for her. I would have had no problem if I was not about to go out for me walk to catch a bus actually but because of him not only did I miss the bus but will be late for the film I have booked in the cinema. Most of my other neighbours are nice they will say hello and talk.

Your neighbour is probably terrified of you.

Mine are all fine. Don't socialize with them but they're friendly enough and would help out. Our kids all pal around together. One of my next door neighbours is a bit of a nut but harmlessly so.

I have no positive or negative feelings about my nearest neighbour really other that pure bewildered amusement most of the time. He is an exceptionally - how to put this - devout Christian who seems to take massive exception to my existence - my relationship - my lifestyle and just about everything I am or I represent.

This totality of that however manifests itself in the silliest of ways. From hissing like a snake at us when one or more of us pass him - to holding ceremonies where he mumbles Latin and flicks what I assume he believes to be holy water over onto our land with an implement that I think is that plastic thing people use to throw tennis balls for dogs. Oh and enough random empty complaints to the gardai about us that I am now on first name terms with a few of the officers who tend to get sent around.

For all his piety however he does seem to develop an interest in astronomy around the same time every year - around the time we would generally be using our garden in a reduced to no clothing manner. His interest in his telescope and astronomy however seems to be solely focused on the day time - and in our garden. I can only imagine which Venus he has in mind at the time.

BrokenArrows

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I have no positive or negative feelings about my nearest neighbour really other that pure bewildered amusement most of the time. He is an exceptionally - how to put this - devout Christian who seems to take massive exception to my existence - my relationship - my lifestyle and just about everything I am or I represent.

This totality of that however manifests itself in the silliest of ways. From hissing like a snake at us when one or more of us pass him - to holding ceremonies where he mumbles Latin and flicks what I assume he believes to be holy water over onto our land with an implement that I think is that plastic thing people use to throw tennis balls for dogs. Oh and enough random empty complaints to the gardai about us that I am now on first name terms with a few of the officers who tend to get sent around.

For all his piety however he does seem to develop an interest in astronomy around the same time every year - around the time we would generally be using our garden in a reduced to no clothing manner. His interest in his telescope and astronomy however seems to be solely focused on the day time - and in our garden. I can only imagine which Venus he has in mind at the time.

Surely he should be charged with wasting police time

Neames

Been living in my house now for 10 years.

My neighbours are great, always willing to do you a turn but not in your face too much.

Before this house, I lived in a terraced house with very thin walls. Domestic violence was very common with one neighbour, 6 months of torture listening to a thug shouting abuse or worse battering his family, I called the Gardai several times. Peaceful now and I don't take it for granted.

demanufactured

OP...What a load of shyte.

BrokenArrows

BrokenArrows wrote: »

Surely he should be charged with wasting police time

Not sure how that works. I think some level of evidence is required to secure such a conviction. Someone more versed in that law will have to answer this for you - I can't.

But if his complaints - even if unfounded - could be of a type that are themselves genuine - such as complaining about noise or nudity or use of a naked flame or other things - then even if he is making up the complaints entirely it would be hard to secure a time wasting conviction against him.

But it also requires someone willing to mount that complaint and I think the guards I am friendly with are the same as me - they pity him more than anything.

Plus every time they come over I feed them with stuff I've made and they love it - they don't want that to dry up.

Cee-Jay-Cee

jester77 wrote: »

Mine are great, we regularly hang out, do beers and BBQ's. Play football every week with all the dads from the area.

In the Summer we have a big get together, clear the street, move the cars, put down benches, get our BBQs together, hire some beer equipment and have a big party. Brings everyone together. We also do something similar in Winter but not as big.

I think you misunderstood the question, the OP is asking how you get on with your neighbours (ie the people you live beside) not the general storyline from the TV show 'Neighbours' which is what you described.

jester77 wrote: »

I cant image moving into a house after paying a fortune and having the neighbours from hell. Hopefully not. Atleast our livingroom and bedrooms are on the old mans side of the house so if the right house is a party house them shouldnt cause any issues.

Maybe I'm different but who my neighbours are is a massive consideration for me when I was buying/moving house. I refused to even consider 2 houses after spotting the celtic jersey wearing layabouts that lived next door at one of them even though the house was perfect and disregarded another as the house adjoining was a rental house which (according to other neighbours) had numerous different tenants every year. Now I realise if you are in Dublin then you may not have that luxury but for me, its one of the first things I consider. Thankfully we were able tomove out of the town to a greenfield site and a new house with no neighbours within 300m and unlikely to be any time soon either....perfect.

BrokenArrows

Deleted User wrote: »

Not sure how that works. I think some level of evidence is required to secure such a conviction. Someone more versed in that law will have to answer this for you - I can't.

But if his complaints - even if unfounded - could be of a type that are themselves genuine - such as complaining about noise or nudity or use of a naked flame or other things - then even if he is making up the complaints entirely it would be hard to secure a time wasting conviction against him.

But it also requires someone willing to mount that complaint and I think the guards I am friendly with are the same as me - they pity him more than anything.

Plus every time they come over I feed them with stuff I've made and they love it - they don't want that to dry up.

Well if they keep calling over and keep finding nothing wrong then they should be having words with the neighbor and eventually build evidence that he is wasting police time.
Its **** like this that causes the response time for actual serious issues to be significantly reduced.

While you might not really mind, and the cops dont mind being fed and having an easy day, some person who is being assaulted or just had their house broken into having to wait for ages for a cop to turn up definitely minds.

Glenster

Deleted User wrote: »

Well holy God!

How did your neighbour cause you to miss the bus and more importantly what were you going to see in the cinema?

Rear Window.

Lady Spangles

AMKC wrote: »

Just this morning he decides to mow the lawns even do there shorter than a normal persons lawn is but he decides to mow them anyway.

I'm curious. How long or short is a "normal" person's lawn grass? Have you measured this neighbour's lawn? Seriously, though, this is a totally random and arbitrary grievance to hold against a person.

I mean, I live in a block of flats. I have neighbours who fight to the death out in the corridor on a regular basis (and seemingly for almost any reason). That does my head in. The fighting begins, then they're kicking each others doors in and the shouting, swearing and slamming doors goes on into the wee small hours. So yeah, that puts my head away. Apart from those two or three problem tenants, everyone keeps themselves to themselves.

BrokenArrows

Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »

Maybe I'm different but who my neighbours are is a massive consideration for me when I was buying/moving house. I refused to even consider 2 houses after spotting the celtic jersey wearing layabouts that lived next door at one of them even though the house was perfect and disregarded another as the house adjoining was a rental house which (according to other neighbours) had numerous different tenants every year. Now I realise if you are in Dublin then you may not have that luxury but for me, its one of the first things I consider. Thankfully we were able tomove out of the town to a greenfield site and a new house with no neighbours within 300m and unlikely to be any time soon either....perfect.

Ya we did consider the neighbours. Had a brief chat with the old guy. Seems pleasant enough. Keeps his garden nice and seems to have been friends with the old owners.

Been around lots but the other people never seem to be home so haven't got a chance to meet them. But house is clean from the outside and garden well maintained.

I use the garden as a good benchmark. Renters and terrible neighbors tend not to care about their living conditions.

Winterlong

Any update OP? What shoes did you wear? Did you get the bus? And the movie? What happened with the movie Godamnit?

Great, all help each other out, look after houses when the others are away, borrow power tools and the like, I let my neighbour drain his garden through my property, he pretty much had the access road rebuilt by friends of his when storms swept away the culvert etc. etc.

JupiterKid

I live in a ground floor apartment with its own front door in a 3 storey apt complex built in the 1970s. My next door neighbour is a sweet woman - a retired teacher in her late 60s and the guy who lives on the top floor above me is also retired and just turned 70. I'm pretty close to both and they are sound. They think, at 42, that I'm only a "spring chicken" which makes me feel great.:D

We call into each other's places for tea/coffee and a catch up. I'm very fortunate to have such pleasant neighbours.

When I was growing up in Castleknock nearly everyone on our estate knew each other- the kids were around the same age as were the parents. That changed in the 90s as a lot of the original occupants moved away. Now there is much less neighbourliness and people keep to themselves. Sort of sad really.

DanielODonnell

If you are not involved with the GAA club you don't see your neighbours from one end of the decade to the other especially when there is no shop in the townland

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

DanielODonnell wrote: »

If you are not involved with the GAA club you don't see your neighbours from one end of the decade to the other especially when there is no shop in the townland

Oh come off it! I'm in a very rural area - no shop, PO, etc. and we have never been involved in the GAA but we have great neighbours ,(always have had) , with plenty of contact and all getting on with each other.

This image of rural Ireland revolving around, or dependant on, the GAA is old hat stereotyping .

MrMorooka

My theory is that the grass in the air from mowing the lawn would have gotten on her clothes/hair, and she didn't want to risk that. Am I right?

SCOOP 64

jester77 wrote: »

Mine are great, we regularly hang out, do beers and BBQ's. Play football every week with all the dads from the area.

In the Summer we have a big get together, clear the street, move the cars, put down benches, get our BBQs together, hire some beer equipment and have a big party. Brings everyone together. We also do something similar in Winter but not as big.

Do all your family/relatives live on the same street ?

Miaireland

I get on fine with most of my neighbours. Some I know better than others, one couple are very private and just say hello etc. Mind you they always check to see if my house is ok if I am away etc. Other neighbours I would be friends with and had been friends with before I moved in. I have the key for five houses.

The only one I don't like with is a lady across the way. I will say hello when I pass but that is it.

She try to tell everyone what time they should open your curtains, what bin company we should use and has been caught unlocking gates and leaving people's dog on the road and then complaining to the Gardai about loose dogs. Thankfully, she was caught doing this and stopped but sadly not till a lovely dog got knocked down

DanielODonnell

Giovanna Magnificent Mascara wrote: »

Oh come off it! I'm in a very rural area - no shop, PO, etc. and we have never been involved in the GAA but we have great neighbours ,(always have had) , with plenty of contact and all getting on with each other.

This image of rural Ireland revolving around, or dependant on, the GAA is old hat stereotyping .

Everywhere is different, that has been my experience, people live very private lives here.

jester77

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

Do all your family/relatives live on the same street ?

Nearest family is 5 hours away

Discodog

I get on well with my neighbours until recently. One neighbour has a seriously nasty little dog. I used to get on well with the neighbour but I got peed off when his dog bit my dog whilst mine was on a lead. I asked him nicely to put a pallet across his open gateway to stop the little **** from rushing out. Surprisingly the neighbour ignored me & drove off.

Next time, as I am walking by, he roars "keep walking, don't stop" - I am on a public road. A few days later his new puppy appears right by the main road. I call him back & when the owner drives past, I stop him & say that the dog was almost on the busy road.

He got out of the car & threatened me, adding "it might not be the dogs after you". The annoying thing is that people warned me about him years ago & I chose to judge as I find. I have even helped him start his car, look for lost ponies & even defrosting his water pipe.

AMKC

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

If you'd managed to get out the door without the neighbour's dad seeing your wedges, what would you have done once you got on the bus? Wouldn't the people on the bus have seen them? The shame!

I want the people on the bus to see them. I don,t have a problem with that. No shame I am quite happy once I am there.

AMKC

brevity wrote: »

You had to hide your figure preventing you from seeing Hidden Figures.

I got to see it a little late but I got there. Had the whole cinema for myself so its lucky I went otherwise no one would have been there to watch the screening.

SCOOP 64

jester77 wrote: »

Nearest family is 5 hours away

Any houses for sale were you live?

AMKC

andekwarhola wrote: »

Your neighbour is probably terrified of you.

Mine are all fine. Don't socialize with them but they're friendly enough and would help out. Our kids all pal around together. One of my next door neighbours is a bit of a nut but harmlessly so.

Your neighbour is probably terrified of you.

Not at all I am harmless just a bit weird or strange to some people but I don,t care am fed up lying and trying to hide my true self.

AMKC

Lady Spangles wrote: »

I'm curious. How long or short is a "normal" person's lawn grass? Have you measured this neighbour's lawn? Seriously, though, this is a totally random and arbitrary grievance to hold against a person.

I mean, I live in a block of flats. I have neighbours who fight to the death out in the corridor on a regular basis (and seemingly for almost any reason). That does my head in. The fighting begins, then they're kicking each others doors in and the shouting, swearing and slamming doors goes on into the wee small hours. So yeah, that puts my head away. Apart from those two or three problem tenants, everyone keeps themselves to themselves.

Winterlong wrote: »

Any update OP? What shoes did you wear? Did you get the bus? And the movie? What happened with the movie Godamnit?

Just my boring trainers. I got the next bus an hour later.Was a little late for the movie (: It is an excellent movie you should go see it.

I'm curious. How long or short is a "normal" person's lawn grass? Have you measured this neighbour's lawn? Seriously, though, this is a totally random and arbitrary grievance to hold against a person.

Not sure just know his is always shorter than everyone elses. No lol I have not.

I told hold it against him its just there is 7 days in the week and he choose to do it today at the time I was going out at. Its done now anyway and I decided I will not let it stop me again if it even happens in fact I think next time I will wear a nice pair of heels

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

AMKC wrote: »

Just my boring trainers. I got the next bus an hour later.Was a little late for the movie (: It is an excellent movie you should go see it.

I'm curious. How long or short is a "normal" person's lawn grass? Have you measured this neighbour's lawn? Seriously, though, this is a totally random and arbitrary grievance to hold against a person.

Not sure just know his is always shorter than everyone elses. No lol I have not.

I told hold it against him its just there is 7 days in the week and he choose to do it today at the time I was going out at. Its done now anyway and I decided I will not let it stop me again if it even happens in fact I think next time I will wear a nice pair of heels

I'm having difficulty imaging your thought process. He cut the grass as you were going out? How was he to know and what difference did it make anyway? You couldn't wear particular shoes because he might see them but you don't mind anybody else seeing them? And, horror of horrors, he keeps the grass shorter than other houses? There is something seriously amiss here and I honestly don't think it's on the part of your neighbour.

retro:electro

The less my neighbours speak to me, the better. A quick wave now and again is fine.

heldel00

Well one of my neighbours reversed into our entrance wall today and knocked it, so beat that.
It was done by the time we came home this evening. Can't pinpoint who it was but I'll be examining rearbumpers for the next few days. Fcukers.

weldoninhio

AMKC wrote: »

Just my boring trainers. I got the next bus an hour later.Was a little late for the movie (: It is an excellent movie you should go see it.

I'm curious. How long or short is a "normal" person's lawn grass? Have you measured this neighbour's lawn? Seriously, though, this is a totally random and arbitrary grievance to hold against a person.

Not sure just know his is always shorter than everyone elses. No lol I have not.

I told hold it against him its just there is 7 days in the week and he choose to do it today at the time I was going out at. Its done now anyway and I decided I will not let it stop me again if it even happens in fact I think next time I will wear a nice pair of heels

Are you a man dressing as a woman?? He prob thought today would be fine to do it as most people would be in work/kids in school.

bazz26

All this talk of wedges:

DoozerT6

I don't know any of my neighbours at all. It used to bother me a bit but now I don't give a **** tbh.

Have a vague plan in my mind to move somewhere else this year anyway.

AMKC

weldoninhio wrote: »

Are you a man dressing as a woman?? He prob thought today would be fine to do it as most people would be in work/kids in school.

I would not call myself a man but not a women either as I said I am not your average person and no I was doing it today because its the best day for deals where I like to go and I have it off.

mrcheez

My neighbour wakes me up on weekend mornings while she's having a shower by screaming "Oh Daddy Daddy" through the party wall as some sort of bizarre morning ritual.

I don't tend to hear her on weekdays as I'm gone to work by the time she has her shower.

Oh.. and I forgot to mention, she's 90

weldoninhio

AMKC wrote: »

I would not call myself a man but not a women either as I said I am not your average person and no I was doing it today because its the best day for deals where I like to go and I have it off.

Ok, prob used the wrong language. I meant that your neighbours father was doing the lawn today as he thought that people would be in work/school.

amtc

Some neighbours are very odd to to be fair the op sounds to have own issues.

I live in a terrace and get on perfectly well with one side...we had Christmas drinks etc. Girl other side odd. Moved in same day 12 years ago and have never seen her. Until today.

Funny story...I didn't want to pass pickets in Tesco and Supervalu had no cucumbers apart from v expensive organic ones. My dad picked up one in dinner and tried to post it through my letterbox but it got stuck. And I never saw it and he didn't let me know. It did look rather obscene as was quite phallic sticking out of letterbox. Neighbour called to ask what story was and was it symbol. Anyway we laughed about it.

I still don't get why the op couldn't leave!

Graces7

I gave up neighbours decades ago, or tried to... In rural Ireland the ones who are there can be ..odd. And I mean deep isolated farming rural
Nothing and no houses for miles and the few families have been there centuries.

Here I was not supposed to have any neighours, In fact canvassed that with the agent who assured me the nearest was half a kilometre away.. In fact there are three near houses. one a B and B and a big working farm barn. ( I was too ill and the move was too urgent to view)

The couple who have sheep up here...the lady spent half an hour trying to push past me to get into the house when I arrived.... but she realised then that I seek privacy .

And the man who owns the barn runs off in the opposite direction on the rare occasions we coincide.. saw him y;day heading off down the track on his 4X4, the rig laden with sheep food and he standing up in it like a viking warrior and at such speed I was very glad I have not come in any later :eek: Just a dirt track up here..

This house was long long empty and they were starting to use the land for extra grazing.. Another one down the lane had started storing stuff on the land here and has had to retrieve it via owner and agent.

That is fine. Gates are locked and privacy attained and I get on well with the sheep lady now.

A lot of it is simply getting used to the folk around you. A period of adjustment all round. Most of my days here are very peaceful now. Love folk when I am out.

wexandproud

i live in a small estate in a village and for the most part we all get on . The two families nearest me are great , their kids wander in an out to mrs wex for a biscuit or a sweet , the rest of the neighbours , bar one, are grand , a friendly wave or a few civil words always there for you if your stuck .
Serious problem with one women . All the kids play outside my house as im on the green and turning circle so plenty of space. the kids used to just to go around the side if their ball went over the wall , and eventually a few of them used to bring my dog [fawn couloured 13 yr old labradore , basset cross ] out to play and then put the hound back in his run. One evening the SPCA arrived to take away the dog to have him put down as it killed her cat and she complained . Dog was about 4 feet long about 2 feet in the round and couldn't run cos he'd step on his own ears . I discovered about two days later it was a labradore belonging to someone else that killed her cat as the guy next door saw it happen

eamonnq

AMKC wrote: »

I was doing it today because its the best day for deals where I like to go and I have it off.

Sounds interesting!!

andekwarhola

AMKC wrote: »

Not at all I am harmless just a bit weird or strange to some people but I don,t care am fed up lying and trying to hide my true self.

osarusan

Grand. Polish family on one side that we get on very well with (borrow stuff from each other, give each other leftover food after a party, and so on). Chinese family on the other side that we have no real interaction with (they use a different stairs) but no problem with either. The fella under us is a nice guy also who never complains about the noise I'm sure our kids make.

So, grand.

LynnGrace

amtc wrote: »

Some neighbours are very odd to to be fair the op sounds to have own issues.

I live in a terrace and get on perfectly well with one side...we had Christmas drinks etc. Girl other side odd. Moved in same day 12 years ago and have never seen her. Until today.

Funny story...I didn't want to pass pickets in Tesco and Supervalu had no cucumbers apart from v expensive organic ones. My dad picked up one in dinner and tried to post it through my letterbox but it got stuck. And I never saw it and he didn't let me know.It did look rather obscene as was quite phallic sticking out of letterbox. Neighbour called to ask what story was and was it symbol. Anyway we laughed about it.

I still don't get why the op couldn't leave!

Strange that you didn't hear something while this was going on?

Graces7

LynnGrace wrote: »

Strange that you didn't hear something while this was going on?

No. I did not hear a sound and nor did the dog when my kind and now respectful of privacy neighbours crept in and moved the sack of coal from by the car to the fuel bay bu the door...The letterbox will not and could not have rattled

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Graces7 wrote: »

No. I did not hear a sound and nor did the dog when my kind and now respectful of privacy neighbours crept in and moved the sack of coal from by the car to the fuel bay bu the door...The letterbox will not and could not have rattled

And a cucumber being shoved through your letterbox as well?

whoopsadoodles

Graces7 wrote: »

No. I did not hear a sound and nor did the dog when my kind and now respectful of privacy neighbours crept in and moved the sack of coal from by the car to the fuel bay bu the door...The letterbox will not and could not have rattled

What's that got to do with the post that she quoted?

I'm very confused.

DoozerT6

Methinks Graces7 thought the quoted post referred to her. But no.

Erik Shin

Giovanna Magnificent Mascara wrote: »

And a cucumber being shoved through your letterbox as well?

Is that a wonderful new euphism?

whoopsadoodles

Erik Shin wrote: »

Is that a wonderful new euphism?

Jesus you'll put me right of me breakfast

My neighbours are grand I say hello to them if I see them that's about it.