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Not getting on with your cycling team

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  • 09-04-2017 1:37pm
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    Amprodude
    Registered Users Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I'm sure this happens in other clubs but just wondering what would one advise to do when this happens in a group.

    Basically we have a team leader and his best friend is the founder of our group and both don't like me. Basically they are always bad mouthing me behind my back and don't really value my input with the group. They put me down always because they don't like me. We have a small group but I get on well with everyone else in the group. I'm still one of there best riders even with all of this.

    Half thinking of moving to another club next year. Would that be a good option? It's just the bitterness of those two individuals I don't like and I am not enjoying the training with them. Everyone must get on to some degree in a team.

    Hope someone here can share their opinions on what's best to do.


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    iwillhtfu
    Registered Users Posts: 6,372 ✭✭✭iwillhtfu


    Life is short - you're not enjoying what you do for enjoyment.

    Move on but be sure to let your reason be known I assume there's an AGM in the club and perhaps other members are feeling the same.

    Crap situation to be in BTW that kind of ****e is for the kids playground and even then it's not acceptable


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    godtabh
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 23,218 Mod ✭✭✭✭godtabh


    Are you children? Just go else where


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    Wishbone Ash
    Registered Users Posts: 24,995 ✭✭✭✭Wishbone Ash


    Amprodude wrote: »
    .....Basically we have a team leader and his best friend is the founder of our group and both don't like me....
    Just puzzled as to how you became part of the team as it would appear to be one of the 'by invitation only' clubs. :confused:


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    Miklos
    Registered Users Posts: 985 ✭✭✭Miklos


    Stuff 'em. As the man said, life is too short. Plenty of nice, welcoming clubs out there.


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    Kaisr Sose
    Registered Users Posts: 3,256 ✭✭✭Kaisr Sose


    Just move. I had a bit of that in my first club when I started racing. Although my results and form were good, it was like I was still the newbie. Moved to another club and immediately felt more at home. Note: There will be 'cliques' in any club


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    Amprodude
    Registered Users Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭Amprodude


    iwillhtfu wrote: »
    Life is short - you're not enjoying what you do for enjoyment.

    Move on but be sure to let your reason be known I assume there's an AGM in the club and perhaps other members are feeling the same.

    Crap situation to be in BTW that kind of ****e is for the kids playground and even then it's not acceptable

    I agree totally.

    I have tried to see the issues involved and tried to address them but it is always there. I get on with all my racing team except those two guys who just don't inspire me and are negative towards me. Plenty of post mortem abuse given to me after few races and I think il jump ship next year to another club. I'm not contracted to the club and they are not paying my wages so I think myself I don't need that abuse for an amateur pass time that I enjoy.

    Thanks for advice


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    Amprodude
    Registered Users Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭Amprodude


    Wishbone Ash wrote: »
    Just puzzled as to how you became part of the team as it would appear to be one of the 'by invitation only' clubs. :confused:

    It was the nearest club to where I live. That's why I joined day 1 but i haven't enjoyed it. Should have moved sooner.


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    Amprodude
    Registered Users Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭Amprodude


    Miklos wrote: »
    Stuff 'em. As the man said, life is too short. Plenty of nice, welcoming clubs out there.

    True I think il switch at the end of this year.


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    Amprodude
    Registered Users Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭Amprodude


    Kaisr Sose wrote: »
    Just move. I had a bit of that in my first club when I started racing. Although my results and form were good, it was like I was still the newbie. Moved to another club and immediately felt more at home. Note: There will be 'cliques' in any club

    The only problem I have is I'm getting disrespected which is not what cycling should be about. Don't mind constructive criticism and delighted to learn new things but you know when you are not liked and treated badly.


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    JK.BMC
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    Amprodude wrote: »
    The only problem I have is I'm getting disrespected which is not what cycling should be about. Don't mind constructive criticism and delighted to learn new things but you know when you are not liked and treated badly.

    This isn't a cycling issue.
    Seriously, this is about interpersonal and emotional intelligence. And like all things in life- some are more blessed/cursed/gifted than others.
    I have no more to tell you other than
    I wish you well.


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    Kaisr Sose
    Registered Users Posts: 3,256 ✭✭✭Kaisr Sose


    Amprodude wrote: »
    The only problem I have is I'm getting disrespected which is not what cycling should be about. Don't mind constructive criticism and delighted to learn new things but you know when you are not liked and treated badly.

    Is there nobody you can say that too in the club. That's not how amateur sport should be. If you can't resolve this and get treated better, I would change clubs sooner than next year. If not , it may start to affect your performance and possibly put you off cycling.


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    fat bloke
    Registered Users Posts: 5,861 ✭✭✭fat bloke


    Meh. Plenty of other clubs, most of which are constantly and actively seeking new members.


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    AmberGold
    Registered Users Posts: 1,285 ✭✭✭AmberGold


    Lots of dicks and cliques in all clubs (not just cycling), wouldn't worry about it.


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    Inquitus
    Registered Users Posts: 13,761 ✭✭✭✭Inquitus


    Aye in a club you won't get on with everyone, cycle with the guys you like, and stick to exchanging pleasantries with those you don't, lifes too short.


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    #16
    sullzz
    Registered Users Posts: 2,409 ✭✭✭sullzz


    Its early in the season , just leave now . You should be enjoying your cycling .


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    wirelessdude01
    Registered Users Posts: 8,426 ✭✭✭wirelessdude01


    Did you not post either last year or the year before that about something similar? Just ride unattached and then no issue. If this issue is occuring frequently then you probably need to look closer to home to see if the issue lies there.


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    Plastik
    Registered Users Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Plastik


    I miss your threads.

    Nothing to stop you applying for a transfer immediately, you don't have to wait until year end. I expect a similar thread about the new club at some stage in the future though.


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    endacl
    Registered Users Posts: 22,310 ✭✭✭✭endacl


    AmberGold wrote: »
    Lots of dicks and cliques in all clubs (not just cycling), wouldn't worry about it.
    Diques et cliques, non?

    In cycling, never pass up an opportunity to be more French.


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    wpd
    Registered Users Posts: 492 ✭✭wpd


    by all means change club next year if you feel that is best however a couple of observations

    next time they give you a hard time tell them you dont give a **** what they think and walk away, dont bother riding to team orders and suit yourself

    I personally wouldnt bother explaining why you are leaving as I dont think they will care, just tell them you are leaving to go to a proper club

    there are a lot of characters like this in clubs i am afraid, I have been cycling with certain club for over 20 years and there are guys in it that wont talk to people because they have better bikes.
    racing in ireland is really an individual sport so go and race, enjoy it and tell these bullys to go PFO.


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    nordicb
    Registered Users Posts: 271 ✭✭nordicb


    Just my thought, but I think you are taking it too heartily creating a ground for someone to trample on. If you enjoy the cycle with other members, then just enjoy and care less. I understand you may not, sometimes, be able to skip going with some people abreast in the peloton, but you are not obliged to talk every time. Some people, actually, enjoy the sound of peloton more than yapping all the time.


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