Confession Box Thread: the worst thing you ever did?

Big Nasty

That from The Goonies?

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snowbabe

I sent an anonymous letter to the parents of a brat who was bullying my child and others to tell them she was sending tit pics to first year boys which she was, don't really feel bad to be honest . They probably didn't believe their precious could do such a thing anyway

FunGoose

anna080 wrote: »

I'm a carer for my mother for the last few years and although I love it and would do anything for her, it's also very frustrating at times and we have said some horrible things to each other. Sometimes through utter frustration I can get very impatient with her and I once told her she was a burden to me and how my life has been altered for the worse since she got ill and that made her cry. I wish I could go back in time and take back those words. I hate myself for saying that to her. We have a great relationship and I'd do anything for her and she knows that, but I don't think she'll ever forget me saying that to her.

Maybe you don't need to go back in time to take those words back. Explain to your Mother that you were very stressed at the time and didn't actually mean what you said.

Maybe you already did but that doesn't mean not to do it again. It's obviously something that's still bothering you. Don't end up regretting NOT having that chat with her. You certainly won't regret bringing it up with her.

I know you didn't ask for my advise but I just think it would be better for you to think of your Mother smiling rather than that time you made her cry saying words you didn't mean.

Massive respect to you for the sacrifices you've made to be there for your Mother!

Bambi985

Petty theft from supermarkets as a teenager. It was so easy and I got a kick from it. Little brat.

Cheated on a boyfriend too. Not so long ago either. Like another poster I also loved him, I just had concerns about the relationship and our compatibility and was selfish enough to enjoy the ego boost of another guy fancying me. Pretty gross behaviour, but can't change it now I guess.

My big one would probably be being a crap friend and generally flaky person over the years. I've isolated a lot of good friends by just not being arsed to make the effort. Not responding to invites, mugging people off etc. It's only now that I'm older have I realised that I'm probably the one who has suffered most. Good friends are hard to come by.

ETA I've just thought of another one. I played a lot of tennis as a teenager. Used to travel the country going to tournaments, staying in friend's houses etc. There was a provincial tournament being held in my local club and my mate Aisling from Sligo was staying in my house. We'd have late night chats about the boys we fancied, who was hot, what we were wearing tomorrow etc as 14 year olds do. She told me she was really into Mark from Sligo. I said "meh, I guess he's alright" and vowed to set her up with him at the tournament disco. Turns out he fancied me and I spent that evening wearing the face off him on the tennis club balcony. I'll never forget her devastated face at the breakfast table the next morning as our other friends were slagging me off for hooking up with Mark from Sligo and she silently stared into her cornflakes. Sorry Aisling.

razorblunt

Hellrazer wrote: »

Years ago when i was 15/16 we used to put cavity blocks in paper bags and leave them in the middle of the road.
We could have really hurt someone or worse and like the previous poster I'd love to travel back in time and slap some sense into the younger me.

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Wow, that one is genuinely awful. That's a hell of a confession.



I went down the petty theft road once too, took an Aero from the Siopa in the school during my 3 weeks in the Gaeltacht. We were helping to load in the boxes and a few folk took one. I was way too guilty to eat it so I passed it off.
Get the guilt trips whenever I see an Aero now.

That's about the only one I'm admitting to on here.

tmabr

1990 this happened and still feel the guilt.

I worked as a waiter in a posh restaurant. Wages about 50 a week.
Manager hands me a 20 pound note to run to shop next door for change.
The shop had no change so I left. Just as I get outside a crisp new 20 blows by. I picked it up and flew into the restaurant and stashed it in my jacket in staff room.
A group of kids playing football outside seen me do this.

10 minutes later the chef shouts into me. Did you find a 20 outside. Quickly I shout no but wondered how he was asking. So I wander out back and all the kids are are standing there pointing at me - there he is - he has it.

A little really old lady was there asking if I found her last 20 for the week. I had already denied I had it and couldn't back track.

Yes I said. I had a 20 from the till and I dropped it as I left the shop. The kids seen me picking that one up. The shop knows me and they can verify I went in for change and they didn't have any.

The restaurant owner then comes out to see all the commotion and completely verified my story and also the shopkeeper.

It was easier to lie and keep it than give it back.

jca

Bambi985 wrote: »

Petty theft from supermarkets as a teenager. It was so easy and I got a kick from it. Little brat.

Cheated on a boyfriend too. Not so long ago either. Like another poster I also loved him, I just had concerns about the relationship and our compatibility and was selfish enough to enjoy the ego boost of another guy fancying me. Pretty gross behaviour, but can't change it now I guess.

My big one would probably be being a crap friend and generally flaky person over the years. I've isolated a lot of good friends by just not being arsed to make the effort. Not responding to invites, mugging people off etc. It's only now that I'm older have I realised that I'm probably the one who has suffered most. Good friends are hard to come by.

ETA I've just thought of another one. I played a lot of tennis as a teenager. Used to travel the country going to tournaments, staying in friend's houses etc. There was a provincial tournament being held in my local club and my mate Aisling from Sligo was staying in my house. We'd have late night chats about the boys we fancied, who was hot, what we were wearing tomorrow etc as 14 year olds do. She told me she was really into Mark from Sligo. I said "meh, I guess he's alright" and vowed to set her up with him at the tournament disco. Turns out he fancied me and I spent that evening wearing the face off him on the tennis club balcony. I'll never forget her devastated face at the breakfast table the next morning as our other friends were slagging me off for hooking up with Mark from Sligo and she silently stared into her cornflakes. Sorry Aisling.

Jeez you're a charming piece of work....

koumi

after my da died I felt really bad about the kind of person I was and how I didn't live up to his expectations, I wasn't a bad person or anything but I hung around with a bunch of stoners and knew it really hurt him to see me throw my life away with them so I went to Knock to find the confession place and ended up bawling to a priest telling him how sorry I was for letting my dad down. He kinda laughed at me and told me he was sure he was proud of me no matter what. I was just a kiddo at the time I suppose but to think that was the worst thing I could have done by my mid twenties should give you an idea of the depth of my bad assness. I'm twice as old now and still feel I'll never be quite the person I could have been but the worst things I've done that I can think of right now is to hate someone a lot, like a lot.

Jobs OXO

Had annoying neighbours and to top that they had a barking mutt. I came up with the solution of throwing a meatball laced with string laxative into their garden for the mutt to eat and get a dose of the ****s in their gaff. Looks like I overdid the amount of laxative I used and the mutt kicked the bucket after a few days.

stimpson

ticklebelly7 wrote: »

I used to go to the supermarket and sink my nails into the really fresh mushroons. My nails were at least half a centimetre long. I loved the feel of doing it and sometimes the mushroons would even squeak!

ticklebelly7 wrote: »

I used to go to the supermarket and sink my nails into the really fresh mushroons. My nails were at least half a centimetre long. I loved the feel of doing it and sometimes the mushroons would even squeak!

ticklebelly7 wrote: »

I used to go to the supermarket and sink my nails into the really fresh mushroons . My nails were at least half a centimetre long. I loved the feel of doing it and sometimes the mushroons would even squeak!

ticklebelly7 wrote: »

I used to go to the supermarket and sink my nails into the really fresh mushroons . My nails were at least half a centimetre long. I loved the feel of doing it and sometimes the mushroons would even squeak!

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ticklebelly7 wrote: »

I used to go to the supermarket and sink my nails into the really fresh mushroons . My nails were at least half a centimetre long. I loved the feel of doing it and sometimes the mushroons would even squeak!

ticklebelly7

No, the ones I assaulted were spelled with an 'n' ...

pilly

stimpson wrote: »

.

Really?

Glenster

jca wrote: »

Jeez you're a charming piece of work....

Judgemental much?

Messing around as a kid and not being quite as good a friend as you can be?

Fairly standard TBH.

Glenster

I'd take a lot of pride in never having cheated on anyone in my life. I was always a bit high and mighty about it.

But, if I'm honest looking back, I had overly stringent criteria as to what constituted a 'relationship'.

Now I was always clear with everybody about what was going on, but looking back now the whole thing seems a lot less clear cut.....

Maybe its just that older me is less easy to appreciate the complexities of casual relationships than younger me.

jca

Glenster wrote: »

Judgemental much?

Messing around as a kid and not being quite as good a friend as you can be?

Fairly standard TBH.

Fairly standard?? To who??

WHIP IT!

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

That's a rough situation. And although you are doing your job from love and a sense of responsibility, why not accept that it's a burden on you? Of course this is a burden.

We all carry baggage for our families, some more than others. You're carrying a lot and it's okay to accept that. It doesn't mean you love your mum any less. Quite the opposite.

I have a lot of respect for what you're doing, you're more than entitled to moments of frustration. Actions speak louder than words.

To me, one of the saddest things about this post, is that you felt it belongs in this thread. I'm not trying to be sycophantic but your job is an admirable and a difficult one and nobody can begrudge you some frustration.

This is a really fantastic post. I hope anna reads it, takes comfort from it and forgives herself for what was a very understandable lapse in character.

Galwayguy35

Was supposed to be getting married back in my 20s but got cold feet a few months before hand and told her we were finished by text because I was too chicken to tell her in person.

Jobs OXO

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Was supposed to be getting married back in my 20s but got cold feet a few months before hand and told her we were finished by text because I was too chicken to tell her in person.

How long ago was that and how did it go down.

XsApollo

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Was supposed to be getting married back in my 20s but got cold feet a few months before hand and told her we were finished by text because I was too chicken to tell her in person.

That's the first thing in this thread that made me go, "holy sh*t"
I presume you have talked to her since, or was that it?

cantdecide

When I was a youngling I used to work in a small firm where the boss was an older guy who had a couple of his brothers and nephews working for him. I got very friendly with one of the bosses brothers, I suppose he took me under his wing. He was a funny and was a real intellect and had a boyish enthusiasm about everything, just a true gentleman that was a pleasure to be in his company. I was really really fond of him.

He was going through cancer treatment and was missing for spells at a time. After a while, he was gone for a long spell and over about a 6 week period he deteriorated and died. I remember being texted by one of the nephews about arrangements but I just didn't go. I didn't have much in common with anyone else at work and I was a shy youngfella and felt really uncomfortable about going. I decided to make a lame excuse and not go. I still think about how good he was to me and how I didn't bother going to his funeral.

fullstop

cantdecide wrote: »

When I was a youngling I used to work in a small firm where the boss was an older guy who had a couple of his brothers and nephews working for him. I got very friendly with one of the bosses brothers, I suppose he took me under his wing. He was a funny and was a real intellect and had a boyish enthusiasm about everything, just a true gentleman that was a pleasure to be in his company. I was really really fond of him.

He was going through cancer treatment and was missing for spells at a time. After a while, he was gone for a long spell and over about a 6 week period he deteriorated and died. I remember being texted by one of the nephews about arrangements but I just didn't go. I didn't have much in common with anyone else at work and I was a shy youngfella and felt really uncomfortable about going. I decided to make a lame excuse and not go. I still think about how good he was to me and how I didn't bother going to his funeral.

That's a tough one though. I had similar in school when a classmate died and I just couldn't bring myself to go to the wake...just didn't know how to face the situation at the time but always felt bad for not going. I did go to the funeral, but still

Hector Bellend

I got so drunk on Wednesday that I wet the bed.

I'm 40

Hector Bellend

Hector Bellend wrote: »

I got so drunk on Wednesday that I wet the bed.

I'm 40

I did that on my 21st birthday.

I was sharing the bed with my best friend, who has had the good grace never to mention it to me. I woke up soaked the next morning, and it took me a while to accept that it wasn't just freak sweating incident.

Prime Irish Beef

Glenster wrote: »

Judgemental much?

Messing around as a kid and not being quite as good a friend as you can be?

Fairly standard TBH.

^__^

I screwed up a lot as a teen and into my early twenties.

Took people for granted, hurt people, involved myself in situations I shouldn't have. People who claim they haven't screwed up are liars. We all screw up, it's how one develops empathy.

I used to beat myself up over a lot of things but you can't change the past, you can only learn from it.

RayM

I don't think I've ever wet the bed. Not since I was in nappies anyway. And that's at least two years ago.

Hotblack Desiato

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Was supposed to be getting married back in my 20s but got cold feet a few months before hand and told her we were finished by text because I was too chicken to tell her in person.

It was undoubtedly the right decision though, and still took balls (even by text)

Probably would have been easier to hope for the best and go along with the charade

Surreptitious

Hotblack Desiato wrote: »

It was undoubtedly the right decision though, and still took balls (even by text)

Probably would have been easier to hope for the best and go along with the charade

It takes balls to break off a marriage by text? It is possibly one of the most awful things ever if you ask me that he couldn't say it to her face.

Surreptitious

Surreptitious wrote: »

It takes balls to break off a marriage by text? It is possibly one of the most awful things ever if you ask me that he couldn't say it to her face.

If it's a choice between breaking up via text, and signing a marriage contract and creating all sorts of havoc & expense, I know what I'd choose.

We're not here to judge others' wrongdoings. That's the whole point, remember? The thread was about things we already know were wrong.

Surreptitious

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

If it's a choice betweenreaking up via text, and signing a marriage contract and creating all sorts of havoc & expense, I know what I'd choose.

We're not here to judge others' wrongdoings. That's the whole point, remember? The thread was about we already know were wrong.

Yeah fair enough.

Kablamo!

anna080 wrote: »

I'm a carer for my mother for the last few years and although I love it and would do anything for her, it's also very frustrating at times and we have said some horrible things to each other. Sometimes through utter frustration I can get very impatient with her and I once told her she was a burden to me and how my life has been altered for the worse since she got ill and that made her cry. I wish I could go back in time and take back those words. I hate myself for saying that to her. We have a great relationship and I'd do anything for her and she knows that, but I don't think she'll ever forget me saying that to her.

I'm in a similar position and at one stage my mother wound up in a wheelchair. She was really pushing my buttons one day, so I parked her in front of the men's underwear in Penneys, put the brakes on, and went up to Graham O'Sullivan's and had a coffee and a scone before I went down to rescue her.
She didn't talk to me for about three days, but I've no regrets!

retro:electro

Kablamo! wrote: »

I'm in a similar position and at one stage my mother wound up in a wheelchair. She was really pushing my buttons one day, so I parked her in front of the men's underwear in Penneys, put the brakes on, and went up to Graham O'Sullivan's and had a coffee and a scone before I went down to rescue her.
She didn't talk to me for about three days, but I've no regrets!

:pac:
I love you!

Bambi985

jca wrote: »

Jeez you're a charming piece of work....

As are you evidently

jca

Bambi985 wrote: »

As are you evidently

Evidently? What evidence? With any luck Aishling saw you for what you are and changed her friends. Most of the confessions on here are from immaturity but you got such obvious glee from hurting this other person you call your friend.... Awful stuff.

Bambi985

jca wrote: »

Evidently? What evidence? With any luck Aishling saw you for what you are and changed her friends. Most of the confessions on here are from immaturity but you got such obvious glee from hurting this other person you call your friend.... Awful stuff.

Glee? I'm sorry?

You're obviously missing the point of this thread. It's about "posting our wrongdoings without the fear of attack" as can often happen around here with people like yourself who take pleasure in judging others on their life decisions. People who themselves are so obviously perfect and have never made mistakes, like your good self.

Emphasis on "wrongdoings". It's cathartic to post about yourself in a no-frills, no-holds-barred kind of way about things you've done that you rarely speak about because of the judgements that inevitably come our way. Sadly that notion has gone entirely over your head and you just can't help yourself. Luckily I haven't been inflicted with "friends" like you despite my own past sins.

wakka12

Bambi985 wrote: »

As are you evidently

Don't listen to him. this thread is a confession thread and its very poor behaviour to judge a poster in it imo after they've opened up about something their feel guilty about

Bambi985

Bambi985 wrote: »

Glee? I'm sorry?

You're obviously missing the point of this thread.

Exactly. Just ignore him.

stimpson

jca wrote: »

Evidently? What evidence? With any luck Aishling saw you for what you are and changed her friends. Most of the confessions on here are from immaturity but you got such obvious glee from hurting this other person you call your friend.... Awful stuff.

Don't we have special forums for judging people? Like Christianity and Cycling.

Prime Irish Beef

Really awful behaviour to throw things back in people's faces after they have admitted it on a public thread.

We have admitted 'wrongdoings', things we are not proud of doing. I used to think that if I had the power I would go back and undo every sh*try thing I have ever done. But I wouldn't. They all taught me valuable lessons and revealed other peoples true colours too. Mistakes and fcukups helped me grow as a person and I can only be grateful for that.

Everyone has ****ed up. And if you think you haven't, I don't want to know you.

Beta Ray Bill

stimpson wrote: »

Don't we have special forums for judging people? Like Christianity and Cycling.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

@Bambi985

Ignore jca.
The whole idea is that people can admit things they did without fear of judejment.

Maybe the MODS should put a warning in post #1 about being Judgemental?

jca

Bambi985 wrote: »

Glee? I'm sorry?

You're obviously missing the point of this thread. It's about "posting our wrongdoings without the fear of attack" as can often happen around here with people like yourself who take pleasure in judging others on their life decisions. People who themselves are so obviously perfect and have never made mistakes, like your good self.

Emphasis on "wrongdoings". It's cathartic to post about yourself in a no-frills, no-holds-barred kind of way about things you've done that you rarely speak about because of the judgements that inevitably come our way. Sadly that notion has gone entirely over your head and you just can't help yourself. Luckily I haven't been inflicted with "friends" like you despite my own past sins.

I never once implied I was perfect. Myself and a friend beat a younger chap up over losing a soccer bet ( I admit we were a bad combination) I was consumed with guilt and went over to his house the next day to say I was sorry, his mother wasn't impressed with what we did but she said it took guts to apologise, I was 13, my friend wouldn't call to apologise he kind of put the blame on me when questioned by his parents. I'm glad I apologised at the time and didn't do it on an internet forum years later.

_Whimsical_

Rather hilarious that someone's got het up over a 14 year old snog as the worst thing anyone's ever done.

I mean if that's the worst, or even that's what's come out of this thread as worthy of mention, ye are all liars or absolute saints! I'm afraid to read back lest I think dramatically less of myself and my own misdoings.

jca

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

Rather hilarious that someone's got het up over a 14 year old snog as the worst thing anyone's ever done.

I mean if that's the worst, or even that's what's come out of this thread as worthy of mention, ye are all liars or absolute saints! I'm afraid to read back lest I think dramatically less of myself and my own misdoings.

I think that's the age when most decent people feel guilty, before we get clever and cover it up.

Bambi985

jca wrote: »

I never once implied I was perfect. Myself and a friend beat a younger chap up over losing a soccer bet ( I admit we were a bad combination) I was consumed with guilt and went over to his house the next day to say I was sorry, his mother wasn't impressed with what we did but she said it took guts to apologise, I was 13, my friend wouldn't call to apologise he kind of put the blame on me when questioned by his parents. I'm glad I apologised at the time and didn't do it on an internet forum years later.

Some would classify physical violence and grievous bodily harm as worse than a teenage snog with a mate's crush. I've never laid a finger on a person in my life.

But we are in a judgement-free zone so that's all irrelevant anyway. Nice of you to apologise, fair play.

jca

jca wrote: »

I never once implied I was perfect.

Much worse has been done - by adults - in this thread. It's bizarre you pick on something done by a kid. Probably best to leave off the judgy shoes.

_Whimsical_

jca wrote: »

I think that's the age when most decent people feel guilty, before we get clever and cover it up.

I don't think so at all, I think that's the age when you start to see what you can do and what you're capable of. It's a messy time for everyone and there are casualties of a lot of teenage friendships but you live and you learn, learn to do better, learn to trust fewer, learn to get hurt and get over it. It's life. I wish I'd been less of a goody two shoes when I was 14, it's the time to do it, I certainly was on the receiving end of it. I couldn't judge something like that harshly in a kid though I'd have full sympathy for Aisling

jca

Bambi985 wrote: »

Some would classify physical violence and grievous bodily harm as worse than a teenage snog with a mate's crush. I've never laid a finger on a person in my life.

But we are in a judgement-free zone so that's all irrelevant anyway. Nice of you to apologise, fair play.

Yes it was physical violence, not as extreme as gbh, but the main thing was that I learned from it. I don't think my friend did tbh. We went our separate ways soon after that, he had other friends that I didn't like at all.

retro:electro

jca wrote: »

Yes it was physical violence, not as extreme as gbh, but the main thing was that I learned from it. I don't think my friend did tbh. We went our separate ways soon after that, he had other friends that I didn't like at all.

Isn't that what this thread is all about? Admitting you were wrong and owning up? You make it out as though the poster was bragging or something.

DEFTLEFTHAND

I was very aggressive when I younger, prone to becoming violent, especially under the influence.

I look back now with utter shame at some of my antics. I didn't treat people properly, took out my anger on them instead of dealing with it myself.

All the fire and angst is gone out of me now, a changed man.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

I was a shítshow until I was at least 23 tbh, a mean snog when you're 14 is pennies!