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Strong feelings for a guy that I need to get over

  • 17-05-2017 1:17pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have been friends with a girl for a few years, we met at college and still stay in touch as there were only a small number of us in our course. One of the other people in our course was a guy that I had a very strong attraction towards from the second I saw him - as I got to know him and became friends, the feelings only got stronger. He flirted with me a good bit - but I do not believe he was attracted to me. Pretty naive of me, but I always thought someday it would happen.

    We're finished college now, but I stay in touch and meet up with a few of the people quite regularly. I learned a few weeks ago that the two people mentioned above are now in a relationship. It made me realise just how hung up I have been on this guy for years. Constantly thinking about him, how I good I feel when he texts me, how happy I am when I am with him. I have never in my life had feelings this strong towards another guy - including ones I have been in relationships with.

    I don't know how to forget about him in that way?


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  • #2
    BetsyEllen
    Registered Users Posts: 1,360 ✭✭✭BetsyEllen


    Cat04 wrote: »
    I have been friends with a girl for a few years, we met at college and still stay in touch as there were only a small number of us in our course. One of the other people in our course was a guy that I had a very strong attraction towards from the second I saw him - as I got to know him and became friends, the feelings only got stronger. He flirted with me a good bit - but I do not believe he was attracted to me. Pretty naive of me, but I always thought someday it would happen.

    We're finished college now, but I stay in touch and meet up with a few of the people quite regularly. I learned a few weeks ago that the two people mentioned above are now in a relationship. It made me realise just how hung up I have been on this guy for years. Constantly thinking about him, how I good I feel when he texts me, how happy I am when I am with him. I have never in my life had feelings this strong towards another guy - including ones I have been in relationships with.

    I don't know how to forget about him in that way?

    You'll have to stop the friendship with him unfortunately, you can't forget about someone when you're in contact.
    It will be a bit difficult to explain why you're suddenly cutting contact when he has no idea you like him but for your own sake, just do it anyway.


  • #3
    RagsOBrien
    Registered Users Posts: 70 ✭✭RagsOBrien


    BetsyEllen wrote: »
    You'll have to stop the friendship with him unfortunately, you can't forget about someone when you're in contact.
    It will be a bit difficult to explain why you're suddenly cutting contact when he has no idea you like him but for your own sake, just do it anyway.

    I agree- the only way you wil get over it, espeically if it has been years. It is holding you back from meeting someone else romantically. I had to this recently actually- cut contact with a friend and been little to zero since as I have avoided her altogther. It's been 3 months and still not over it but getting there...the best thing to do is- go out, take up a new hobby, join the gym, go on dates with other people. It does get easier and gove it 6 months-1 year...you'll feel differently. Trust me on this ( :


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