January 2018 Babies Club

New farmers wife

shesty wrote: »

She wants your attention farmerswife, just expect any and all behaviour over the next few weeks!Plus having MIL there is something outside the ordinary.you kind of have to mix kindness and firmness to acknowledge the massive change in their lives but hold firm on the ground rules all the same.It's really tough, I found the first eight weeks or so very hard, awful guilt.Until I eventually realised I had to forgive myself and just do my best for both of them.They do accept it easier if they realise you are somewhat understanding of them, but it's such a hard balance.

Thanks shesty, it's a tough one when you go from guilt to giving out to hugs and snuggles. The weather has been so bad that she's missing out on being outside. So I reckon any good days we need to go to the park or put little man in the pram and go outside and play. She's the best in the world, today was pure divilment!
It's gas really you could give out and next thing you know you're in the horrors laughing at her!

shesty

I know, my elder needs a good run every day.It settles after the first six weeks or so when your body has recovered a bit and you can get out more wih her!

FirstTimeMom

Can anyone say how flexible Holles Street are with visiting times? I know it says 6-8pm online for anyone other than partners!

New farmers wife

How are all the mammy and babies doing?

donkey10

New farmers wife wrote: »

How are all the mammy and babies doing?

Great so far! Little man is 3 weeks old at this stage. He is starting to stay up a good few hours diring the day like 5/6. Hes sleeping through for a straight 5 hours at night and would have a quick feed and then go back for anothet 4 hours. Hope thats normal for his age!

Have got in 2 long walks so far his week . Stitches seem to be healing well. Although yesterday when passing stools i noticed some blood im hoping its not haemorids

New farmers wife

My little man has been sleeping anywhere between 3.5-6 hours at night, like your boy it's a bottle, nappy change and straight back down.

When I had a tear on my girl I started passing blood but I had a tiny little like a paper but tear, I got a prescription but the cream was going to be like €100, it cleared up by itself.

donkey10

New farmers wife wrote: »

My little man has been sleeping anywhere between 3.5-6 hours at night, like your boy it's a bottle, nappy change and straight back down.

When I had a tear on my girl I started passing blood but I had a tiny little like a paper but tear, I got a prescription but the cream was going to be like €100, it cleared up by itself.

Ya i thought it strange coz hadnt noticed it before now. So u ended up not gettjng it?

Thats really good its great when they get a food run at it at least we are not as exhausted then. I prefer them to be up during the day

New farmers wife

My girl never slept during the day until she was 6 months and went into her cot in her own room. She'd sleep if you were willing to sit under her. Then she started sleeping 12 hours and has done so since then.
He's awake the last two hours, trying to doze off but has only just done so now.
I need to go buy bottles the weekend.

Yeah I never bought the cream, I just persevered, I went on holiday then and it cleared up. It was really painful but such a tiny little cut!

Pocos

New farmers wife wrote: »

How are all the mammy and babies doing?

5 weeks old and starting to sleep longer at night. Starting to get into some sort of rhythm but still completely winging it!

I hope everyone else is doing well! Great all the babies sleeping 6 hours! That’s amazing!

saggycaggy

FINALLY getting around to replying here!! The baby is constantly stuck to me and hard to reply on phone so I'm grabbing a few mins now
All going great here, he's just over 2 weeks old and back above his birth weight and sleeping and eating loads.
The Dr checked out my stitches too and all healing well, I feel 100 times better than even this time last week.
Anyone had many growth spurts with their little ones? I think mine is going through one and was feeding for hour and hours yesterday so I'm stuck to the couch, hard when I've 2 others to look after too!

mojesius

Good to hear you're doing well. Mine had her first growth spurt at 1 week and another last week at 4 weeks. Literally from the Ireland v France rugby game until Tues of that week she was glued to me. But, since then she has settled a lot. Longer naps, more alert/curious and LOVES the bath. Think we saw a proper smile this morning with her nana... it's all paying off

Can't imagine how difficult the bf must be, especially the cluster feeding with two other kids. You have my respect as I found going to get a cup of tea a major challenge.

Toots

My little one decided to scream from midnight to 2am last night (I slept through it, my lovely hubby took her into the living room to try and calm her down) then she slept from 2am until 7.45 this morning! My alarm went off at 6.30 to feed her and I nearly had a heart attack when she was still asleep, I thought there was something wrong with her, but I think she was just exhausted from all the crying. We reckon it was wind, because my hubby was saying if he kept her upright she'd fall asleep, but as soon as he lay her down she'd start bawling again. I'm hoping it was just wind and not colic - my little boy had colic and it was awful. He'd cry from 6pm til 10pm every night, you could set your watch by him.

Other than that, she's doing great. She's back above her birth weight again - was 4.71kg at birth, then dropped to 4.6kg when the PHN was out last week, and had her 2 week check today and is up to 4.84kg, and the breastfeeding is going well. We had a lactation consultant out on Monday which was definitely a huge help, just to know we were doing it right and to get some tips etc. I expressed all my milk last time, so with the bottle I was able to see exactly how much my son was taking, whereas when they're taking it directly from the boob there's no way to tell how much they've taken and I was worried she wasn't getting enough.

I haven't had pain from my stitches since about 2 days after we got home from the hospital, but my pelvis is really achy. I wonder if I'm going to need to go to physio to get it sorted out or if it'll ease off after a couple of weeks and keeping up the pelvic floor exercises.

rainbow kirby

I have similar pelvic pain Toots, front of it hurts like hell if I'm in the car for too long or if I sit on a hard chair. Never had anything like it after my older son was born so it's a bit strange this time...

Toots

rainbow kirby wrote: »

I have similar pelvic pain Toots, front of it hurts like hell if I'm in the car for too long or if I sit on a hard chair. Never had anything like it after my older son was born so it's a bit strange this time...

Same, I didn't have this last time around at all. I dunno if it's just having had a second baby has taken it's toll on my skeleton :pac: or perhaps it's just strained from carrying around a ten and a half pound baby! My husband did mention earlier on that last time round I had an episiotomy and was in pain from the stitches for weeks afterwards, so maybe I had the pain in my pelvis too but the pain from the stitches was worse so I didn't notice as much, whereas I only had a very small tear this time so I'm noticing the pelvic pain because there's no pain from the stitches.

donkey10

My fella was having difficulty sleeping a few nights in a row so we ended up putting him into the bed with us. Stupid i know but it was either that or have him go to sleep in my arms and i was afraid when i drifted off that he might fall.

We have the chicco next to me and started realisibg the other day that he was too cold in it. When he was put in after drifting off in my arms he would wake up 5 mins later.

Now i wrap a small cellular blanket around him wheb feeding, and lie a furry blanket on the matress underneath him and cover with a larger cellular. Its amazing the difference when i realised he was cold. Would never have thought it as the room is 19/20 degrees but the furry blanket underneath him and wrappin him really made all the difference

heldel00

Oh jesus girls I'm after having a horrendous 2 weeks. Long story short i was with a consultant orthopaedic surgeon yesterday. I have a viral infection in the nerve in my shoulder. The pain has been horrendous.
GP has me on a morphine based tablet, a nerve pain blocker and difene suppositories. That is not even killing the pain just dulling it. Its a different kind of pain. I couldn't even describe it.
The scary part was that i lost complete power in my shoulder last Friday and ended up in A+E on Saturday morning. They put me on a drip with a painkiller in it and wanted to admit me but i refused.
Worst bit is that i can't do anything for my little dolly. I'm completely helpless. My arm is flapping around me as if i had had a stroke. My husband had to take time off work and my mam is here when he can't be. I can't stay on my own with the children in case anything happened.
Have a real case of Mammy guilt. If i even want to lift her up for a cuddle i have to grab her by the buttons on her babygro and lift her like a sack of spuds.
I'm so lucky that she is a great little baby and my 2yr old is a dream toddler. She is sleeping until 6/6:30am every night but I'm walking the floors with the pain. It's a disaster!!!
(That ended up being not such a short story but i needed to rant!)

Toots

Ah jesus, that's awful, you poor thing! Is there anything else they can give you to try and help get rid of the virus, like antiviral meds or anything? Or have they told you how long it's likely to last?

heldel00

No meds for it I'm afraid. He showed me an exercise to do to bring the power back to my shoulder. Wouldnt even prescribe stronger painkillers in case i took a reaction and wouldn't be able to see him in a hurry. I argued that surely thats what a+e is for!!! Could last weeks or months. I had acupuncture today but no relief as of yet. Maybe I'm expecting a bit much too soon?

Toots

Hmm, I'm not sure, a lot of accupuncture things I looked at said they could take up to 24 hours before you feel the full effect. Have they suggested seeing a physio? Although I suppose if it's pain from a viral infection a physio might not be able to do much for the pain, but perhaps could help getting a bit of the strength back. I think the thing with the painkillers is if you take a bad reaction to them, it can get very serious very fast. My hubby's aunt got prescribed some really strong painkillers for a nerve problem (sciatica I think) and suddenly became very unwell, to the point that an ambulance was called because she was in such a state.

heldel00

Yeah i suppose he is being cautious and rightly so. He doesn't know my medical history and is really just there to deal with the physical end of things. I'll go back to GP in the morn and see what they can do for me.

New farmers wife

Toots are you breast or bottle feeding? I'm a believer in fennel tea for wind! Fingers crossed it's only wind and not colic.

That sounds like an awful pain in your shoulder. I can't imagine how painful it must be if all those painkillers aren't taking the pain away. If it's viral there's probably no point in suggesting an osteopath.
My little man went from 3.9kg to 4.3kg in 11 days and is def going thru a growth spurt the last few days, drinking 5oz and sleeping like he's never slept before.
I have to say despite this being my second baby, I'm def feeling she loneliness big time this time.

Toots

I'm breast feeding but she gets a bottle of formula for the night feed that my hubby does. I actually ordered fennel tea the other day so hopefully that'll help. She's farting away today so hopefully that's clearing some of it. We registered her birth today

New farmers wife

This is the fennel tea we use, I only leave it in the cup for 2 mins then 2oz in a bottle and water it down with another 2oz. It's about finding the right strength for your own child. My little man is def more settled after fennel tea.
I had realised about getting the children's allowance for Feb in March so we got a letter the other day saying we get €420 in March as we have 2 kids and then Feb payment for the new baby, was delighted. Have applied for the gp card for him too

Toots

That looks like the one I ordered. I must give it a go and see how she gets on with it. She hasn't pooped today, I think she's constipated She's feeding plenty and has had loads of wet nappies but no poops. I remember the same thing happening with my little boy when he was about 2 weeks old also. I rang the hospital and they told me to squeeze an orange and give him about a tablespoon through a bottle teat. The child hadn't pooed in nearly a week and about 5 mins after the orange juice he just exploded - it went out the legs and up the neck and everything! I'm going to bath her tomorrow and if she hasn't gone by then I'll give her the orange. She's roaring crying right now, the OH is walking the floors with her. Only concerning thing is she's been roaring crying at this time the last few nights and this is how the colic started with my little boy.

Anne_cordelia

Toots wrote: »

That looks like the one I ordered. I must give it a go and see how she gets on with it. She hasn't pooped today, I think she's constipated She's feeding plenty and has had loads of wet nappies but no poops. I remember the same thing happening with my little boy when he was about 2 weeks old also. I rang the hospital and they told me to squeeze an orange and give him about a tablespoon through a bottle teat. The child hadn't pooed in nearly a week and about 5 mins after the orange juice he just exploded - it went out the legs and up the neck and everything! I'm going to bath her tomorrow and if she hasn't gone by then I'll give her the orange. She's roaring crying right now, the OH is walking the floors with her. Only concerning thing is she's been roaring crying at this time the last few nights and this is how the colic started with my little boy.

Take probiotics yourself for wind as you are breastfeeding. I wouldn’t give a tiny baby anything like orange juice or fennel tea. Constipation is actually when they are pooping tiny, hard lumps, it would be quite normal for a bf baby not to poop daily.

New farmers wife

She sounds exactly like how my girl was but it wasn't classed as colic as it wasn't for long enough , an hour of roaring is long enough to listen too! As it wasn't actually colic we changed her to goats milk formula and started her on the fennel tea and probiotics. She probably just needs to do that dirty nappy. It's absolutely heartbreaking when they cry like that.

Toots

Well she had a dirty nappy, actually 3. She was doing the little pellets earlier and then when I was changing her nappy later she started going...... and didn't stop!! Filled 3 nappies, the poor child must have been in agony. She's in much better form now.

New farmers wife

Wow that's great, she's probably so relieved now. Hopefully it'll get her going regularly! Our little man got sick his first two bottles today, seems a bit off form, like he has a pain. still taking 5oz bottles since but he's now so over tired he's not able to stay asleep for any length. He's nodding off in My husbands arms now

Toots

My little boy was a frequent puker alright, but so far this little one has been pretty good. She had one day where she practically threw up every feed, which resulted in her having a rough night awake because she was hungry but then would puke up the feed. Completely back to normal the next day and we've no idea what caused it, I hadn't eaten anything odd either. One thing I've noticed with her is that even though she's being breastfed, she needs to be winded frequently, like I'd have to take her off the breast and wind her a couple of times otherwise she swallows a load of wind and bawls for about an hour after a feed.

bee06

Toots wrote: »

My little boy was a frequent puker alright, but so far this little one has been pretty good. She had one day where she practically threw up every feed, which resulted in her having a rough night awake because she was hungry but then would puke up the feed. Completely back to normal the next day and we've no idea what caused it, I hadn't eaten anything odd either. One thing I've noticed with her is that even though she's being breastfed, she needs to be winded frequently, like I'd have to take her off the breast and wind her a couple of times otherwise she swallows a load of wind and bawls for about an hour after a feed.

You should talk to a lacation consultant to see if there is any issue with her latch that is causing her to take in air when feeding.