Flatmate waking me up, am I being petty?

myshirt

Bubbaclaus wrote: »

How people can leave the house in the morning after a night in bed without a shower is beyond me. Waft of bed head and BO off them.

Slide down the drainpipe, or rappel down the side.

RunRoryRun

This is whinging of the highest order. If you're ever part of a cohabiting couple will you ask your partner who gets up earlier than 8 to shower the night before and sleep in their clothes so they can slink out the door and not wake you?

the_syco

Kraft.l wrote: »

If I pay rent I think Im entitled to a decent nights sleep, dont you

If he pays rent, he's entitled to have a shower in the morning, don't you think?

Kraft.l wrote: »

Well I'll guess we'll have to go our separate ways then.

Yeah. You don't like it, you move out. Or you goto bed earlier. Or you get earbuds.

fash

If getting used to the sound/getting up earlier/using earplugs is not possible, it's probably easier and cheaper to pay for a new quieter shower pump and its installation than to look for a place in your own. Also I can't imagine any landlord would want to know about a new pump otherwise.

Marcusm

Kraft.l wrote: »

8.00 am

Leo Varadkar is going to do nothing for you; unlike your flat mate.

Tigger

red ears wrote: »

If you shower every night and change your bedclothes regularly nobody would manky.

I would be

Kraft.l

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

Kraft.l wrote:

Surely he could use the shower in work, and show consideration for me who pays rent to live there and is entitled to my sleep.

Have you actually talked to your flatmate about it? Perhaps he'd be willing to take showers the night before or at work.

I don't understand why talking to him isn't the first pretty of call instead of brooding over it and moaning online..

Does he even know it is affecting you?

Yeah, I'm asking for options yours doesn't help.

wirelessdude01

Kraft.l wrote:

Yeah, I'm asking for options yours doesn't help.

So when you spoke to the flatmate what did they say?

endacl

Kraft.l wrote: »

Yeah, I'm asking for options yours doesn't help.

No you're not. You're venting, in the hope people will agree with you. They aren't, so you're having a go at them instead of raising your non-issue with your housemate.

Like a grownup.

Dogcatcher

One thought is he is paying rent also so should he not be free to shower when he chooses or swap rooms if his is anyway from shower.

Bubbaclaus

Bubbaclaus wrote: »

How people can leave the house in the morning after a night in bed without a shower is beyond me. Waft of bed head and BO off them.

How people can put themselves through the effort of a shower in the morning is beyond me.

Curly Judge

Kraft.l wrote: »

8.00 am

Get him a cushy number in the Public Service.

TheChizler

Is it an electric shower with the pump in the unit in the shower or a pump located somewhere else? If it's seperate it might be possible to put a rubber mat or foam under it and some sound insulation on the wall next to it.

jimmycrackcorm

Kraft.l wrote:

Yeah, I'm asking for options yours doesn't help.

The option of basically talking to your flatmate about it to see if he would be willing to compromise or change his routine?

There's no helping you.

Kraft.l

Kraft.l wrote: »

Yeah, I'm asking for options yours doesn't help.

You want opinions that agree with you, unfortunately for you most people think you are being petty.
What would you do if you lived with someone working shifts? Would you change your shower habits to suit their changing shifts?
If he was playing loud music or just making noise himself you may have a point, he is just having a shower.
You either get used to it, or pay for a place on your own.

Laeot

Curly Judge wrote: »

Get him a cushy number in the Public Service.

Publicjobs.ie

jbt123

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

So when you spoke to the flatmate what did they say?

It seems apparent to me that the OP may have been told exactly what's what and where to go by his flat mate.

He has then posted here looking for some validation or affirmation and found little and rightly so.

mucho_puko14

have you told him? tell him its feckin annoying and having an impact on your whole day... ask him what would he do in your situation... is his room further from the shower? could ye swap? failing all other suggestions, taser him every time he wakes you! lol

ZeroCool17

I live alone in a 1 bed apartment and m neighbours are parents and 1 child, The father starts work every night i reckon at 3am because between 2am and 2.20am religiously he goes for a shower 5 nights a week. That is his right, He pays for that and there is no way i could knock on his door and ask him to shower before 12am to suit me.

I know it is not the same as living in the same house but we might as well be tbh. My bedroom like yours is right opposite his bathroom. I get up at 8am every moring too as i live close to work and my day starts at 9 and finishes at 6. Believe me i dream of someday living in a 1 off house in the country with silence as my music...

P.S. I could NOT go to work without a shower. I wouldn't feel right or the day!

Tell me how

I reckon that possibly, the OP is the person who rises at 06:30 and the 08:00 flatmate has used the arguments (and tone) which the OP has demonstrated throughout the thread to suggest the 06:30 riser is being unreasonable.

The OP will now send the 08:00 flatmate a link to this thread with a P.S. of "everyone on the internet thinks you're being a knob" to drive home their position.

If I am correct, well played OP. If I'm wrong (highly likely) I hope you've seen the light at this stage.

SusieBlue

My OH gets up 2 hours before me twice a week. When we first moved in together, I used to also wake, and the noise of him having breakfast/showering/puttering around would stop me from falling back to sleep.
That was 6 months ago, these days I barely rouse when his alarm goes off and I sleep through him pottering around the house.
You will adjust to it if you give yourself a chance.

Also, we live a few doors down from a business that starts receiving stock deliveries at around 4am on a Wednesday morning.
Imagine the sound of truck reversal alarms, crates banging off each other, heavy loads being dumped on the pavement and delivery drivers having chats at the top of their voices as if it's 12pm in the afternoon.
It's infuriating and I can't sleep through it (yet) but the shop has been there a lot longer than the house I've been renting has so what can I do. I'd take a flatmate having a 10 minute shower any day over that noise!

Kraft.l

WhiteRoses wrote: »

My OH gets up 2 hours before me twice a week. When we first moved in together, I used to also wake, and the noise of him having breakfast/showering/puttering around would stop me from falling back to sleep.
That was 6 months ago, these days I barely rouse when his alarm goes off and I sleep through him pottering around the house.
You will adjust to it if you give yourself a chance.

Also, we live a few doors down from a business that starts receiving stock deliveries at around 4am on a Wednesday morning.
Imagine the sound of truck reversal alarms, crates banging off each other, heavy loads being dumped on the pavement and delivery drivers having chats at the top of their voices as if it's 12pm in the afternoon.
It's infuriating and I can't sleep through it (yet) but the shop has been there a lot longer than the house I've been renting has so what can I do. I'd take a flatmate having a 10 minute shower any day over that noise!

All right I get it.

lensman

It's a power shower, noisy yokes alright, ask the landlord to install a non pumped shower, far quieter & cheaper to run too.

Pterosaur

Buy some noise cancelling earphones. 630am? Thats a lie in for many.

Ann_Landers

sashafierce wrote: »

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Ding ding ding - the heart of the matter right here.

Bubbaclaus

Jayceon Calm Blowgun wrote: »

How people can put themselves through the effort of a shower in the morning is beyond me.

Not much effort at all. Especially when it prevents people talking about the waft coming off you in work behind your back.

Ash.J.Williams

Kraft.l wrote: »

Hey just a quick question here, flatmate started a job and he's waking me up at 6.30 am average every morning, I don't need to get up at that time, have trouble getting back to sleep, exhausted and can't focus all day, surely he could have a shower the night before and still be fresh, because I would do that to show consideration if our position was reversed , any thoughts?

looks like you've outgrown the flat share life..

batman2000

Kraft.l wrote: »

We get on well, going to bed earlier is not so bad.

You mention your not getting enough sleep. What time were you going to bed at normally.? Now, what time is early.?

How long has this issue going on?

If you get on well, talk to your flatmate.

I'm up at 5:10am, have a shower and go leave for work by 6am. Granted, it's not a shared accommodation. But is a family home and its a pumped shower. So the noise could wake others in the house.

worded

Don't want to do ear plugs ?

If you are the key tenant ask him to leave and next time find someone who works the same hours as you and explain that showering before x and y is a deal breaker

If you are not consider key tenant get a 2 bed gaff and be the key tenant

Or get your own place

sleep is sssential

enterprise2017

Kraft.l wrote: »

Hey just a quick question here, flatmate started a job and he's waking me up at 6.30 am average every morning, I don't need to get up at that time, have trouble getting back to sleep, exhausted and can't focus all day, surely he could have a shower the night before and still be fresh, because I would do that to show consideration if our position was reversed , any thoughts?

1. Really? grow some balls

2. Just go out and tell him to keep it down

3. play loud music the night before

4. buy ear plugs

5. come on to him and make him always late for work?

6. Kill Him??