taking photos all the time

dollyk

My 13 y/o daughter seems to be obsessed with taking fotos of herself in
little shorts, crop tops etc,
shes my 6th child, so we have a fairly open relationship.
Its not the fotos tbh, its the whole body image she has of herself now.
she slim size 8, but seems to think she can have a six pack overnight.
So she was starting to eat less, and i moved that to healthy eating,
and that seemed to work.
Now its like her whole life is centered around looking like a body builder.
should I just tell her to stop, and ban her, well tell her to take a break
or leave well enough alone and hope she goes on to the next thing.
Oh and vaping, thats the new craze, I tell her to wait another year
and we will discuss, its working so far, well thats what she tells me.:(
Any mammys out there going through the same ...Thanks.

PirateShampoo

Did you really tell your 13yr old you would discuss letting her vape next year?

Put your foot down, she's the child and your the adult.

As for the photos, good luck with that one. Social media has ruined our kids, it's gone unchecked for too long, and the ****e that gets posted their and the current role models these kids have got has them ****ed.

dollyk

of course I wont let her vape next year, but I had the problem of a
piercing with my now 26 year old, I just kept saying we will discuss
next year, and it worked rather than just saying no to everything it seemed.
The fact that she is even asking for permission in this day and age
tells me shes trying to fit in and can use the excuse that she might be allowed next year. She had no friends as such in primary, and seems to want to fit
in with all the kids now.

Sunny Dayz

You need to look at who she follows on social media. Why is she wanting to look like a body builder - what has influenced that? Does she exercise, if so what does she do? If so, can you make sure it's more of a team sport or class that she does so it's more social and fun rather than focussed on targets and goals and looks.


Is she in first or second year in school? She's just trying her best to fit in but do you know who she is friends with and who she hangs around with?


In relation to the vaping, IMO that's not much different than smoking - if she came to you and said mam I want to start smoking would you say wait til next year?! But what did we all do as teens ourselves: have a sneaky drag of a ciggie being passed around a group. At least she was asking you up front, she is that comfortable and open with you which is a good thing, but the fact that she wants to start it makes me think that she doesn't actually realise or understand how bad vaping is.

farmchoice

she is actually into bodybuilding, going to the gym etc if she is then i suppose its not the worst thing in the world at least she is keeping fit.

if she isn't then i'd encourage her to go and do a few circuit classes or go to a personal trainer and get a programme at least then she would be getting fit.