SIL upset over date

kylith

rondog wrote: »

So, if you say your child is sick with a fever and virus they have to have a sick note even if its just for one day?
I would imagine that is ludocris that you cant ring in and say little tommy is sick and take a day or two off without having every single day covered medically.

Which presumably that you have to take your sick, possibly infectious, child to the GP and wait for ages to get a sick note. Reminds me of the below

https://www.unilad.co.uk/viral/doctors-response-to-guys-boss-demanding-sick-note-is-brilliant/

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GingerLily

A 7 year old will want to tell their friends if they go to a wedding, especially abroad, so pulling a sicky would be risky.

Really pointless speculating about UK school sick leave.

OP, I hope the conversation with your Fiance and his sister went well and you were able to clear the air!

freshpopcorn

Am I incorrect in think is the worst thing that can happen is that they'd get a fine and once you pay it nothing else will come of it?

Toots

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Am I incorrect in think is the worst thing that can happen is that they'd get a fine and once you pay it nothing else will come of it?

You can also get a court appearance AFAIK.

eviltwin

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Am I incorrect in think is the worst thing that can happen is that they'd get a fine and once you pay it nothing else will come of it?

the fine where my in-laws are is 80 pounds. That's a fair whack to expect someone to pay on top of travel expenses and the inevitable gift

freshpopcorn

Toots wrote: »

You can also get a court appearance AFAIK.

I think this only happens when you refuse to pay the fine. Similar to penatly points in Ireland!

pilly

eviltwin wrote:

the fine where my in-laws are is 80 pounds. That's a fair whack to expect someone to pay on top of travel expenses and the inevitable gift

The brother could offer to pay the fine.

freshpopcorn

eviltwin wrote: »

the fine where my in-laws are is 80 pounds. That's a fair whack to expect someone to pay on top of travel expenses and the inevitable gift

I wouldn't expect a family member travelling from abroad to give a gift. If I knew this fine was an issue due to money problems I'd gladly pay it if it meant my sister/niece could come to my wedding.

eviltwin

pilly wrote: »

The brother could offer to pay the fine.

I'd expect nothing less. Its the very least he could do.

LegacyUser

OP, I got married a few months ago. We had an issue involving children attending our wedding. Different to your situation in that we didn't want any children at ours. My family were nothing short of horrible about it. They bullied and bullied, used emotional blackmail that you wouldn't believe. In the end we gave in just for it to stop.

It is a huge regret now! We are so sorry that we didn't stick to our guns and have the wedding we wanted. We regret changing our wedding to suit others. My advice to you is to to have the wedding you want, on the date you want! Remember it is your wedding, not their wedding!!! Suit yourself and your husband to be not anyone else.

professore

newlywed2017 wrote: »

OP, I got married a few months ago. We had an issue involving children attending our wedding. Different to your situation in that we didn't want any children at ours. My family were nothing short of horrible about it. They bullied and bullied, used emotional blackmail that you wouldn't believe. In the end we gave in just for it to stop.

It is a huge regret now! We are so sorry that we didn't stick to our guns and have the wedding we wanted. We regret changing our wedding to suit others. My advice to you is to to have the wedding you want, on the date you want! Remember it is your wedding, not their wedding!!! Suit yourself and your husband to be not anyone else.

Personally I think not having kids at your wedding is very sad and pathetic ... but I also agree with you and it's YOUR wedding, not mine, and if you want to dress like Jackie Chan and Elvis and take your vows on unicycles it's NONE OF MY DAMN BUSINESS .... and to paraphrase Michael O'Leary "If you don't like it you can f**k off!"

And to the OP, do you REALLY want someone who clearly has a chip of some sort on their shoulder at your wedding? If she wanted to be there she would be there. I had friends and family move heaven and earth to be at my wedding, and I've done the same for them, as, let's face it, there are always some hassles and a lot of expense with attending any wedding.

homerjay2005

some scandalous advise here, anybody having a go at the OP should be ashamed of themselves.

OP, youve done nothing wrong, go ahead as ye planned, it sounds like this woman is nothing but a selfish drama queen and you are better off without her. anybody who asks for a date to be changed to suit them, is nothing but trouble.

homerjay2005

professore wrote: »

Personally I think not having kids at your wedding is very sad and pathetic.

why on earth would you want kids at a wedding? of the last 20 weddings i was at, there was no kids invited to 18 of them, so its obviously not as sad and pathetic as you think.

i wouldnt dream of bringing kids to a wedding, id want to enjoy myself by spending the day relaxing.

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