Louise O'Neill on manned mission to Mars: "Why not go to Venus?" (MOD Warning post 1)

Outlaw Pete

Sexual consent is all about inferences. Rarely if ever do people ask for sexual consent. It's just not reality.

Consent is more often than not conveyed rather than verbally given, which is of course why it's so frustrating listening to people suggesting (/ making laws) that say someone must have been given a verbal 'Yes' otherwise they have committed rape.

This is why the Cup of Tea analogy was so ridiculous a few years back.

If someone has reasonably inferred that they have consent (and the person is not in a state which would render them legally incapable of giving it) then they are having consensual sex.

El_Duderino 09

Yeah_Right wrote: »

Absolutely. And obviously. Do you and El Dude think I'm being literal? I'm just saying that it comes down ask permission, then listen to the answer. Generally a good rule for doing anything that involves another person or their property.

Oh no. I think you’ve sarcastically described a way it doesn’t happen, then assumed you’ve described exactly how it happens.

I don’t have any confidence you know what you’re talking about.

El_Duderino 09

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Sexual consent is all about inferences. Rarely if ever do people ask for sexual consent. It's just not reality.

Consent is more often than not conveyed rather than verbally given, which is of course why it's so frustrating listening to people suggesting (/ making laws) that say someone must have been given a verbal 'Yes' otherwise they have committed rape.

This is why the Cup of Tea analogy was so ridiculous a few years back.

If someone has reasonably inferred that they have consent (and the person is not in a state which would render them legally incapable of giving it) then they are having consensual sex.

It’s “all about inference’ that’s not so clear cut all of a sudden.

So Is everyone still agreed LON is stooopid for wanting to actually add to the discussion about consent?

El_Duderino 09

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

It’s “all about inference’ that’s not so clear cut all of a sudden.

So Is everyone still agreed LON is stooopid for wanting to actually add to the discussion about consent?

I think stooopid in the way she goes about it outside of her fictional works

El_Duderino 09

Deleted User wrote: »

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

It’s “all about inference’ that’s not so clear cut all of a sudden.

So Is everyone still agreed LON is stooopid for wanting to actually add to the discussion about consent?

I think stooopid in the way she goes about it outside of her fictional works

But it’s actually quite a worthwhile discussion and she’s an active part of that discussion. Might be a bit difficult to admit that after all the guff spouted about her in this thread

Yeah_Right

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Oh no. I think you’ve sarcastically described a way it doesn’t happen, then assumed you’ve described exactly how it happens.

I don’t have any confidence you know what you’re talking about.

I'm talking about consent classes for adults. They're BS. Its simple: if you have permission then go for it. If you don't have permission, stop. Any adult that can't understand that is a asshole.

Now if you are talking consent classes as part of a comprehensive sex education program that should begin in primary school, then yes that's a good thing.

Omackeral

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

So Is everyone still agreed LON is stooopid for wanting to actually add to the discussion about consent?

In her own words, we have a rape culture here in Ireland. I wouldn't want my children being educated or taking pointers from someone who holds that opinion.

RabbleRouser2k

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

But it’s actually quite a worthwhile discussion and she’s an active part of that discussion. Might be a bit difficult to admit that after all the guff spouted about her in this thread

Active part of the discussion...or using certain events to further her own agenda more like. Screaming in a cottage because of some BS claim about a facebook page sharing nudes...that was found to not exist after a thorough investigation.

Using the Belfast case to promote her book after a verdict was reached, in a country with a judicial system that's nothing like the republic.
Screaming about 'privilege' then ignoring incidents where women are targeted or violently and horrifically raped by people who don't 'fit her agenda'...

Lon isn't a part of 'the discussion'-O'Neill is using horrific events to further her profile, sell her wares, and increase her bank balance.

Profiteering from ideological propaganda, while actually ignoring genuine issues. She's a misery merchant.

Zulu

Sigh.
Another thread ruined.

Outlaw Pete

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

It’s “all about inference’ that’s not so clear cut all of a sudden.

What are you on about "all of a sudden". It's been discussed to death on the site.

The last LON thread just one example.

Also, the only ones saying it's "clear cut" are those that say it's rape if a verbal Yes hasn't been received.

So Is everyone still agreed LON is stooopid for wanting to actually add to the discussion about consent?

You're making a strawman argument. Nobody said she was stoopid for wanting to discuss consent. What people take issue with is her trying to push the notion that we live in a rape culture.

Zulu

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Nobody said she was stoopid for wanting to discuss consent. ..

He knows dude. He knows.

RabbleRouser2k

Zulu wrote: »

Sigh.
Another thread ruined.

I'm sorry if I contributed to it.

El_Duderino 09

Yeah_Right wrote: »

I'm talking about consent classes for adults. They're BS. Its simple: if you have permission then go for it. If you don't have permission, stop. Any adult that can't understand that is a asshole.

Now if you are talking consent classes as part of a comprehensive sex education program that should begin in primary school, then yes that's a good thing.

Hold your horses. ‘ If you don't have permission, stop. Any adult that can't understand that is a asshole’ how exactly do you know if you have permission or not?

The most explicit way is to simply check verbally. The other poster said it’s ‘all about inference’ and body language. Some people don’t get inference and body language it’s a common symptom of autism spectrum disorders. Are those people assholes in you opinion?

I am talking about consent classes for children, but I also think it’s important for adults to discuss it. Why on earth would anyone say it’s a good idea for children to learn about it but not a good idea for adults to discuss it?

I suppose this is all just ‘fluffy language’ since you summed it all up in your pithy post earlier.

El_Duderino 09

Zulu wrote: »

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Nobody said she was stoopid for wanting to discuss consent. ..

He knows dude. He knows.

How’s ignoring me going for you? You just can’t quit me Zulu. Ha ha.

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Yeah_Right

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Hold your horses. ‘ If you don't have permission, stop. Any adult that can't understand that is a asshole’ how exactly do you know if you have permission or not?

I believe the best way is to Tweet LON. Ask her if you have permission.

El_Duderino 09

RabbleRouser2k wrote: »

I'm sorry if I contributed to it.

That’s ok tap out any time you need to

But lots of other people aren’t finished talking about it. LON isn’t sorry she’s contributing to it and she probably going to continue contributing to it. If men don’t contribute to the discussion then that’s fine. The discussion will go on regardless, tings will change and men will wonder why the world is changing and they don’t understand it.

Naturally, he choice is yours.

givyjoe

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

But it’s actually quite a worthwhile discussion and she’s an active part of that discussion. Might be a bit difficult to admit that after all the guff spouted about her in this thread

Ha, you're one to talk about guff. You spray your nonsense over every single thread you're in.

El_Duderino 09

Yeah_Right wrote: »

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Hold your horses. ‘ If you don't have permission, stop. Any adult that can't understand that is a asshole’ how exactly do you know if you have permission or not?

I believe the best way is to Tweet LON. Ask her if you have permission.

That’s grand. There’s a real discussion about this stuff happening out there. You seem to think you have it all sussed to the extent that you only seem to discuss it in sarcasm. As I said earlier, I don’t have any confidence that you have a clue what you’re talking about.

retro:electro

I just got invited to see this play at the weekend. My friend is involved in the production. May even get to meet the lovely lady herself :pac:
I’m thinking of excuses as we speak.

El_Duderino 09

givyjoe wrote: »

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

But it’s actually quite a worthwhile discussion and she’s an active part of that discussion. Might be a bit difficult to admit that after all the guff spouted about her in this thread

Ha, you're one to talk about guff. You spray your nonsense over every single thread you're in.

It’s just a chat. Geez. Take it easy.

You don’t have to take party if you don’t have anything to contribute. If you have something to contribute, it might be interesting to hear it.

RabbleRouser2k

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

That’s ok tap out any time you need to

But lots of other people aren’t finished talking about it. LON isn’t sorry she’s contributing to it and she probably going to continue contributing to it. If men don’t contribute to the discussion then that’s fine. The discussion will go on regardless, tings will change and men will wonder why the world is changing and they don’t understand it.

Naturally, he choice is yours.

I was responding to Zulu-I'm not tapping out.

retro:electro

retro:electro wrote: »

I just got invited to see this play at the weekend. My friend is involved in the production. May even get to meet the lovely lady herself :pac:
I’m thinking of excuses as we speak.

would be amusing to see how insufferable she is...heard stories of her being difficult

Outlaw Pete

retro:electro wrote: »

I just got invited to see this play at the weekend. My friend is involved in the production. May even get to meet the lovely lady herself :pac:
I’m thinking of excuses as we speak.

Periscope it!





I mean the LON meeting, not the play :P

RabbleRouser2k

Dakota Brave Carrot wrote: »

would be amusing to see how insufferable she is...heard stories of her being difficult

Yeah, you can get the inside scoop.

And of course she can difficult-her mam tried to feed her her mushy peas at the weekend. She threw a right strop, pulled off the bib-threw her plastic bowl on the ground...

Apparently airplane's trigger her.

El_Duderino 09

retro:electro wrote: »

I just got invited to see this play at the weekend. My friend is involved in the production. May even get to meet the lovely lady herself :pac:
I’m thinking of excuses as we speak.

Oh no. Go and report back! The regulars will dine out on a bad review for weeks!

givyjoe

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

It’s just a chat. Geez. Take it easy.

You don’t have to take party if you don’t have anything to contribute. If you have something to contribute, it might be interesting to hear it.

Despite your endless pontificating, you'd be hard pressed to find anyone credible who believes your posts contribute anything. Apologies if I hurt your feelings.

El_Duderino 09

RabbleRouser2k wrote: »

I was responding to Zulu-I'm not tapping out.

Delighted to hear it. The conversation is happening whether or not men take an active part. Better that men stay engaged and shape the discussion

El_Duderino 09

givyjoe wrote: »

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

It’s just a chat. Geez. Take it easy.

You don’t have to take party if you don’t have anything to contribute. If you have something to contribute, it might be interesting to hear it.

Despite your endless pontificating, you'd be hard pressed to find anyone credible who believes your posts contribute anything. Apologies if I hurt your feelings.

Thanks brah. No hurt feelings. Like I said, if you have something to contribute it might be interesting to hear it. If you can’t contribute, feel free to lob an insult or 2 and retreat.

It’s actually an interesting topic of discussion.

Owryan

retro:electro wrote: »

I just got invited to see this play at the weekend. My friend is involved in the production. May even get to meet the lovely lady herself :pac:
I’m thinking of excuses as we speak.

take one for the team and go. if you do meet her ask does she not feel anyway guilty having her mother run around after her