Do you check your partner's phone?

appledrop

Ok so tonight on I'm a celebrity get me out of here the question put to the camp was 'Do more men or women check their partners phone' so straight away all the camp said women + I said the same but the answer was men. Now as I women I just cant believe this so I need you all here to help me out + answer the poll to see what result we get!

me_irl

No. I'm not an insecure controlling cúnt (contrary to popular opinion).

Snotty

I'm long enough married, no one bothers to check my phone and I don't check the wife's either.

dudara

The clue is in the phrase "partner's phone", i.e. not my phone. So no, I don't.

storker

No. And as far as I can tell, she doesn't check mine. We do have each other's phone unlock codes, though, but that's for convenience.

mad muffin

I secretly set up find my friends on her phone. That way she never surprises me when she comes back home.

LadyMacBeth_

I have checked in the past when I had reason to suspect cheating and my suspicions were confirmed. I wouldn't check my partner's phone unless I had very good reason to though.

appledrop

Thanks for the replies so far. I know a lot of people don't check each other's phones but like those on programme I automaticial assumed that women check more than men so just want to see from poll here if this is true?

Permabear

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Hector Bellend

No. Unless she's downloaded some squirt porn.

Atlantic Dawn

If you have to your relationship is a sham.

Sky King

Hector Bellend wrote: »

No. Unless she's downloaded some squirt porn.

Not cool. They prefer to be called dwarves dude.

Tim Robbins

Sky King wrote: »

Not cool. They prefer to be called dwarves dude.

No. Would prefer they have some privacy.

branie2

No, and I don't have a girlfriend either.

Hector Bellend

Sky King wrote: »

Not cool. They prefer to be called dwarves dude.

No. Its lady juice

Pherekydes

Only when she asks me to.

We have no* secrets.








*Except her credit card bill.

Charlie19

Set your phone to take photo of the person who unlocks it. Think it's called catch the snoop.

yogi37

Was watching celebrity jungle tonight too and myself and wife both said more women would check straight away. Suprising result I thought. Was pretty unanimous with the celebs too.

Your Face

I do, but only to read my own texts.

Speedwell

Atlantic Dawn wrote: »

If you have to your relationship is a sham.

If you have to, your partner has made the relationship a sham. Nobody wants to be anxious and suspicious if there exists an option to be happy and secure.

No, but then again I don't want to scroll through messages about borrowing dresses, kids and work gossip.

WHIP IT!

Speedwell wrote:

If you have to, your partner has made the relationship a sham. Nobody wants to be anxious and suspicious if there exists an option to be happy and secure.

Yes, because nobody in history has ever been "anxious and suspicious" for no reason... use your head

notsoyoungwan

I'm single, but have never done this to any bf I've had and I would dump anyone who did it to me. What an invasion of privacy, both mine and that of those who I'm in contact with, and what a display of distrust.

Estrellita

No I have not, nor would I. Similar to my own, it would probably make for a boring snoop. I trust him completely.

Generally speaking - if one does have something to hide, or the other is suspicious enough to snoop through a phone, then your relationship is not in a great place anyway. I don't envy anyone that feels the need to 'check up' on the other. It poignantly indicates that the trust has gone from the relationship, regardless of what is found or not found.

CalamariFritti

No. Jealousy isn't worth it. Chances are by the time you have actual reason to be jealous your 'battle' is already lost, you just don't know it yet. Love can't be caged or trapped. Whatever happens happens. So whats the point of tying yourself up in knots? You'd only ruin the good time you may get to have.

CarrickMcJoe

yogi37 wrote: »

Was watching celebrity jungle tonight too and myself and wife both said more women would check straight away. Suprising result I thought. Was pretty unanimous with the celebs too.

Even the results here confirm it ....

We thought the same as you..

con___manx1

No point n even checking there phone if they have snap chat its the cheaters app. Dirty pictures and everything just vanish afyer a few seconds.

professore

The results here don't confirm it. There are clearly way more men than women voting on this poll. If you look at the ratios of each group it looks about equal. 4/13 women check and 20/60 of men check.

professore

Also very suspicious about surveys where they ask people stuff like this as if it's something "bad" people lie about it even on surveys. You know the type, I would NEVER cheat meanwhile they are furiously swiping on Tinder when their partner is out of the room.

professore

Speedwell wrote: »

Atlantic Dawn wrote: »

If you have to your relationship is a sham.

If you have to, your partner has made the relationship a sham. Nobody wants to be anxious and suspicious if there exists an option to be happy and secure.

I know a married couple where the husband has to surrender his phone for random inspection at any time of the day or night. To the best of my knowledge he has never even hinted at cheating and is a loyal husband and father who works hard for his family. Then again who knows ... I did find out that her mother cheated with various men on her dad so maybe it's insecurity on her part?

peckerhead

You guys are allowed by your wives to have phones?

Speedwell

professore wrote: »

I know a married couple where the husband has to surrender his phone for random inspection at any time of the day or night. To the best of my knowledge he has never even hinted at cheating and is a loyal husband and father who works hard for his family. Then again who knows ... I did find out that her mother cheated with various men on her dad so maybe it's insecurity on her part?

Well, in this case she doesn't have to. (Assuming he really hasn't given her any reason. It's amazing what you find out about the nicest people when they break up. Totally not saying any of it is true in this case.)

neonsofa

professore wrote: »

I know a married couple where the husband has to surrender his phone for random inspection at any time of the day or night. To the best of my knowledge he has never even hinted at cheating and is a loyal husband and father who works hard for his family. Then again who knows ... I did find out that her mother cheated with various men on her dad so maybe it's insecurity on her part?

This makes no sense. If he knows she will be checking at random all he has to do is ensure that any incriminating texts and calls are deleted immediately afterwards. Not saying there are any but hypothetically. Most people "snoop" so that the partner is unaware and has no time to do that.

I've never done it. An ex has done with my phone before but he was abusive and controlling generally so it was not surprising.

riffmongous

I've never done it but I wouldn't be bothered by an odd curiosity gawk neither, regular snooping would put an end to things though

0ph0rce0

professore wrote: »

I know a married couple where the husband has to surrender his phone for random inspection at any time of the day or night. To the best of my knowledge he has never even hinted at cheating and is a loyal husband and father who works hard for his family. Then again who knows ... I did find out that her mother cheated with various men on her dad so maybe it's insecurity on her part?

I know a guy like this, same thing as above but he also has to take calls at 9am, 10:30am, 2pm & 4pm while at work to prove he's there. If not she arrives at the job looking for him.

He's not allowed out anywhere after work unless she's with him, and he's not allowed to handle any money or bank/credit card even though he makes the money for the family.


Poor ****er never has anything while she blows the cash on whatever she wants, they aren't poor so no need to scrimp, he's the nicest bloke you'll ever meet and is 100% dedicated to the woman but yet she still makes his life hell. For some reason he doesn't see it but the guy is in his 50's and its ****ing embarrassing.

Vojera

LadyMacBeth_ wrote: »

I have checked in the past when I had reason to suspect cheating and my suspicions were confirmed. I wouldn't check my partner's phone unless I had very good reason to though.

Same. I had suspicions before and they were confirmed. I'd never go through my wife's phone now, though. I have no reason to.

Hoboo

Only thing the poll shows......

Men tell the truth, women are liars!

meeeeh

Not intentionally. But I am sometimes asked to mind the phone and answer the calls or he would ask me to see whose text or call it is if I am sitting closer to the phone. It's not unusual for oh to have 60 calls by lunchtime and I certainly have no desire to search through that. I don't even know the password at the moment.

leggo

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

I know a guy like this, same thing as above but he also has to take calls at 9am, 10:30am, 2pm & 4pm while at work to prove he's there. If not she arrives at the job looking for him.

He's not allowed out anywhere after work unless she's with him, and he's not allowed to handle any money or bank/credit card even though he makes the money for the family.


Poor ****er never has anything while she blows the cash on whatever she wants, they aren't poor so no need to scrimp, he's the nicest bloke you'll ever meet and is 100% dedicated to the woman but yet she still makes his life hell. For some reason he doesn't see it but the guy is in his 50's and its ****ing embarrassing.

The money thing in particular would make me think there's a reason for that. I know a married couple were the guy had to get pocket money in cash from his missus and had no access to either his own or the joint account, reason being he was a recovering gambling addict who'd blown thousands of their savings. This guy you speak of isn't likely admit this to his work colleagues/mates but there's probably a reason why.

As for the question, no I've never checked any partner's phone. If you're suspicious enough to do so, the trust is gone and the relationship is already over bar the screaming anyway, regardless of what you find or don't find.

Atlantic Dawn

professore wrote: »

I know a married couple where the husband has to surrender his phone for random inspection at any time of the day or night. To the best of my knowledge he has never even hinted at cheating and is a loyal husband and father who works hard for his family. Then again who knows ... I did find out that her mother cheated with various men on her dad so maybe it's insecurity on her part?

Whats stopping him having a burner phone for his bit on thr side?

Atlantic Dawn

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

I know a guy like this, same thing as above but he also has to take calls at 9am, 10:30am, 2pm & 4pm while at work to prove he's there. If not she arrives at the job looking for him.

He's not allowed out anywhere after work unless she's with him, and he's not allowed to handle any money or bank/credit card even though he makes the money for the family.


Poor ****er never has anything while she blows the cash on whatever she wants, they aren't poor so no need to scrimp, he's the nicest bloke you'll ever meet and is 100% dedicated to the woman but yet she still makes his life hell. For some reason he doesn't see it but the guy is in his 50's and its ****ing embarrassing.

If there's no kids in this relationship the guy is a fool for staying with her.

corner of hells

Atlantic Dawn wrote: »

professore wrote: »

I know a married couple where the husband has to surrender his phone for random inspection at any time of the day or night. To the best of my knowledge he has never even hinted at cheating and is a loyal husband and father who works hard for his family. Then again who knows ... I did find out that her mother cheated with various men on her dad so maybe it's insecurity on her part?

Whats stopping him having a burner phone for his bit on thr side?

Used to be called a dog phone on the building sites years ago.

leggo

That reminds me of a funny story actually: once I was staying in an ex's house (obviously she was the girlfriend at the time). She was out for a work thing with her colleagues and I stayed in and watched the football until she came home. She was running pretty late and I had work the next day so I turn over to go to sleep when I crack my head against something under her pillow. I think "WTF?!" and find an old phone there. My heart starts pounding, why was she hiding a phone? I have strong beliefs about checking phones so I didn't wanna go through it (it was switched off but I would've probably known her password, she uses the same for everything and we'd have been open about that stuff so she'd have known mine too), but I couldn't not do something about a secret phone either. The relationship was as good as over upon finding this, it was just a case of how I dealt with it.

My first instinct was to just leave, block her from everything and not look back. That'd be bad ass, but I knew I wouldn't be able to follow it through and would need closure. So I thought about taking the phone on her, hiding it in my bag and taking it home if it came to it. If she discovered it was missing while I was still there and had to ask me where it was, then I could get an instant confession out of her while she's had a few drinks and was caught on the hop! But if she didn't then I could act normal until she realised and get it that way. Solid plan in theory but there's too many variables...whoever it was she was contacting on the secret phone, she likely had their number in her current phone, and if she lied enough to need a secret phone then she wasn't going to fess up that easily.

So I settled on leaving it out on her side of the bed so she'd see it as soon she pulled the duvet back and I'm right there. She's caught on the hop, there's no two ways that I haven't seen the phone, she'll instantly have to explain and even if she was lying, I'd know straight away and that was all the evidence and closure I'd need. So I left it there and played the waiting game.

The annoying thing about the waiting game is the waiting part. By the time she came home, I was kinda over the whole thing and just wanted sleep. Even when she came home, she went in to make a sandwich and get water, then went to use the bathroom. She took for-****ing-ever like!

Eventually she comes in and shuffles around quietly trying not to 'wake' me. Then she pulls back the duvet and I, as planned, magically reveal myself to be awake to give her no time to try hide the phone.

She is completely unmoved by the phone being in the middle of the bed.

"Your phone is there," I say, trying to nudge her in the direction so we can get moving on this whole break up business.

"What? That?" she says, calm as you like. Uh-oh.

"Yeah you must've forgot to hide it..." I say, my confidence shrinking by the second with how calm she is. She bursts out laughing. "That's (her son's) toy phone. He uses it to call the police when someone is being bold. It hasn't worked in years, did you try turn it on?"

Cue multiple instant flashbacks in my brain to her son 'calling the police' on those who had slighted him in the past. Yeah I'm 100% wrong. I'm against the ropes here, my legs are jelly.

"No...I...trust you?"

"Goodnight (leggo)."

_Brian

No never.

We do have access to each other’s lock code, it’s the same actually but it’s just to check emails etc.

0ph0rce0

leggo wrote: »

The money thing in particular would make me think there's a reason for that. I know a married couple were the guy had to get pocket money in cash from his missus and had no access to either his own or the joint account, reason being he was a recovering gambling addict who'd blown thousands of their savings. This guy you speak of isn't likely admit this to his work colleagues/mates but there's probably a reason why.

As for the question, no I've never checked any partner's phone. If you're suspicious enough to do so, the trust is gone and the relationship is already over bar the screaming anyway, regardless of what you find or don't find.

Known him since he met this woman.

Gambling haha with what? He's never been allowed money since day one.

Why not, he tells us he has to check in 4 to 5 times a day, We see and hear it every day, We can see her storming the building when he doesn't answer.

Like I said he has nothing to hide but yet defends her to the hilt.

Shes a horrible ****, But he's the bigger fool.

leggo

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

Known him since he met this woman.

Gambling haha with what? He's never been allowed money since day one.

Why not, he tells us he has to check in 4 to 5 times a day, We see and hear it every day, We can see here storming the building when he doesn't answer.

Like I said he has nothing to hide but yet defends her to the hilt.

Shes a horrible ****, But he's the bigger fool.

She could absolutely just be a psycho. It just seems so specific that it didn't happen from nowhere, and you never know what's going on behind closed doors in a relationship. Plus addicts would be pretty good about covering their tracks, it'd likely be preferable to him for his work colleagues to think he's with a crazy person than to admit he'd blown thousands on horses and/or hookers.

kingbhome

That erotic feeling when you check your wifes phone without her knowing and you find txts from her other lover, HEAVEN. YOu should jump over to the dark side and change your mindset if you find your wife at it. You only live once, so enjoy it while your here!! Youll be pleasantly surprised at how your life will change fr the better if you just conform to the cuckold experience!

















cough, cough.....so ive been told

demanufactured

I don't even check my own phone... Let alone the wife's.

Fr_Dougal

Had an ex check my phone after we had broken up and gotten back together. It didn’t turn out well!

Estrellita

professore wrote: »

I know a married couple where the husband has to surrender his phone for random inspection at any time of the day or night. To the best of my knowledge he has never even hinted at cheating and is a loyal husband and father who works hard for his family. Then again who knows ... I did find out that her mother cheated with various men on her dad so maybe it's insecurity on her part?

If that were in any way true, he has to tell her the success of their marriage hangs in the balance until she resolves her trust issues and must attend counseling. Whatever her Mother has done is not her husband's crimes. She has to sort out HER problems, and he needs to take his genitals out her handbag. That sounds like a prison sentence, not a marriage.

Sono

No, I trust my wife and she trusts me and that is that.