Are you a people person?

NollagShona

I can imagine the response of most on boards, like myself is, no.

I came to realise I’m not a social butterfly, people in the main irritate the shyte out of me. I can’t do small talk and can’t do that lad banter shtick

So are you a people person, or more comfortable in your own company?

If you can’t pick a side, this really isn’t the thread for you

Sprog 4

I don't think an introvert is the opposite of a people person. A people person to me implies an element of faked or forced charm. A person can be genuine, or quiet, or even cynical, yet popular.

Ken.

I can walk in to a room of strangers and in half an hour I'll know everyone. The missus on the other hand would happily spend the rest of her life talking to about 5 people and the cat.





After 13 years still not sure if I make the 5.

Tom Mann Centuria

My job is 100% people related (healthcare) and when I'm in work, I try to be as good a people person as I can, and think I do quite a good job of it.

Outside of work I am really terrible with people, I actually don't like answering the phone or the door, I dont like going out and if I have to, I avoid talking to people if at all possible, I don't really have any friends. Lots of work colleagues who are great but I don't have any of their name's in my phone. I'm very happy with that.

Lorelli!

Sometimes small talk can be awkward and annoying but in general I enjoy it. It's good for you.

Dakota Dan

Conspectus wrote: »

I can walk in to a room of strangers and in half an hour I'll know everyone. The missus on the other hand would happily spend the rest of her life talking to about 5 people and the cat.





After 13 years still not sure if I make the 5.

What size room? 2x4?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

NollagShona wrote: »

I can imagine the response of most on boards, like myself is, no.

I came to realise I’m not a social butterfly, people in the main irritate the shyte out of me. I can’t do small talk and can’t do that lad banter shtick

So are you a people person, or more comfortable in your own company?

If you can’t pick a side, this really isn’t the thread for you

Unfortunately you won't like my reply.

I certainly am comfortable with my own company and really can enjoy being on my own but I also enjoy interacting with people. I can do the small talk and equally enjoy a decent deep discussion with people. "Lad banter" I don't get but never really had to ever endure it.
I enjoy people and enjoy hearing their opinions in the real world. Online they can be annoying, as many people on forums express opinions they would never voice in person.

retro:electro

I have a limited social battery. The Christmas season has almost depleted it. I love being around people but in all honestly I find it quite exhausting and tbh I love nothing more than being home in my own company, closing the door on the outer world with the tv on and the dog beside me alone with my own thoughts.

OldMrBrennan83

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TheFarrier

I'm not a people person.

Not that I don't want to to talk to people, but I struggle massively with small talk, I can do a bit of chit chat but for the mort part if I don't have anything in particular to talk to someone about then I don't have much to say.

Crippling shyness/constantly worrying what people are thinking about me in social situations is a lot of it, but I am getting a lot better at managing that.

Arnold Layne

I tend not to make an effort at instigating a conversation with strangers. But once I start talking I come out of my shell and then can't stop. My OH reckons I'm a freak.

NollagShona

Sylvia Petite Tailpipe wrote: »

Unfortunately you won't like my reply.

I certainly am comfortable with my own company and really can enjoy being on my own but I also enjoy interacting with people. I can do the small talk and equally enjoy a decent deep discussion with people. "Lad banter" I don't get but never really had to ever endure it.
I enjoy people and enjoy hearing their opinions in the real world. Online they can be annoying, as many people on forums express opinions they would never voice in person.

Aren’t you just a little trooper!

Wanderer2010

100% No. I do find people and the way they behave, whether you are a "good" or a "bad" person, fascinating but the every day small talk and interaction with people I consider a necessary evil to get money (from my job etc) but if I had to spend a few hours meeting new people or getting to know new people, id rather be on my own. I need a lot of me time to recover from the exhaustion of other people. Its often not even personal, its just the way I'm built.

EPAndlee

I'll only talk to a stranger with a dog just so I can rub the dog but other than that I'll avoid human contact

No..
What's the opposite of a people person?..
I'm that..

Donald Trump

I am the most loved president in the history of the world

10 billion attended my inauguration

I must be doing something right

Donald Trump

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What's the opposite of a people person?..

A thundering cunt??

NollagShona

anna080 wrote: »

I have a limited social battery. The Christmas season has almost depleted it. I love being around people but in all honestly I find it quite exhausting and tbh I love nothing more than being home in my own company, closing the door on the outer world with the tv on and the dog beside me alone with my own thoughts.

This. This is me. (Save cat for dog)

Wanderer2010

Arnold Layne wrote: »

I tend not to make an effort at instigating a conversation with strangers. But once I start talking I come out of my shell and then can't stop. My OH reckons I'm a freak.

But your social skills cant be too bad if you have an other half?

Not picking on you in particular but so many threads where people say I suffer so bad from anxiety I cant leave the house, I hate socialising, I panic around other people then they throw in the bombshell "My other half and I......my girlfriend, my boyfriend etc". I'm thinking fcuk me, they got a partner even with all these issues they have and yet people out there are throwing everything they have at meeting they right person and they cant even get out of the stalls. Its odd.

AnneFrank

NollagShona wrote: »

I can imagine the response of most on boards, like myself is, no.

I came to realise I’m not a social butterfly, people in the main irritate the shyte out of me. I can’t do small talk and can’t do that lad banter shtick

So are you a people person, or more comfortable in your own company?

If you can’t pick a side, this really isn’t the thread for you

I can be a peoples person but it wears me out, I feel like it's an act, much prefer my own company but it's a lonely life

NollagShona

Wanderer2010 wrote: »

But your social skills cant be too bad if you have an other half?

Not picking on you in particular but so many threads where people say I suffer so bad from anxiety I cant leave the house, I hate socialising, I panic around other people then they throw in the bombshell "My other half and I......my girlfriend, my boyfriend etc". I'm thinking fcuk me, they got a partner even with all these issues they have and yet people out there are throwing everything they have at meeting they right person and they cant even get out of the stalls. Its odd.

Anxiety manifests in many different forms

OldMrBrennan83

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r93kaey5p2izun

Tom Mann Centuria wrote: »

My job is 100% people related (healthcare) and when I'm in work, I try to be as good a people person as I can, and think I do quite a good job of it.

Outside of work I am really terrible with people, I actually don't like answering the phone or the door, I dont like going out and if I have to, I avoid talking to people if at all possible, I don't really have any friends. Lots of work colleagues who are great but I don't have anything of their name's in my phone. I'm very happy with that.

Same. Job is 100% people focused and I love that. But outside that I choose to have little to no contact with people. I'm considered chatty and friendly at work. People who know me personally wouldn't recognise that description of me!

I'm not sure if I changed to a more solitary job whether I would have more energy for people in my personal life, or if I would just become even more solitary than I already am. Currently I have long holidays which I spend mostly alone, but will soon be changing to another people focused job but with much less time off. I hope I won't burn out from constant interaction!

Donald Trump

Donald Trump wrote: »

A thundering cunt??

harsh..

No F**k people

donegaLroad

Im a social animal, I know everyone whether I like it or not. I am very quick to get to know people, and within 2 minutes of talking to someone from Ireland, I can find out people we know in common, without fail.

NollagShona

donegaLroad wrote: »

Im a social animal, I know everyone whether I like it or not. I am very quick to get to know people, and within 2 minutes of talking to someone from Ireland, I can find out people we know in common, without fail.

I find this most trying. Please Fcuk off. I don’t care we’re both born on the same land mass

Cork Lass

NollagShona wrote: »

I find this most trying. Please Fcuk off. I don’t care we’re both born on the same land mass

Is there really a need for such aggression?

NollagShona

Cork Lass wrote: »

Is there really a need for such aggression?

Not the poster specifically- just those people that come up to you at parties - go away

OldMrBrennan83

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tomwaterford

No....I really want to be better at this


A friend of mine was at a speed dating event a few weeks and telling me about it....she spoke to 14 people etc at it


And it struck me that between shopping etc and everything....I probably havnt spoken to 14 people in the last 6 months....no mind conversations

FFred

I thrive on misanthropy.

Lia_lia

My current job involves talking to people all day and I have experience working in sales jobs so I’m comfortable talking to people and can do “small talk” just fine. But I’m not the most sociable. Wouldn’t go out a whole lot and I have a very small number of friends. At the same time I crack up if I’m at home for too long. But that’s more to do with “doing things” than be sociable.

Cork Lass

Patww79 wrote: »

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When I see some keyboard warriors come on here being unnecessarily aggressive it makes me wonder what’s going on in their lives that makes them so miserable.

OldMrBrennan83

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Patww79

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I can't stand most people, but because my job means I must be diplomatic, I can mingle with the best of them and drop witticisms and charm and recall when their birthday was, ask them how their sick mother is and whether they got round to worming the cat like they mentioned 6 months before.

Does that make me a people person? In the true meaning of that word, yes. Because it is faked bs, which is what being a people person is all about. But it's not in any sense genuine. I'm comfortable and confident with people...but it's an act, and I'm cynical enough to know what it is. There is no real warmth of friendship there, except amongst a very small number of real friends.

BuboBubo

Not a people person, but I'm a cat/dog person - love my pets. I currently have 2 cats sitting on me and a dog at my feet. Bliss

paddylonglegs

Lia_lia wrote: »

My current job involves talking to people all day and I have experience working in sales jobs so I’m comfortable talking to people and can do “small talk” just fine. But I’m not the most sociable. Wouldn’t go out a whole lot and I have a very small number of friends. At the same time I crack up if I’m at home for too long. But that’s more to do with “doing things” than be sociable.

Do you think you were always able to "chat" or did you develop and get better at it because of the role you were in?

Next year I will be changing role in my career, but am currently sh1tting it as I will need to talk (and small talk) to people a lot. My job literally depends on it.

Over the last couple of years, I have gotten more anxious about talking to people, specifically men, as I can't do the whole bloke chit chat about sport etc. Funnily enough, I'm much more comfortable talking to women (not in a flirty way). I think the difficulty I have with small talk is how disingenuous it all sounds, thus making me feel like a fraud. But if I click with someone on a subject we both enjoy then I generally have a good repore with them

Im genuinely curious, is there a course out there that can help with talkin fin this situation, or is it just a case of getting stuck in and talking for ireland?

OldMrBrennan83

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splinter65

My husband is more or less the unelected mayor of the town we live in despite being a blow in.
I’m just a contrary old bitch who can’t stand anyone .

NollagShona

Cork Lass wrote: »

When I see some keyboard warriors come on here being unnecessarily aggressive it makes me wonder what’s going on in their lives that makes them so miserable.

being on boards at Chrismastime would be a big clue

donegaLroad

NollagShona wrote: »

Not the poster specifically- just those people that come up to you at parties - go away

Don't worry, I can sense the people who prefer not to engage, I know when to stay away.

Dakota Dan

I thought social media killed the people person with everyone glued to their phones.

NollagShona

I was told I come across as hostile and confrontational - wtf would they know! Im not Mother Teresa but I'm not a pushover either!

NollagShona

donegaLroad wrote: »

Don't worry, I can sense the people who prefer not to engage, I know when to stay away.

teach others.

OldMrBrennan83

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Clair4

I hate people and even more so as i get older

NollagShona

Patww79 wrote: »

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Boards. The bastion of the outcasts and misfits

Cork Lass

NollagShona wrote: »

being on boards at Chrismastime would be a big clue

Lots of very happy and pleasant people on boards every day of the year including Christmas.

NollagShona

Cork Lass wrote: »

Lots of very happy and pleasant people on boards every day of the year including Christmas.

Sure jan