Who is the most negative person you know?

nigel_wilson

Saw a thread on Reddit about psychiatrists and therapist bring asked about the most negative patient they've had.

Wonder from a non-psychiatric POV (and maybe if you're in the mental health field), who is the most negative person your subject to? Donald Trump excluded.

KERSPLAT!

Thankfully I know very few negative people. It's a horrible trait, constant negativity.

Wouldn't know anyone famous well enough to know how negative they are!

Arghus

I don't know many relentlessly negative people. I know people who are a bit mordant or cynical, but there's usually a suppressed romantic in their hearts. Really negative people are just too much to take after a while and a lot of their schtick is rooted in insecurity or deep-seated self loathing: can't hack being around that and nothing but that.

begbysback

-R2D2

Donald Trump

Steve Bannon

What a cunt

Quote that in a 'buke' ya prick

Mr Electron

Donald Trump

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-R2D2

Zaph

It's a tie between a couple of people I work with. If you don't like working for the company so much then fcuk off and leave instead of dragging everyone else down with you as you hang on in the futile hope that you'll get a pay off to leave.

worded

I’ve such low self esteem that when I’m making love I Imagine I’m someone else

Lia_lia

Zaph wrote: »

It's a tie between a couple of people I work with. If you don't like working for the company so much then fcuk off and leave instead of dragging everyone else down with you as you hang on in the futile hope that you'll get a pay off to leave.

Sounds like a few people in my workplace. Actually a lot of people I work with moan about everything. It’s horrible to be around. If only they knew how lucky they had it.

Your Face

I've known quite a few and cut them off.

Unfortunately, its harder to avoid similar people at work.
There's a handful of very negative people at work who are poison.

worded

The glass is twice the size it needs to be! It’s not half full or empty

The positive power of negative thinking

http://lifehacker.com/the-positive-power-of-negative-thinking-1459381519

worded

Today was the first day of my striving to be more positive
It could have been better

_Dara_

Having a terminal illness has really highlighted to me how much some people love to wallow and practically invent things to complain about. They don’t know they’re born. “What’s that, you have a mild cold? How horrendous! Oh, by the way, my lower spine has partially crumbled.”

worded

I’ve told a few jokes there but serious now ...

I did a few CVs for people in the recession for free. Took two hours per person to do right (inc mock interview and pep talk) and was exhausting but the follow ups “I got a job” was lovely and made it worth while.

My idea was to use a passport photo top right and blue tinted paper to stand out.

Anyway I met someone via a friend who was down on their luck unemployed and I explained that I’ve done this for 10 people and every single person has got jobs ...

“I might be the first not to get a job” he said

Fcuk me. He wanted to jinx my run of good luck. I can’t remember if I did or didn’t do one for him. What an attitude

Lorelli!

I don't know that many really negative people. I do know one woman where it's always the glass is half empty. Its not nasty or mean spirited though. It's just how she expresses herself I think. It can be draining to be around though.

tritriagain

The mother in law. She'll have my wife old before her time. I don't let her away with it anymore. Challenge her on everything.

erica74

The muppet I share an office with. She hates the work, hates me, hates the workplace, hates the customers, hates her 45 minute commute... I wish she would just leave. The minute she arrives in the morning, she starts whinging about everything and a veil of black falls over the office until she leaves.
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not Mary Poppins but if I hated a job that much, I'd just leave.

whoopsadoodles

_Dara_ wrote: »

They don’t know they’re born. “What’s that, you have a mild cold? How horrendous! Oh, by the way, my lower spine has partially crumbled.”

As I said to someone the other day who is going through a tough time, you can't never complain because someone is worse off. If that was the case, there'd only be one person on the planet entitled to have a moan. Yes, it's good to acknowledge that there are others worse off and that can be very helpful to get through bad times, but everyone's worries are different and they shouldn't all be smacked down because there's someone else worse.

Anyway I can't bear negativity. Really and truly it's the worst trait a person can have I feel.

The most negative person I know recently complained that they had lost a tenner on a horse....except they hadn't....the horse had won but they had forgotten to take the odds at time of bet so they would have won an extra tenner if they had. They actually stood there when the horse won saying "ffs, I lost a tenner on that".

Garrett81

I have also cut them out of my life, but I work with one particular negative person for a few years. At first I actually wanted to leave my job because it was so relentless, but in hindsight I’m so happy to have had this negative person in my life, because they have taught me so much about myself, how not to react and get sucked in to negative comments/gossip and how to just let things go, and to have an awareness about me not to let negativity effect me because it is highly contagious! Negative people have been my greatest teachers and they point out areas in my life where I haven’t grown yet. I know they have touched an area judging by my reaction to their negative comments.

Garrett81

_Dara_ wrote: »

Having a terminal illness has really highlighted to me how much some people love to wallow and practically invent things to complain about. They don’t know they’re born. “What’s that, you have a mild cold? How horrendous! Oh, by the way, my lower spine has partially crumbled.”

You are totally right , we don’t realise how precious our life is until something threatens to take it away. Best of luck pal !

Tigger

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQI0E1WCLMU

barneygumble99

Guy I work with, only 6 of us altogether on the shift, hates the company, hates the work, hates the people he meets as part of the job, runs down everything, comes in every day and does the bare minimum he has to do even though he could earn €200 extra a week by working a bit harder every day. Claims he does it to spite the company but can’t see the woods for the trees.

demanufactured

Me.

Da Boss

Ruth coppinger, never a good word to say , her ignorance baffles me

worded

erica74 wrote: »

The muppet I share an office with. She hates the work, hates me, hates the workplace, hates the customers, hates her 45 minute commute... I wish she would just leave. The minute she arrives in the morning, she starts whinging about everything and a veil of black falls over the office until she leaves.
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not Mary Poppins but if I hated a job that much, I'd just leave.

Reminds me about a whinge bag on a mates football team that was given a nick name and he protested in a whingey whinney way ....

“Whhhhhy do they caaaaaaall me whiiiiiiiney” in a whiney drawn out tone

Peatys

My cousin's wife. Best she's come out with so far is that she hates the smell of fresh cut grass!

GBX

Lad I work with is constantly negative. Disagrees with everything and starts most sentences with "the problem is ...".
Hard to listen to .

RhubarbCrumble

My parents, especially my mother. They seem to be stuck in some kind of 1950's timewarp and constantly complain about how everything is today. My mother is forever using the expression 'Well in my day ....".
As far as they're concerned, every silver lining has a cloud.

catrionanic

I can’t be friends with overwhelmingly negative people, so I’m not!

I’ve a friend who suffers badly with anxiety though, and when she’s having a bad time, she’s hard to talk to because literally EVERYTHING is doom and gloom, often dramatically so, and she shoots down anything positive you say. But she’s my friend and needs help so you’ve just gotta roll with it.

As a profession, I find teachers are very negative. Always whingeing about everything.

Clem H Fandango

A certain elderly poster here has to be right up there, an absolute miser who seems to get a kick from moaning on every single topic that arises.

TimeUp

nigel_wilson wrote: »

Saw a thread on Reddit about psychiatrists and therapist bring asked about the most negative patient  they've  had.

Wonder from a non-psychiatric POV (and maybe if you're in the mental health field), who is the most negative person your subject to? Donald Trump excluded.

Link to the reddit thread?

JCX BXC

Clare Daly.

Everything's an utter disgrace.

Dakota Dan

My wife, constantly complaining about trivial things.

irishman86

RhubarbCrumble wrote: »

My parents, especially my mother. They seem to be stuck in some kind of 1950's timewarp and constantly complain about how everything is today. My mother is forever using the expression 'Well in my day ....".
As far as they're concerned, every silver lining has a cloud.

I'm shocked it took this long for someone to bring up the mother.
My mother and older sister are clones of each other, everything is met with hate and negativity and like you said everything was better back in the day (even though my sisters day was the 90's)

Gaia Mother Earth

I used to be a very negative thinker but it was circumstantial. I went through two very difficult episodes in my life in close succession when I was younger and I got sucked into a very dark way of thinking.

I don't think I was necessarily outwardly negative though.

I think I have trained my mind to look on the brighter side of life now and try to think what is the best case scenario that could happen in whatever I go through in my life.

I do think it takes more energy to be negative than positive.

Gaia Mother Earth

catrionanic wrote: »

As a profession, I find teachers are very negative. Always whingeing about everything.

As a teacher, I actually agree with you about this. Teachers can be very moany people but I have found, teachers can get sucked into the culture of a staff. I have worked on lovely, positive staffs but then I have worked in the complete opposite.

I have been in staff rooms where the absolute life would be sucked out of you from listening to the negativity and Groundhog Day whinging about the same issues constantly.

Some teachers just don't see life from another point of view because they haven't lived or experienced true hardship.

doolox

I came from a family background steeped in negativity. My mother was always anxious and jealous of other things and people that my father was interested in such as business and football. She was always cutting them down and seeing them as threats to her relationship with him.

My two elder sisters suffer from depression and have been plagued with it all their lives. I was diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome 10 yrs ago at the age of 50 because my family were not able to get help for me earlier on in my life. It took my wife and daughter to see through to the reality of my condition and get me the help I needed to get rid of 50 years of negativity and fear which I had because of my family situation.

My father was as normal as it was possible to be and did his best to enable me to function as normally as possible in society. I was bullied at school and did not have a normal life until securing employment in a very good company which from day one had a zero tolerance policy towards bullying. Other employments I had were a struggle due to my inability to see through negative people and sort out lies, politics and agendas people often use to advance themselves, justify their work and personal failings etc.

People in general need to avoid negative people or at least get a balanced view on topics which affect them in their lives. We now have too much information and news bombarding us every day and it is vital to filter out irrelevant stuff and concentrate on things vital to our existence to the exclusion of other external things.

I do not know many negative people but I do know that a lot of people who on the outside look like they are having a good life are really full of fear and anxiety.

RiderOnTheStorm

I guy I used to work with was so negative all the time. We often wondered if he was so negative at home with the mrs. The guy in the ad for Carlsberg reminds me of him...when shaking hands its either too strong or too weak...kiss on cheek? how many? ...fist bump? ..too complicated.

Everything was wrong according to this guy. Always want to ask him straight out "Is there anything you like? And why dont you ever talk about that?" .... never did.

OldMrBrennan83

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Vela

I think realism and negativity are often confused. I have no problem with people who confront issues and say it as it is. Positivity is over-rated IMO, especially that "forced" positivity of "Oh I'm going to think everything is amazing and it'll be amazing". That's actually completely counter-productive and can make people feel worse off in the end.

Sometimes life is great, sometimes it's really fcuking ****. Just accept that and be real about it. Enjoy it when it's good and get through it when it's bad. This fake positive mindset BS is bull.

lertsnim

I used to live with someone who was negative about everything. So much so I used to be sick more while living with him than at any other time.

Donald Trump

Dakota Dan wrote: »

My wife, constantly complaining about trivial things.

I have the same experience. She's always fecking complaining

"Don't get jizz in my hair"
"Use more lube if you're going in that route"
"Hurry up, Dakota Dan will be home soon"

I think you should get rid of her!

Ficheall

Patww79 wrote: »

Nobody I know comes close to me.

Try using some soap.

OldMrBrennan83

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Donald Trump

Patww79 wrote: »

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You're doing sex wrong so!

Sorry, I thought you said "cums"

NIMAN

My mother.

Badly Drunk Boy

I know somebody who has the motto "No good will come from owt!". It's sort of tongue-in-cheek, but I reckon he fairly believes in it. And no, he's not from Yorkshire.

Wanderer2010

Woman at work is extremely negative, the kind of person who literally gives out from the moment she wakes to the moment she sleeps, always giving out about her job, procedures, her weight, her bills, boyfriend etc. People like that just drain the life out of you.

The kicker? She has a boyfriend and a group of friends whom she goes out with regularly. Ive always thought negative people repel others. Funny world we live in.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

A friend of my parents. He's actually very funny but God he's a real Debbie Downer, has a horrible story for every situation.

He outdid himself a few years back, someone was talking about the nice weekend she'd had in Dubai.

"Dubai? My friend's son worked over there when he was about 21, the money was great apparently. Anyways, on his way home one evening three lads ran up, grabbed him and threw him in a van, took him out to the desert and gang raped him."

He does rather interrupt the natural flow of a conversation.

_Dara_

_Dara_ wrote: »

Having a terminal illness has really highlighted to me how much some people love to wallow and practically invent things to complain about. They don’t know they’re born. “What’s that, you have a mild cold? How horrendous! Oh, by the way, my lower spine has partially crumbled.”

And to add, I don’t even think I’m the worst off. I have the greatest of sympathy for anyone diagnosed with motor neurone disease. An endlessly cruel illness. Or any swiftly fatal disease. At least I’ve been affirded a bit of time to make memories and come to terms.

Back to negative people and my comment about people inventing stuff. I have a former friend who was a complete drama queen. She would genuinely invent reasons to be annoyed at her boyfriend. One night I was listening to her latest invented issue. I uttered some feeble comforting sentiment whilst feeling totally drained and she sarcastically said to me “wow, you really had to scratch around to come up with that bit of nonsense”. I snapped. I told her that if she wasn’t basically inventing stuff to complain about ALL THE TIME, maybe I wouldn’t be scrambling for things to say by way of comfort. The friendship, as it were, didn’t last long after that. Easily the most emotionally-stunted person I’ve ever met.