What are your no-no's with dating?

Try_harder

Is this just about online dating rules?

a/s/l?

Try_harder

Try_harder wrote: »

Is this just about online dating rules?

a/s/l?

Nah in general.

Richard Hillman

Richard Hillman wrote: »

Not that I necessarily disagree with their cause but a Black Repeal jumper just screams very agro, loves an argument and probable mental health issues.

Thats just your internal misogyny breaking out you absolute rapist.
More consent classes for you :pac:

ginandtonicsky

neonsofa wrote: »

If you're seeing them online again and again over the years then does that not mean you too are on the same sites for years on end?

i was in a relationship for six years until a year ago. before that a 2 year relationship so online off and on between relationships going back 9 years or so and have seen the same fellas across dating apps every time! A few even messaged me multiple times not remembering doing so a few years previous, which would suggest to me their online dating habits were a bit more extensive than mine. maybe i'm crazy though and the same few dozen lads just happened to become single at the same time as me every time...yeah i'd say that's likely alright

ginandtonicsky

Deleted User wrote: »

Maybe your expectations are too high and that is probably an issue with Irish people in general? Dating should be a bit of fun really but instead its turned into this quest to actually find a life partner. Why not just focus on the short term which is having a good time in company instead of the long term?

different people will look for different things on these apps and i'd say that mismatch of expectations could be a problem alright. i'm not into casual hookups or meeting a stream of different people every week (seriously how do people have the time for it??) so it never really suited me and has never culminated in a long-term relationship for me, which is more of a priority than just short-term flings and the like.

i think the underlying problem for me was that how i experience attraction doesn't tend to be encouraged by the nature of these apps. swiping on someone's face and box-ticking is less exciting than meeting someone in person with zero expectations, that slow burning attraction building over time and the "does he feel the same?" and all the suspense and butterflies that come with that

ginandtonicsky

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

different people will look for different things on these apps and i'd say that mismatch of expectations could be a problem alright. i'm not into casual hookups or meeting a stream of different people every week (seriously how do people have the time for it??) so it never really suited me and has never culminated in a long-term relationship for me, which is more of a priority than just short-term flings and the like.

Thats fair enough but I think many people might just harmlessly see it as a hobby, i.e socialising

It is a mystery where they get the time for it but good luck to them.

the_syco

Headshots.

Tell me how wrote: »

????? or "Ask me" in the About Me section.

Or the "I'm an open book, ask me anything"

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

A few even messaged me multiple times not remembering doing so a few years previous, which would suggest to me their online dating habits were a bit more extensive than mine.

A few years previous? Oh mah lawd! And you remember them?

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

i think the underlying problem for me was that how i experience attraction doesn't tend to be encouraged by the nature of these apps.

How do you meet people if you don't meet people?

Jimmy Dags

Person who sleeps with their pet, no thanks no dog will bite me in the hole while on the job.

ginandtonicsky

the_syco wrote: »

A few years previous? Oh mah lawd! And you remember them?

Course. Why would I not?

the_syco wrote: »

How do you meet people if you don't meet people?

Huh?

seachto7

https://youtu.be/4LQVVb0h7ow

https://youtu.be/Sa1o3iBOceE

Anne1982h

Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich wrote: »

Yes but you can’t match with everyone. There are so many women on the the thing and potential matches you’re able to discern from whatever you want. Rugby jerseys on women aren’t exactly a good look in my opinion, and all that goys drinking heino and getting enthused over the only 10 teams that can play the sport annoys me. Same way people have bad associations with football, but I’ll go to any game or watch league of Ireland on a Friday night.
There are 1000s of women my age in Dublin that are single, you may as well skip on things that may even slightly bug you.

The problem with that is you might skip over the right person. I had things I thought were super important to me about a relationship - in particular that the person would have an interest in music which is such a big part of my life - both playing it and listening to it. At my wedding a close friend even said afterwards she still can’t believe I married someone with no interest in music. Turns out the love of my life genuinely you doesn’t own a cd and has never been to a concert. We are incredibly happy and have a great relationship - we are extremely alike in our personality’s but we have nothing in common regarding our hobbies. I think everyone with these rigid lists should give the odd person who looks nice a chance even if they don’t meet all the criteria.

Anne1982h

Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich wrote: »

Yes but for every tall sexy glam lady there’s a short fat girl too. And everything in between! All kinds of people are using OD.

I got the impression she was saying with all the high standards no one would be interested in her! I feel the same. Although I fail to see how a woman who wears nice dresses light makeup and high heels as per one posters description translates into someone who will be there for you through a serious illness or a family bereavement which unfortunately are all part and parcel of a serious lifelong commitment. Seems people are looking for something superficial rather than meaningful.

Anne1982h

Anne1982h wrote: »

I got the impression she was saying with all the high standards no one would be interested in her! I feel the same. Although I fail to see how a woman who wears nice dresses light makeup and high heels as per one posters description translates into someone who will be there for you through a serious illness or a family bereavement which unfortunately are all part and parcel of a serious lifelong commitment. Seems people are looking for something superficial rather than meaningful.

We were talking about dating... and the dating environment.... and you're the one doing the translating of something from one context into a completely different context.

Personally, I find that women who wear dresses, light makeup, and high heels, have more pride in their appearance which translates (:pac:) into a woman with more confidence in herself. She tends to look after her skin, her figure, and has less self-esteem issues. I like women who wear high-heels because it's sexy, and makes her far easier to kiss (height differences). I could "list" her personality traits but it wouldn't mean much, because attraction depends on the individual, and doesn't really transfer equally between people.

Superficial? Yup... definitely... for dating, because the initial period of dating is superficial. Dating is to establish attraction for both sides appearance and personality... If you're already seeking someone to be there during your illnesses, perhaps you're being far too serious about the whole experience.

Lastly, this assumption that everyone is looking for everlasting love is rubbish. When I was young, I genuinely did seek such a relationship, and went out of my way trying to find my soulmate. Instead I found some nice women but nobody I could truly love. I could have lowered my standards as so many other people have told me to do, but then, they're all divorced or in unhappy marriages, so I think perhaps having higher standards isn't such a bad thing. Now... I don't seek love, and I focus on finding women I enjoy being with. Simple.

Steve F

Pac1Man wrote: »

Eva Green came up to me once and said: "Pac1Man, I want you now". We kissed passionately and as my hands and eyes started to wander south, I saw the telltale glint of red under her black top and instantly knew it was going to be a wild night.

As calmly as I could with my hands trembling, I began to unbutton her top. I got to the last two buttons but to my horror, that red glint revealed itself to be a Munster jersey.

Cursing my luck once again I sat back and said, "Eva you're a lovely girl but I'm going to say the same thing I said to Scarlett Johansson last week. Rugby jerseys are one of my deal breakers so we're going to have to call it a day".

So rugby jerseys would be my bugbear too.

And the post of the month award goes to ^^^^^^^

JohnnyFlash

I don’t see the issue with a woman expressing a preference for meeting a taller man. There’s no point in wasting anyone’s time if she’s attracted to lads who are 6’ or taller.

Same goes for saying you don’t want to meet someone who is overweight. Or someone with neck tattoos and those big holes in their ears. Or people with shocking teeth. Like physical attraction is important.

givyjoe

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

I don’t see the issue with a woman expressing a preference for meeting a taller man. There’s no point in wasting anyone’s time if she’s attracted to lads who are 6’ or taller.

Same goes for saying you don’t want to meet someone who is overweight. Or someone with neck tattoos and those big holes in their ears. Or people with shocking teeth. Like physical attraction is important.

So is not being a d1ck about the above, some people haven't mastered the art unfortunately and can be obnoxious in their profiles.

PrettyBoy

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

I don’t see the issue with a woman expressing a preference for meeting a taller man. There’s no point in wasting anyone’s time if she’s attracted to lads who are 6’ or taller.

Same goes for saying you don’t want to meet someone who is overweight.

You don't see an issue with a man specifically stating in his bio that overweight women should swipe left?

Grayson

The Princess Bride wrote: »

Number of messages depends on whether you're the new kid on the block or there a while.
Can be anything from a few to >10 daily.
Depends on site too.
And the woman I'd say.
Quality over quantity surely, no?

I'm a sucker for a well written, witty profile, preferably by someone who's/whose comfortable with their/they're/there* apostrophes.;)

I'm not into messages with txt spk, lols, huns and xxxs.
And if you need to post naked pics, don't message me.
I genuinely hope that if he says he's a man, that he knows that he doesn't need to post cock pics to prove it.
I don't mind tattoos and you don't have to be >1.9m tall to date me

I've had a fair few blind dates and had great craic.
Someone could be drop dead gorgeous but have the personality of a gnat.
If you can't laugh what's it all about?

*if you don't know the difference, please swiftly swipe left.

I out something similar into my profile.

It's a no-no in many ways. I hate messages in text speak. It wrecks my head so much. Could I date someone who kept sending me messages I had to decipher? I think I'd last a few days before I'd snap.
And they could be lovely smart people, it's just that it would wreak my head.

super_furry

Letting the wife find out.

Grayson

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

i think the underlying problem for me was that how i experience attraction doesn't tend to be encouraged by the nature of these apps. swiping on someone's face and box-ticking is less exciting than meeting someone in person with zero expectations, that slow burning attraction building over time and the "does he feel the same?" and all the suspense and butterflies that come with that

But then you're back to the serial daters.

I go through phases of going on and off sites. Sometimes I'll hop on for a couple of weeks and then hop off for a few months. I've been on them for years but have probably spent very little time actually participating.

Personally I hate the whole chat thing before.A few messages to get to know them better and then a coffee/drink. I'm useless at texting and I'll quite happily throw my phone on the counter and forget about it for an evening so the whole messaging part is the tough part for me.

California Dreamer

Try_harder wrote: »

And no baggage - I'm a bit like Ryanair on that one.

No Baggage? On a dating site?

Better chance of finding that needle in the haystack!!

JohnnyFlash

PrettyBoy wrote: »

You don't see an issue with a man specifically stating in his bio that overweight women should swipe left?

Might not be so blunt, but I’m sure you could say ‘looking for someone who enjoys keeping fit and healthy’ etc. People have preferences and are entitled to specify them. No point being inundated with messages from people who you’ve no interest in.

taserfrank

I'm 33 and have never been on a single date.

taserfrank

taserfrank wrote: »

I'm 33 and have never been on a single date.

Married a friend? Or simply no interest in being with someone?

irishman86

Deleted User wrote: »

Its funny really because i would imagine alot more sustainable marriages and relationships have been formed through online dating in comparison to the nightlcub scene and that is not to say people dont meet their long term partner through the club scene but other than one lady, i have never developed a relationship from it.

Social media has helped online dating in many respects because people began to just see online dating sites as another social network. The stigma still exists to a certain degree which is ironic.

The Irish in general though are terrible at flirting. Irish women in particular could actually instigate chat and still manage to insult you and make a holy show of themselves. Its a real pity that in this country we cant just strike up a conversation in a supermarket or a public place as they do in other countries.

I agree with you on the marriage thing it does make sense.
I think Tinder is the biggest help to getting rid of the stigma from online dating. I dont understand the stigma like what are the odds you meet the girl/boy drunk of your face in the local night club. Nothing wrong with broadening your horizon
100% regarding the flirting, like i mentioned already i dont actually have a lot of time for irish women, i feel they are to aggressive
For every one cool one a hundred wont be, and im sure women think the same about the guys

irishman86

Deleted User wrote: »

Yes, but the Bar scene for meeting women is more of a US/UK/Oz/Ireland kind of thing. Sure, other countries are picking up on it but that's more to do with the influence of expats. And again, Nightclubs are more of a thing for the above countries for meeting someone, and TBF its more about sex than it is for actually meeting someone for a serious relationship.

In my experience, abroad the bar and clubs are more for direct socialising. People who genuinely love the music or dancing (or drugs). Picking up in bars/clubs within Europe is possible, but you're more likely to encounter a prostitute than a real person. Although the "singles" bar scene has really taken off in the last decade, but they're usually confined to the major cities. There's also less of a taboo about dating people from work, or meeting someone randomly in the street/venue. I haven't found this fear of offending/annoying someone regarding random encounters that posters here raise so often for reasons against such approaches.



I lived in Dublin about two decades ago, so I'm assuming it's changed quite a bit since then. Still, I have 'gone out' in Dublin with friends and a few ex's since I returned to Ireland and I wasn't terribly impressed.

I only have two major issues with Online Dating. First with how fake/superficial it is. The majority of photos don't reflect the real person, and when they do, they're rarely very flattering. The chatting is generally very basic with little attempt at making any real connection, and while in the past, I didn't mind sleeping with married women, Ireland is just too small for that kind of behavior. In Xi'an (China) with 9 million people in the city area, it was fine, but Ireland, nooo. And a lot of the profiles I've encountered in my age bracket were women in relationships looking for some 'extra' fun. So, Online dating within Ireland hasn't given me much in the way of suitable women to date.

For me Dublin is about meeting my friends who live in Dublin so its not really dating territory. Its about a good night out with a group of 20 people and then ending up in coppers.
I never found Australia close to Ireland tbh in the love of drinking. I met girls on trains, buses, at the zoo, when i was chilling in the park reading a book i had a girl come talk to me, for me it has a dating culture.
I have never had that in Ireland, Bondi junction is mini Ireland though :pac: but i stayed away from there
I never went near married/relationship girls. People with profiles like that should be ashamed of themselves.
I personally dont do online dating outside of tinder, but my brother uses pof and hes got in two relationships from it, he said its a bit hook up culture on it though
Just regarding the photos/fakery if a girl/boy turned up for a date and looked nothing like the picture id walk out on them. What do you gain from lying

dr.fuzzenstein

I don't go online dating, buy my bugbears in general would be false lashes, inch thick make-up, three inch long nails, high heels and duck face.
My wife wears jeans, T-shirt and runners.
Perfection.

Did you know that once you're old you go carbon dating?

taserfrank

Deleted User wrote: »

Married a friend? Or simply no interest in being with someone?

No one will go near me.

givyjoe

taserfrank wrote: »

No one will go near me.

Taserfrank as a username on your dating profile probably doesn't give the impression of an approachable guy perhaps

taserfrank

taserfrank wrote: »

No one will go near me.

Oh lord. I'm not going there in this thead.

Tell me how

taserfrank wrote:

No one will go near me.

Have you tried to get dates?

Have you hobbies, interests that you do and are comfortable talking about?

Have you friends who could give you their opinion on why you haven't had dates?

Dial Hard

dr.fuzzenstein wrote: »

I don't go online dating, buy my bugbears in general would be false lashes, inch thick make-up, three inch long nails, high heels and duck face.

I love me hee-highlers but fake lashes and nails can get in the sea. Far too lazy for that.

I get constant comments about how refreshing it is that I'm smiling in all my photos. Is the duck-face really that ubiquitous? I must change my gender preference and have a look.

Tell me how

Dial Hard wrote:

I get constant comments about how refreshing it is that I'm smiling in all my photos. Is the ****-face really that ubiquitous? I must change my gender preference and have a look.

I recently got comments from 2 ladies who said I am too serious in my pics.

I need to correct that without it looking like it was done specifically for OD.

Feel I look like Charlie Kelly in IASIP when they tried to create an online profile for him.

I think ladies, generally, have much better pics than us guys.

Tell me how

Tell me how wrote:

I think ladies, generally, have much better pics than us guys.

Actually, on that, went on one date recently where I was very attracted to the online pic. Problem was, as I found out, it was 5+ years old. At least.

Triceratops Ballet

Tell me how wrote: »

I recently got comments from 2 ladies who said I am too serious in my pics.

A lot of lads have this issue tbf, there's a lot of poker/sour faces out there, most people will look instantly better with a genuine smile on their face.

Tinder actually have a podcast about it, and they go through the stats of what kinds of profiles get responses, it's actually quite interesting!

heretothere

Online dating sounds horrific!!!! A lot of my friends are into it (late 20s) I was lucky to meet himself on a night out in a tiny town in Queensland. That was when I was 23 internet dating was just kicking off there. I do vaguely remember using POF. I didn't like when guys had pictures with hot girls, it just made no sense to me.

Bad teeth/ bad breath were always a big no-no for me. I also liked when a guy would try to actually get to talk to you to get to know and not just to try get you into bed.

Dial Hard

Triceratops Ballet wrote: »

A lot of lads have this issue tbf, there's a lot of poker/sour faces out there, most people will look instantly better with a genuine smile on their face.

I also immediately assume that anyone who has their mouth resolutely closed in every single pic has bockedy teeth.

Whispered

Whispered wrote: »

I reckon I would hate it - I'm way too casual looking to be putting my pics up on a dating site, have a child, can't dance, hate anything which involves repetitive music or shouting to have a conversation, would describe myself as curvy which seems to be a no-no even when you're a size 10, don't travel much, or aspire to and really just want a quiet and comfy life.
Compared to beautiful, tall, glam ladies who enjoy going out dancing, wearing heels and sexy clothes, travel the world and have impressive jobs! I'd be forever single. It might be fun and exciting but I wouldn't be cut out for it at all at all.
Mr W knows this and uses it to his advantage to keep me around :pac:

I do see where you're coming from. The world of online dating isn't for everyone. The reality of the sites though is not one that's filled with 6' glamazons I'm only 5'4, would topple over in a pair of heels and am more likely to be found buried under the duvet than scaling the side of a mountain, but I had some really great experiences on it.

The only thing about it is that It can easily chip away at a person's confidence if they aren't robust enough and comfortable in their own skin. It's important to realise that not every person will find you attractive and this doesn't mean you're ugly and horrible or that they are an arsehole.

dr.fuzzenstein

Whispered wrote: »

I reckon I would hate it - I'm way too casual looking to be putting my pics up on a dating site, have a child, can't dance, hate anything which involves repetitive music or shouting to have a conversation, would describe myself as curvy which seems to be a no-no even when you're a size 10, don't travel much, or aspire to and really just want a quiet and comfy life.
Compared to beautiful, tall, glam ladies who enjoy going out dancing, wearing heels and sexy clothes, travel the world and have impressive jobs! I'd be forever single. It might be fun and exciting but I wouldn't be cut out for it at all at all.
Mr W knows this and uses it to his advantage to keep me around :pac:

I hope Mr W knows how very, very lucky he is.

irishman86

Deleted User wrote: »

Oh lord. I'm not going there in this thead.

Coward :pac:
I'd love to introduce you to my friend in rural Ireland who doesnt go out wont use online dating or tinder but complains all the time about not getting women
Whats funny is hes a good looking lad, who gets attention when i bring him places hes just well a mammys boy. You might have better luck than i have

Mackerel and Avocado Sandwich

Dial Hard wrote: »

I also immediately assume that anyone who has their mouth resolutely closed in every single pic has bockedy teeth.

I've actually got good teeth but I don't like smiling in photos. I forced myself to smile in one when I was away a few months ago and put it online and it definitely helped!

irishman86

irishman86 wrote: »

Coward :pac:
I'd love to introduce you to my friend in rural Ireland who doesnt go out wont use online dating or tinder but complains all the time about not getting women
Whats funny is hes a good looking lad, who gets attention when i bring him places hes just well a mammys boy. You might have better luck than i have

Unlikely. We'd have nothing in common. I'm tall, very thin, with bad teeth and I have a shaking disorder. My success with women rests solely on being able to talk to them, and that takes practice to develop.

Some people just don't want to improve their situation and complaining is part of that situation. Perhaps speak to his mammy instead? She's likely hoping for grandchildren at some point.

For my own part, I avoid online dating as much as possible... simply because I find the communication element to be too limiting, and it's very specific to appearance... which I'm not going to win medals for. Whenever I do OD, I aim to meet them ASAP to determine interest and establish some kind of connection.

Grayson

Deleted User wrote: »

I do see where you're coming from. The world of online dating isn't for everyone. The reality of the sites though is not one that's filled with 6' glamazons I'm only 5'4, would topple over in a pair of heels and am more likely to be found buried under the duvet than scaling the side of a mountain, but I had some really great experiences on it.

The only thing about it is that It can easily chip away at a person's confidence if they aren't robust enough and comfortable in their own skin. It's important to realise that not every person will find you attractive and this doesn't mean you're ugly and horrible or that they are an arsehole.

You also have to wade through a load of crap. Well, not crap, they are humans after all, but you know what I mean.

I find ok cupid is the best site out there. Because of all the questions they ask the matches are pretty good.

A Pint of Goo

Triceratops Ballet wrote: »

A lot of lads have this issue tbf, there's a lot of poker/sour faces out there, most people will look instantly better with a genuine smile on their face.

Tinder actually have a podcast about it, and they go through the stats of what kinds of profiles get responses, it's actually quite interesting!

I've read in a number of articles that women rate moody looking men as more attractive than smiley looking men. Also when I see pictures of myself where I've put on a fake smile I always think I like a profoundly mentally handicapped person.

jimmurt

Grayson wrote: »

I was just on bumble (for those that have never heard of it, it's kinda like tinder) and I've kinda developed an internal list of things that just make me swipe left.

Duck face. One is bad enough but when you have nothing but duckface photo's, that's just wrong.

Photo's with snapchat filters. If all you have is photo's of yourself with snapchat filters, then I just think you're a child masquerading as a grown up.

Photo's of your Dad. If you have a photo of yourself with your dad then a load of photo's of your dad, that's just going to give me the creeps.

No description on a dating site. This is more relevant for other dating sites. If you can't be bothered putting up a description then why would I be bothered asking for more information.

Girls who call themselves a princess or say they like to be spoiled. I don't think I even need to explain that.

So, guys and gals, what are your no-no's. (And it doesn't have to be from a dating site/app)

Only 1 pic - put in some effort
First pic is group of friends - don´t even bother looking at the rest
Profile says not looking for ONS, hookups etc while first pic is her bending over, twerking, boobs out etc
No info is a bit of a turn off
Same thing in every pic, like a pic of her doing the same hobby in every pic, doesn´t matter the hobby
Selfies in toilets
Duck face
Super serious, almost threatening face
Picture in wedding dress
Picture of kids (just mention it in profile, no need to put kids pics on tinder)
Inspirational quotes - one is ok but 3 or 4....

zcorpian88

No-nos for me include women who wear leopard print, can't stand it, I just think "Bet Lynch" straight away. (Shudder)

Workaholics: People who talk about their work all the time, work all the time or can't take some time for themselves and wind down in the evening, we wouldn't last! Had an ex who had this problem and it drove me mental.

Chip on their shoulder feminist types, I've met a lot in recent years, just bore the arse off me, no personality, no craic and can have this whinging and condescending attitude, everything is an annoying debate with them. Between them and the overbearing politically correct mob. Sheesh, what a bunch of robots.

Vegans, my ex went vegan not long before I had to call it a day, Vegan for me is another word for "Pain in the hole to cook for" a stupid diet I think, would be very limiting in regard to going out for a meal too.

Smokers: Went out with a smoker before, just couldn't get used to it, thought I could, but nothing worse than going in for the shift and they smell like an ashtray.

People that don't get on with their own family: Again, had that experience, witnessed a really venomous row with someone I dated between her mother and siblings and it was over something really stupid and it was my first time meeting most of her family! Made me very uncomfortable, ran for the hills not long after. I just think, if you don't get on with your own family, it's only a matter of time until we don't get on, plus I can't cope with peoples family drama, want nothing to do with it.

Online dating: Snapchat filters on photos, why do so many people post those?

People that write nothing in their profile, it's like women assume we don't care about what's in their bio. I like a good read anyway, other guys in this thread seem to as well.

Too many traveling photos, can't stand that, always seemed a bit vain/smug to me to post all traveling photos climbing mountains in New Zealand, standing in the middle of the desert in Dubai, skiing in the Alps, galivanting in the rainforest and standing at the Great Wall of China. Also it makes me think "Weren't we in a recession for most of the last decade? What f**king recession??"

On another note, found peoples comments on here great and pretty funny, especially with the online dating thing, it's a real minefield. Must have been seeing the same pictures, including the Brent Pope ones!! I always wondered what's the deal with the pictures of the women on the swing in what looks like a beer garden somewhere? Was always guessing was it Coppers? Haven't been there.

Hammer89

1) If their opening message is so bland that you can't even respond. I had one message recently from an English girl and it literally said, 'Hey you alright?'. I haven't responded because beyond saying 'Yeah I'm fine thanks', like Father Stone, I'm completely stuck.

2) I'd go along with the no description in the profile thing. They're tyre kickers I think and not really all that interested in going out with someone. I think they just want the confidence boost, which is totally fine.

3) The ones who DO fill out their description but it's full of suggestions about how you have to like kids. "Hiya me name's Tanya. Stop reading now if you don't like kids because I have 11 children and they're me world - Wayne, Stacy, Garret, Linden, Shauna, Kevin Jr, Skye, Dwayne Jr, Lauren, Michelle, Ahmed Jr. Love them all, all me kids. K-I-D-S. Kids, short of children, of which I have 11 by the way. Anyways that's it. Msg me if you want to bring us - me AND my kids - to Tayto Park."

4) The ones who use the snapchat filter which literally covers half their face. There's one with a surgical mask or something and you can only see them from the nose up basically.

^^^ Hilarious. And spot on.

zcorpian88

Hammer89 wrote: »

1) If their opening message is so bland that you can't even respond. I had one message recently from an English girl and it literally said, 'Hey you alright?'. I haven't responded because beyond saying 'Yeah I'm fine thanks', like Father Stone, I'm completely stuck.

2) I'd go along with the no description in the profile thing. They're tyre kickers I think and not really all that interested in going out with someone. I think they just want the confidence boost, which is totally fine.

3) The ones who DO fill out their description but it's full of suggestions about how you have to like kids. "Hiya me name's Tanya. Stop reading now if you don't like kids because I have 11 children and they're me world - Wayne, Stacy, Garret, Linden, Shauna, Kevin Jr, Skye, Dwayne Jr, Lauren, Michelle, Ahmed Jr. Love them all, all me kids. K-I-D-S. Kids, short of children, of which I have 11 by the way. Anyways that's it. Msg me if you want to bring us - me AND my kids - to Tayto Park."

4) The ones who use the snapchat filter which literally covers half their face. There's one with a surgical mask or something and you can only see them from the nose up basically.

Haha, tyre kickers, a word I use all the time in dating circles, never hear anyone else saying it. Good man.

Never saw myself dating a single mother myself but I went on one date with someone from POF last year, only because she seemed really interesting and genuine and pretty intelligent and knew how to keep a conversation going on POF which is pretty rare on that f**king app....she was pretty and she was lovely, had the one kid, but I got the impression she has baggage with the father of her kid, he came across as a complete c**t to me, kind of the psycho vibe. Might have caused problems for myself if it went anywhere. Contact kind of fizzled out with her. Wouldn't date anyone with a heap of kids though, you can't do anything spontaneously, like just get up and go somewhere, it'll always be about the kids first. I like kids and all but....nah...

Funny you're mentioning of the "they're me world" thing so many of them say it! I can see the picture now, house falling down around her, hoopy earrings, counting the days until the children's allowance comes, and off to the off license to get a few bottles of wkd....dump all 11 kids off at Nanny's and then out with the like minded "girlos" An ex of mine's sister used to do that with her own kids, no job, rent allowance, house like a tip etc

Triceratops Ballet

"will fill this in later" - ugh

All photos in side profile - just look at the f-ing camera!