Would you encourage your teenage daughter to use a vibrator?

Franz Von Peppercorn

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

In principle sure, no reason not to, but personally I'd leave it to her mum. Reckon a girl would find it pretty awkward having her dad talk to her about that stuff. I'd have no problem introducing my son to sex toys, and I'd have no problem introducing my daughter to them either but I reckon she might have a problem with it, as we're probably still several generations away from the total normalisation and de-stigmatising of sex.

I don’t think we’re ever going to accept parents handing over sex toys to teens.

Hammer89

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

It would give young girls unreasonable expectations of pleasure from a penis shaped object.

Isn't it better to have a conversation then, rather than let them discover that world on their own and develop the same unrealistic expectation either way?

professore wrote: »

I've been told several times how "sexually repressive" Irish society is. Yet all the media can talk about lately is sex - especially for women. Men on the other hand are shamed for even noticing an attractive girl. Was there any mention of buying a blow up doll or fleshlight for teenage sons? I'll bet there wasn't.

It doesn't add up.

Talk about having embarrassing parents. This is off the scale.

We are pretty repressive in regards to sex. On the life of my unborn children I have a friend who thinks women piss out of their clitoris, which I admit is hilarious, but it's also sad because it tells me that his partner probably isn't all that satisfied. It's also sad because he's just a normal bloke and probably isn't in the minority of 20-something-lads who doesn't even know what a clitoris is, let alone where it is.

wexie

Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: »

I don’t think we’re ever going to accept parents handing over sec toys to teens.

Who knows Franz,who knows....

In Holland you can buy sex toys in some petrol stations.
Now I usually get my kids a bag of jellies or something...but I guess the option is there

professore

professore wrote: »

I've been told several times how "sexually repressive" Irish society is. Yet all the media can talk about lately is sex - especially for women. Men on the other hand are shamed for even noticing an attractive girl. Was there any mention of buying a blow up doll or fleshlight for teenage sons? I'll bet there wasn't.

Don't you just hate those double standards?

NSFW!

https://i.imgur.com/gXL5HEF.jpg

wexie

Hammer89 wrote: »

We are pretty repressive in regards to sex. On the life of my unborn children I have a friend who thinks women piss out of their clitoris, which I admit is hilarious, but it's also sad because it tells me that his partner probably isn't all that satisfied. It's also sad because he's just a normal bloke and probably isn't in the minority of 20-something-lads who doesn't even know what a clitoris is, let alone where it is.

You wouldn't feel the need to set him straight no? For the sake of his partner like (and his own, I've always found that my own pleasure gets increased a lot if hers does, but I'm quite happy to accept I'm a bit odd perhaps)

Sofiztikated

If you can talk to your son about bashing the bishop, and how's its normal and healthy, you can talk to your daughter about diddling the figures, and how its normal and healthy.

Having a chat about it is fine, but I wouldn't buy my son a fleshlight, nor would I go into technique, grip, nor **** bank material. And so wouldn't do it with a daughter. That goes past responsible parenting and on down the road into Creepsville.

And some things they need to work out on their own. Insertable length, girth, vibration intensity, colour, all personal choices, and one I don't particularly need to know.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Would you encourage your teenage son to masturbate...?

For ****'s sake, I thought you people had left behind the Catholic Church?

LirW

Hammer89 wrote: »

We are pretty repressive in regards to sex. On the life of my unborn children I have a friend who thinks women piss out of their clitoris, which I admit is hilarious, but it's also sad because it tells me that his partner probably isn't all that satisfied. It's also sad because he's just a normal bloke and probably isn't in the minority of 20-something-lads who doesn't even know what a clitoris is, let alone where it is.

Good point, it's shocking how many men have little knowledge about how a woman's body functions sexually. And even worse so many women themselves never got to explore what gets them off, this is only a quite recent thing. Women were shamed into embarrassment for actually enjoying being sexual and it's still a thing til this day really. Especially because every woman works differently and there are a lot of things they might like or dislike.

Also plenty of lads don't know that you don't piss where you menstruate, causing lots of confusion.

Gonad

What would wee Daniel say ?




https://youtu.be/EDE_nVJcJ70

Hammer89

wexie wrote: »

You wouldn't feel the need to set him straight no? For the sake of his partner like (and his own, I've always found that my own pleasure gets increased a lot if hers does, but I'm quite happy to accept I'm a bit odd perhaps)

I didn't want to embarrass him. It's that stupid that he would feel a bit sheepish I suspect if he knew, but you're right maybe I should have.

Franz Von Peppercorn

Hammer89 wrote: »

Isn't it better to have a conversation then, rather than let them discover that world on their own and develop the same unrealistic expectation either way?



We are pretty repressive in regards to sex. On the life of my unborn children I have a friend who thinks women piss out of their clitoris, which I admit is hilarious, but it's also sad because it tells me that his partner probably isn't all that satisfied. It's also sad because he's just a normal bloke and probably isn't in the minority of 20-something-lads who doesn't even know what a clitoris is, let alone where it is.

You’ve managed to guess your friends sex life and extrapolate some kind of repression in Irish society re sex from one barely believable conversation.

Galadriel

Hammer89 wrote: »

You don't; you ask the mother.

I should point out that this thread wouldn't be as controversial if it was about giving a 15-year-old boy a copy of Penthouse. Either way you're encouraging masturbation but it's a lot more taboo when it's a female and that's precisely the problem. The subject is far weirder than it actually is in my view.

I don't think women masturbating is a taboo topic at all, talking to your teenage daughter about vibrators is just weird.

Sofiztikated

wexie wrote: »

Who knows Franz,who knows....

In Holland you can buy sex toys in some petrol stations.
Now I usually get my kids a bag of jellies or something...but I guess the option is there

You can buy vibrating rings and bullet vibrators in Tesco, Dealz, Dunne's etc, and Groupon regularly have sex toys and whatnot.

AFAIK, Dealz are starting a range of discount vibrators.

wexie

Hammer89 wrote: »

I didn't want to embarrass him. It's that stupid that he would feel a bit sheepish I suspect if he knew, but you're right maybe I should have.

Not an easy conversation to have alright. Few drinks would be needed.

I once had to explain to a friend that it was okay to use lubricant (KY) as both him and the mrs were experiencing discomfort. (and no it wasn't that)

Found it a bit odd coming from a grown man in his 30's

wexie

Sofiztikated wrote: »

You can buy vibrating rings and bullet vibrators in Tesco, Dealz, Dunne's etc, and Groupon regularly have sex toys and whatnot.

AFAIK, Dealz are starting a range of discount vibrators.

Gonna have to be more careful when I tell the kids they can pick a toy in Dealz so

Sofiztikated

wexie wrote: »

Not an easy conversation to have alright. Few drinks would be needed.

I once had to explain to a friend that it was okay to use lubricant (KY) as both him and the mrs were experiencing discomfort. (and no it wasn't that)

Found it a bit odd coming from a grown man in his 30's

My Mrs has to explain to her cousin about foreplay and lube, because her fella was a touch large.

Her cousin had been sexually active since about 14, and was about 28 at the time.

Samuel T. Cogley

LirW wrote: »

Sourcing like previous generations like stealing the mags of their parents or relatives?

If there was ever a time not to confuse 'of' and 'off'.

jacksie66

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Sofiztikated

jacksie66 wrote: »

It was so much better a few hundred years ago when we burned people because they were thought to be witches..

Or when doctors gave women digital stimulus to stop hysterics.

Sin City

Thats Christmas sorted

Vibrator for daughter
Fleshlight for son :D:D

Sofiztikated

Sin City wrote: »

Thats Christmas sorted

Vibrator for daughter
Fleshlight for son :D:D

As with any Christmas pressies, don't forget the 4AA batteries.

Enochwasright

jacksie66 wrote: »

It was so much better a few hundred years ago when we burned people because they were thought to be witches..

Is that it? A choice between burning women thought to be practising the dark arts or giving our daughters sex aids?? No inbetween here?

Lia_lia

Christ. I'd be mortified talking to my Mother about vibrators now and I'm 29. Never-mind when I was a teenager. Just...no.

punisher5112

Snap chat tells them all they'll need to know...

This day and age nobody needs to speak to a mum or dad just take naked pics and send them on to strangers.

TheValeyard

Lia_lia wrote: »

Christ. I'd be mortified talking to my Mother about vibrators now and I'm 29. Never-mind when I was a teenager. Just...no.

Tell is more about your vibrators

hatrickpatrick

professore wrote: »

I've been told several times how "sexually repressive" Irish society is. Yet all the media can talk about lately is sex - especially for women. Men on the other hand are shamed for even noticing an attractive girl. Was there any mention of buying a blow up doll or fleshlight for teenage sons? I'll bet there wasn't.

This is 100% true, in many different ways tbh. The idea of a sexually liberated or confident man is anathema to the current zeitgeist. I've actually had discussions with a friend who confides in her mum about all kinds of kinky sexual experiences, and when musing that I'd never feel comfortable talking to my own family about something like that she has replied very matter-of-factly "well you know, that's because guys are supposed to be all about being responsible and gentlemanly and all that". Honestly makes me furious, but at least at the moment it feels like all we can do is ignore the double standard and hope it doesn't stick around for too long.

freshpopcorn

Probably not and I wouldn't entourage my teenage son to use one either!

TheValeyard

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Probably not and I wouldn't entourage my teenage son to use one either!

Probably think its a lightsaber.

wexie

Murray TheDemonic TalkingSkull wrote: »

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Probably not and I wouldn't entourage my teenage son to use one either!

Probably think its a lightsaber.

Hence the expression 'polishing the lightsaber'....

RobertKK

She asked for a black mamba, why couldn’t it be a rabbit.

AllForIt

I think the OP title could have been worded a bit better.

naughtysmurf

I'm male & I'm responsible for the weekly shop, always picked up the female hygiene products for both the mrs & daughter, no problems....suppose I have to add batteries to the list now,

hatrickpatrick

Because I believe in gender equality, and despise it when one gender has more cultural freedom than the other? I feel the same way about slut shaming and have argued that frequently on AH. Gender based "rules" need to die altogether, they sicken me.

Replace gender with race any time you see a gender-based double standard and ask yourself if you'd be taken aback by it. Gender based double standards should be no more or less socially acceptable than racial ones.

PARlance

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

Because I believe in gender equality, and despise it when one gender has more cultural freedom than the other? I feel the same way about slut shaming and have argued that frequently on AH. Gender based "rules" need to die altogether, they sicken me.

Replace gender with race any time you see a gender-based double standard and ask yourself if you'd be taken aback by it. Gender based double standards should be no more or less socially acceptable than racial ones.

Chill out, you're ruining the vib...

punisher5112

PARlance wrote: »

Chill out, you're ruining the vib...

Vibration you left out that bit.

henryforde80

Chris Hansen created this thread.

AnneFrank

What an insane thread, is the op jimmy savilles son?

endacl

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

Because I believe in gender equality, and despise it when one gender has more cultural freedom than the other? I feel the same way about slut shaming and have argued that frequently on AH. Gender based "rules" need to die altogether, they sicken me.

Replace gender with race any time you see a gender-based double standard and ask yourself if you'd be taken aback by it. Gender based double standards should be no more or less socially acceptable than racial ones.

Yeah. Where’s my Breastcheck?

:mad:

Miss Demeanour

Absolutely not........a vibrator can't take out the bins, get a round of drinks or buy her a bag of chips now can it?














Otherwise.....yeah, why not?

mad muffin

This is why I make sure, there’s a fresh, crisp, cucumber in the fridge.

A Pint of Goo

Thought I was done fapping for the evening. Sigh.

*unzips katana

Permabear

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Outlaw Pete

Went out with one girl when I was around 19 who told me her mother taught her how to masturbate She was raised to say she was going to do it in the same way you'd say you were going to your room to play computer games or whatever. I stayed over at her place loads and her mother would walk around in a bikini and tell us to have fun when we were going to bed. I think the daughter was more prudish than the mother. One night when we were doing it she got into bed with us and... nah, but I kept an eye on the damn door in hope, I can tell ya

Anyway, seems they were ahead of their time as it's all the rage today, and sure why not. Sure beats leaving the sitting room nervously coughing when Miley started kissing yer woman in the hay barn that time (hay barn is not a euphemism).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0vPqxSVaG4

Defunkd

Seeing as i'm over 18 i have no comment whatsoever about instructing a teenager of any gender how to masturbate nor do i want to enter into any sexual related topic.



The op could be one of these 'catch a pedophile' vigilante groups.

Esel

OP is on shaky ground...

Irish Guitarist

Hammer89 wrote: »

You don't; you ask the mother.

I should point out that this thread wouldn't be as controversial if it was about giving a 15-year-old boy a copy of Penthouse. Either way you're encouraging masturbation but it's a lot more taboo when it's a female and that's precisely the problem. The subject is far weirder than it actually is in my view.

Your idea that parents go around giving their male children porn isn't as common an occurrence as you seem to think it is. This might happen in some American sitcom but I've never heard of this happening in the real world.

I used to rob the Sunday World free magazine on my parents and cut out the pages with models advertising lingerie and would hang them on my bedroom wall. I didn't think my parents would ever need to come into my room for anything. Then one evening my neighbours called round and said they wanted to look around the house for some decorating tips. My father went upstairs with them and showed them around. I'm pretty sure he showed them my bedroom because when the woman came back into the sitting room she seemed to be avoiding making eye contact with me.

The idea of my parents telling me to yank away at myself is just as weird a concept as them telling my sisters to go out and treat themselves to a black mamba.

Hammer89

Irish Guitarist wrote: »

Your idea that parents go around giving their male children porn isn't as common an occurrence as you seem to think it is. This might happen in some American sitcom but I've never heard of this happening in the real world.

I didn't say it was common; I said there'd be less outrage and most likely less suggestions that I'm a paedophile if the thread was about teenage lads instead of teenage girls, which I think is true.

Johnnyhpipe

My parents never taught me and I turned out to be a right little wanker

ThinkProgress

Hammer89 wrote: »

I didn't say it was common; I said there'd be less outrage and most likely less suggestions that I'm a paedophile if the thread was about teenage lads instead of teenage girls, which I think is true.

You strike me as someone, that is just a bit lacking in decorum...

Not every aspect of life needs to be open and transparent. Sometimes it's in much better taste, to just leave some things unsaid/unseen.

The kidz will be alright... they don't need their hand held through every single aspect of their development. It's best to let them figure certain things out on their own, in their own way and in their own time!

BurnUp78

One of my old friends from primary school apparently had his first **** with his dad in the sitting room, his dad **** too, watching some porno together. We didn't go to the same secondary schools so I unfortunately never got the chance to slag him over it.