GF too quiet in the bedroom.

Tommysocks11

Just wondering if any posters have experience of a girlfriend or wife who won't take the initiative in the bedroom and expects the man to be standing for attention at all times without even a hint of foreplay, I used to be ready most of the time in my twenties but now I would like a hand every so often but she goes ballistic if I'm soft, help Please???

Yakult

Have you tried romancing the stone?

North inner city hoodlum

Grab her by the......




































Arm!

Larbre34

Ask her if she's wet for you 24/7? Then dump her lazy frigid ass, how the hell could you be expected to be erect for that....

Yakult

North inner city hoodlum wrote: »

Grab her by the......




































Arm!

That's the problem, he want's to be the one grabbed by the ...
























arm!

North inner city hoodlum

Yakult wrote: »

That's the problem, he want's to be the one grabbed by the ...
























arm!

I'll take another shot....




















Picture a young Cindy Crawford, NAKED.

Don't thank me.
NEXT.

Jimmy Dags

Stick it in fast

Tommysocks11

Ya it frustrates the hell out of me and I'm hard mostly but go soft after few minutes playing with her as she's not doing anything to me to keep me up

Bogfairy

Pack it in soft, and let it go hard

jamesbere

Viagra

VainHard Bendix

It's not your fault Tommy.
It's never the victims fault.

Cupcake_Crisis

Bogfairy wrote: »

Pack it in soft, and let it go hard

That’s..... interesting

jamesbere

Bogfairy wrote: »

Pack it in soft, and let it go hard

Giggitty

PARlance

Try taking off your socks Tommy

Tommysocks11

It could be my fault, I mean I wish I would get aroused easily but I just don't all the time, have had blood tests etc, counciling but still the same, just wish she was a bit more understanding and less demanding

bazz26

Have you tried turning her off and on again or change the batteries?

jamesbere

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

It could be my fault, I mean I wish I would get aroused easily but I just don't all the time, have had blood tests etc, counciling but still the same, just wish she was a bit more understanding and less demanding

Tell her to to pull the finger out

thebull85

Just thumb it in.

Tommysocks11

I know most of ye are taking the Mick if ye pardon the ecpression😀 but seriously what would ye do,

Surreptitious

Thinly veiled 'I have a bedroom' thread.

VainHard Bendix

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

I know most of ye are taking the Mick if ye pardon the ecpression�� but seriously what would ye do,

It might not be a one man job.
You may need to take on some help.

Cupcake_Crisis

jamesbere wrote: »

Tell her to to pull the finger out

Or to try putting the finger in

cloudatlas

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

Just wondering if any posters have experience of a girlfriend or wife who won't take the initiative in the bedroom and expects the man to be standing for attention at all times without even a hint of foreplay, I used to be ready most of the time in my twenties but now I would like a hand every so often but she goes ballistic if I'm soft, help Please???

Why don't you communicate with your partner?

Surreptitious

Bogfairy wrote: »

Pack it in soft, and let it go hard

It's not ice cream he's making at all, you know.

Tommysocks11

I do talk and all she says is every other man I've been with were always hard from kissing and ready for action

thebull85

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

I do talk and all she says is every other man I've been with were always hard from kissing and ready for action

OUCH..

Cupcake_Crisis

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

I do talk and all she says is every other man I've been with were always hard from kissing and ready for action

Have you told her it’s possibly a medical issue that you’re concerned about? If you did and that was her response she’s a bit of a weapon. Sorry.

deco nate

jamesbere wrote: »

Tell her to to pull the finger out

Best to tell her to put the finger in...

thebull85

Get your testosterone levels checked.

Sam Quentin

I'm the opposite, my gf only has to sit in front of the mirror topless(with her 36DD's)and brush her hair and could be all over in a flash

Neyite

thebull85 wrote: »

Get your testosterone levels checked.

Or find a girlfriend that's not a nasty cow that's crap in bed?

Sam Quentin

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

I know most of ye are taking the Mick if ye pardon the ecpression�� but seriously what would ye do,

OK...
I would realise that I dont find her attractive anymore and shoot the breeeeeze.
Don't feel guilty about it, if her friends gave her similar advise then she would leave you

Surreptitious

Sam Quentin wrote: »

OK...
I would realise that I dont find her attractive anymore and shoot the breeeeeze.
Don't feel guilty about it, if her friends gave her similar advise then she would leave you

What are you on about? You want him to make small talk with her?

Larbre34

Sam Quentin wrote: »

I'm the opposite, my gf only has to sit in front of the mirror topless(with her 36DD's)and brush her hair and could be all over in a flash

Then you awaken.

Richard Hillman

I hope she filled out her consent form

One eyed Jack

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

Ya it frustrates the hell out of me and I'm hard mostly but go soft after few minutes playing with her as she's not doing anything to me to keep me up

Sounds to me like sex is more of a chore than something either of ye actually enjoy tbh.

Tommysocks11

We do talk about it and it leads to rows mostly and I just want to make her happy and contented

Larbre34

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Sounds to me like sex is more of a chore than something either of ye actually enjoy tbh.

Agree. Its depressing that so many people seem to go through the motions and may never know what a brilliant sex life is like. In that event, our hero should be trying a new partner, until he meets someone more in his tune.

thebull85

OP do you get random horns throughout the day or in the morning? If thats not happening there is something medically wrong. You seem like you could only be in your 30s.

I only ask because a friend of mine was going through the same thing and that was one of the first questions he was asked when he seen a doctor about it.

Cupcake_Crisis

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

We do talk about it and it leads to rows mostly and I just want to make her happy and contented

How long have yiz been together?

Larbre34

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

We do talk about it and it leads to rows mostly and I just want to make her happy and contented

That should be a two way street chief. And it should come easily (pardon the pun), not be a stressor.

PARlance

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

Ya it frustrates the hell out of me and I'm hard mostly but go soft after few minutes playing with her as


she's not doing anything to me to keep me up

Stop playing with her as so Tommy

guestwifi

Maybe ya have to be hard already, but worth a shot...

VainHard Bendix

PARlance wrote: »

Stop playing with her as so Tommy

Tongue in cheek remark.

Tommysocks11

Over 2 years together and yes I do get erect randomly so no medical issue I think, maybe anxiety??

Larbre34

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

maybe anxiety??

Hmm. What could possibly have brought that on?

Cupcake_Crisis

Tommysocks11 wrote: »

Over 2 years together and yes I do get erect randomly so no medical issue I think, maybe anxiety??

Could be anxiety, could be that you’re very aware that she’s not participating when you do do the deed. Which is not on imo.

riffmongous

If you want a job done right, you've got to do it yourself.

Ficheall

Sounds like she's causing the anxiety and thus the issue, OP, and if you stick with her, it's an anxiety that will persist, and then when you do eventually break up with her, it will also affect you with the next lady because it's something you will inevitably be thinking about. Get rid, asap.

Sam Quentin

Surreptitious wrote: »

What are you on about? You want him to make small talk with her?

NO...
That means 'GET OUT OF DODGE'.
run, scarper, skapiche, hit the road etc etc
Leave her áss...

Donald Trump

OP,

Perhaps you'd prefer if your partner was the one with the raging hard willy??

...........Just sayin'


By the way, I'm surprised she's still up for more after the regular pokings she does be getting off the other posters on here