Anyone else the outcast of their group of friends?

A Pint of Goo

Pretty much the only friends I have are a group of lads I went to school with. They are great guys but i have always felt the odd one out. The older I get the more I feel this. Our interests, sense of humour, outlooks on life etc are all way out of synch.

Out of the six there is only I really connect with and I hardly see him these days. It seems as we get older and older I'll gradually be edged out of the group. On one hand I sort of accept this as I'm drawn to people like Charles Bukowski who were loners and didn't have much need for other people. On the other hand it's a bit sad not to be part of the gang.

Maybe I have some personality disorder that makes me like this. Anyone else feel the same?

pastorbarrett

You're grand. Welcome to getting older.

jacksie66

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Yakult

Could always try making new friends who share similar interests etc.

Omackeral

Jesus I wish I even had a flock to be the black sheep of. You're just showing off OP you charlatan.

Tom Mann Centuria

I find having no friends deals nicely with the issue OP.

A Pint of Goo

jacksie66 wrote: »

You'll be an outcast if you take someone else's woman..

You know something, my do gooder friends will probably judge me harshly for that (even though they've never met the girl or her bf) whereas i think sometimee you really need to put yourself first.

That is a good example of how we are different.

endacl

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Maybe I have some personality disorder that makes me like this. Anyone else feel the same?

*Flippant mode - ON* The same about themselves, or the same about you?

*Serious mode - ON*Have you ever read back over your own posts? You tick a lot of diagnostic boxes.

A Pint of Goo

endacl wrote: »

*Flippant mode - ON* The same about themselves, or the same about you?

*Serious mode - ON*Have you ever read back over your own posts? You tick a lot of diagnostic boxes.

Flippant - who else feels like they don''t belong in their group?

Serious - really? What kind of boxes do I tick?You won't offend me, just say what you think might be wrong with me.

jaxxx

I'm such an outcast that I have no friends.

anewme

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Flippant - who else feels like they don''t belong in their group?

Serious - really? What kind of boxes do I tick?You won't offend me, just say what you think might be wrong with me.

This is just one one for example.




Anyone who likes a post about men not getting it results in women being murdered is not a healthy individual and one to be avoided at all costs.

padd b1975

I can't remember the last time I spoke to someone I went to school with.

Suits me fine.

A Pint of Goo

anewme wrote: »

This is just one one for example.




Anyone who likes a post about men not getting it results in women being murdered is not a healthy individual.

Oh piss off. You brought that up in my thread in personal issues and it was promptly deleted and you got a warning (fair play to the mod).

Ever think I liked that post to wind up muppets like yourself?

looksee

You don't feel you really have anything in common with this group, and you are a bit of a loner. Don't you think you might be edging them out of your life, rather than them edging you out?

Being part of a group is good, generally. Why not try and find a group that shares your interests, you seem to be interested in literature, maybe look for a book club or a writing group. You will have a circle of contacts but can keep them at a bit of a distance.

Really though, what is the point of being part of a group that does not interest you?

A Pint of Goo

looksee wrote: »

You don't feel you really have anything in common with this group, and you are a bit of a loner. Don't you think you might be edging them out of your life, rather than them edging you out?

Being part of a group is good, generally. Why not try and find a group that shares your interests, you seem to be interested in literature, maybe look for a book club or a writing group. You will have a circle of contacts but can keep them at a bit of a distance.

Really though, what is the point of being part of a group that does not interest you?

Yeah I would more inclined to being a loner. I spend a lot of time alone and it doesn't bother me. But it does make me sad that I'm not really one of the boys. I've known them since school after all.

In my experience it's been very difficult to make friends after school.

anewme

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Oh piss off. You brought that up in my thread in personal issues and it was promptly deleted and you got a warning (fair play to the mod).

Ever think I liked that post to wind up muppets like yourself?

I think a lot of people reported your thread in personal issues. they are not stupid. The only muppet is yourself but you want to blame everyone else rather than accept that.

I reported it as it is unhealthy and toxic given wgat has happened in Ireland over the past two weeks.

obviously, others are seeing it too, hence they are not associating with you.

endacl

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Serious - really? What kind of boxes do I tick?You won't offend me, just say what you think might be wrong with me.

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/personality-disorders/types-of-personality-disorder/

Homework.

Insight is important.

A Pint of Goo

anewme wrote: »

I think a lot of people reported your thread in personal issues. they are not stupid.

I reported it as it is unhealthy and toxic given wgat has happened in Ireland over the past two weeks.

obviously, others are seeing it too, hence they are not associating with you.

You got offended, good for you. Now **** off and get a life you twat.

endacl

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

You got offended, good for you. Now **** off and get a life you twat.

There's one!

italodisco

All this bickering, its like an advert for lady towels ffs

A Pint of Goo

endacl wrote: »

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/personality-disorders/types-of-personality-disorder/

Homework.

Insight is important.

Funnily enough I've done a number of online tests (I know) that indicate I score highly in the dark triad personality disorders: psychopathy, narcissim and machevelism.

anewme

What was that line again from a few good men?

endacl

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Funnily enough I've done a number of online tests (I know) that indicate I score highly in the dark triad personality disorders: psychopathy, narcissim and machevelism.

'Funnily'?

That's another one.

In was Narcissistic that leapt out at me.

riffmongous

One if the best troll threads we've had for a while. That the troll turns out to be an angry loner not able to talk to girls is classic! Fair play op

A Pint of Goo

endacl wrote: »

There's one!

Well any psychological problems I have pale in comparison to the issues that someone who feels the need to report something on the internet that offended them has.

Does being a sneaky little grassing **** count as a personality disorder?

A Pint of Goo

riffmongous wrote: »

One if the best troll threads we've had for a while. That the troll turns out to be an angry loner not able to talk to girls is classic! Fair play op

I'm not trolling though.

endacl

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Does being a sneaky little grassing **** count as a personality disorder?

No. But an out of proportion angry response to a reasonable challenge would be a diagnostic indicator on various axes.

Mutant z

I always felt like I didn't fit in with the group I used to hang around with so I no longer associate with them and haven't done so for a long time do I have regrets maybe but you just have to shrug your shoulders move on and accept it as part of life.

endacl

Mutant z wrote: »

I always felt like I didn't fit in with the group I used to hang around with so I no longer associate with them and haven't done so for a long time do I have regrets maybe but you just have to shrug your shoulders move on and accept it as part of life.

I guessing that the difference with you is that you had no problem forming and maintaining relationships with a new circle of friends and acquaintances?

A Pint of Goo

endacl wrote: »

No. But an out of proportion angry response to a reasonable challenge would be a diagnostic indicator on various axes.

I just find it incredible that someone will actually complain about a throw away thanks I gave to a comment and then brings it up in two threads i have created.

I may well have issues but so does that anewme guy...

endacl

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I just find it incredible that someone will actually complain about a throw away thanks I gave to a comment and then brings it up in two threads i have created.

I may well have issues but so does that anewme guy...

I've always found him/her to be very reasonable on here.

A Pint of Goo

Mutant z wrote: »

I always felt like I didn't fit in with the group I used to hang around with so I no longer associate with them and haven't done so for a long time do I have regrets maybe but you just have to shrug your shoulders move on and accept it as part of life.

Did you go on to make a new group of friends?

Mutant z

endacl wrote: »

Mutant z wrote: »

I always felt like I didn't fit in with the group I used to hang around with so I no longer associate with them and haven't done so for a long time do I have regrets maybe but you just have to shrug your shoulders move on and accept it as part of life.

I guessing that the difference with you is that you had no problem forming and maintaining relationships with a new circle of friends and acquaintances?

Actually that couldn't be further from the truth but you know what i would rather not hang around with people who just use you for when they need you true friendship unfortunately is very hard to come by someone who has your back no matter someone you can completely trust and confide in I've never had that kind of friendship with anyone.

A Pint of Goo

endacl wrote: »

I've always found him/her to be very reasonable on here.

Oh I'm sure he's a great guy. Just funny he's brought it up twice now. Perhaps I'll make a thread about my favourite cheese and he'll pop up to say 'S that figures. It's a fact only psychos like that type of cheese, here look at what he thanked.'

5rtytry56

The Monday morn misery porn thread.
No ordinary poo thread so. (Bit like Mexican food poo)
The lone Range goo.

anewme

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Oh I'm sure he's a great guy. Just funny he's brought it up twice now. Perhaps I'll make a thread about my favourite cheese and he'll pop up to say 'S that figures. It's a fact only psychos like that type of cheese, here look at what he thanked.'

I find your views very concerning and worrying.

Particularly in light of what has happened over the last two weeks in Ireland.

Anyone who likes a post stating that men kill because women don't put out is an oddball. Why were you the only one to like it?

Did you also call anyone who disagrees with Formula Grid Women a "fat fckn feminist."?

I think you did.

You can't hold views like these which the majority of people find negative and repulsive and then wonder why people are avoiding you.

Yer Da sells Avon

What is it they say about friends...? A friend will help you move house. A good friend will help you move a body.

I have two good friends.

A Pint of Goo wrote:

On one hand I sort of accept this as I'm drawn to people like Charles Bukowski who were loners and didn't have much need for other people. On the other hand it's a bit sad not to be part of the gang.

Well, if you find it sad not to be part of the gang, then you clearly do need other people. So maybe consider ditching the Charles Bukowski, loner aesthetic and find ways of becoming more open around people. Because as John Donne (who was better than Bukowski) said, no man is an island. I know Paul Simon disagreed, but he openly admits to being still crazy (even after all these years, which is ridiculous). Sorry, what was the topic again? It's late and I should be in bed.

riffmongous

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I'm not trolling though.

Yeah yeah..

But here, in real life do you talk about the same stuff you post about? And the same way? Cause you sound like a reverse 'sjw'..all agenda and social politics stuff the whole time, hard to make real friends as an adult if that's all you go on about

A Pint of Goo

anewme wrote: »

I find your views concerning.

Particularly in light of what has happened over the last two weeks in Ireland.

Anyone who likes a post stating that men kill because winen on't put out is an oddball. Why were you the only one to like it?

Did you also call anyone who disagrees with Formuka 1 Grid Women a fat fckn feminist.?

I think you did.

You can't hold views like these which the majority of people fibd negative and repulsive and then wonder why people are avoiding you.

Okaaaay you're offended, I get it. Maybe you'll get a medal. I don't see the need to bring this up in two random threads I've started.

And yes, I do think that those who are against F1 pit girls are gross fat jealous feminists.

And one more thing, the girl I'm after in work loves my dark humour. So guess what, women aren't all delicate snowflakes who need to be protected!

anewme

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Okaaaay you're offended, I get it. Maybe you'll get a medal. I don't see the need to bring this up in two random threads I've started.

And yes, I do think that those who are against F1 pit girls are gross fat jealous feminists.

And one more thing, the girl I'm after in work loves my dark humour. So guess what, women aren't all delicate snowflakes who need to be protected!

I think you've answered the question you asked in this thread all by yourself!

A Pint of Goo

riffmongous wrote: »

Yeah yeah..

But here, in real life do you talk about the same stuff you post about? And the same way? Cause you sound like a reverse 'sjw'..all agenda and social politics stuff the whole time, hard to make real friends as an adult if that's all you go on about

I will mock feminists and sjws from time to time. But i'll also talk about birds and football as well like most lads.

A Pint of Goo

anewme wrote: »

I think you've answered the question you asked in this thread all by yourself!

Oh please enlighten me St Pious. Actually don't bother. Just go away and join a knitting circle.

riffmongous

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I will mock feminists and sjws from time to time. But i'll also talk about birds and football as well like most lads.

Those are shallow topics though, you'll get mates but not friends. Get some more social hobbies, relax, drop the attitude at the start and go for it

Yer Da sells Avon

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

But i'll also talk about birds and football as well like most lads.

What's your favourite kind of bird? I've always liked sparrowhawks. And great tits, obviously. Can't beat great tits.

anewme

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Oh please enlighten me St Pious. Actually don't bother. Just go away and join a knitting circle.

Stop blaming me for your shortcomings.

Take responsibility for yourself.

anewme

Hapax Legomenon wrote: »

What's your favourite kind of bird? I've always liked sparrowhawks. And great tits, obviously. Can't beat great tits.

swallows.

jaxxx

anewme wrote: »

Stop blaming me for your shortcomings.

Take responsibility for yourself.

Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but I sense a lot of pent-up sexual chemistry between you two

[insert dead meme 'still a better love story than Twilight']

anewme

jaxxx wrote: »

Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but I sense a lot of pent-up sexual chemistry between you two

[insert dead meme 'still a better love story than Twilight']

Have me laughing here.

Nope he's only a young fella and I'm an Owlone.

Not a fat fckin owlone, but an owlone all the same.

Last time I saw 30 was on some hall door.

BeerWolf

Are you your own outcast if you have no friends?

Irish Guitarist

I'm a 42 year old man and my best (to be honest only) friend is a 67 year old Scottish woman who lives here. On the surface we don't have that much in common but we get along great.

My advice would be to not overlook anyone as a potential friend.

5rtytry56

OP , Irish society can tend to be very cliquey. Thus, when a circle of friends disintegrates, like yours, you simply will have to branch out. Irish Guitarist last sentence is the operative for you here!