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Bucket List
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09-06-2018 11:17am#1
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
So sorry to read about your circumstances. I really hope that you and your family get fulfillment and peace.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
In my head after hours is a deliberate act of stupidity, it's a massive piss take.
I'm sorry to hear this, it's a bit odd seeing this in after hours.
I would be happy to contribute to your fund if boards.ie organised it. They could verify you and such... I'm not the best to say..
I'm don't really have anything to say it's mind boggling to be terminally ill. I am sorry you got delt a bad blow.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
Such a sad brave post . Peace be with you and enjoy what time you have . Don’t know what else to say0 -
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ygolometsipe wrote: »In my head after hours is a deliberate act of stupidity, it's a massive piss take.
I'm sorry to hear this, it's a bit odd seeing this in after hours.
I would be happy to contribute to your fund if boards.ie organised it. They could verify you and such... I'm not the best to say..
I'm don't really have anything to say it's mind boggling to be terminally ill. I am sorry you got delt a bad blow.
No really, I have no interest in fundraising. But thanks for the nice sentiment. 0 -
((HUGS)))
This is far too premature for you; it is what many frail elderly come to terms with with far less grace and reality than you doing. Bravo!
I have been ill most of my life and now am getting frailer faster, but then I am very old. And I too have learned to value the simplest of things with joy. Before i read your post I too had rejected the idea of a bucket list. There are joys enough;
Blessings and peaceI’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
Sorry to hear that bud, but thanks for sharing.
Best wishes to you and your family for the times ahead.
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No really, I have no interest in fundraising. But thanks for the nice sentiment.
No problem. I want to suggest something. This could come across as very nieve on my part... I have no idea what your going through..
It's a book you might read if you like.
Marcus Aureliu more or less published his diary in the days leading to his end.
I read them and for a man the rules rome he was really very humble.. most of his writing followed the format of ...to my father I would say... to my mother I would say, to my brother.. .
It's not very long but i admire him for doing it ( even if it's poisoned by political edits)
He was an emperor seeing his end, he looked back and forward as truthfully as he could.
It's wonderful and maybe you could benefit from that.
Again I have no idea what your going through. I just wanted to share it.0 -
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No really, I have no interest in fundraising. But thanks for the nice sentiment.
No problem. I want to suggest something. This could come across as very nieve on my part... I have no idea what your going through..
It's a book you might read if you like.
Marcus Aureliu more or less published his diary in the days leading to his end.
I read them and for a man the rules rome he was really very humble.. most of his writing followed the format of ...to my father I would say... to my mother I would say, to my brother.. .
It's not very long but i admire him for doing it ( even if it's poisoned by political edits)
He was an emperor seeing his end, he looked back and forward as truthfully as he could.
It's wonderful and maybe you could benefit from that.
Again I have no idea what your going through. I just wanted to share it.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
Maybe something simple like plant a tree in a special place?
I still remember family from our garden.0 -
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TrueDeleted User wrote: »Works great for weekends etc. but it's hard to end up on an Antarctic cruise spontaneously.
I was talking more about those type of elusive wish lists. If I decide to visit somewhere, for example, I would usually put it into action quite quickly rather than leave it to some indefinite point in the future where it might never come to fruition. 0 -
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Zero Point wrote: »True I was talking more about those type of elusive wish lists. If I decide to visit somewhere, for example, I would usually put it into action quite quickly rather than leave it to some indefinite point in the future where it might never come to fruition.
Just planning my next mainland exploration! My monastic historian mind is finding Mayo awesome... Cross Abbey, Belmullet is next and would love the Inishkeas but the crossing would cost..
At some stage yearn to revisit Cong and Ross Errilly but that is dubious
I dream of where next a great deal..research it and anticipate with great pleasure0 -
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Join the Seniors tour in golf. Still have a lot of years before I'm eligible, but want to get my golf to a level that I can realistically make it happen
Do some sort of big charity fundraising thing for like MS or Cancer research. Have a few things in mind, but not feasible right now.
Produce trance. I have so many melodies in my head but no time or skill to get them into something workable..... 1 day
Actually work in my field of study. Just could never catch a break with it and I'm too long away from it now that no employer would touch me with a 10 foot pole on it. Still love it though and routinely mess around with it at home.
Work from home - closer to becoming a reality. Would be more fun though if it was in my field of study lol
Have my kids play golf with me just like I play with my dad. When they're old enough it would be class to have 3 generations out there
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