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Need to take my kids off their mom

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  • #102
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,373 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    OP, while I'm not at all justifying your ex's behaviour and failure to parent. Might it be worthwhile offering to move into the house for a week or so to "babysit" while she goes and has "a break for herself"?

    It'd give you the chance to get the place properly sorted out (with help from the kids), to teach the older kids how to prepare some healthy meals and to put together a roster with their involvement for the various household jobs (with everyone, including their mother getting assigned tasks).

    Having them work out the roster would let each child take on the jobs they're capable of doing and lets the initial horse-trading of "I hate doing the dishwasher, if you do that I'll do the hoovering" etc happen from the outset which might help with the buy-in?


  • #103
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 15,005 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    Stuck In A Bind wrote: »
    Success has come in the head lice issue. The child no longer has any and I've inspected her myself when I was over there this morning. Happy to say this and there's a commitment to treat it moving forward as a preventative measure.

    Just about head lice, don't be too sure just yet that she's clear. There could still be eggs hatching. So a head that you think is clear could be infested again in a week or 2. My daughter, who has very long hair got them and it took 3 months of constant combing, and about 3 or 4 shampoo treatments to get rid of them. Also, do not treat her with head lice removal products if no head lice are present. Overuse of the products can lead to them becoming less effective.

    Get an empty spray bottle and make a mix of water and a few drops of tea tree oil. Give the hair a quick spritz every morning. Particularly at the backs of the ears, and the nape of the neck. And buy a "Nitty Gritty" comb in the chemist.


  • #104
    Plopsu
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 671 ✭✭✭Plopsu


    Sleepy wrote: »
    OP, while I'm not at all justifying your ex's behaviour and failure to parent. Might it be worthwhile offering to move into the house for a week or so to "babysit" while she goes and has "a break for herself"?

    He said he has the kids three weekends out of four. Is that not break enough for her?


  • #105
    Plopsu
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 671 ✭✭✭Plopsu


    OP, obviously this is a bit sensitive but has your ex had alcohol or substance abuse issues in the past? Did any of this start shortly after she met her current boyfriend?


  • #106
    TheBlock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 596 ✭✭✭TheBlock


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    Just about head lice, don't be too sure just yet that she's clear. There could still be eggs hatching. So a head that you think is clear could be infested again in a week or 2. My daughter, who has very long hair got them and it took 3 months of constant combing, and about 3 or 4 shampoo treatments to get rid of them. Also, do not treat her with head lice removal products if no head lice are present. Overuse of the products can lead to them becoming less effective.

    Get an empty spray bottle and make a mix of water and a few drops of tea tree oil. Give the hair a quick spritz every morning. Particularly at the backs of the ears, and the nape of the neck. And buy a "Nitty Gritty" comb in the chemist.

    Would also agree on the Tea Tree Oil. You can get Shampoo containing Tea Tree Oil and use this as a preventative measure. We use it for our kids and haven't had any re-occurance in years even though there's been messages from schools saying the head lice are back....


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