Step sons "depression"

mariaalice

Why is it not managed better, the counselor in school should not be seeing him during Irish and science ask that they see him during other classes in rotations so he only missed an equal amount from each class?, is he weak academically while having two high achieving parents which is putting him under a pressure he can't handle?.

Have both of you talked to him in a nonjudgmental way about his academic progress or even just asked him what he thinks is the issue himself? does he have friends play sports have a good life outside this problem?.

The op does sounds like he does not like his stepson and the stepson sounds like he ambivalent or has hidden resentment about his stepfather and its all come out in a very unhealthy way.

Hoboo

mariaalice wrote: »

The op does sounds like he does not like his stepson and the stepson sounds like he ambivalent or has hidden resentment about his stepfather and its all come out in a very unhealthy way.

Very presumptuous.......OP could be a woman.

sweeneed

piplip87 wrote: »

Thanks every one for the replies. We are not calling him out on it. We are 95%sure there's nothing wrong with him but we are treating him like there is.

There is only so much playing along we can do though. He is leaving Irish and Maths class on a daily basis to talk to the councillor. What happens when the exams at Christmas or End if year come and he is missing a year's worth of work ?

Also when he gets his own way he is fine not a bother on him. As soon as punishment for wrong doing is handed out (No Xbox for the night) he goes into a rant saying he will hurt himself with out it ?

I think it's a generational thing teenagers today can't hear no and can't deal with it. Of course we are both working in good jobs and have provided a very good life for him, maybe he got too much and now he can't always have his way.

Like I said we are 95% sure it's an act but we have decided today to make some changes.


We have always limited screen time and exercised looking recently he became addicted to the phone and YouTube so we are following guidelines to deal with mental health issues.

He will hate it but it's a win win situation. If he has issues it will help deal with it. If not he will realise what he is missing and maybe cure himself.

maybe suggest that you have read about various studies concluding that video gaming negatively impacts people suffering with depression and anxiety and that you are not allowing it to see if things improve.... does he value his gaming so much that he might say he is feeling ok?

Smegging hell

NewClareman wrote: »

I agree with this viewpoint. I have some insight in this area, through a close family member. The op’s son will pick up that the op is, at least to some extent, going through the motions.

Definitely... issues at home can play up in school

rainbowtrout

There's been 30 odd posts about anxiety, counsellors and psychiatrists, yet the OP hasn't stated at all what her's sons reason was for constantly leaving science and Irish.

Why those two subjects? Are there people in those classes he doesn't get on with? Does he find difficulty in those subjects? Does he not get on with the teachers? How is he doing generally in his other subjects? Have any of these questions been asked? What does the school have to say about him? This may have absolutely nothing to do with mental health issues.