Average number of sexual partners in a lifetime?

MiliMe

8 for me. I'm 36 and think this is probably quite low for the average 36 year old.

Toots

32 years old and only ever had the one partner. Met in our teens and now approaching our 8th wedding anniversary.

Bredabe

Enough to get to get the practice I need to be perfect at it now!

SharpshooterTom

troyzer wrote: »

It depends on how much being a virgin hinders you psychologically. If meaningless sex can help your mental health even slightly, it's definitely worth it.

I've read that a lot of women find a guy who's uses prostitutes more offputting than being a virgin.

troyzer

ThomasFlynn wrote: »

I've read that a lot of women find a guy who's uses prostitutes more offputting than being a virgin.

Yeah but they don't have to know? I think being a virgin later in life is being de-stigmatised so I doubt women care that much.

I'd be more worried about your confidence and the effect THAT has on your chances. Which is why nipping it in the bud might be a good option.

A gentleman never tells.

biko

splashuum wrote: »

Curious to know what peoples thoughts are on this

What are your own thoughts on this?

Hector Savage

ThomasFlynn wrote: »

Nah I've no interest in seeing an escort, I find the concept of having sex with someone who (likely) has no physical attraction to me and secretly can't wait for it to be all over offputting, it feels cold. I mean what's the point?

troyzer wrote: »

It depends on how much being a virgin hinders you psychologically. If meaningless sex can help your mental health even slightly, it's definitely worth it.

Both good points.

Donald Trump

Hector Savage wrote: »

At thats stage, I would go see a professional lady that will help.

No shame in it, will get it out of your system.

Has he not tried going down the fat bird route yet?


Just make sure nobody ever finds out!

Sin City

I stopped counting after 350ish

I had a bad break up and went off the rails so slept with load

Alf Veedersane

Pherekydes wrote: »

3.1415926...

Hector Bellend

I was never exactly warren beatty but I had a few successes in my younger years. Maybe 12-13

I'd love to says it's a really high number but i'm a fat bastard and I'm getting almost no fanny at the moment.

SharpshooterTom

Donald Trump wrote: »

Just make sure nobody ever finds out!

I suspect unless you're a good actor it inevitably becomes obvious.

Donald Trump

ThomasFlynn wrote: »

I suspect unless you're a good actor it inevitably becomes obvious.

I meant about the fat bird!

Gimme A Pound

Persepoly wrote: »

I remember that question from my time on Okcupid. My response was always 'no'. There are still odd views around having a lot of sex, particularly if you're a woman.

Pedant alert: a lot of partners rather than a lot of sex! I find it offputting tbh and can understand either sex feeling that way. I don't think 40 is a crazy amount though by a person's 30s. If a person starts having sex at 17/18, well by 35 if they are single for much of it, things can easily add up.

3-digit figures though, wtf?!

sbsquarepants

Persepoly wrote: »

No its 4! Yes that's better. I've slept with 4 men

Worst. Slut. Ever!:D

pickarooney

April Bumpy Revenge wrote: »

Pedant alert: a lot of partners rather than a lot of sex! I find it offputting tbh and can understand either sex feeling that way. I don't think 40 is a crazy amount though by a person's 30s. If a person starts having sex at 17/18, well by 35 if they are single for much of it, things can easily add up.

3-digit figures though, wtf?!

One partner a month for 10 years isn't a huge number.

BBFAN

I'm always baffled by this question. How the hell do people remember? Do you keep a notebook? Or maybe it's just because I'm above the average age on boards.:D

Geuze

Two, first time at age 30.

Hector Bellend

BBFAN wrote: »

I'm always baffled by this question. How the hell do people remember? Do you keep a notebook? Or maybe it's just because I'm above the average age on boards.:D

Surely you'd only forget if youve had a lot of partners or youve had sex that you dont want to remember.

BBFAN

Hector Bellend wrote: »

Surely you'd only forget if youve had a lot of partners or youve had sex that you dont want to remember.

Bit of both.

Hector Bellend

pickarooney wrote: »

One partner a month for 10 years isn't a huge number.

120 sexual partners is way above average I'd say.

I'm 41 and have not even had sex with a quarter of that amount

wakka12

pickarooney wrote: »

One partner a month for 10 years isn't a huge number.

I would say one new partner a month is a lot unless you are a college student going to parties/clubs

pickarooney

Hector Bellend wrote: »

120 sexual partners is way above average I'd say.

I'm 41 and have not even had sex with a quarter of that amount

It's above average because most people either get into relationships or go through extended dry spells but for a long time single person it's really not strange.

yassal

Think I'm in the minority but I'm male and in my mid 30s and I've only had 2.

I had opportunities in my teens but I didn't have particularly strong feelings for the people in question.

The 2 people I have been with I was in love with and that was important for me.

In the period between number 1 and number 2 I was heartbroken and never slept with anyone to try fill the void

Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo

There's probably no way to get hard data on this but living in a world with Dating Apps, contraception and no real social pressure to get married, should basically allow any person to have as many as they want.

I can't see it being easier 50 years. So I'd imagine that the average for Irish people is growing higher and higher all the time.

Gimme A Pound

yassal wrote: »

Think I'm in the minority but I'm male and in my mid 30s and I've only had 2.

I had opportunities in my teens but I didn't have particularly strong feelings for the people in question.

The 2 people I have been with I was in love with and that was important for me.

In the period between number 1 and number 2 I was heartbroken and never slept with anyone to try fill the void

I am mostly the same, although i have had short-term partners occasionally - but i much prefer having more than just a physical connection. It isnt a fashionable point of view but sex is a big deal to a lot of people.

Day Lewin

More than the number of fingers on both hands.
Stopped counting. But I don't think I've accounted for all the toes yet.
Depends, too, on what you mean by "sexual partner"
Just any P2V?

Fr_Dougal

pickarooney wrote: »

One partner a month for 10 years isn't a huge number.

It would be a bit strange not to have at least a couple of relationships over a period of 10 years. Generally, if you’ve gotten to the sex part, it takes about 3 months to decide whether a new relationship is going to work or not.

Throw a couple of those in every year and you would be having a new partner every week or so. It sounds like fun, but it would get jading very quickly.

Your Face

All I know is I've had more hot dinners.