Now ye're talking - to someone who's lived in a state care home

I've lived in state care homes, AMA

Gloomtastic! wrote: »

I’m sure you’re aware that’s probably prosecutable. Your inner strength is admirable but you may need justice to be able to forgive and move forward. What stops you?

There was a case, it collapsed due to a legal error by the prosecution. I will never forgive those people if I am honest, I have moved on, had no contact with them and I am happy with how my life is now.

Not a single phonecall,text,message on facebook or even a card in my door, they know where I live, i was nothing more than an inconvenience to them, i was often asked by people in later life was i the child that nobody wanted in terms of family, the answer is yes i was.

How i found the strength i will never truly know, it wasn't like i just woke up one day and decided that's it, it was over time, i did try to reunify with some of the family for a few years after leaving care but was just in a corner twiddling my thumbs. Honestly though it doesn't bother me anymore, yes i do go to my local mental health clinic once every 6 months but i am in a good place, it is my children i feel sorry for only having one side of the family and some are still too young to fully explain what is going on, needless to say their mothers side of the family more than make up for my absent family. All i do is keep on smiling for my children day in day out, my motto is to have a positive mental attitude.

Boards.ie: Mark

Thank you very much to our volunteer for talking about and sharing their experiences. And thank you all for your questions. As there's been no questions in a couple of days, I'll wrap this up.