Precious parents and their new born kids

v638sg7k1a92bx

Is this a recent phenomenon or has it always been the case? I'm beyond this phase in my life but I have friends/colleagues/acquaintances who seem to think that the world revolves around their kids nap or feeding times.

I was invited to a christening and at 11.30am, the mother a child left the christening to bring the baby home because nap time was between 12 and 2pm. So what was the point in having a Christening if you're just going to go home!

A friend invited themselves over to the house to introduce their new baby, she turns up 90 minutes late with the explanation that the child was asleep and couldn't be woke!!! So I have to organise my life around when your 6 month old child decides to wake up???

A new colleague has joined after moving back to Ireland from Australia where the baby was born. She's married with one child and is living in her parents while the house they bought is being renovated for the past year. Anyway, I can hear her chewing the balls off her father and snarking down the phone at the mother if the child isn't asleep at nap time or had it's arse wiped a certain way!

Another one was when we were INVITED over to a friends house, everybody had to whisper because the baby was having their nap and couldn't be woke. Do they not realise that it's a self fulfilling prophecy, if you tip toe around the house then you are creating an environment where the child will wake up whereas if you proceed as normal the kid will adapt to the noise?

What is the matter with these people that their kids are so precious where everyone has to tip toe around their timetable and sleeping habits or God forbid that a child might hear a loud voice!?!

ah would ya stop. they're low enough on sleep

People treat their new babies like precious things because they are precious things. Sleep is important for their development and the parents sanity in equal measure and the pleasure of your company might not offset the misery of a cranky child too tired to feed properly and having it's routine disrupted for people already sleep deprived and immersed in a new world of parenting a new born child.

Not a parent, btw. Just have some empathy.

How Soon Is Now

They where more then likely dick heads before they had kids having them just gives them an extra excuse!

Ive two kids ya there's loads of ****e you need to plan your life around but you keep it to yourself and don't take over other people's life's with it!

KBurke85

Everyone has their own way of raising their children. Who are you to judge? We mightn't agree with it but at the end of the day it's no ones business but the parents.

frag420

Reading that OP makes me glad I’m infertile!

danslevent

I find parents very irritating as well when it comes to their kids. I used to work in creche and the drama everyday with some of them. They would refuse to leave the classroom when their child is upset because they are leaving. Just get out! Let us do our job! Your child will be playing within two minutes, you hanging around and causing a scene isn't helping anyone. They are usually laughing and playing within mere minutes after the parnet has left.

Rikand

Original poster sounds like a right moany git

If its not babies and their parents it'd be something else

DEFTLEFTHAND

It's always been the case. They're a nightmare to deal with when newborn, the more tired they are the more cross they get. Anytime they're asleep is a blessing for stressed parents, especially first timers.

v638sg7k1a92bx

KBurke85 wrote: »

Everyone has their own way of raising their children. Who are you to judge? We mightn't agree with it but at the end of the day it's no ones business but the parents.

It s my business when I wait 90 minutes for someone to show up or they invite me to their house and I have to whisper.

Some people just have difficulty with the concept of them not being the most important thing, everywhere, all the time, to everyone.

Anyone complaining about not being able to wake up a baby by being as loud as they want in someone elses house is probably one of those people.

Dakotabigone

Do they drive a Tuscon SUV?

oLoonatic

Oh great, its the "it didn't do us any harm" brigade. do you feel better after your rant OP. Times change, parenting styles change. Perhaps you need to change too.

v638sg7k1a92bx

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

It's always been the case. They're a nightmare to deal with when newborn, the more tired they are the more cross they get. Anytime they're asleep is a blessing for stressed parents, especially first timers.

Whats are talking about, born babies do nothing but sleep and s**t.

How Soon Is Now

If you don't want people messing with your kids routine don't invite them round or call into there's!

It's not someone else's problem what you do with your child.

v638sg7k1a92bx

oLoonatic wrote: »

Oh great, its the "it didn't do us any harm" brigade. do you feel better after your rant OP. Times change, parenting styles change. Perhaps you need to change too.

Must be one the perpetrators, did the truth cut a bit close to the bone or did you not get enough sleep last night because little one needs to be woke for a feed every three hours else their nutrient levels will be too low?

v638sg7k1a92bx

Candie wrote: »

Some people just have difficulty with the concept of them not being the most important thing, everywhere, all the time, to everyone.

Anyone complaining about not being able to wake up a baby by being as loud as they want in someone elses house is probably one of those people.

Or maybe don't leave me waiting 90 mins or invite me over to your house.

AtomicHorror

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: »

Whats are talking about, born babies do nothing but sleep and s**t.

Have you not had kids yourself or did you just not take part in the raising of them?

You seem to mostly be struggling with the idea that other people may not prioritize the same things that you do. You're going to find relationships consistently difficult.

If it bothers you so much, don't be friends with new parents. I think they'll be better off at least.

Dakotabigone

Dakotabigone wrote: »

Do they drive a Tuscon SUV?

or any SUV................or a MINI COUNTRYMAN

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Those people were probably annoying to you pre-baby too, OP.

Some of what you describe does sound a bit precious. I agree with you that sleeping babies need to get accustomed to household noises.

But if some of these folks are new parents, give them a break.

NSAman

Oh No... don't get me started on this thread...;)

Yes new parents have a precious little dahhhhhling and they are happy...as we all are for them. What irks the hell out of me is "some" have to tell everyone everything about IT. Fine for 10 minutes, not for the whole frigging night or making the conversation all about the precious little dahhhling.

God forbid the little dahhhling is as ugly as sin,,, you just have to say they are lovely and so cute..... GOM here..;)

v638sg7k1a92bx

AtomicHorror wrote: »

Have you not had kids yourself or did you just not take part in the raising of them?

You seem to mostly be struggling with the idea that other people may not prioritize the same things that you do. You're going to find relationships consistently difficult.

If it bothers you so much, don't be friends with new parents. I think they'll be better off at least.

Unlike you I don't make decisions for other people on whether or not they should have children and I'm not the one who is turning up 90 mins late or inviting people over to my house for a whispering contest.

0ph0rce0

I hate the ones when they are in the shops , on the bus or just out and about and they like to shout about what the kids are doing.

OHHHH LITTLE JIM, YOUR FUNNY, OHHH HAHAHAHAHA WHAT ARE YOU DOING. Then they start looking around the place to see if you are looking.

Yes yes yes I can hear you but no I don't want to look, **** off please.

AtomicHorror

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: »

Must be one the perpetrators, did the truth cut a bit close to the bone or did you not get enough sleep last night because little one needs to be woke for a feed every three hours else their nutrient levels will be too low?

Human newborns wake every few hours for a feed, day or night. If they wake themselves, they will cry a lot. The sound is distressing to humans, even more so to the parent humans who have formed what is called "emotional attachment" to the human neworn. I'm explaining this to you in terms a robot might understand. I hope that's helpful.

So anyway, you can wake em yourself or not, but either way you're getting up.

Again, this indicates you lack even the most basic knowledge of child-rearing.

davo2001

OP clearly doesn't have kids. If you did, you would understand.

AtomicHorror

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: »

Unlike you I don't make decisions for other people on whether or not they should have children and I'm not the one who is turning up 90 mins late or inviting people over to my house for a whispering contest.

I make decisions for others on whether they should have children?

How Soon Is Now

davo2001 wrote: »

OP clearly doesn't have kids. If you did, you would understand.

Understand what? What am I missing?

NSAman

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How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Understand what? What am I missing?

You are missing how annoying some new parents can be...;)

meeeeh

Little feckers are hard enough to get to sleep, why would you wake them up for a cranky git who will complain about something anyway.

How Soon Is Now

NSAman wrote: »

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You are missing how annoying some new parents can be...;)

I'm well aware unfortunately.

AtomicHorror

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Understand what? What am I missing?

All of it. Ah that's not fair. He mentioned babies sleep and poop, so it's just everything except those two facts. Which are broadly applicable to people, so probably not as insightful as he thought.

v638sg7k1a92bx

davo2001 wrote: »

OP clearly doesn't have kids. If you did, you would understand.

Understand what exactly, that the world revolves around your child's nap time???

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Understand what? What am I missing?

I have no children and I’m well aware that my knowledge of what babies are like is very deficient because you don’t learn about it really until you actually experience it. I’d say new parenthood presents all kinds of surprises.

Billgirlylegs

KBurke85 wrote: »

Everyone has their own way of raising their children. Who are you to judge? We mightn't agree with it but at the end of the day it's no ones business but the parents.

You are quite correct, how parents treat their child is their own business.

However, they don't need to be an ass and inflict the strangeness on others.
There were at least two examples of tosserism - arriving 90 minutes later than planned, and dragging people to a Christening, and then buggering off for a sleep.

Lots of people have had babies and gone through the lack of sleep/mad protector phase.
We just reverted to normality when we met or dealt with other people.

davo2001

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Understand what? What am I missing?

How much a pain in the arse it is to break a routine of a new born?

irishrover99

OP clearly has Daddy issues

SomeSayKos

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: »

It s my business when I wait 90 minutes for someone to show up or they invite me to their house and I have to whisper.

Hope you're ok. what a terrible thing to happen to you. Have you thought about cutting them from your life?

Dakotabigone

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

I hate the ones when they are in the shops , on the bus or just out and about and they like to shout about what the kids are doing.

OHHHH LITTLE JIM, YOUR FUNNY, OHHH HAHAHAHAHA WHAT ARE YOU DOING. Then they start looking around the place to see if you are looking.

Yes yes yes I can hear you but no I don't want to look, **** off please.

Who calls their child Jim?

davo2001

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: »

Understand what exactly, that the world revolves around your child's nap time???

To the parents, it does. Don't worry OP, when/if you have kids someday you will understand. Did you miss your nap today by any chance?

v638sg7k1a92bx

AtomicHorror wrote: »

Human newborns wake every few hours for a feed, day or night. If they wake themselves, they will cry a lot. The sound is distressing to humans, even more so to the parent humans who have formed what is called "emotional attachment" to the human neworn. I'm explaining this to you in terms a robot might understand. I hope that's helpful.

So anyway, you can wake em yourself or not, but either way you're getting up.

Again, this indicates you lack even the most basic knowledge of child-rearing.

So what you've attempted to say is that babies fall asleep and when they wake up they cry for food and therefore the world must come to a standstill. Thank you for haring the most basic knowledge of child rearing.

meeeeh

Billgirlylegs wrote: »

There were at least two examples of tosserism - arriving 90 minutes later than planned, and dragging people to a Christening, and then buggering off for a sleep.

What idiot would have kids and not use them as an excuse when you want to avoid tedious situations.

AtomicHorror

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: »

So what you've attempted to say is that babies fall asleep and when they wake up they cry for food and therefore the world must come to a standstill.

In response to you sneering at the idea of waking a baby every 3 hours to feed as if it were some crazy new-fangled helicopter parenting notion.

This in an attempt to imply parents lack of sleep is their own fault.

You are clueless.

v638sg7k1a92bx

davo2001 wrote: »

How much a pain in the arse it is to break a routine of a new born?

You just highlighted the problem. The "routine of a new born". They don't have routines.

How Soon Is Now

AtomicHorror wrote: »

All of it. Ah that's not fair. You mentioned babies sleep and poop, so it's just everything except those two facts. Which are broadly applicable to people, so probably not as insightful as you thought.

I'm well aware what kids do I've a 2 year old and 5 year old. I've been there looking after them since they where born.
If there's a bit of normal noise going on around kids they get used to it and will sleep threw it.

All they do is sleep when there young so you won't screw that up by acting like a normal person!

Kids have routines parents try having them to but that's it don't expect the rest the world to revolve around your life!

davo2001

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: »

You just highlighted the problem. The "routine of a new born". They don't have routines.

The whole point is to try and get them into one. Again, you're clearly not a parent.

NSAman

meeeeh wrote: »

What idiot would have kids and not use them as an excuse when you want to avoid tedious situations.

Thats why I have back issues, to get away from those new born baby situations...

Must go... my sciatic nerve is killing me... cute kid..;)

Sittingpretty

danslevent wrote: »

I find parents very irritating as well when it comes to their kids. I used to work in creche and the drama everyday with some of them. They would refuse to leave the classroom when their child is upset because they are leaving. Just get out! Let us do our job! Your child will be playing within two minutes, you hanging around and causing a scene isn't helping anyone. They are usually laughing and playing within mere minutes after the parnet has left.

Just wait until you have to peel your own flesh and blood’s fingers one by one from your hand as their eyes implore you to stay.

Parents aren’t stupid morons. We know the child will be fine but it’s not so easy when you have heart strings.

greenspurs

Op - Not a parent ?


If you were you'd understand ......

AtomicHorror

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

I'm well aware what kids do I've a 2 year old and 5 year old. I've been there looking after them since they where born.
If there's a bit of normal noise going on around kids they get used to it and will sleep threw it.

All they do is sleep when there young so you won't screw that up by acting like a normal person!

Kids have routines parents try having them to but that's it don't expect the rest the world to revolve around your life!

It's OP whose knowledge we're doubting, both in the comment you first responded to and my reply.

We have almost identical families btw.

v638sg7k1a92bx

davo2001 wrote: »

The whole point is to try and get them into one. Again, you're clearly not a parent.

I'm just an organised parent that has my s**t together. Not like the insufferable thirty-something parents we have nowadays with their houses untidy and in bits and fawning over the child as if it were some deity.

Ilovethe bonesofyou

Blakely Quaint Sand wrote:

It s my business when I wait 90 minutes for someone to show up or they invite me to their house and I have to whisper.

Sounds like you're the one who's precious here.

Also, I'm curious, do you have any kids yourself?