Best ways to get a date offline?

KikiLaRue

Might be better off in PI with this one but I’m interested in what AH can come up with.

Any other singles totally sick of the apps?

Most of my friends are quite settled or live far away so not a huge scope for going out... any ideas on how to meet someone offline?

biko

Interactions with other humans IRL usually will do the trick.

OldMrBrennan83

biko wrote: »

Interactions with other humans IRL usually will do the trick.

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

Avatar MIA

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Might be better off in PI with this one but I’m interested in what AH can come up with.

Any other singles totally sick of the apps?

Most of my friends are quite settled or live far away so not a huge scope for going out... any ideas on how to meet someone offline?

You're not exactly making it easy.

What's work like?

KikiLaRue

biko wrote: »

Interactions with other humans IRL usually will do the trick.

Do they though? Like in the US I believe it’s quite normal for a guy to approach a woman he likes in a cafe and ask her out, does that happen here?

biko

Here I made a video for you, but generally just converse with people surrounding you with no flirting.
After a while in conversation introduce flirting.
Converse with people that are standing alone. They are more inclined to humour you that someone in a group.
Keep it short and simple.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4PpWoYVbP4

Avatar MIA

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

I think you're the one that is more in need of posting in PI.

KikiLaRue

Avatar MIA wrote: »

You're not exactly making it easy.

What's work like?

I work from home mostly, but even when I do go into the office the only time I’ve ever come close to flirting/ romance is the Christmas party.

OldMrBrennan83

Avatar MIA wrote: »

I think you're the one that is more in need of posting in PI.

True, because things definitely aren't gone down that road at all these days. I forgot you can't mention it either.

KikiLaRue

Avatar MIA wrote: »

You're not exactly making it easy.

What's work like?

I do go out - just get clarify - but usually for one or two and not on mad sessions that end in coppers.

Join an activity group, say hill-walking or dancing. Strike up a conversation. It's not rocket surgery.

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KikiLaRue wrote: »

I work from home mostly, but even when I do go into the office the only time I’ve ever come close to flirting/ romance is the Christmas party.

You're limited in your options for going out, you've no work interactions, and past college I presume, and online dating is not happening. Have you considered the priesthood? Some women love a challenge/uniform :pac:

What do you think you need to change to put yourself in a situation to meet people you fancy?

Avatar MIA

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I do go out - just get clarify - but usually for one or two and not on mad sessions that end in coppers.

Ah, okay, and mad sessions rarely end in relationship forming opportunities anyway.

sk8erboii

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

That only happens if you’re unpresentable and creepy.

o1s1n

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

Jaysus, did you strike out recently?

KikiLaRue

Avatar MIA wrote: »

You're limited in your options for going out, you've no work interactions, and past college I presume, and online dating is not happening. Have you considered the priesthood? Some women love a challenge/uniform :pac:

What do you think you need to change to put yourself in a situation to meet people you fancy?

While I can understand why you’d assume Kiki is masculine (?) just to confirm I am female.

I think I do need to get out and about more - any more ideas on hobbies or activities that are likely to involve meeting other youngish people?

I’m not very sporty or musical or arty, just to be totally awkward about this - but I am open to ideas.

I’d like to start going to a book club but I think I’d mostly meet other women at that. Maybe toastmasters.

Infonovice

Does Boards ever do meet up's?
Like individual people arranging meet up's
I'm sure they had been mentioned before but i'm not sure what happened with them

KikiLaRue

Take The Wheel Jesus wrote: »

If you can, go to a trad pub full of tourists. Chatting up foreign women is like playing the game of life on God mode. You can literally seduce foreign women by talking about turf. In fact I would encourage you to paddy it up (but don't get too drunk and for the love of God don't ask an American girl her opinion on Trump or gun rights).

That would be helpful if problematic advice if I were a lesbian, but I’m actually a woman looking to meet a guy.

Seriously lads, I know we can’t assume gender these days, but I thought Kiki was meant obvious enough?!

Yer Da sells Avon

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

These days that would hardly be possible seeing as he'll be labelled a potential rapist if he even strikes up a conversation with a woman.

Edit - That's if they're looking for a woman, because assuming is a crime these days too.

True. I know someone who said hello to a woman once and now he's on the sex offenders' register.



I knew a woman once, but she died soon afterwards.

Avatar MIA

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Seriously lads, I know we can’t assume gender these days, but I thought Kiki was meant obvious enough?!

I pretty much assume everyone on Boards is a male unless proven otherwise, so we're gonna need pics :pac:


The more perceptible Biko actually posted a good vid in that case. :cool:

Avatar MIA

Infonovice wrote: »

Does Boards ever do meet up's?
Like individual people arranging meet up's
I'm sure they had been mentioned before but i'm not sure what happened with them

Do weddings count

Grayson

o1s1n wrote: »

Jaysus, did you strike out recently?

I'm assuming someone say him try and put the roofie in the drink

Infonovice

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I’d like to start going to a book club but I think I’d mostly meet other women at that. Maybe toastmasters.

other woman as friends might be a start.

my friend went to a christening of another friend of hers years ago.
She met someone there, who was a friend of the baby's father.
they are now married themselves.
(I meant my friend married the man she met at that christening. not that the christening couple married)


so maybe try expand your circle of friends, be it women or men, and see what happens:)

Infonovice

Avatar MIA wrote: »

Do weddings count

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Avatar MIA

Infonovice wrote: »

?

People have met through boards, and have got married.

Infonovice

oh ok sorry I wasn't sure what you meant.

That's lovely that some people have met here and went on to live happily ever after.

Maybe Kiki might find her romeo here so:)

JayRoc

Avatar MIA wrote: »

People have met through boards, and have got married.

I was laughing at that idea if I'm being totally honest.

Then about 90 seconds later I realised I'm fairly sure I met my wife through boards

freshpopcorn

Lisdoonvarna!

corner of hells

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Lisdoonvarna!

We havin' a singsong ?

Ohhhh Lisdoonvarna !

Go for it , Kiki..

KikiLaRue

corner of hells wrote: »

We havin' a singsong ?

Ohhhh Lisdoonvarna !

Go for it , Kiki..

How we doin’, everybody? From Cork, New York, Gortahurk and Glenamaddy?

Blitzkrieger

I think it's been said already OP - get out and do stuff. Join a gym, take a class, find a hobby and meet people IRL. Doesn't matter if it's men or women, you'll gradually expand your circle and meet more friends of friends, etc. I've been rejected by countless women using this method....

Always like this routine which fits here (sort of) :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bts28rz0lJ0

biko

https://www.meetup.com/ will probably have some activities in your area

Boom_Bap

Offline? just open the pegs and the dates will fall off the line

Tacklebox

Plenty of date's in my local healthy foodie shop.

The owner looks like one of the pussy cat doll's, but she doesn't need a man to make her happy

izzyflusky

I would agree with making friends with women too. I'm forever trying to set up my best friend with someone but she is not very happy with my efforts despite finding her great catches.

Zorya

Join clubs that have mostly fellas as members. Wall climbing. Chess clubs. Bee keeping. Martial arts. Doesn't matter if you are crap at these things. Avoid clubs that are mostly women. Anything to do with writing, art, singing, yoga.

JohnnyFlash

Have a few pints in Toners or O’Donohues, then head down to House.

KikiLaRue

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Have a few pints in Toners or O’Donohues, then head down to House.

I think a girl out in a pub on her own would be seen as quite weird... I know lads can get away with it especially if there is a match on, but I think a lady alone trying to catch the eye of a passing guy would be seen as desperate.

SCOOP 64

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Do they though? Like in the US I believe it’s quite normal for a guy to approach a woman he likes in a cafe and ask her out, does that happen here?

No way ,Guards will be called.

Dtp1979

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Do they though? Like in the US I believe it’s quite normal for a guy to approach a woman he likes in a cafe and ask her out, does that happen here?

It does if you want the girl to accuse you of harassment or unwanted sexual advances

KikiLaRue

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

No way ,Guards will be called.

That definitely doesn’t happen.

I was actually asked out in the street by a French guy a few weeks ago, and I just said no and then we both moved on with our lives.

Zorya

Another option is go to local matches at the weekend. I seem to remember in the hazy past that there were lots of lads standing around and people are friendly.

EmmetSpiceland

Dtp1979 wrote: »

It does if you want the girl to accuse you of harassment or unwanted sexual advances

I think the key is to not harrass or sexual assault the woman.

Mister Vain

KikiLaRue wrote: »

That would be helpful if problematic advice if I were a lesbian, but I’m actually a woman looking to meet a guy.

Go to some car shows. Any amount of lads there.

KikiLaRue

Dtp1979 wrote: »

It does if you want the girl to accuse you of harassment or unwanted sexual advances

Again, this does not happen.

I am a woman. I have two sisters. I have many female friends.

No woman I know would react this way to a man politely asking her for her number or for a date.

It’s only harassment if you won’t F off if she says no.

corkboy38

escort ireland.

Micky 32

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

No way ,Guards will be called.

Unless you're built like a rugby player with looks of George Clooney ( or whatever irish girls are into these days);)


A friend of mine who is on facebook got friended by a random woman months back. The other day she commented on a photo he posted that led to private messenging. Within a day they were having rampant s*x! true story!

Mister Vain

corkboy38 wrote: »

escort ireland.

Yes that's a good car show. I'd recommend that.

Dtp1979

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Again, this does not happen.

I am a woman. I have two sisters. I have many female friends.

No woman I know would react this way to a man politely asking her for her number or for a date.

It’s only harassment if you won’t F off if she says no.

I was taking the piss.

Airyfairy12

Id agree with others here, expand your circle, youre more likely to meet someone through a friend instead of a random chance encounter.
Join a book club but do it for the love of books and meeting new people, you never know where life will lead you.

davidk1394

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Again, this does not happen.

I am a woman. I have two sisters. I have many female friends.

No woman I know would react this way to a man politely asking her for her number or for a date.

It’s only harassment if you won’t F off if she says no.

What about a thumb war ? That’s how I met my girlfriend in Langtons in Kilkenny. I was getting a drink, she was beside me I asked her would she have a thumb war with me and it went from there