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Bought a house mother isn’t well

Newjob1 · 2019-04-27 20:59:32

Hi all, I don’t know where to start with this but I’ll give it a go. So myself and my partner have bought a house, we haven’t moved in just yet should have the key next week. I am 35, lived at home all my life. Over the past 5 years my mother has not been well through some minor illnesses and mostly know mental health. My…

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#52 13-06-2019 11:13pm

the14thwarrior

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OP
your mother's behaviour is not good. she has a mental health disorder, or simply is not capable of behaving in a normal manner.

you cannot change this now.
you must change yourself, you must change how you respond or else it will make you unhappy and unfulfilled. I really fear you will end up regretful and sad, and in many years to come regret what might have been

the fact that you are now asking others for advice, leads me to believe that you've not confronted it with a professional person like a counsellor.

You yourself need to come to terms with what is under your control, and how you can cope and manage with this going forward.
you obviously realise things are not right but perhaps cannot find a way to deal with it objectively and reasonably. perhaps an outside professional can help you figure out coping strategies and give you skills on how to manage this difficult situation.
your marriage and your healthy childrens future depends on how you move on with this situation.
all your friends will tell you what to do, what they would do, or what they have done. in truth, your situation is rare enough, and therefore you need help else you will end up listening to what other people did / will do / have done / and none of them understand the complexity of your relationship with your mother.

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