Is there anyone in your family you don't talk to?

My immediate family are all great, but there's one branch of the extended family I refuse to have anything to do with, bar one. That one is worth the rest of them added up together and multiplied by a zillion.

cristali

My husband, after he told me he hopes I die of cancer being frustrated coz he didn't know how to boom flight tickets and I didn't wanted to do it for him 😊

cristali

cristali wrote: »

My husband, after he told me he hopes I die of cancer being frustrated coz he didn't know how to boom flight tickets and I didn't wanted to do it for him ��

That seems very hurtful. I hope you're okay.

RMAOK

cristali wrote: »

My husband, after he told me he hopes I die of cancer being frustrated coz he didn't know how to boom flight tickets and I didn't wanted to do it for him ��

Good God :eek::eek:

cristali

Candie wrote: »

That seems very hurtful. I hope you're okay.

Thank you, what's worse is that I'm 12 weeks pregnant and these outbursts make me have doubts big time but ... it will be ok one way or the other 😊

cristali

cristali wrote: »

Thank you, what's worse is that I'm 12 weeks pregnant and these outbursts make me have doubts big time but ... it will be ok one way or the other ��

Ah jeez You need more kindness than usual, not less. That must be very hard to deal with.

Please take care of yourself and put yourself first. Congratulations on the baby and I hope everything works out for the best. X

arybvtcw0eolkf

Not me as such, my my father doesn't speak to me. But then he chooses not to speak to lots of people for his own reasons.

Doesn't bother me overly, he's missed out on his grandchildren growing up and into adulthood too. Totally his choice so his loss, I'm busy enough making a life with my family and looking to their future and my own when its time one of them makes me a grandad.

I don't understand not speaking to people, if I have a problem with someone I'll try my best to sort it out and move on.. Holding onto resentment and hatred for someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Gimme A Pound

Jenna James wrote: »

I've estranged myself from 1 person in my immediate family in the last 12 months. Not a day goes by when I think about them but I know it was the right decision. The pain is raw.

By association, a sibling has closed ranks and we're not connected anymore either.

I wouldn't wish this on anyone but the alternative is worse.

Yeah it seems sometimes you just have to let go - but it must be awful, and the absolute last resort.

Was talking to a friend of a friend recently who was telling me about her heroin addicted brother - in and out of prison, robberies, assaults, all of his children are in care (their mother is useless too), he broke into his parents' place and they came home to find him and his friends doing gear in the kitchen.

They can't have anything more to do with him - it's not even a choice at this stage.

steddyeddy

cristali wrote: »

My husband, after he told me he hopes I die of cancer being frustrated coz he didn't know how to boom flight tickets and I didn't wanted to do it for him 😊

I hope you have friends to go to because you need to escape that man. I've never met you but you don't deserve that. No one deserves that treatment. Feel free to PM me or talk about it here if you want.

Cushtie

Get on grand with siblings and parents. We are the kind of family that are not all into each others business but at the same time all get on fairly well. We are scattered aroud a bit and when we do get together it is usually very nice.

On the other hand, don't have much to do with father in law anymore. Had a great relationship with him up to a few years ago, his wife passed away then and he turned into a right prick. Ended up making life very difficult for my OH and her siblings. When I called him out on one particular occasion he decided to get all offended, and that was enough for me.

2 fast

Extended families are ****e! I'd love not to talk to an aunt cause she treats my Mam like crap but if I had a go at her itd hurt my Mam soon I dont bother but some days I get so mad! People are very self involved especially in families.

Abel Ruiz

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

It's nice to know I'm ultimately twice the man that prick will ever be.
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Says who?????
Maybe youre the prick?
Why is everyone that posts on boards an angel?

Addle

Have a mate staying with us at the moment who has recently escaped from her family.
She feels terrible as one of her parents is unwell and she was a great help to them.
However the other is twisted and conniving to the extent that they really seem to want to make our friend hurt herself. They’re unreal selfish. A level of selfishness that I have thankfully never directly encountered in anyone.
To be bullied by your own parent, the person who is meant to love you the most in the world, I just can’t imagine.
And then her siblings take the toxic parents side as it makes life easier on them, though I think deep down, they must really know what’s going on, or else they’re really stupid.
She’s emotionally and mentally destroyed. And is now dealing with guilt.
We don’t know how else to help her other than to offer her space.

SaltSweatSugar

I speak to my dad and sister. I'm on good terms with my dads family but my mums is a different story. She had 13 brothers and sisters and there was always someone fighting or not speaking to someone else. Right now there are two uncles and one aunt that I don't speak to. They treated my family horribly after my mum died. She took her own life so it was an incredibly difficult time. One of the uncles said some truly awful things to us the day after she died, while we were in the funeral home organising her funeral. He's a horrible man. The other uncle and aunt stood up at her inquest and basically tried to imply that my father was to blame for her death. They made an already difficult experience a hundred times worse. I know they were grieving too but they took it out on us, which I'll never forget.

I'll never forgive them for how they acted or how they made me feel. I haven't spoken to them in 9 years and I'm not one bit sorry. They're not nice people.

freshpopcorn

I do think it's a lot more common than some relies.
You can have a family sitting around a table at a restaurant or a group at an event and people may not be getting on but it doesn't stand out.
The only time when trouble starts is when somebody tries to make friends!

Sunrise_Sunset

Estranged from one parent for the past year. There will be no resolution. My life has been a lot better since.
Not estranged, but not close at all with one sibling. To the point where even saying hello, how are you feels awkward.
Not close to another sibling as they moved abroad when I was still a kid. Probably to escape the parent I'm estranged from.

Aglomerado

Yes one unmarried aunt.

She was a toxic influence in our family, even drove a wedge between me and my brother by treating us differently...the only reason people put up with her was because she always came bearing gifts and wads of cash. But these things are meaningless without genuine goodwill.

She's a narcissist and demands to be centre of attention. Even when out in public at a restaurant or supermarket she will go out of her way to talk to other diners or customers (strangers), usually absolute nonsense.

I fell out with her on Christmas 2012, being flaming drunk helped, she had a go at me because she was irritated that she wasn't the centre of attention for 5 minutes. I had a right go at her and we haven't spoken since. This is great, as my parents were unnable to drive past the town where she lives on the way to my house without picking her up and bringing her with them. Then in restaurants I would be known in locally she would start her cr8ap with servers and strangers.

She lives in a suburb of a large town, and has not one single friend there, or indeed outside the family. That says a lot.