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Approaching a parent that doesn’t know about you..

RC94 · 2019-06-30 19:14:57

Hi all. Just looking for some guidance on how to approach the situation I’m currently in. I recently found out who my father is and have no idea how to approach him. as far as I know, he doesn’t know about me and there was never a relationship between himself and my mother.

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30-06-2019 8:14pm

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RC94

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Hi all. Just looking for some guidance on how to approach the situation I’m currently in.
I recently found out who my father is and have no idea how to approach him. as far as I know, he doesn’t know about me and there was never a relationship between himself and my mother.

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#2 30-06-2019 8:39pm
Wabbit Ears

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Sleeper12 wrote:

Congratulations and best of luck for the future.

A posted letter with all your information and contact details is the best way IMHO. Allws him to digest and puts the contact ball in his court.

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#3 01-07-2019 4:41pm
miamee

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Going via a social worker or a mutual acquaintance/friend would be best rather than confronting him in person. If he doesn't know you exist, he's going to be very shocked to hear about you to say the least. Does your mother not have any kind of contact with him or did she not tell him when she was pregnant?

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