April 2020 Babies club

CheerLouth

Also might be worth adding in to the plan that you don't want repeated internal exams. On my last baby & on this one too, I put in "minimal internal exams. If present, I would prefer to use the "anal cleft/purple line" as a guide". It was perfect, I was left in the zone and left to progress.

larrymickdick

just a question for mothers who have been through labour before - have you done perineum massage and have you found that it has helped? It's not the kind of question I want to ask my friends. I tried it (with the help of my partner) last night. We were both nervous and a little unsure whether we were doing it right. I tried some of the breathing techniques the midwife had given us in antenatal class and my partner said he could feel it relaxing as I concentrated on my breathing. Hoping the practise works and stops me from tearing or needing to be cut (if even to reduce chances of it).

Has anyone else tried/found benefit from it? Honestly I am big and it's too awkward I am grateful my partner assisted otherwise I wouldn't be able to do it by myself.

Sprites

larrymickdick wrote: »

just a question for mothers who have been through labour before - have you done perineum massage and have you found that it has helped? It's not the kind of question I want to ask my friends. I tried it (with the help of my partner) last night. We were both nervous and a little unsure whether we were doing it right. I tried some of the breathing techniques the midwife had given us in antenatal class and my partner said he could feel it relaxing as I concentrated on my breathing. Hoping the practise works and stops me from tearing or needing to be cut (if even to reduce chances of it).

Has anyone else tried/found benefit from it? Honestly I am big and it's too awkward I am grateful my partner assisted otherwise I wouldn't be able to do it by myself.

This is my 2nd pregnancy and I am planning on giving it a go. I didn't on my 1st as I was being sectioned so cant offer any experience.

The doula who gave my ante natal class said that while there are limited studies on its effectiveness, it can't hurt and many midwives recommend it.

I also plan on using warm compresses during labour as a preventative measure too.

I do want to avoid an episiotomy if at all possible.

Nickibaby*

Is everyone removing shellac/gel nails on fingers and toes and if so how close to due date?

Or for any non first timers can you really just leave them on

Sprites

Nickibaby* wrote: »

Is everyone removing shellac/gel nails on fingers and toes and if so how close to due date?

Or for any non first timers can you really just leave them on

Nope, unfortunately they are a no-no. If you have to have an emergency C-Section they need to be able to see your nail bed under the nail and they can't remove Shellac easily in hospital. I wouldn't get them redone after around 36 weeks just in case.

See if you could manage with just a file and paint maybe

Nickibaby*

Sprites wrote: »

Nope, unfortunately they are a no-no. If you have to have an emergency C-Section they need to be able to see your nail bed under the nail and they can't remove Shellac easily in hospital. I wouldn't get them redone after around 36 weeks just in case.

See if you could manage with just a file and paint maybe

Thanks I know that's the right thing I just need to suck it up for a few weeks. I know it's a very minor concern in the grand scheme of things!

aloevera33

Does anyone else have bad anxiety over coronavirus 😭 or is it just me x

Nickibaby*

aloevera33 wrote: »

Does anyone else have bad anxiety over coronavirus 😭 or is it just me x

It is worrying especially now we are in the vulnerable group. I work with a lot of people & feel like they are all potential carriers ha

aloevera33

Nickibaby* wrote: »

It is worrying especially now we are in the vulnerable group. I work with a lot of people & feel like they are all potential carriers ha

I know lol everyone is a suspect!
I want to wrap myself in cotton wool for next few weeks!

Nickibaby*

aloevera33 wrote: »

I know lol everyone is a suspect!
I want to wrap myself in cotton wool for next few weeks!

I've 4 weeks left to go & thinking I'm going to get signed off work early anyway the struggle is starting to get real and I do feel like wrapping myself up in cotton wool too!

Sprites

Nickibaby* wrote: »

It is worrying especially now we are in the vulnerable group. I work with a lot of people & feel like they are all potential carriers ha

Have they placed pregnant women in the vulnerable group??

bee06

Sprites wrote: »

Have they placed pregnant women in the vulnerable group??

Not that I’ve read. First trimester possibly but not late pregnancy. My biggest worry would be the impact to medical staff if it turns into a full outbreak.

Nickibaby*

Sprites wrote: »

Have they placed pregnant women in the vulnerable group??

The wording on government website is pregnant women also might be at risk for severe illness, morbidity or mortality compared to the general population.

Blingy

Anyone else just so exhausted at the moment? Toddler is not sleeping well at the moment and I need more sleep

Sprites

Blingy wrote: »

Anyone else just so exhausted at the moment? Toddler is not sleeping well at the moment and I need more sleep

Yes, I am totally drained most of the time. Have a 3 year old who demands entertaining from the moment he wakes until he goes asleep and he dropped his daytime nap last summer so its pretty full on!! He does sleep through most nights though so can't complain on that front.

6 weeks to go here and I am finding it increasingly difficult to find a comfortable sleeping position. That and restless legs are killing me!!

Nickibaby*

Blingy wrote: »

Anyone else just so exhausted at the moment? Toddler is not sleeping well at the moment and I need more sleep

Yes feeling pretty exhausted at times and I've no toddler to look after so I can only imagine!

Pocos

Blingy wrote: »

Anyone else just so exhausted at the moment? Toddler is not sleeping well at the moment and I need more sleep

Yes absolutely! Was lucky enough to finish work at 33 weeks but toddler has had ear infection conjunctivitis and last night 4 hours of vomiting in the middle of the night!!! So I think I’m actually passed the point of exhaustion!

As others have said it’s hard to get comfortable and night and I also get restless legs! I find Panadol and hot water bottle has helped a little! 36 weeks and will be happy to finish this pregnancy! It’s been very draining

Blingy

Anyone else have a sore bump? It’s kinda hard to explain but it just feels sore at the front especially when walking. Mostly around the belly button region. Feels so hard and tight too. I just don’t remember this in previous pregnancies

bee06

Blingy wrote: »

Anyone else have a sore bump? It’s kinda hard to explain but it just feels sore at the front especially when walking. Mostly around the belly button region. Feels so hard and tight too. I just don’t remember this in previous pregnancies

I had the same, it’s after easing up now (at 38 weeks) as the baby moves down but it was very sore for a good while. Especially picking my 2 year old up. My pain was just above my belly button and the midwife said that my liver was around there and it could be bruised from the baby kicking it. She said if it got very sore to ring them because it could be serious. Mind was mostly in the afternoon/evening.

Blingy

bee06 wrote: »

I had the same, it’s after easing up now (at 38 weeks) as the baby moves down but it was very sore for a good while. Especially picking my 2 year old up. My pain was just above my belly button and the midwife said that my liver was around there and it could be bruised from the baby kicking it. She said if it got very sore to ring them because it could be serious. Mind was mostly in the afternoon/evening.

Thank you. I do wonder is it when I’m more tired that it happens.

shesty

Would be Braxton hicks Blingy?Is it on and off?

Blingy

shesty wrote: »

Would be Braxton hicks Blingy?Is it on and off?

No I don’t think it is. It’s just sore and it’s usually later in the day. Might have an option to work my last few weeks from home due to the c virus so that should help.

CPTM

Has anyone read what to expect if a pregnant mum-to-be (say at our stage - 36 or 37 weeks) contracts this infamous coronavirus? It's just a concern at the moment thankfully and not a reality! I've been trying to research and I'll be asking the docs during next checkup but I was just wondering if anyone has seen any useful information anywhere. Would it just be a Csection straight away or would it be looked at on a case by case basis.

Sprites

CPTM wrote: »

Has anyone read what to expect if a pregnant mum-to-be (say at our stage - 36 or 37 weeks) contracts this infamous coronavirus? It's just a concern at the moment thankfully and not a reality! I've been trying to research and I'll be asking the docs during next checkup but I was just wondering if anyone has seen any useful information anywhere. Would it just be a Csection straight away or would it be looked at on a case by case basis.

https://www.rcog.org.uk/en/guidelines-research-services/guidelines/coronavirus-pregnancy/covid-19-virus-infection-and-pregnancy/?utm_source=Royal+College+of+Obstetricians+and+Gynaecologists&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=11381928_Coronavirus+guidance+%7C+March+2020+%7C+Public%2FSeedlist&utm_content=%3E+Information+for+pregnant+women&dm_i=15N0%2C6RYCO%2CHU69QV%2CR3SIR%2C1

Fairly comprehensive information here

Sprites

Updated for Irish system


http://aimsireland.ie/%ef%bb%bfcovid-19-virus-infection-and-pregnancy-in-ireland/

Our little chap arrived a couple of days ago, coming in just under 3kg, after a very short and intense labour. Everything went well if a bit fast and furious with no time for pain relief or to use any of the carefully packed items in the labour bag! We're now tucked up at home a brand new little family. We're crazy in love with him, he's gorgeous.

Good luck to all you ladies, it's all worth it when you see that amazing tiny human and get to hold him for the first time.

aloevera33

Candie wrote: »

Our little chap arrived a couple of days ago, coming in just under 3kg, after a very short and intense labour. Everything went well if a bit fast and furious with no time for pain relief or to use any of the carefully packed items in the labour bag! We're now tucked up at home a brand new little family. We're crazy in love with him, he's gorgeous.

Good luck to all you ladies, it's all worth it when you see that amazing tiny human and get to hold him for the first time.

Congratulations brilliant news wishing you all the best. I'd say ye are delighted to be home

bee06

Congrats Candie! Enjoy the newborn snuggles!

Sprites

Candie wrote: »

Our little chap arrived a couple of days ago, coming in just under 3kg, after a very short and intense labour. Everything went well if a bit fast and furious with no time for pain relief or to use any of the carefully packed items in the labour bag! We're now tucked up at home a brand new little family. We're crazy in love with him, he's gorgeous.

Good luck to all you ladies, it's all worth it when you see that amazing tiny human and get to hold him for the first time.

Huge congratulations!!

Nickibaby*

Huge congratulations

plasticheart

Candie wrote: »

Our little chap arrived a couple of days ago, coming in just under 3kg, after a very short and intense labour. Everything went well if a bit fast and furious with no time for pain relief or to use any of the carefully packed items in the labour bag! We're now tucked up at home a brand new little family. We're crazy in love with him, he's gorgeous.

Good luck to all you ladies, it's all worth it when you see that amazing tiny human and get to hold him for the first time.

Huge congratulations, Candie. So delighted for you

Thanks everyone, you've a lot to look forward to because it's a cloud 9 feeling!

CheerLouth

Congratulations Candie!

We've just signed up to a homebirth - admittedly with very short notice. Hopefully all will be well when the midwife comes tomorrow and we can proceed with it. Couple of things weren't going the way I liked in the hospital and I was feeling very stressed out. Corona hasn't helped matters either so we've decided that this is the best option for us! I finally feel like I can chill out now.

Pocos

Candie wrote: »

Our little chap arrived a couple of days ago, coming in just under 3kg, after a very short and intense labour. Everything went well if a bit fast and furious with no time for pain relief or to use any of the carefully packed items in the labour bag! We're now tucked up at home a brand new little family. We're crazy in love with him, he's gorgeous.

Good luck to all you ladies, it's all worth it when you see that amazing tiny human and get to hold him for the first time.

Congratulations Candie! Lovely feeling when you get to meet your little bundle!

Good timing before all this coronavirus has hit!

How is everyone else feeling? Getting a bit anxious on how the hospitals will be as nearly 38 weeks pregnant! Consultant said maternity unit will be one of the last affected as babies wait for no one but hard not to get a bit panicky!!

Also have two year old and feel it’s hard to ask my parents (in their 70s) take her when I go into labour as meant to keep grandparents and grandchildren apart!

Anyone else in a similar boat? This def wasn’t how envisaged my last two weeks like!

Nickibaby*

Definitely feeling panicked too week 37 and I just want to get into the hospital have him and come home safe and lock my front door. Definitely not the last few weeks we had envisaged. I feel like it's all taking over the best time of our lives. My husband is very stressed and panicked he has no choice really but to go into work and he is very worried about bringing the virus into our home.

Sprites

https://rise.articulate.com/share/j_A9M2VrxvdeZgDiCbBTEw0lCvNoeTMX#/

Useful reliable information here

Pocos

Sprites wrote: »

https://rise.articulate.com/share/j_A9M2VrxvdeZgDiCbBTEw0lCvNoeTMX#/

Useful reliable information here

Thanks Sprites!
Yes I had read that and I suppose it’s more what the hospital will be like when I do go into labour rather than if I’ll be ok! Like in two weeks is that gonna be the peak of the curve? Is that when the majority of cases will be in the hospital? Not exactly the nicest place to be in If it is!

I’m sure it will all be ok but nice to know I’m not the only one a bit anxious about the whole thing! Trying to think as positively as possible!

RMC10

Sprites wrote: »

https://rise.articulate.com/share/j_A9M2VrxvdeZgDiCbBTEw0lCvNoeTMX#/

Useful reliable information here

Thanks Sprites.

Pocos, Nikkibaby, I'm with you. 37 weeks and I'm feeling so anxious about the whole situation that's unfolding around us. It's so scary and I'm not one who'd generally be inclined to panic. As well, not how I envisaged spending my two weeks before baby, no downtime now with a toddler in tow and hubby still working. Trying to think big picture but it's easier said than done 😔

aloevera33

RMC10 wrote: »

Thanks Sprites.

Pocos, Nikkibaby, I'm with you. 37 weeks and I'm feeling so anxious about the whole situation that's unfolding around us. It's so scary and I'm not one who'd generally be inclined to panic. As well, not how I envisaged spending my two weeks before baby, no downtime now with a toddler in tow and hubby still working. Trying to think big picture but it's easier said than done 😔

36.5 weeks here and same as you all in a ball of anxiety! Many tears have been shed. The main thing is we deliver the baby safely and get home. It will be hard with no husbands/partners for the few days after but it will all be short term. We can support each other here during the time xx

WonderousWorld

Have to say im feeling the nerves too. 34 now and my hospital appointments have been cancelled as of today- just as they were about to be more often than 1 time a month... it was scheduled for 8 apr (37 weeks) which felt like long enough away but now im imagining delivering the baby in my hpuse by myself 😱 I had to book into gp instead who didn’t seem to keen on seeing me - asked if i had a home blood pressure kit (to self monitor 😱😱😱)
Just freaking me out completely.

Sprites

WonderousWorld wrote: »

Have to say im feeling the nerves too. 34 now and my hospital appointments have been cancelled as of today- just as they were about to be more often than 1 time a month... it was scheduled for 8 apr (37 weeks) which felt like long enough away but now im imagining delivering the baby in my hpuse by myself 😱 I had to book into gp instead who didn’t seem to keen on seeing me - asked if i had a home blood pressure kit (to self monitor 😱😱😱)
Just freaking me out completely.

It really is an unprecedented situation. I am putting my faith in the health system in thinking that they wouldn't cancel appointments unless it is the absolute safest thing to do. I haven't gotten word yet from the hospital I'm attending but I expect all my clinic appointments will be cancelled also.

Luckily I've had a textbook pregnancy so far so I'm not too worried about blood pressure. I'll ask the hospital if it's necessary for me to attend GP for BP and urine samples.

I'm erring on the side of caution and mentally preparing to have no birth partner with me for delivery, that's the biggest worry for me at the moment.

WonderousWorld

Sprites wrote: »

It really is an unprecedented situation. I am putting my faith in the health system in thinking that they wouldn't cancel appointments unless it is the absolute safest thing to do. I haven't gotten word yet from the hospital I'm attending but I expect all my clinic appointments will be cancelled also.

Luckily I've had a textbook pregnancy so far so I'm not too worried about blood pressure. I'll ask the hospital if it's necessary for me to attend GP for BP and urine samples.

I'm erring on the side of caution and mentally preparing to have no birth partner with me for delivery, that's the biggest worry for me at the moment.

Hadn’t even thpught about having himself NOT there. Jesus that’ll be distressing, I appreciate its just literally being figured out day by day but, its scary. Im thinking ill be ipting to get outta there asap provided all checks are ok etc. after delivery.

Sprites

WonderousWorld wrote: »

Hadn’t even thpught about having himself NOT there. Jesus that’ll be distressing, I appreciate its just literally being figured out day by day but, its scary. Im thinking ill be ipting to get outta there asap provided all checks are ok etc. after delivery.

I think that's one thing that will be in our favour (depending on what your plans are I suppose), is that if everything is ok they will be discharging patients quickly enough.

I'm just preparing for worst case scenario, hopefully it wont come to it but I just want to be as prepared as I can just in case.

Was discussing it with my mum earlier who said that having partners present is a relatively new norm, so I'm thinking if she could do it three times on her own then surely I can lol!!

WonderousWorld

I understand, just the moral support though. Guess its a wait and see situation!

Sprites

WonderousWorld wrote: »

I understand, just the moral support though. Guess its a wait and see situation!

Absolutely, and I will feel awful for him if he can't be there.

Definitely wait and see and hope!!

Pocos

Why do people think partners won’t be at birth? If they have the virus is the only reason why I can think of! Or do people think they will start to limit people in the hospital! I just assumed one visitor and that will be my husband after birth!

We have gone private so none of my app are in the hospital so they are in his private clinic so they haven’t been cancelled as of yet!
But due to having a toddler I’ll be going solo to them as not to be bringing children into the clinic to spread anything! Even though she has no symptoms but just in case!

Glad to hear others have shed tears! It’s hard to know if we will feel any better with the babies in us or outside in the world! The worry of keeping them safe and not getting the virus is an added worry to an already worrying time when you have a new born.

We have decided though to try and get a bit excited about baby number two as it will be brilliant but with so many unknowns at the moments it’s hard to get into that headspace!

bee06

Pocos, a lot of hospitals are already saying no visitors after the birth including partners. I had my baby Monday in CUMH, home yesterday and they updated the policy to no visitors from today.

Pocos

Oh Bee don’t say that!
I loved the time together me my husband and baby number 1 two years ago in the hospital after the birth! Be hard to be in there solo!

Anyone with the Waterford hospital? Hear anything?

Huge congrats on baby Bee boy/girl? You have toddler too don’t you? About 2? How are they reacting?

bee06

A girl and we had a 2 year old boy already. He’s smitten with her unless she gets in the way of something he wants. Eg bedtime is a struggle because he still wants me to do bedtime which isn’t possible if baby is feeding.

shesty

Congratulations Bee!!First while with 2 is tough, go easy on yourself (and the little guy!)