calling your parents ma'am/sir

Lirange

Someone sent this to us recently.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CtKwMm4lP-o

Definitely a few in there Permabear!

Dave_The_Sheep

BDI wrote: »

The worse is the edgey hip teenagers that call their mothers by their first name like it makes them so cool and badass.

Couldn’t even make themselves a cheese sandwich.

I'm late 30s, I always called my parents by their first names. My sister doesn't, she uses mam and dad. From what I've read, it's more prevalent among firstborns (to use names).

I make myself a very tasty cheese sandwich, I'll have you know. Toasted, butter, bit of onion, grated white cheddar/gouda mix, mustard, worstershire sauce. Hits the spot.

screamer wrote: »

My pet hate is kids calling their parents by their first name, so disrespectful

You what now?

DEFTLEFTHAND

We always used Mum in our household. She'd beat you if you reffered to her as Mam. She thought it was common.

Yer Da sells Avon

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

We always used Mum in our household. She'd beat you if you reffered to her as Mam. She thought it was common.

It was 'mum' or (controversially) 'mom' in our house. 'Mam' was acceptable, but 'ma' would get you a clatter. 'The oulwan' was another no-no.

moonage

I call my mother by her first name or sometimes "Mrs".

mr_fegelien

Sir Osis of Liver. wrote: »

A lad I work with calls his wife Mammy.He's in his late 50's and his kids are adults.
It's fcukin weird to hear him on the phone to her ...yes Mammy,no Mammy.

Even when he's talking about her to us it's..And then Mammy said this,Mammy said that..

Fcukin hell,it's strange.

Weird indeed. Imagine during sex "can I lick your feet mammy, can I have a footjob mammy?!"

:D

BDI

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Weird indeed. Imagine during sex "can I lick your feet mammy, can I have a footjob mammy?!"

:D

Like the awl feet do ye?

screamer

screamer wrote: »

My pet hate is kids calling their parents by their first name, so disrespectful

I think it’s just weird and never understood people who do it.

Even into my 30’s I’d never even consider calling my parents their first names even when talking to orther people about them (the exception being someone who wouldn’t know who I was talking about if I said “mam” or “dad”).

Any Irish person saying “mum” instead of “mam” should be beaten with a red hot iron bar.

J Mysterio

screamer wrote: »

My pet hate is kids calling their parents by their first name, so disrespectful

I knew a guy in school who used to call his dad, dad, but his mother, Imelda.

Always found that really odd and wondered did it mean he hated his mother. Apparently not.

corks finest

Our mam was / is/ and always will be mam ,dead now a good few years but really great memories ,our mam

Yer Da sells Avon

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5J9ha9iXEaM

FunLover18

screamer wrote: »

My pet hate is kids calling their parents by their first name, so disrespectful

Not at all. Myself and my siblings have always called out parents by their names because they always called each other by their names so we just picked it up from them which is what they wanted.

mr_fegelien

I never call my parents even by mum/dad as we just speak. They call me "Fegelien" but when I talk to them, I just talk to them.

I wonder if this is the same with anyone else.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

mr_fegelien wrote: »

I never call my parents even by mum/dad as we just speak. They call me "Fegelien" but when I talk to them, I just talk to them.

I wonder if this is the same with anyone else.

How do you refer to one while talking to the other? You have to call them something. How do you greet them?

iamwhoiam

mr_fegelien wrote: »

I never call my parents even by mum/dad as we just speak. They call me "Fegelien" but when I talk to them, I just talk to them.

I wonder if this is the same with anyone else.

What if you were speaking to your dad and said” can you ask ..... to call me or text me etc “ What would you say ?
Or if they were in the garden and you called them in for a cuppa ? At some stage you would be using a name

mr_fegelien

iamwhoiam wrote: »

What if you were speaking to your dad and said” can you ask ..... to call me or text me etc “ What would you say ?
Or if they were in the garden and you called them in for a cuppa ? At some stage you would be using a name

I say mum and dad in that context but we really don't greet each other with "Good morning mum" just good morning.

is_that_so

FunLover18 wrote: »

Not at all. Myself and my siblings have always called out parents by their names because they always called each other by their names so we just picked it up from them which is what they wanted.

Someone I know tried this with their kids as they'd done that. It lasted all of two days of school and then it was Mammy and Daddy!

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

mr_fegelien wrote: »

I say mum and dad in that context.

That's more or less what most here were saying. :rolleyes:

kingtut

Nothing more cringey than mam or 'me ma' usually long drawn out like 'hey maaaaaaaaaaaaa'

EmmetSpiceland

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

A friend of mine called his mother “mammy” well into his late teens, probably still does.

He got an unmerciful “slagging” over it. Among other things.

I know a 40 year old who still calls her parents mammy and daddy.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Gustavo Putrid Beeswax wrote: »

I think it’s just weird and never understood people who do it.

Even into my 30’s I’d never even consider calling my parents their first names even when talking to orther people about them (the exception being someone who wouldn’t know who I was talking about if I said “mam” or “dad”).

Any Irish person saying “mum” instead of “mam” should be beaten with a red hot iron bar.

What a bizarre overreaction. Many people in this country have one British parent. My friend lives in Wales and her children call her Mammy. Maybe people should beat her children for not calling her ‘mummy’?

Sofiztikated

The oul lad/fella and oul wan/doll.

Or ma and da.

De mudder is common too.

FunLover18

is_that_so wrote: »

Someone I know tried this with their kids as they'd done that. It lasted all of two days of school and then it was Mammy and Daddy!

Funny how that works out, there's obviously no right or wrong way. Personally for me I feel it brought us closer to our parents but I've had discussions before about some people feel calling their parents mum and dad does the same. Each to their. Ma'am and Sir though is very odd and authoritative.

EmmetSpiceland

Sofiztikated wrote: »

The oul lad/fella and oul wan/doll.

Or ma and da.

De mudder is common too.

No room for “mater”, no?

Cee-Jay-Cee

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

A friend of mine called his mother “mammy” well into his late teens, probably still does.

He got an unmerciful “slagging” over it. Among other things.

That’s nothing. My boss who is probably around 56/57yrs old, married with grown up children still refers to his mother as ‘mammy’ anytime he speaks about her. I find it a little strange.

Sofiztikated

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

No room for “mater”, no?

Mother dearest is about as posh as I get.

She knows who she is, what I call her is irrelevant, as long as I call her.

touts

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is this exclusively American? I was watching a YouTube episode of The World's Strictest Parents and in some, they made the teens call them ma'am/sir.

I think though they just did that cause they weren't their parents and just other adults and wanted them to show respect. Surely they don't make their kids call them ma'am/sir. That's just weird. But maybe not according to some.

Have you ever heard that here?

Was a guest at a family wedding in America a few years ago. Was warned that the father of the bride wanted to be called Sir or Mr McNamara. The groom (my Cousin) had only been given permission to call him Tom after formally asking for and getting permission to marry his daughter.

I thought **** that. So I just called him Tom all week.

Everyone gets equal respect. Anything above that has to be earned. As a general rule if you have to demand it, expecially from your friends and family, then you don't deserve it.

Jamsiek

Gustavo Putrid Beeswax wrote: »

Any Irish person saying “mum” instead of “mam” should be beaten with a red hot iron bar.

I always thought Mam was too formal, short for madam, like talking to royalty. Mom makes more sense IMO

Tony EH

NickNickleby wrote: »

I'm 64 and I address my mother as "Mam", the Irish version (or Yorkshire) not the American "ma'am". No one slags me for it.

Mam is just short for mammy. It's a term of endearment.

Ma'am, is an abbreviated form of Madam. It's something you address to a superior officer, as if your in the army.

Any **** that make their kids address them as Ma'am or Sir need a serious slap across the head.

Tony EH

Insect Overlord wrote: »

Military culture.

Idiot culture.

Aisling(",)

I use the bog standard Mam/Dad but I always found it weird that my nieces mother (not my sister) refers to herself as mother.Like she'd sign a card to her child " Love, Mother".

Always makes me think of some cold victorian woman.