'No girlfriend. Just go to work, go home'

YFlyer

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Ask your boss to give one of your 15 minute breaks between 1.45 and 3.00

Then call Joe Duffy / P..

You mean John Duffy?

Laurali

yup sorry - but first thing I would do is address your drinking (I have read all the posts and can see you saying this is not an issue for you like it is to everyone else). Until you realise it may be a problem blocking you from finding happiness and potentially causing depressive bouts rather than masking them, you'll be in limbo.

You don't have a hobby - find one. Try things. If you dont like something, try again.

Do stuff for yourself. If your depression is stopping you, get help for that.

HELP YOURSELF. Clean up, and the love will come after that. The usual crap... if you don't love yourself, no one else will do it for you.

Alpha_zero

Hey Bro i would say there is someone out there for you, but that is a spurious statement.

Lost of people will be single till they die

anewme

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Hey Bro i would say there is someone out there for you, but that is a spurious statement.

Lost of people will be single till they die

True.

But so what if they are?

If that really is the worst than can happen?

Life has a different path for everyone, some people will marry, some won't.

I see both men and women too caught up in trying to find that someone or something that they are constantly living in limbo. Waiting on something that might never come. Or when it does, it's a massive letdown.

Drinking too much only adds to depression. Its a spiralling downward cycle that can be hard to break out of once it really takes hold. No one is going to make you stop it. You have to see it as an issue. Until then, the cycle goes round and round.

Everyone has their own challenges and no ones life is perfect.

kiki_the_third

I just wrote a very long reply to you that disappeared when I went to leave it, very annoying. The gist of it was this - would you be happy to date a female version of you? If you met a girl who went out drinking a lot and couldn't live without it, had no hobbies or social life, would you think "Oh yeah, she's girlfriend material." If not, why not? And why would you expect any woman to date you if you wouldn't date a similar woman?

Bullet To The Head? wrote: »

Why are you being so touchy just because I called her out on her hypocrisy?

I have to say, you don't seem to actually like women very much. Why does it bother you that she had a holiday romance? It sounds fab to me.

You definitely appear to have a drinking problem. If you feel that giving up is not an option and you drink 3-4 nights a week and to oblivion at the weekend, those are some major red flags for any woman. Try giving up for a month. If you can't, seek help.

Connect with your family and friends. I've been single for a long time and it's lonely, but I find strong friendships (not hanging out with people 'several rungs down the social ladder') really helps, and being close with my family has become more and more important to me as I have watched my friends start to settle down. Build a rich life any woman would be glad to be a part of.

Hobbies: What did you like doing when you were a kid? There's an almost inifinite number of options. Take up any sport or form of athletics. Learn a language. Travel. Draw. Take up an instrument. Do stand-up comedy.

What does your bedroom look like OP? Is it the bedroom of an adult man who's in control of his life?

Looks: You can't control your genetics but you can control
- what you wear
- whether or not you exercise
- how you take care of your skin
- your diet
- whether you drink 2L of water a day.

I was going to suggest getting a dog. They're great companions and a great way to meet people and start a conversation, but tbh I wouldn't recommend it if you're planning to maintain your drinking habits, because it wouldn't be fair to it.

Also, hey guys, I'm back! (for now)

radiotrickster

BDI wrote: »

Girls like men who do stuff. When their friends ask them what’s he like they don’t want to say “oh he’s grand now that he has me”

This is so true. I'm always encouraging my partner to take up a hobby. I've loads and he always wants to spend time with me when I want to do my things. If I don't go out with him, he just stays at home all day

kiki_the_third

Manly Banter wrote: »

She called me a creep. That's fine maybe I am one. But she can't expect me not to hit back in fairness

No, she didn't. She said going to bars three nights a week alone is creepy behaviour. You attacked her because she successfully did what you're trying to do - get the ride.

Chelle_C

Manly Banter wrote: »

She called me a creep. That's fine maybe I am one. But she can't expect me not to hit back in fairness

I said it sounds so creepy. That’s not calling you a creep, I don’t know you.
Just telling you how it comes across.

You can take my post in the tone it was meant, which was giving you advice and showing how things could be whilst you’re single or you can take offence and carry on as you are.
Makes no difference to me or anyone else on this thread either way.

And hit back all you want; I had a fab week in Rome, the guy was hot and the sex was great. I’ll be old and wrinkly one day and I’ll look back on that experience with a smile on my face.

kiki_the_third

Manly Banter wrote: »

No I attacked her for being a hypocrite. If she wants travel alone and hook up with guys online, fine. But who is she to look down on others?

She wasn't. She was giving you advice to try going travelling and making friends in hostels. You chose only to hear an insult in it.

Maybe women don't like you because you give off an angry, resentful vibe?

I gave you loads of advice above but you're still stuck on this. Why post here at all if you're just going to ignore/ reject all the advice you get?

Would you like to date someone like you? If not, work on that.

Galwayguy35

There have always been some men and to a lesser extent women who never ended up with a partner, we all know old batchelors in the areas we live in.

Not saying the OP will end up like this but there really isn't someone for everyone.

The people who hit the genetic jackpot will end up together, the ordinary joes and plain janes will also settle down and the rest will end up alone.

anewme

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

There have always been some men and to a lesser extent women who never ended up with a partner, we all know old batchelors in the areas we live in.

Not saying the OP will end up like this but there really isn't someone for everyone.

The people who hit the genetic jackpot will end up together, the ordinary joes and plain janes will also settle down and the rest will end up alone.

Not everyone single or solo is an ordinary Joe or plain Jane.

Life and circumstances are very individual.

You don't need a partner to have a happy and fulfilled life.

kiki_the_third

anewme wrote: »

You don't need a partner to have a happy and fulfilled life.

As a long-term singleton, I really want to believe this - and to a large extent I do - but it is hard not to feel like you're missing out on something quite fundamental.

extra gravy

One thing I've learned is that you can't rely on anyone else for your own happiness. Maybe work on yourself before you go looking for a relationship.

Beasty

Guys

I would not pay too much attention to anything the OP said - they were a regular re-reg troll

Galwayguy35

anewme wrote: »

Not everyone single or solo is an ordinary Joe or plain Jane.

Life and circumstances are very individual.

You don't need a partner to have a happy and fulfilled life.

Never said you did need a partner to be happy but it's the people who can never get a ride at all that would be in the last group I mentioned, guarantee you they aren't happy.

anewme

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Never said you did need a partner to be happy but it's the people who can never get a ride at all that would be in the last group I mentioned, guarantee you they aren't happy.

No, but you implied that those in the last group must be ugly.

cgcsb

I don't think op should have a relationship. Create a better life for yourself. I've no interest in monogomy myself and I have to say from listening to lads I work with going on about their wives girlfriends and kids I can safely say I've a vastly better life than they do. I can travel, take evening courses, play sports, go to gigs, have all sorts of sex all different ways, if and when I see fit. The lads who are committed have to apply for planning permission to go for brunch with a friend and then get made feel guilty after.

BorneTobyWilde

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Hey Bro i would say there is someone out there for you, but that is a spurious statement.

Lost of people will be single till they die

Is it best to have a ''somebody'' or to try find that someone. Anyone can have a somebody.
If OP wanted a somebody, then that is so easy. Go to the Philippines, or Thailand, or Colombia and come home with a super model.













You could have a wife in a month if you wanted, and she'd make love to you endlessly.

Galwayguy35

anewme wrote: »

No, but you implied that those in the last group must be ugly.

So what, it's a fact that some people are not good looking at all and this is a reason why they won't have any success with the opposite sex.

BorneTobyWilde

Me, I want a someone, that someone unique, I know her, but I don't have her.

jaxxx

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

Is it best to have a ''somebody'' or to try find that someone. Anyone can have a somebody.
If OP wanted a somebody, then that is so easy. Go to the Philippines, or Thailand, or Colombia and come home with a super model.


You could have a wife in a month if you wanted, and she'd make love to you endlessly.

How romantic :rolleyes:

ebbsy

If you splash the cash she will flash her gash.

BorneTobyWilde

Colombian women are very attractive OP. Maybe go get yourself one.

BorneTobyWilde

jaxxx wrote: »

How romantic :rolleyes:

That's my point. Does he want to be alone forever, or does it want ''somebody'' He can have a somebody easily

anewme

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

That's my point. Does he want to be alone forever, or does it want ''somebody'' He can have a somebody easily

Everybody needs somebody. To Love.

BorneTobyWilde

anewme wrote: »

Everybody needs somebody. To Love.

Coming home to a latina lover would make him happy.

marieholmfan

Bullet To The Head? wrote: »

I can't be the only one trapped in this hell. When does it get better?

Play touch rugby do salsa dancing and wear nice clothes.

Richard Hillman

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

Is it best to have a ''somebody'' or to try find that someone. Anyone can have a somebody.
If OP wanted a somebody, then that is so easy. Go to the Philippines, or Thailand, or Colombia and come home with a super model.













You could have a wife in a month if you wanted, and she'd make love to you endlessly.

The old foreign bride thing isn't relevant for Irish people any more. If you're a single male, you're odds on not to have your own home or likely ever to own your own home. If you're earning enough money to be able to provide for a wife, it's unlikely that you'll be single anyway, unless you are a complete social disaster.

The ladies in work keep suggesting a Thai Bride for me :pac:

jaxxx

Richard Hillman wrote: »

The old foreign bride thing isn't relevant for Irish people any more. If you're a single male, you're odds on not to have your own home or likely ever to own your own home. If you're earning enough money to be able to provide for a wife, it's unlikely that you'll be single anyway, unless you are a complete social disaster.

The ladies in work keep suggesting a Thai Bride for me :pac:

Well that's me out anyway..

Wayne Jarvis

marieholmfan wrote: »

Play touch rugby do salsa dancing and wear nice clothes.

They will only work if he does all 3 at the same time.

Feisar

ebbsy wrote: »

If you splash the cash she will flash her gash.

No portfolio, no cornholio

Raconteuse

izzyflusky wrote: »

For the poster who found the light skinned comment coming from a Brazilian funny, you do know that not all Brazilians are black or tanned right? And in fact they tend to be quite racist I found too...

I found the way the entire post was written funny - as it was so obnoxious it was like something Borat would say. Never said anything about the light skinned bit, that was someone else. I don't think they were implying that all Brazilians are dark skinned either.

corcaigh1

izzyflusky wrote: »

To be fair, you can easily go to work and back home with not much else on when in a relationship too. In fact, it can be worse because overtime most would end up with kids so you go to work and then your second job after...by the time your evening duties are fulfilled you are fit for bed.

I'm also curious as to how a night out alone works? I can only picture your token creepy guy on a pub or club dancing alone. So it's a genuine question!


For the poster who found the light skinned comment coming from a Brazilian funny, you do know that not all Brazilians are black or tanned right? And in fact they tend to be quite racist I found too...

How a night alone works? typical Irish mentality.

Ive often been out with mates and either got separated or ended up striking off on my todd to late bars or clubs I prefer to head to and have had great nights out on "my own" and have never had issues pulling women or women thinking im a creep because im giving it socks on the dance floor alone ffs...quite frankly I couldn't give a toss what anyone thinks because im enjoying myself!

BorneTobyWilde

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9X_ViIPA-Gc

sbsquarepants

ebbsy wrote: »

If you splash the cash she will flash her gash.

Mark Twain i believe??:D

ToddyDoody

Stheno wrote: »

Never.

When you get the girlfriend it gets worse.

We need to discuss why this post has 289 thanks. (I think my max is 34 or something)

Feisar

ToddyDoody wrote: »

We need to discuss why this post has 289 thanks. (I think my max is 34 or something)

It's the fabled second post quip. While there is an element of dislike/distrust of the fairer sex around here I wouldn't read into it to much as regards that post.

mr_fegelien

Why do some lads struggle with women so much? I would be one and don't really know why? My parents couldn't give me an objective view of myself unfortunately in regards to sex/dating.

anewme

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why do some lads struggle with women so much? I would be one and don't really know why? My parents couldn't give me an objective view of myself unfortunately in regards to sex/dating.

You need a programmer.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why do some lads struggle with women so much? I would be one and don't really know why? My parents couldn't give me an objective view of myself unfortunately in regards to sex/dating.

You possibly answered this yourself in the OP of your "Black Sheep" thread.

Leg End Reject

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why do some lads struggle with women so much? I would be one and don't really know why? My parents couldn't give me an objective view of myself unfortunately in regards to sex/dating.

You're bi, try your luck with men.

blinding

Leg End Reject wrote: »

You're bi, try your luck with men.

Every man should try homosexuality . Why knock something you have not tried ?

Sure it could be no more trouble / aggro / strife than Females ?

SafeSurfer

Having a wife/girlfriend means compromise. Which is another way of saying 2 people not getting what they want. Finding something that both of are genuinely interested in watching on TV/Netflix is a nightmare and results in staying up very late just to watch something that you actually want to see.

Leg End Reject

blinding wrote: »

Every man should try homosexuality . Why knock something you have not tried ?

Sure it could be no more trouble / aggro / strife than Females ?

Females? Calling us that will almost guarantee trouble. I've honestly never heard a woman refer to men as males.

Raconteuse

Feisar wrote: »

It's the fabled second post quip. While there is an element of dislike/distrust of the fairer sex around here I wouldn't read into it to much as regards that post.

There sure is (warning sign: when they refer to women as "females") but yeah that post is just a joke. And actually written by a woman.

Raconteuse

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Females? Calling us that will almost guarantee trouble. I've honestly never heard a woman refer to men as males.

Seen lots of such posts by him. Hates women.

Alpha_zero

SafeSurfer wrote: »

Having a wife/girlfriend means compromise. Which is another way of saying 2 people not getting what they want. Finding something that both of are genuinely interested in watching on TV/Netflix is a nightmare and results in staying up very late just to watch something that you actually want to see.

But Bro how many threesomes have you had

anewme

Raconteuse wrote: »

Seen lots of such posts by him. Hates women.

Yep a few of those type of posters allright.

Strumms

There are a small percentage of girls who I think enjoy attention, being chased. They would rather facilitate that then just say to a guy... “you know what, no, nice guy but not interested”. They will give all the right or wrong signals, flashing the eyelashes a bit of innuendo here and there but zero interest. For two years a friend of mine was after this gorgeous flirt machine in work, almost crying when she ‘couldn’t’ go out with him. She’d be all over him one day, next barley a hello Eventually I persuaded him to basically ignore her as regards social interactions and to watch what happens.... she was going bat**** crazy with him playing her at her own game... “Strumms... why is David being so distant?” “Well Aine, he’s just being busy, like he’s paid to be”... �� no attention no elation, needed a pump for her ego pure and simple.

blinding

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Females? Calling us that will almost guarantee trouble. I've honestly never heard a woman refer to men as males.

Ye are not that Polite especially in Private