Lessons you learned the hard way?

Berserker5

Strumms wrote: »

That’s ok, but you have to know when the cutoff point is... otherwise ‘difficulties’ become acceptable as ‘just part of life’. That should never be the case....

Work - pissed off with your colleagues, one day drags, the next you are crawling out on your knees, that promised pay rise hasn’t materialized...fûck ‘loyalty’ be loyal to yourself, leave and start again, leave the misery zone.

Relationship - oh is nagging you to get a better job, want bigger house etc but it doing SFA to help enable the goals... they are suggesting YOU do more OT as ‘Vegas baby’ has been a ‘dream too’... fûck them, get rid..

Change... whatever in your life that is causing you stress, unhappiness, misery, whatever...one shot at this..

I had slightly more difficult stuff in mind like murder alcoholism bankruptcy marriage breakdown

Strumms

Berserker5 wrote: »

I had slightly more difficult stuff in mind like murder alcoholism bankruptcy marriage breakdown

All the above is difficult stuff as is what I posted.... different degrees yes, but is small problems are not dealt with the snowball effect....

Problem at work leads to drinking, then alcoholism, then backing horses, then loosing job, bankrupt....

Sheridan81

Deleted User wrote: »

I disagree. While there is a very fine line between "lust at first sight" and "love at first sight", it's essentially the same thing for males.

No it isn't.

Stepping on a plug is worse than stepping on Lego.

If someone says they have a bit of a temper, it generally means they lose all control of themselves when they're not getting what they want.

Beware of anyone who's dismissive of elderly people, impatient with their parents, is rude to waiting staff, doesn't like dogs or hates chocolate.

Ms2011

Things will be alright in the end cos if it's not alright it's not the end.

Don't follow the crowd, someone else's destiny is not yours.

Having one good friend is better than having 10 fake ones.

Its better to be left on the shelf than be in the wrong cupboard.

Things are rarely as bad as they first appear.

nutjobb

Never take financial advice from someone poorer than you

kippy

nutjobb wrote: »

Never take financial advice from someone poorer than you

It depends on the advice surely.......

mr_fegelien

Candie wrote: »

Beware of anyone who's dismissive of elderly people, impatient with their parents, is rude to waiting staff, doesn't like dogs or hates chocolate.

Explain???

I've heard this before but I think it's bull**** to be honest. How you act in one part of your life doesn't determine the rest.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Explain???

How you act in one part of your life doesn't determine the rest.

Of course it does. Otherwise which is the real you and which is an act? If it is true of you then you're best avoided because which side of you is to be trusted?

ILoveYourVibes

Originally Posted by mr_fegelien View Post
Explain???

How you act in one part of your life doesn't determine the rest.

People don't act. They are who they are.

mr_fegelien

Cullen Rich Camera wrote: »

Of course it does. Otherwise which is the real you and which is an act? If it is true of you then you're best avoided because which side of you is to be trusted?

But why would treating a waiter badly or disrespecting your parents be indicative of how you are in other aspects of life?

veryangryman

mr_fegelien wrote: »

But why would treating a waiter badly or disrespecting your parents be indicative of how you are in other aspects of life?

Ask to speak to a manager alot dude?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

mr_fegelien wrote: »

But why would treating a waiter badly or disrespecting your parents be indicative of how you are in other aspects of life?

Are you serious?

It's a little thing called a character trait.

I despair at times.

ollkiller

mr_fegelien wrote: »

But why would treating a waiter badly or disrespecting your parents be indicative of how you are in other aspects of life?

By and large people who treat waiting staff like slaves are the worst type of humans. And when i say by and large i mean all of them.

As Srameen says, it's a character thing. If someone is rude or disrespectful to others (without very, very, good reason) they can safely be assumed to be rude and disrespectful people. People who are impatient with the elderly in particular are my bugbear, it shows a complete lack of decency.

KathleenGrant

People generally prefer to think the worst of people.
When a rumour goes around so many people will believe it because "no smoke without fire" Have seen 2 people's lives almost destroyed because of this.

Antares35

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

What is meant for you will not pass you by.

Don't chase people or ignore bad behavior.

Just because a person is good to someone else or with someone else doesn't mean they will be or are good for you.

If people don't like you its their loss.

I struggle with this one. I see it splashed all over social media and certain people I know will repeat this like a mantra no matter what ill fortune has befallen them or someone else, but I don't understand the rationale for it. Is there some kind of plan that ensures we all get what is meant for us?:(

realdanbreen

Never trust a man with a beard.


And certainly never trust a woman with a beard!

Blaizes

Antares35 wrote: »

I struggle with this one. I see it splashed all over social media and certain people I know will repeat this like a mantra no matter what ill fortune has befallen them or someone else, but I don't understand the rationale for it. Is there some kind of plan that ensures we all get what is meant for us?:(

Don’t get it either maybe for some people it’s a way of consoling themselves when things don’t work out think it can lead people into passivity though instead of being more pro active in their lives

Shady Grady

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Explain???

I've heard this before but I think it's bull**** to be honest. How you act in one part of your life doesn't determine the rest.

It's called having compassion and patience. Anyone who doesn't have some form of those traits tend to be peckerheads.

You hopefully will be old one day with kids,how do you want them to treat you?

Doctors room ghost

When everyone else starts to run,you should walk slowly.

Unless there is a fire.



Also always live within your means and neither a borrower nor a lender be.


If you need a loan the credit union is your only man.
Keep your friends and family separate to your finances

bamayang

Dont send your life savings (as a 14 year old) via western union to some random internet guy...

Lollipops23

Trust your instincts. I've proved myself wrong by not going with my gut in the past.

Shady Grady

Never get a prostate exam done by a doctor with sausage fingers.

blinding

Antares35 wrote: »

I struggle with this one. I see it splashed all over social media and certain people I know will repeat this like a mantra no matter what ill fortune has befallen them or someone else, but I don't understand the rationale for it. Is there some kind of plan that ensures we all get what is meant for us?:(

Some would say there is no such thing as free will .

For example ; You and everybody are just in a movie and no matter what you do next ; you were always going to do that .

You could be just in a movie on a continuous loop and you never see the join:eek:

blinding

Shady Grady wrote: »

Never get a prostate exam done by a doctor with sausage fingers.

Unless you enjoy that kind of thing !

realdanbreen

triona1 wrote: »

No point in having a handsome man when you have to keep looking over your shoulder.
And beauty doesn't make the pot boil.

He's that bad huh?

Shady Grady

blinding wrote: »

Unless you enjoy that kind of thing !

There was no enjoyment from it.I was crippled for days after.

realdanbreen

When you are sitting in a tree sawing off a branch make sure you are sitting between the saw and the ...........Treeeeeeeeeeeee............. !

Antares35

blinding wrote: »

Some would say there is no such thing as free will .

For example ; You and everybody are just in a movie and no matter what you do next ; you were always going to do that .

You could be just in a movie on a continuous loop and you never see the join:eek:

Ah yes the Truman show thing. You have no idea how often this thought crosses my mind! But then I think people are so boring, who would be bothered scheming and plotting something like this

blinding

Antares35 wrote: »

Ah yes the Truman show thing. You have no idea how often this thought crosses my mind! But then I think people are so boring, who would be bothered scheming and plotting something like this

Look at the audience some boring Soaps get .

This mundane life of most of us may just be relaxation for aliens / others . There is a few humans with interesting lives . The rest of us may just be filler extras .

We may well be on their Youtube channel on a continuous loop . A low class soap at low prices on some very low class channel . Just think you have to repeat this continually ( with out knowing it ) until the audience gives up .

victor8600

Once, when I was in my early teens, I have vaulted over a road barrier and hit my leg really hard on another small concrete barrier behind. Split the skin to the shin bone, but was lucky not to break it.

Lesson learned: see what's on the other side before jumping into stuff!

KM792

Never invest your happiness in another person..you'll end up miserable.
Never base your self worth on what other people think of you..again you'll end up miserable.

Jealousy is a useless emotion...as the song goes "The race is long and in the end it's only with yourself".

The voice in your head talks to you the most so try to make peace with your past.

De Danann

Blaizes wrote: »

Don’t get it either maybe for some people it’s a way of consoling themselves when things don’t work out think it can lead people into passivity though instead of being more pro active in their lives

In my family that phrase is used when you attempted something that didn't work out (e.g. a job interview you didn't pass). It doesn't encourage passivity for me anyway, it's basically like a comfort thing of "Ok maybe that job would have been a bad fit for me anyway, so I'll try extra hard for the next interview because that might be the one that's meant for me".

De Danann

I learned never to take sides when your friends/family are having an argument that doesn't directly involve you.

Also never judge or make your mind up about someone based on what another person has said about them.

I used to be so gullible and easily led...

Widdershins

Trust your instincts. Appearances can be deceptive.

Being kind draws predatory users.


If you live by the sword you'll die by the sword

Some people are unsalvageable waste of time and energy, like black holes sucking everyone around into them.

Tis better to have loved and lost etc.

The grass is greener where you water it.

That's all my cliches

Widdershins

Why go out for a burger when you have steak at home.
I just like that one:D

enfield

A song from the 1970's had these lryics, well worth a read.
Deserata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, & remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly & clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud & aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain & bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many people strive for high ideals; and everywhere the world is full of heroism.

Be yourself, especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of Spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees & the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you the, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors & aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be Happy.

Found in Old St. Paul's Church, in Baltimore, Maryland circa 1692

Writer Unknown

Widdershins

You don't have to keep everyone in your life just because they crashed into it-or because ypu tave them some of your time already-be discerning. Ask if *they* deserve *you*. DO be a little bit vain sometimes. Once you really spend time with your close friends and significant others you feel like yourself and are present in your life. The people you focus on influence how you feel.

carq

Candie wrote: »

Stepping on a plug is worse than stepping on Lego.

If someone says they have a bit of a temper, it generally means they lose all control of themselves when they're not getting what they want.

Beware of anyone who's dismissive of elderly people, impatient with their parents, is rude to waiting staff, doesn't like dogs or hates chocolate.

I'm always polite with Wait staff.
But i am very dismissive and impatient with elderly drivers!

Am i a bad person?

I need to reflect on where i stand on elderly wait staff.

teroknor83

Don't get involved in other people's problems... Trying to be nice and intervene in a situation got me into trouble with my family that will probably never be resolved.

cj maxx

Never rub your eyes or hold your willie after handling chillies

sbsquarepants

cjmc wrote: »

Never rub your eyes or hold your willie after handling chillies

Believe it or not I, have actually done both during the same long uncomfortable incident. Scotch bonnets too :eek::eek:

Biodegradable

If someone says a movie they saw was fantastic, never believe them. The regret can only be worse if they told you that they think you'd like it!

blinding

Never rub your willie in your eyes !

Widdershins

blinding wrote: »

Never rub your willie in your eyes !

Or anyone else's eyes

sbsquarepants

blinding wrote: »

Never rub your willie in your eyes !

Nice to have the option though:D:D

Widdershins

I like that someone called Blinding agreed with me.

Antares35

blinding wrote: »

Look at the audience some boring Soaps get .

This mundane life of most of us may just be relaxation for aliens / others . There is a few humans with interesting lives . The rest of us may just be filler extras .

We may well be on their Youtube channel on a continuous loop . A low class soap at low prices on some very low class channel . Just think you have to repeat this continually ( with out knowing it ) until the audience gives up .

The only thing worse than Fair City, if that is even possible

xzanti

Too many to mention tbh.

You are teaching people how to treat you. stop tolerating abuse.
Always paddle your own canoe.
Have more than you show and speak less than you know.
Don't allow yourself to become a scapegoat (still working on that one).
Expectation is the Mother of all disappointment.
Assumption is the Mother of all f*ck ups.
Your own mind is your worst enemy if it's not properly trained.
Everyone you know has a different version of you in their mind. Each version is a reflection of how they view themselves and their reality. None of them are your concern. Just keep being the best version of you that you know how to be.