Things you just "don't get"?

Lia_lia

Candie wrote: »

Ignore the extremists. They usually have nothing else going on in their lives, in my observation.

This!

And great idea to request the epidural at the admissions desk. I requested mine too late and it didn’t work very well.

Millicently

Antares35 wrote: »

Exactly. The advent of the internet also doesnt help. I feel bombarded much of the time and when anyone asks me my birth plan I simply say "a healthy outcome for us both" my consultant told me to read the what to expect book and avoid the internet lol

My Mum used to say that kids don't come with a manual, nowadays it seems like there are far too many manuals telling parents what they should be doing. All anyone can do is love their kids and do the best that they can. If you think about it, a lot of these pushy militant mums seem to be living through their kids so when the kids grow up and move out these women are going to be left with nothing. So many of them ruin their sons for other women too.

Tell me how

Antares35 wrote: »

It sounds like her sister in law is very ignorant but yes I still think it isn't the same thing, since one piece of anecdotal evidence does not erode the sheer and undeniable ever present pressure on mothers to breastfeed.

Is that not just your version of anecdotal evidence as opposed to mine?

Lia_lia

Lia_lia wrote: »

This!

And great idea to request the epidural at the admissions desk. I requested mine too late and it didn’t work very well.

My worst nightmare, Lia. I hope the memory has faded!

Antares35

Tell me how wrote: »

Is that not just your version of anecdotal evidence as opposed to mine?

I'm not really interested in getting into a pointless debate about it tbh. I think it's safe to say that the pressure to breastfeed extends beyond just my own experience.

Martin Lanigan

Posters who don’t support SF and didn’t vote for SF with dozens of posts defending the lady who didn’t pay her rent for years and the anti-Semitic lady tweeter.

People who complain constantly about other people. Be it on public transport, or walking slow, or taking a while to pay at the till, or when driving, or anything really.
Are you so perfect? Do you not think that we are all doing our best?

Lia_lia

Candie wrote: »

My worst nightmare, Lia. I hope the memory has faded!

It has. It’s crazy how the mind works. When people ask me about the labour went now and ask if it hurt I say I remember it as being grand and not very painful. Then I look back at messages to my friends the day I had her saying how painful it was!

Hope all goes well for you.

Antares35

[Deleted User] wrote: »

People who complain constantly about other people. Be it on public transport, or walking slow, or taking a while to pay at the till, or when driving, or anything really.
Are you so perfect? Do you not think that we are all doing our best?

This post really got me thinking! I am one of those who is easily irked by time wasters and slow coaches and while I like to think I have far more self awareness than some of these people and hence do not cause as much annoyance to others, I am really wondering about that now!

dubstarr

Lia_lia wrote: »

It has. It’s crazy how the mind works. When people ask me about the labour went now and ask if it hurt I say I remember it as being grand and not very painful. Then I look back at messages to my friends the day I had her saying how painful it was!

Hope all goes well for you.

Its so you go on to have more.:D

Redneck Reject71

The level of viciousness of certain people at work.It's very troubling.

Widdershins

Thought this was a different thread so I'm editing previous comment.

A thing I dont get is how superficial a lot of romances are. To my eye it looks like commonly people dont actually get to know their partner, they merely idealise them according to their own pre conceived notion of a ticklist boxes ticked ideal partner. Then they say they just get bored. But you will keep just getting bored unless you learn real appreciation of other people.

And I don't get the appeal of toast.

And people with no self discipline or concept of certain things being worthwhile either for their own sake or for longer term gratification.

Widdershins

Lia_lia wrote: »

It has. It’s crazy how the mind works. When people ask me about the labour went now and ask if it hurt I say I remember it as being grand and not very painful. Then I look back at messages to my friends the day I had her saying how painful it was!

Hope all goes well for you.

Good old Oxytocin

whisky_galore

[Deleted User] wrote: »

People who complain constantly about other people. Be it on public transport, or walking slow, or taking a while to pay at the till, or when driving, or anything really.
Are you so perfect? Do you not think that we are all doing our best?

No.
Those people are all sh1t at time management.

Widdershins

Or they could be overwhelmed.

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

People who complain constantly about other people. Be it on public transport, or walking slow, or taking a while to pay at the till, or when driving, or anything really.
Are you so perfect? Do you not think that we are all doing our best?

I'd definitely be a person who complains about being needlessly slow, drives me insane. Speed up of get out of my way!

I'm not just talking about being slow. The TA thread is full of people giving out about other people, usually strangers to them. Are your nerves that shredded? Take it handy in the world. All will be ok.

Millicently

For ages we've been told that Idlib is the last ISIS stronghold and yet the media keep trying to persuade us that all the people in Idlib are innocent civilians. I'm sick of propaganda showing kids and the lying White Helmet brigade who are not in any way an official Syrian organisation but a propaganda group who have been caught out using the same kids in various staged attacks and not to mention a few of them having been identified in videos beheading people and laughing about it.

Antares35

Antares35 wrote: »

This post really got me thinking! I am one of those who is easily irked by time wasters and slow coaches and while I like to think I have far more self awareness than some of these people and hence do not cause as much annoyance to others, I am really wondering about that now!

Most likely yes. You are human too and not immune from annoying others.

Antares35

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm not just talking about being slow. The TA thread is full of people giving out about other people, usually strangers to them. Are your nerves that shredded? Take it handy in the world. All will be ok.

The TA thread is sacred - a safe place for us to whinge about people like this!

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

I'd definitely be a person who complains about being needlessly slow, drives me insane. Speed up of get out of my way!

A lot of people are in a big hurry, but going nowhere in life!

Busy people, with important lives... no time to waste. But in reality, quite often very dull boring individuals at the same time.

I like the people that stop to smell the roses. They're often the most interesting people. You can't observe much in this life, if you're always running around with your hair on fire! :P

Widdershins

For me it depends.
Yesterday I was in a car with a driver who brakes 200 yards before a gentle bend. Drives so slow and haltingly he was overtaken by cyclists. Hes not marvelling at anything, hes just one of life's sloths with no inner drive.

Antares35

Antares35 wrote: »

The TA thread is sacred - a safe place for us to whinge about people like this!

I don't get whinging either

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! wrote: »

A lot of people are in a big hurry, but going nowhere in life!

Busy people, with important lives... no time to waste. But in reality, quite often very dull boring individuals at the same time.

I like the people that stop to smell the roses. They're often the most interesting people. You can't observe much in this life, if you're always running around with your hair on fire! :P

Of course people should relax, have downtime etc that doesn't mean people need to be needlessly slow doing everyday tasks, holding others up on the road or footpath etc etc.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Deleted User wrote: »

People who complain constantly about other people. Be it on public transport, or walking slow, or taking a while to pay at the till, or when driving, or anything really.
Are you so perfect? Do you not think that we are all doing our best?

As somebody who looks outwardly healthy and is still relatively young but who has a damaged pelvis that means I walk slow, the “Why do people walk slow on footpaths?” moans irk me. They’ve no idea what anybody’s health status is, even if the person looks young and healthy. I really wish I could walk faster but I can’t. I understand people feeling momentarily annoyed but whining about it later on? Good lord, they’ve no problems.

micar

Deleted User wrote: »

People who complain constantly about other people. Be it on public transport, or walking slow, or taking a while to pay at the till, or when driving, or anything really.
Are you so perfect? Do you not think that we are all doing our best?

whisky_galore wrote: »

No.
Those people are all sh1t at time management.

In the shop, the cashier putting it all through says what the total cost and that's when they realise they need money/card to pay for it all (surprise surprise) and they have to go reaching for their wallet/purse.......FFS have it in your hand ready with the money or card.



The same applies queuing behind someone at an ATM. Have been so tempted to say, I've my card in my hand ready and waiting, can I go ahead of you.


All boils down to a lack of forward thinking

Antares35

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

As somebody who looks outwardly healthy and is still relatively young but who has a damaged pelvis that means I walk slow, the “Why do people walk slow on footpaths?” moans irk me. They’ve no idea what anybody’s health status is, even if the person looks young and healthy. I really wish I could walk faster but I can’t. I understand people feeling momentarily annoyed but whining about it later on? Good lord, they’ve no problems.

It's probably why it is called the "trivial" things that annoy you thread, in direct recognition and acceptance of the trivial nature of what one is whining about, would be my guess.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

Antares35 wrote: »

It's probably why it is called the "trivial" things that annoy you thread, in direct recognition and acceptance of the trivial nature of what one is whining about, would be my guess.

Yes, but one would wonder just how "trivial" these annoyances are, in the mind of those doing the moaning!

There is a lot of very uptight people out there in society... going around with all these little things constantly irritating them. You can see it in many people's faces and general demeanour!

Some of you guys are probably just gonna explode one of these days... you'll just flip over something "trivial", like that scene with Michael Douglas in the movie falling down, when they refuse to serve him from the breakfast menu! All he wanted, was a little breakfast! :pac:

Antares35

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! wrote: »

Yes, but one would wonder just how "trivial" these annoyances are, in the mind of those doing the moaning!

There is a lot of very uptight people out there in society... going around with all these little things constantly irritating them. You can see it in many people's faces and general demeanour!

Some of you guys are probably just gonna explode one of these days... you'll just flip over something "trivial", like that scene with Michael Douglas in the movie falling down, when they refuse to serve him from the breakfast menu! All he wanted, was a little breakfast! :pac:

Perhaps. I wouldnt speak for anyone else but I find oddly that despite my contributions to the thread, I am actually very happy in my life so far and feel very fulfilled and accomplished. If they are going to explode, then I suppose it's a good thing others have the thread in which to vent, which others are free to ignore if it isnt their thing

Widdershins

I'll never forget my ex husband exploding with rage at the steering wheel because a smiling driver had just passed by. "What the hell are they smiling about? Fu****g cants!"
I don't get a sense of that festering begrudgery and malcontent and resentment on the TA thread...seems more like relatively gentle exasperation. But yes, it's also a safety valve for anyone who really is fit to blow!

I'm super happy I don't have any trivial annoyances.

Maybe I need a thread for major worries?

Widdershins

Imo the ta's can sometimes hide the mw's

Widdershins

Widdershins wrote: »

Imo the ta's can sometimes hide the mw's

Yep. For every "I'm cold" there are some big concerns mentioned alright.

Also negativity can be connected to depression. If every little thing is becoming an issue then something more might be going on.

Better Than Christ

I don't get why so many people feel the need to rush around all the time, and act as though other human beings are little more than obstacles as they go about their Very Important Business. A Very Important Woman audibly sighed at me in Tesco's recently, because the self-service checkout wasn't scanning my Cadbury Creme Egg and I had to enter the barcode manually (anyone who has ever worked in a shop that sells them will know that it's 50201600). So I slowed right down and packed my bag really carefully and methodically. The sighing intensified. So when I finished packing my bag, I decided to buy another Creme Egg. A sound investment.

Anyway, all's well that ends well: I then found out where she lived and sent her a bullet in the post.

It's the same while driving. I always deliberately wait two seconds after the lights turn green. If the car behind beeps aggressively (as opposed to a short 'wake up' beep) or within the first second, I'll give it at least three or... five more seconds before moving off... very slowly.

Widdershins

Deleted User wrote: »

Yep. For every "I'm cold" there are some big concerns mentioned alright.

Also negativity can be connected to depression. If every little thing is becoming an issue then something more might be going on.

The second part of your comment especially, is what I was thinking.

pinkyeye

Antares35 wrote: »

We've one of those in our family (not immediate family thankfully) - they refused to own a buggy, child was strapped to them 24/7. No sugar, no vaccines, no fluoridated water, home-schooled, no bedtime or routine because "children are free spirits" and no discipline or use of the word "no" because it might damage their egos. I could let all of that go since they are not my kids so it isn't my business, but the one thing I don't get is how they are so militant about breastfeeding. It's almost like a cult for the mother. All she talks about, posts about etc.

I mean, we get it breast is best etc. but motherhood is tough enough without making women feel bad about themselves because they choose not to or, for whatever reason are unable to breastfeed. I don't get how nobody has told her to mind her own business by now. I'm due my first in May and I hope to breastfeed but I certainly wont be volunteering for guilt if it doesn't work out. If she even tries to push her agenda on me I will have an answer for her!

God I had a cousin who was exactly like this and the child SCREAMED constantly unless it was on the breast so it was either on the tit or screaming.

We had a gathering once where everyone left one by one because the screaming was just getting too much.

Get a ****ing soother missus. :rolleyes::rolleyes:

Widdershins

I don't understand the antipathy towards the word "normal". Its not the same thing as conventional, or herd mentality, but if you dare to use that word you could be rebuked with a fairly strong "what's normal anyway?".
Ever had blood tests done? Im sure you had no issue when the results (hopefully) came back "normal" or within the "normal range".
Normal = well adjusted, healthy.

I wonder if its just one of those dopey virtuous things people say because they think they're radical free spirits but they're really just parrots mimicking the trendy 'messages'.

Graces7

Rex Scary Tendinitis wrote: »

Of course people should relax, have downtime etc that doesn't mean people need to be needlessly slow doing everyday tasks, holding others up on the road or footpath etc etc.

What to you is "needlessly slow " might be the only way someone can do something. Patience is a real virtue

Ash.J.Williams

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't understand the antipathy towards the word "normal". Its not the same thing as conventional, or herd mentality, but if you dare to use that word you could be rebuked with a fairly strong "what's normal anyway?".
Ever had blood tests done? Im sure you had no issue when the results (hopefully) came back "normal" or within the "normal range".
Normal = well adjusted, healthy.

I wonder if its just one of those dopey virtuous things people say because they think they're radical free spirits but they're really just parrots mimicking the trendy 'messages'.

i can't understand it either ....i was at a trans party yesterday and they went ballistic when i enquired if i was the only normal one here

Widdershins

Trans sexual or trance music?
Well I suppose if one thinks of normal as typical or standard, thats inoffensive.

Widdershins

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't understand the antipathy towards the word "normal". Its not the same thing as conventional, or herd mentality, but if you dare to use that word you could be rebuked with a fairly strong "what's normal anyway?".
Ever had blood tests done? Im sure you had no issue when the results (hopefully) came back "normal" or within the "normal range".
Normal = well adjusted, healthy.

I wonder if its just one of those dopey virtuous things people say because they think they're radical free spirits but they're really just parrots mimicking the trendy 'messages'.

I think its because there are so many different types of people in the world with different internal structures and experiences. Normal used to describe a blood test result works because there are only two ways it can be, normal or not. Individuals are multifaceted.
My well adjusted and healthy is very different to yours.

stratowide

Better Than Christ wrote: »

I don't get why so many people feel the need to rush around all the time, and act as though other human beings are little more than obstacles as they go about their Very Important Business. A Very Important Woman audibly sighed at me in Tesco's recently, because the self-service checkout wasn't scanning my Cadbury Creme Egg and I had to enter the barcode manually (anyone who has ever worked in a shop that sells them will know that it's 50201600). So I slowed right down and packed my bag really carefully and methodically. The sighing intensified. So when I finished packing my bag, I decided to buy another Creme Egg. A sound investment.

Anyway, all's well that ends well: I then found out where she lived and sent her a bullet in the post.

It's the same while driving. I always deliberately wait two seconds after the lights turn green. If the car behind beeps aggressively (as opposed to a short 'wake up' beep) or within the first second, I'll give it at least three or... five more seconds before moving off... very slowly.

While queing in the small basket line I'll always leave a metre of space in front of me.
Not to give people space..I do it to annoy the person behind me that's breathing fire down my back.

It really works..Drives people nuts.

In fact it's one of my favourite pastimes..:)

Widdershins

Deleted User wrote: »

I think its because there are so many different types of people in the world with different internal structures and experiences. Normal used to describe a blood test result works because there are only two ways it can be, normal or not. Individuals are multifaceted.
My well adjusted and healthy is very different to yours.

True but I think its possible to define a basic standard of normality. I would have used it in the context of mental health and a person whose behaviours were self harmful, extreme and not normal by -I would hope-anyone's definition.

If I was suggesting something like their fashion sense indicated mental abnormality then I could understand someone taking umbrage.

Widdershins

Widdershins wrote: »

True but I think its possible to define a basic standard of normality. I would have used it in the context of mental health and a person whose behaviours were self harmful, extreme and not normal by -I would hope-anyone's definition.

If I was suggesting something like their fashion sense indicated mental abnormality then I could understand someone taking umbrage.

Hmm. Perhaps. I need to ponder.

Within the context of mental health there certainly are behaviours and thoughts that are harmful and well yes not normal. It's not normal to experience suicidal ideation. Although for the person with the thoughts it may be normal.

I could go down a rabbit hole with this. If someone has auditory hallucinations then who are we to suggest they are mentally unwell? Is schizophrenia just a different way of being in the world? I'm just playing around with these ideas. I really don't know what I think about it all.

Widdershins

Its more complex than it looks, and wouldve made a good topic for a chat if they hadnt pulled me up for saying so.ething "wrong".
I suppose I have a need for a sense of normality as in stability in life. It is an emotive word but that's all I'd mean by it.

theteal

Has Nando's been mentioned yet?

I have tried it a handful of times but meh. Am I doing something wrong that I just don't comprehend the appeal?

Ash.J.Williams

theteal wrote: »

Has Nando's been mentioned yet?

I have tried it a handful of times but meh. Am I doing something wrong that I just don't comprehend the appeal?

the 20 quid snack box

sKeith

Deleted User wrote: »

Hmm. Perhaps. I need to ponder.

Within the context of mental health there certainly are behaviours and thoughts that are harmful and well yes not normal. It's not normal to experience suicidal ideation. Although for the person with the thoughts it may be normal.

I could go down a rabbit hole with this. If someone has auditory hallucinations then who are we to suggest they are mentally unwell? Is schizophrenia just a different way of being in the world? I'm just playing around with these ideas. I really don't know what I think about it all.

If there is a trait that is shared with ~68% of the population, it can be considered normal.









Lefties share the trait with only 10% of the population. Being a leftie is not normal with regards to which hand is dominant, but that does not make the person as a whole not normal, that would be silly.


Taking offense at having a trait that is not normal would make that persons behavior not normal.

theteal

theteal wrote: »

Has Nando's been mentioned yet?

I have tried it a handful of times but meh. Am I doing something wrong that I just don't comprehend the appeal?

It's a little expensive but I do think it's very nice.

dubstarr

People dying.Just why?