Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

ILoveYourVibes

Insect Overlord wrote: »

Naked cuddles FTW. Nothing weird about that at all.

Yeah its just something you do with your imzadi! :P

or like ..a friend who wants a new experience!

banie01

Insect Overlord wrote: »

Naked cuddles FTW. Nothing weird about that at all.

100%

The only weird thing about it, is imposing actual rules and expectations.

It's a perfectly normal part of any relationship to cuddle, touch and lie completely starkers and not see it as sexual.

Imposing a time limit, or a rule that says X amount of naked non sexual touching must take place as a validation step however....

That's a nonsense!

banie01

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

ok you can stop posting i have dismissed any value in your opinion right here



they would think its genius

See there you again, with out of context quotes
Keep going tho, you are doing great and portraying any predictable or stereotypical traits at all.

I'm getting a whiff of pork pies in here.

Day Lewin

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

To answer the question posed by the OP, in some kind of serious manner:

the answer's Yes, of course. Lots of times.

Not "incomplete intercourse" and not conventionally "spiritual" ;
more like something Tantric - often in a community setting -

specialised interests, don't you know.

Cuddle puddles are a thing, too.

That's not to say I don't like sex, I do, but Janey, there are other manifestations than the racetrack finish P-->V.

And there's more to it than the hasty-squirt-and-its-all-over. ["Schoolboy sex"]

There are good reasons why Tantric practitioners advise against the self-indulgent race to climax:

Undoubtedly; closeness, intimacy, generosity, patience, relaxation, focus, and attentive sensation - all improve the connection.
And improving the connection makes you a better human being as well as the collateral benefit of fantastic sex.

There. That's my serious tuppennyworth.

Now yez can all go back to slagging.

Merry Christmas!

It depends.. If its a control thing to get a man to deny his sexual urges then it's extremely unhealthy and controlling - and I suspect in many cases that's exactly what it is.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Doing it right now, to be fair. Will have to wait a few hours to see if results in sex or not though.

HappyAsLarE

Jesus F Christ takes all sorts.

Sardonicat

Yes, often. My partner and I always sleep naked whether we have sex or not. We always spoon going to sleep. It's part of a normal, loving relationship between two people who are closely bonded. No one has to ask anyone to forego their urges. We wouldn't dream of sharing a bed together clothed. The skin to skin contact and intimacy is important, it's not always about sex.

JuanBerrosa

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

What did you and Mr Fegellan do ?

fattymuatty

Sardonicat wrote: »

Yes, often. My partner and I always sleep naked whether we have sex or not. We always spoon going to sleep. It's part of a normal, loving relationship between two people who are closely bonded. No one has to ask anyone to forego their urges. We wouldn't dream of sharing a bed together clothed. The skin to skin contact and intimacy is important, it's not always about sex.

This. From the OPs post I would imagine she hasn't been in a long term relationship. After years of sharing the same bed with someone of course there are times you would be naked together and not have sex. I don't find it particularly meditative though and it is far from being about control and denying a man his sexual urges, it's just called going to sleep.

Mister Vain

Some weird fecking threads this Christmas morning.

anewme

Mister Vain wrote: »

Some weird fecking threads this Christmas morning.

I was just thinking the same thing.

This one is the oddest.

The best bit is people answering the question seriously resulting
in a weird row about feminism on Christmas morning.

Happy Christmas Boards!

Edgware

anewme wrote: »

I was just thinking the same thing.

This one is the oddest.

The best bit is people answering the question seriously resulting
in a weird row about feminism on Christmas morning.

Happy Christmas Boards!

Next is a survey asking "How often have you tossed off holding a Barbie doll?"

Edgware

Edgware wrote: »

Next is a survey asking "How often have you tossed off holding a Barbie doll?"

"Have you ever used Action Man as a dildo?"

Insect Overlord

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Yeah its just something you do with your imzadi! :P

or like ..a friend who wants a new experience!

Pardon my ignorance, but what is an imzadi?

phill106

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Also, how does one get to naked but no sexual activity...

Easy. Get married!

Insect Overlord

Insect Overlord wrote: »

Naked cuddles FTW. Nothing weird about that at all.

Exactly! I would be of the same line of thinking as you.


Dunno why the staff in the local cafe get so annoyed.

Rufeo

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

Lol what ..the....fuk

Insect Overlord

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Exactly! I would be of the same line of thinking as you.


Dunno why the staff in the local cafe get so annoyed.

Sardonicat

Sardonicat wrote: »

Yes, often. My partner and I always sleep naked whether we have sex or not. We always spoon going to sleep. It's part of a normal, loving relationship between two people who are closely bonded. No one has to ask anyone to forego their urges. We wouldn't dream of sharing a bed together clothed. The skin to skin contact and intimacy is important, it's not always about sex.

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Maybe there's a magic formula for contrived closeness, but it's not the real thing if it's calculated. Nothing beats talking about your day while falling asleep cuddled up to someone you love.

Victor

tdf7187 wrote: »

7,523 posts since May. Have you ever considered getting help with this?

Is there a problem here?

banie01

Candie wrote: »

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Maybe there's a magic formula for contrived closeness, but it's not the real thing if it's calculated. Nothing beats talking about your day while falling asleep cuddled up to someone you love.

Careful there Candie, or you will be selectively quoted in a manner contrived to make you appear a penis waving mysoginist

banie01

banie01 wrote: »

Careful there Candie, or you will be selectively quoted in a manner contrived to make you appear a penis waving mysoginist

I only waved my penis the once

Edgware

Candie wrote: »

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Maybe there's a magic formula for contrived closeness, but it's not the real thing if it's calculated. Nothing beats talking about your day while falling asleep cuddled up to someone you love.

As long as she dont mind you coming on her back

Candie

Candie wrote: »

Yeah, there's nothing revolutionary about sleeping the way most loving couples sleep a great deal of the time as a matter of habit. Naked cuddles are par for the course, not just after or before sex.

Agreed - I wonder if what the OP was getting at in their usual unclear way was whether you have ever spooned naked with someone of the opposite sex - with whom you have never had sex before it, during it, or since.

That would at least make the question somewhat more sensible to ask.

The answer to that would be yes for me - on a few occasions. It is pleasant but of course there are trust issues involved.

Certain body parts are likely to react of course - but once that is accepted and expected rather than something you have to try and conceal - it just becomes part of the experience.

Widdershins

I never have, Vibes. It'd be a sin not to!

Ubbquittious

i have done a few times.

Millionaire only not

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

Does a certain body part not find it’s way home From spooning anyway ?
Upps

we'llallhavetea

Spooning? Too fcuking warm, stay away unless I say its sexy time.

a very cool kid

blackcard wrote: »

I just feel that it is my duty on behalf of Boards to try this out and report back on the success or otherwise. Not sure how you define success though

So how did this work out in the end?!?

Aglomerado

Spooning leads to forking.

EmmetSpiceland

Aglomerado wrote: »

Spooning leads to forking.

Always use condiments.

rosmoke

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Have you ever spooned a member of the opposite sex naked and not had sex?

Yeah in the gym in men's changing room.
There was a dad with 2 young ~8 years old girls drying their hair, awful and really disgusting to see swinging dicks 3m away from them, especially because there are family changing rooms nearby!!
Sick people.

banie01

rosmoke wrote: »

Yeah in the gym in men's changing room.
There was a dad with 2 young ~8 years old girls drying their hair, awful and really disgusting to see swinging dicks 3m away from them, especially because there are family changing rooms nearby!!
Sick people.

You spooned someone in a public changing room?
Now there's a whole new level of weird!

Aglomerado

Aglomerado wrote: »

Spooning leads to forking.

There is a joke here about the Spork that I am not quite putting the punch line together for

un5byh7sqpd2x0

Victor wrote: »

Is there a problem here?

Someone with a higher post ratio than you! Wonders will never cease.

ILoveYourVibes

Millionaire only not wrote: »

Does a certain body part not find it’s way home From spooning anyway ?
Upps

Not if she is big spoon!